Husbands, you must be above your wives in:-

1. AGE
You must be her senior else there would be no respect. A day would come where she would remind you the year she was born and remind you your own date, just incase you forgot. No matter the male celebrities you see dating or marrying women older than they are, do not mind what you see, make sure you are going for a woman who you are older than with a year or more. It breeds respect!

2. KNOWLEDGE
Even though God said she is your helper, do not expect her to know or figure everything out. You are her senior afterall, you must be more knowledgeable and experienced than she is. Even if you didn't attend school, read books to improve your knowledge. And when you are sure of a decision you are about to make because of your in-depth knowledge, do not let anybody talk you out.

3. CASH
Even if the modern woman sees herself as a breadwinner or working woman, make sure you've got a job and start a business as the family expands. Do not try sharing expenses with your wife because she has a business or she is working. Let her carry the expenses she can afford to without telling her. Make sure you are not cutting the family upkeep money you give to her because you know she will always add her own money to complete it. You are not being a man by doing that. You are passing on your responsibilities to her even when you are still alive to earn. Your job or business do not necessarily need to be more than your wife's, but make sure you are doing everything to earn enough money for the family.

Wives, the husbands are trying to make it happen and so should you. There are many areas where you must be above your husband. One of them is patience. You must try to be patient in dealing with his anger. You are the woman, so you must be neater than he is. The men do not care about keeping a place tidy, so when he is done with the toilet and do not close the lid, go back and close it. You must love him more than he loves you. Your love for him will command more love and melt his heart. Treat him like a baby and take care of him like a child. You must love him till your last breath in good and bad.

Your planning and prayer must beat his. When he goes to his car about to leave for work without remembering to pray, call him back and share the Grace. You should try to think ahead of the week and get things done. Pray without season. As a married woman and mother, you should pray like Jesus Christ did even in His trial. Lastly, you both must be on an equal level in Understanding, Tolerance and Respect. Husbands, you must respect her as much as she respects you. If you claim you are a man, she is also a woman and the mother of your kids, she deserves some respect. Tolerate each other's every shortcomings. That is the cross Jesus asked you to carry and follow Him if you truly love Him. Carry the cross of your partner and go with it. Try to understand each other's sad move and what the perfect medicine is. If he says he wants to be left alone, beg him to talk to you a bit, and if he still behaves stubborn, tell him Married Couples Don't Leave Each Other Alone!

I agree with you 100%

But na drugs and alcohol full their brains these days

What of the below
Many women in Nigeria are the breadwinners or silent breadwinners too. Make una rest

Cool

So Akeredolu married an Evening Newspaper Betty ANYANWU... No wonder the man was busy with fresh kpekus in Lagos hotels... No offense...

you all are still joking....


AGE: this one doesn't mean a thing in a relationship.....even if you are older than your wife ...it doesn't mean she won't disrespect you if occasion calls for it....it all boils down to her personality.....women will always be women regardless of their age...infact overtime, couples mostly see themselves as age mates regardless of their age differences.....she will disrespect you if she lacks the right characters and attitudes to do so(respect you) regardless of your age differences...

see peter psquare ...and see his brother paul...which person marriage collapse eventually....people would have thought Peter's marriage will collapse cos his wife is older than him...but nah...his wife is not a troublesome person, very matured...so no issues....


See there are 3 major things you must have as a man so you can be in charge of your wife and home


*Relationship with God- yes...God...you are the spiritual head of your family....don't wait for your wife to start performing that role...she can also have a praying tongue but have it in your mind that you are the head..


* Money - you must have the cash to maintain and sustain your respect....we all know the role money plays in our lives and home...no need to shalaye


* An active Penis - oga your penis must be working or else ...your marriage will quake no matter the money you have ....


one interesting thing about this fact is that ...you can't afford to have just one or two and not have the rest....

like...
you have a relationship with God, you have money but no penis....na gbege!

you have money, have penis, ...no relationship with God as the head of the family that you are...na gbege oo! ...you could possibly go back to zero cos you have got no spiritual coverings

you have God, have penis, but no money...another gbege!!


Those 3 things must be complete to start with!!

ireee oo

I agree with some of your list but the first three rules are not necessary. The good thing is that some individuals have become more enlightened and now acknowledge that they don't have to confine their relationships to such rigid rules. Most marriages in Nigeria adhere to the ridiculous rules you listed, yet many relationships in Nigeria still end in utter failure.

IconicR:
But na drugs and alcohol full their brains these days

Kaii vawulence

Damnnn

To me, it is as follows:

* Money
* Mature Dick
* Patience

You are a wise man. Many people hardly reason for themselves, they just copy and paste. The word must in the original post is a misnormal, may would have been proper. I have seen people who are 10years older than their wives but the women doesn't respect them. I have seen women richer than their husbands but still respect the men. The fear of God, character and teachability are the most valuable endowment needed for a successful marriage.

Starz825:
you all are still joking....


AGE: this one doesn't mean a thing in a relationship.....even if you are older than your wife ...it doesn't mean she won't disrespect you if occasion calls for it....it all boils down to her personality.....women will always be women regardless of their age...infact overtime, couples mostly see themselves as age mates regardless of their age differences.....she will disrespect you if she lacks the right characters and attitudes to do so(respect you) regardless of your age differences...

see peter psquare ...and see his brother paul...which person marriage collapse eventually....people would have thought Peter's marriage will collapse cos his wife is older than him...but nah...his wife is not a troublesome person, very matured...so no issues....


See there are 3 major things you must have as a man so you can be in charge of your wife and home


*Relationship with God- yes...God...you are the spiritual head of your family....don't wait for your wife to start performing that role...she can also have a praying tongue but have it in your mind that you are the head..


* Money - you must have the cash to maintain and sustain your respect....we all know the role money plays in our lives and home...no need to shalaye


* An active Penis - oga your penis must be working or else ...your marriage will quake no matter the money you have ....


one interesting thing about this fact is that ...you can't afford to have just one or two and not have the rest....

like...
you have a relationship with God, you have money but no penis....na gbege!

you have money, have penis, ...no relationship with God as the head of the family that you are...na gbege oo! ...you could possibly go back to zero cos you have got no spiritual coverings

you have God, have penis, but no money...another gbege!!


Those 3 things must be complete to start with!!

ireee oo

Solofresh2:
I agree with you 100%

but I think cash must be no 1 on that list,a 30yr old lady will bow down and obey a 25 yr old guy with his hands on the money