My fellow Nairalanders pls help me contribute to this Matter ohhhh.


I have a boyfriend and we are intending to get married but i went for counselling in my church concerning both of us. My

pastor said that both of us should come and see her. But now when i got home i explained to him and he said he cant

go to any pastor for now.

But i believe one thing that no matter what if he loves me he will surely follow me to my pastor but now we are on the

matter he said he can't follow me to my pastor

so now i wanna ask his he truly in love or he his just playing me with this he said. cos i dont understand.

bisibaby:

My fellow Nairalanders please help me contribute to this Matter ohhhh.


I have a boyfriend and we are intending to get married but i went for counselling in my church concerning both of us. My

pastor said that both of us should come and see her. But now when i got home i explained to him and he said he can't

go to any pastor for now.

But i believe one thing that no matter what if he loves me he will surely follow me to my pastor but now we are on the

matter he said he can't follow me to my pastor

so now i want to ask his he truly in love or he his just playing me with this he said. because i don't understand.

read the word in bold
that means, he might still go and see the pastor just not yet
so that doesnt mean he doesnt love you.

tope2000:

read the word in bold
that means, he might still go and see the pastor just not yet
so that doesnt mean he doesnt love you.

e tun ti deh ibi

How soon before you are married?  Did he clarify what not now means?  How soon before he is ready to go see her?  What are his problems with going to see her?  You need to have further discussions with your soon to be husband regarding this.

bisibaby:

My fellow Nairalanders please help me contribute to this Matter ohhhh.
I have a boyfriend and we are intending to get married but i went for counselling in my church concerning both of us. My
pastor said that both of us should come and see her. But now when i got home i explained to him and he said he can't
go to any pastor for now.

But i believe one thing that no matter what if he loves me he will surely follow me to my pastor but now we are on the
matter he said he can't follow me to my pastor
so now i want to ask his he truly in love or he his just playing me with this he said. because i don't understand.

I take it you are a christian and that was your pastor you went to see. But is your fiance one or a non-believer?  Did you discuss the counselling with him before you went and alone? And what sort of church do you go to - some men abhor some churches. Maybe what you need to do is find the right time and place and try talking to him again about this if it's that important to you. And he is the only person who can tell you if he truly loves you.

Hi all i thank you for this quick contributions what happened was that b4 the counsel he came and told me that we should go and see his dad bt i told him that i wont be chanced the date he picked so i now came with mine that he should follow me to my church and he said he will not follow me 4 now. And i also asked y bt he said part of the reason is that i did not follow him to his dad. so now am so confused pls more cpntribution 4rm the house plsssssssssssssssss

Now you have opened up. This is a small thing; first go and see his dad before he goes to see your pastor, afterall he asked first.

The bible says "two can not walk together except they be agreed". Where and how did the 2 of you meet? what were your preliminary understandings? Did he know you and your pastor before now? Did your pastor know about him before now? Did you know his stand vis-a-vis your church/pastor before now?

There are plenty questions for you to answer o. But remember that most of the problems that break marriages always show up before marriage but they are almost always ignored. Make sure you are doing the right thing.

Let me quickly add that you are being insensitive. If you did not follow him to his dad why do you think he will gladly follow you to your pastor. I'm still surprised though that you guys are intending to get married and you are already talking about counselling when you have not yet met his dad. He also has not met your pastor until now. Abi na visit you dey talk?

shebi he luvs u,,,,,,he 'll surely go wiv u 2 ur pastor _{as long as hez not possed}
juzz dat his tym 2 c pastor neva reach.

Why does he need to follow you to your pastor?

He also told you why he does not want to go. , this is simple.


You suggest / pick a date to go see his dad, settle that first then talk about seeing ur pastor.

bisibaby:

My fellow Nairalanders please help me contribute to this Matter ohhhh.


I have a boyfriend and we are intending to get married but i went for counselling in my church concerning both of us. My

pastor said that both of us should come and see her. But now when i got home i explained to him and he said he can't

go to any pastor for now.

But i believe one thing that no matter what if he loves me he will surely follow me to my pastor but now we are on the

matter he said he can't follow me to my pastor

so now i want to ask his he truly in love or he his just playing me with this he said. because i don't understand.

so his not wanting to see your pastor with you is a test of his love for you?

mightydick:

if that is realy your picture and i am your boyfriend - i will surely not follow you to see your pastor - hahahahaha

stop 8in!! u tryin 2 say shez nut fyn?

mightydick:

if that is realy your picture and i am your boyfriend - i will surely not follow you to see your pastor - hahahahaha

lol,u harsh o

ain't dat bad compared to ennyluv

jay bee:

ain't that bad compared to ennyluv

Lord have mercy!

Is that a man or a woman

mightydick:

if that is realy your picture and i am your boyfriend - i will surely not follow you to see your pastor - hahahahaha

she's actually ok.

whitelexi:

Lord have mercy!

Is that a man or a woman

hahaha


One of the disadvantages of posting one's picture on NL.

@ jaybee

u sayin Ennyluv is worse **** in look,,,,compared 2 her

@poster

na by force, just because he doesn't want to see your pastor doesn't mean he doesn't love you. will the pastor stop you guys from getting married.

Moyola:

@ jaybee

u sayin Ennyluv is worse **** in look,,,,compared 2 her

word

davidylan:

she's actually ok.

tell them not because i'm interested ol

nana:

hahaha


One of the disadvantages of posting one's picture on Nairaland.

and the other disadvantages? special attention from Nairaland dudes maybe?

@ mightydick watever!!!! sey na pixs u wan look and u wan add to wetin we dey talk?

@ladybam not really a test of love sha but i just want to know dats it

@ Ceeno he knows my pastor but nt too well.

@ Pataki he can follow me since is for our own good so that doesnt mean abi sey e mean anything

@ ima1 cant stop us

Abeg one house jare more contributions are accepted so i can learn from it and also some other people in my shoe may also learn from it.

And pls dont turn this thread to another issue

Bisibaby,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,jare, dont mind dem

ur man 'll c ur pastor veri soon

bisibaby:

@ Pataki he can follow me since is for our own good so that doesnt mean abi sey e mean anything

What role will your Pastor play in the relationship? I am still confused about that. . . .

Pataki:

What role will your Pastor play in the relationship? I am still confused about that. . . .

thank you o, that was what i was wondering, if you guys end up getting married you do know you will have to worship in your husband church right, except if you both agree on where to worship, if not you will be asking for trouble with the husband n wife going to separate churches.

If i were your guy i will not follow you to see your parents let alone seeing your pastor,until you see my dad first.

@ poster

Abeg one house jare more contributions are accepted so i can learn from it and also some other people in my shoe may also learn from it.

na wetin , this is 2nd or 3rd time ur begging for more contributions , you dey sell am

Moyola:

Bisibaby,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,jare, don't mind them

your man 'll c your pastor veri soon

As a man, no lady will tell me to come see her Pastor. For what?

Pataki:

As a man, no lady will tell me to come see her Pastor. For what?

4 whater n garri,,,,,,,,is it not d pastor u'll meet @ d alter on ur weddin day?