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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by godwon01(m): 7:30pm On Jul 30, 2023
If they give him good money now , his mental status will be stabilize immediately. This present situation is enough to make someone to be mentally derailed.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 7:35pm On Jul 30, 2023
Cromagnon:
abeg how did you resize the quote [size=8pt][/size]
encapsulate your text between the tags in bold undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by lakeside30: 7:37pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

Take him to winners Chapel,and all your troubles will finally be over
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Neddyogu(m): 7:39pm On Jul 30, 2023
jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.


Really?
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Poske95(m): 7:39pm On Jul 30, 2023
immortalcrown:
May God help you and your family.

If he is not violent and abusive, I advise you to cope. Those who have suffered abuse in rich homes understand that happiness is not always determined by money. Those who have not suffered in rich homes, claim money is everything.

.....can you still climb the GBOLA... if yes, Ma, don't leave him....
Many a men are werey......na market dem Neva go,so keep him in.
Good luck
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Realme111: 7:45pm On Jul 30, 2023
jeromestarks Your response is too harsh bro
May God forgive you
post=124751459:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 7:50pm On Jul 30, 2023
lakeside30:
■ Take him to winners Chapel,and all your troubles will finally be over
Because Winner chapel don settle all the many people with similar issues wey don dey attend that church for even over a decade waiting for their turn abi? undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Tin07(m): 7:57pm On Jul 30, 2023
I feel your pain. God will raise a good Samaritan to help financially. But for the mental health issue, I want you to ditch the claim that its spiritual attack. You may be correct in your assumption but what your husband need is the service of a psychiatrist. Balance the equation. While you continue your prayers, and seeking divine help, let a doctor also come in. You will thank me later for heeding this advice.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Yankee101: 8:01pm On Jul 30, 2023
airsaylongcome:


What are the types of mental illness? What kind of mental illness could be characterized by extreme paranoia and beliefs that people close to you are actively seeking to harm you.

paranoid schizophrenia
Paranoia can be one symptom of these mental health problems: paranoid schizophrenia – a type of schizophrenia where you experience extreme paranoid thoughts. delusional disorder (persecutory type) – a type of psychosis where you have one main delusion related to being harmed by others. paranoid personality disorder.

There are medications for all these
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Yankee101: 8:09pm On Jul 30, 2023
Basic123:

The best thing to do is to see a GP doctor first.The Doctor will refer to see a psychiatrist if there is a need .NIGERIA health system is soo bleeped up!

You see a GP when you don’t know your problem
She says they have no money
Go straight to a specialist, we have whole hospital units dedicated to mental health in nigeria or an entire hospital like yaba. A GP will cost money, if unlucky , wrong diagnosis before going to see a specialist you should have seen all along
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Turquoiseee: 8:12pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Oh yes, of course then there are those of you who use the bible as if a book of magical spells and incantations that you blindly invoke without thinking. If the Jews were not able to heal themselves through the invocation of the psalms before Jesus Christ showed up, what makes you think that the same psalms will cause anything to happen to you now? undecided
ANTI CHRIST stay out of my mention! I rebuke you in the name of Jesus. It is not a crime to believe in Jesus! Live your life let me live mine! Don’t you ever come to counter what I believe in.
My Sweet Jesus tell me in my bible that I should call on Him and He will answer me and show me great and mighty things I don’t know. Be warned!

Op, read And meditate on Psalm 27. Jesus loves you
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Joffizaza: 8:13pm On Jul 30, 2023
It sounds like your husband happens to be someone I know yk..
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by airsaylongcome: 8:18pm On Jul 30, 2023
Yankee101:


paranoid schizophrenia
Paranoia can be one symptom of these mental health problems: paranoid schizophrenia – a type of schizophrenia where you experience extreme paranoid thoughts. delusional disorder (persecutory type) – a type of psychosis where you have one main delusion related to being harmed by others. paranoid personality disorder.

There are medications for all these

Neuroleptics. I'm aware of those. But how can one handle paranoid schizo when the subject refuses to seek medical help? In a jurisdiction where the laws do not allow forced treatment and have restrictions on access to the person's medical records
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 8:19pm On Jul 30, 2023
Turquoiseee:
■ ANTI CHRIST stay out of my mention! I rebuke you in the name of Jesus.
■ It is not a crime to believe in Jesus! Live your life let me live mine! Don’t you ever come to counter what I believe in.
■ My Sweet Jesus tell me in my bible that I should call on Him and He will answer me and show me great and mighty things I don’t know. Be warned! Op, read And meditate on Psalm 27.
■ Jesus loves you
1. You say you Rebuke me in Jesus Christ yet I am stil here responding boldly to your claims, isn't that at least clear indication that incantation of yours there does not work. undecided

2. It is one thing to believe in God --- actually submit to and obey His teachings and commandments--- and another thing entirely to carry His name around by mouth only and not in deed, something you religious folks seem only capable of. undecided

3. Interesting! If he has answered you why then you resort to using the psalms as if a book of incantations it is almost as though calling the name of Jesus Christ. --- by mouth alone and not deed --- has not favored you much hence the reason why you feel to add incantations much like even witches are known for. undecided

4. Jesus Christ instead said that His love is reserved only for those who obey His teachings and commandments- John 15 vs 9 -11 & John 13 vs 1. Clearly, you don't even seem to see eye to eye with Jesus Christ on a lot of things. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Yankee101: 8:29pm On Jul 30, 2023
airsaylongcome:


Neuroleptics. I'm aware of those. But how can one handle paranoid schizo when the subject refuses to seek medical help? In a jurisdiction where the laws do not allow forced treatment and have restrictions on access to the person's medical records

What jurisdiction?

If it’s a developed country, the courts may grant you Guardianship

But the problem is people abuse it to control the subjects’ money, time and life to their own benefits

If the person is functioning despite their illness, you won’t get that. And going to court could ruin their careers especially if they are in sensitive jobs like medicine and aviation. Your best route is dialogue
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Cromagnon: 8:33pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
encapsulate your text between the tags in bold undecided
Good woman
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Turquoiseee: 8:35pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. You say you Rebuke me in Jesus Christ yet I am stil here responding boldly to your claims, isn't that at least clear indication that incantation of yours there does not work. undecided

2. It is one thing to believe in God --- actually submit to and obey His teachings and commandments--- and another thing entirely to carry His name around by mouth only and not in deed, something you religious folks seem only capable of. undecided

3. Interesting! If he has answered you why then you resort to using the psalms as if a book of incantations it is almost as though calling the name of Jesus Christ. --- by mouth alone and not deed --- has not favored you much hence the reason why you feel to add incantations much like even witches are known for. undecided

4. Jesus Christ instead said that His love is reserved only for those who obey His teachings and commandments- John 15 vs 9 -11 & John 13 vs 1. Clearly, you don't even seem to see eye to eye with Jesus Christ on a lot of things. undecided

You seem like a psycho! You keep quoting John and Isaiah every now and then. These are the only verses you hold on to. Forgetting there are other books and verses.
I believe in Jesus Christ as my redeemer and savior! I am proud to quote His verses and I am not deterred by your comments.

I will call on Him because He always answers me. I don’t know about you!
I rebuked you earlier, not you, but the foul spirit speaking through you.
It is my choice to follow Jesus. So let me be!
Stick to your belief and I will to mine.

Op, try Jesus He will never let you down.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by dealslip(f): 8:56pm On Jul 30, 2023
jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.


Oh boy!! Anyone that marries you is done for. You sound like someone with a more severe mental challenge.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by TenQ: 8:56pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

......
What do I do?



Only you know the weight of burden you are carrying. It is impossible for anyone to understand you if they've not experienced something close.

What to do!?
1. Become a prayer warrior! There is nothing impossible for God to do.
2. Take your children to your parent or his parent for upkeep. They should be willing to help if they understand the problem on ground.
3. Use this time to devote more energy to your business. You need some financial muscle to heal and survive.
4. Your husband need to see a doctor : he may be suffering from some form of Schizophrenia. He may have to be on daily medication for a long time. Stress is a trigger for their mental issues (without stress, you may not even know that they have any problem)
5. It is not your fault, so stop blaming yourself. Cheer up and live your life to it's fullest without regret.

The point is that what happened to your husband can happen to anyone.

6. In case there is persistent violence, please tell your pastor, your parent and his parents that you will need to separate (not divorce)

7. Take care of your children and pray for them that the curse will not be transferred to them.

8. For now, take it that you are in charge of EVERYTHING! Him, your children, your business, your family etc.

I'm so sorry for you but you have to pick up yourself or you will land into a deep depression.

If you are born again, this is the time of holding on to God for strength in this time of your trial.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 8:58pm On Jul 30, 2023
Turquoiseee:
■ You seem like a psycho! You keep quoting John and Isaiah every now and then. These are the only verses you hold on to. Forgetting there are other books and verses. I believe in Jesus Christ as my redeemer and savior! I am proud to quote His verses and I am not deterred by your comments.
■ I will call on Him because He always answers me. I don’t know about you! I rebuked you earlier, not you, but the foul spirit speaking through you. It is my choice to follow Jesus. So let me be! Stick to your belief and I will to mine.
■ Op, try Jesus He will never let you down.
1. Audio believers .... we know una. Na religion full una head and nothing of Jesus Christ. undecided

2. So how many times will you invoke or rebuke before this imaginary foul spirit vanishes then? When Jesus Christ and His disciples did it, na immediate things e be. But when it comes to you Audio-Jesus-believers na daily things that never come to pass, abi? undecided

3. LOL... grin

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by dealslip(f): 8:58pm On Jul 30, 2023
Turquoiseee:


You seem like a psycho! You keep quoting John and Isaiah every now and then. These are the only verses you hold on to. Forgetting there are other books and verses.
I believe in Jesus Christ as my redeemer and savior! I am proud to quote His verses and I am not deterred by your comments.

I will call on Him because He always answers me. I don’t know about you!
I rebuked you earlier, not you, but the foul spirit speaking through you.
It is my choice to follow Jesus. So let me be!
Stick to your belief and I will to mine.

Op, try Jesus He will never let you down.

Abeg!! Run for your life. This person you are engaging with is a proper psycho!!! He is possessed. I have engaged him before. He will be asking you only one question repeatedly.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by keepingmum: 9:09pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

Can you be specific with exactly what you have tried? Has he seen a psychiatrist? Had a proper mental health assessment and subsequent diagnosis?

Since he currently has a crisis have you taken him to a teaching hospital for the above? What were you told by qualified medical practitioners? @beautifulsoul12
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Ilekokonit: 9:28pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervene otherwise we have tried all our best

You have not tried all your best. It irks me when educated people who have free access to research things on Google now allow illiterate or educated illiterate scammer religious clerics and ignorant family members to tell them a common mental illness is caused by spiritual attack or family problems ??

Your education is not only to get a certificate but to use the knowledge throughout life and if you bothered to isolate yourself and do proper research on Google, you will find out that mental health issues are more common than you think and it affects both the rich and the poor in equal proportions in ALL countries of the world.

Perhaps you did not read the news of the death of that popular musician - Sinead O'Connor - this week in London - an apparent suicide.

What we IGNORANTLY call madness in Nigeria is more common in Western countries but over there they are not labelled as mad but their societies and enlightened family members promptly get them psychiatric help as soon as they notice any odd behavior and this occurs to their high and mighty as well.

Has your husband been to a psychiatrist hospital which is free of charge in ALL states in Nigeria

If he has, did he complete his course of medication or at least use them daily for at least 6 months ?

Do you allow or force your husband to sleep UNDISTURBED for at least 8 hours EVERY day so as to correct any chemical imbalance in his brain that causes A LOT of mental health issues

The last 3 points I made above are key to your husband finally beating this recurring mental health issue and NOT any family or spiritual problem you mentioned above.

If he does the above WITH YOUR SUPPORT (excluding nagging or shouting at him or ridiculing / blaming him), then he will have beaten the condition in 6 months time and he will be able to then get a good job for the benefit of your whole family going forwards.

Rent is just temporary. His getting better finally is the key to your family's future happiness health wise and financially if you are prepared to give him a chance to beat the condition without judging him for genes he UNINTENTIONALLY inherited.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by airsaylongcome: 9:38pm On Jul 30, 2023
Yankee101:


What jurisdiction?

If it’s a developed country, the courts may grant you Guardianship

But the problem is people abuse it to control the subjects’ money, time and life to their own benefits

If the person is functioning despite their illness, you won’t get that. And going to court could ruin their careers especially if they are in sensitive jobs like medicine and aviation. Your best route is dialogue

Pharmacist. Developed country. This person is completely not listening to dialogue.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by okoroemeka(m): 9:54pm On Jul 30, 2023
talented321:
U want to run''
Madam plan things with ur husband'' give up no join.
Don't u two have family members that can help with what they can? U seems business minded and hard working, no be small ya.
It is well
plan what?don't you read the husband is insane,I think it's best for the op to post her account no for people that want to help,it is not easy but that's life for you
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by naturefellow(m): 10:11pm On Jul 30, 2023
jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.

how do you know all this?

Are you her guardian angel?
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by jeromestarks: 10:24pm On Jul 30, 2023
naturefellow:
how do you know all this?

Are you her guardian angel?
She can't deny it.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by mclloyd22: 10:35pm On Jul 30, 2023
Please Ma’am, your husband needs urgent spiritual help. You need to ask questions starting from his origin, parents, do your investigations as woman… it’s true a lot of people will say it’s medical but trust me agwu is real(spiritual call). Please seek for real spiritual help
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by bonnyhope: 10:44pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?




It seems you are a good woman too

If na some ladies they for don Park their things go since.

If you believe in God there's nothing too big for him to do.

Put ur husband in prayer

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by jalodo2: 11:04pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

You this kogi/Benue/Zamfara /Abuja guy, you will not stop until u accomplish your mission of scamming the nice people. This is like the 3rd new moniker u will use this week with different stories to scam. Seems u are broke right now. I cant count how many times u keep coming back goodness34, if u dont get money from this story, people should watch out for another moniker and story. People trying to verify, the guy is good at what he does, he has female accomplice, guess family member, he will fool u on video or phone calls. Most of his storyline is on buying sewing machine barber tools or tools for repairing phones.
He has lots of other monikers he uses on his threads to hype himself.



Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Ilekokonit: 11:09pm On Jul 30, 2023
Purvan:
Mental illness is not a bad thing

There are people that are living with mental illnesses and earning a living
Elon musk has aspengers syndrome

Find out the type of mental illness your husband has and look for a way to take care of it

Well said. Not everything is spiritual. Some are inherited genetically and something as little as not enough sleep can cause a chemical imbalance in the brain. A chemical imbalance that can be corrected by the CORRECT medication.

But in Nigeria they will not look after the patient through a psychiatrist but will try quacks and spiritualists who end up compounding the issue or try prayers only until the patient due to restlessness absconds from home and starts roaming the streets until their clothes get ripped to shreds due to rough sleeping and they become naked whilst roaming the streets and our society might even start stoning or abusing them.

Something than can be cured easily by visiting a psychiatrist in a teaching hospital which is free in ALL states in Nigeria.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by jalodo2: 11:27pm On Jul 30, 2023
This Kogi/Benue/Zamfara/Abuja guy is a scammer, still the same guy that claimed that claimed the hubby died. Until he successfully scam the nice people of their money, he will continue opening new moniker with new stories.
Whenever he gets money, he rests for sometime before coming when broke again.
His main moniker is goodness34, but has lots of other monikers on this forum. He is always looking for money to buy sewing machine, barbing tools or phone repair tools. He comes as female or male. Dont bother verifying him on the phone through call or video call cos he has female accomplice, guess a family member. He uses his other monikers to hype himself on his scamming threads.

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