₦airaland Forum

BABANGBALI:
I tell you sey I no get leg to go to where I wan go?

mad man

BABANGBALI:
Just because he managed to buy second hand Tokunbo car, person no go hear word again. The motor na manual car sef. Mtcheeeeeeeeew

Hate won't take you anywhere bro, change!

That's a whooping lots of money there,wow.


Enjoy your wealth bro.

itsme01:
Grace

RIP to his late friends

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This post has been long forgotten since June 2020 only for one mod to push it now. We don't even know maybe the idiot op is alive to see how she's been bash left right and center now, who knows maybe she has been used where she's looking for rich man.


Rich man kee you dia

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

A lady was brought home from school because she's stinks, there was a case one was menstruating non stop, many ladies have died.

The so called rich ones you are talking about are already using you ladies, beware of this op mentality not to fall victim.

When you know a guy is hardworking, support him in every way, because surely he will make it.

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

May God protect innocent men from your lot,amen !

AdaSunshine:
Your terms and conditions are just simply too much, a huge turn off.

-Don't you think that is too much of a sacrifice to ask of someone you're not married to?

-Do you think you're worth that sacrifice?
Why would you ask someone to give up their fertility?
-How far have you gone with him to dare to ask that of him?
-Do you know the magnitude of the sacrifice you're asking for?
- Isn't that selfish of you?

-Will you be ready to take the blame later in future?
If I were the guy, I'd take that as a red flag.
I'd be the one to opt out.

God will bless you sister.

I'm happy this comment came from woman, the bitter truth here is , she's very selfish.

Obviously,they packed the vehicle in a bushy area. It happens, sometimes in the engine or in the tire . Nigga is just looking for a warm place.


...and it's a very deadly snake.
Cobra

Terorislam:
This gvt and it's supporters are shameless

...and na today

This and many other issues are what christians should take note but you will see the hypocrite ones on muslim thread on Fridays talking rubbish

Jazakumllahu khaira, it is a blessing for been a muslim.


How non muslims come on here to insult people even as they(muslim) don't normally respond to their insult and they still continue coming here insulting Muslim is worrisome.

Sometimes I feel what's the essence of Islam section entry confirmation when they can just enter and do anyhow.

ceereelee:
Ala akabar

Islamphobia is the name of your sickness

hmohammed:
Many people sick for Nairaland

All na crush bro

In this wicked generation where one stupid kids will gather somewhere and steal your hard earned money to go and pour expensive wines on wrist watch and girls . I stopped putting much in bank long time ago .

Investment is key.

Geeeky:
When I saw the video this morning I just weak
I just love his actions.. sey e easy to have such a huge amount and let it go down the drain. mehn this Buhari regime no be child play

We too divert our attention to wrong places hence why we keep having more issues. Scammers stole someone's money and you are blaming Buhari.

Is that not Wonderful

BAT 2023

BAT2023

streetsoldier1:
i doubt... Kalu isnt a small boy and can match Tinubu experience/money/supporters.
Moreso, north likely to betray Tinubu

Wow, you over hype this guy alot here


We shall see anyway

streetsoldier1:
so the contest is between kalu and Tinubu..... is that the best the two regions can produce?

Easy contest for Tinubu

aryzgreat:
OUK better than Tinubu d cocaine sniffing stained teeth hooligan

I pirrri you

Noshitboi:
Anyone that has an agenda for Tinubu to fail please count on me. I'll support such agenda with my last drop of blood.

Imagine someone hoping for someone failure, do t you know that you too must toil the path of failure.


I pity you. Only if you know the kind of people they are.

Alabbey:
Im done with APC... they betray all Nigerian their ruling is very worst... sign your eyes, let's wake up Nigerian I'm not a politician but All this people deserve to be stone to death

but PDP is ok abi Hypocrite lots, they will be claiming "I'm not a politician" who ask you

PavillionEnergy:
Watch how they will turn this to a Tinubu thread.
It has started on Page 1.

What did you expect front that slaveoflagos

chatinent:
I can't recall. Probably during preteen age when one dog was watching me and wondering what kind of animal I was with a tail in the front.

Lmao

I'm taking over, e ma foor

Congratulations

Syloki:
This is horrible

for......?

Modified, very horrible

Rip

There is time for improvement, don't be discouraged.

I remember after my nysc, I left to Abuja to manage with a friend. When I got my first job, the pay was 35k, my friend started changing it for me base on say his girlfriend is coming around from their as State, I see hell, locking me out unnecessary!

The day I was able to raised from my peanut salary to get a room , the condition at which I stayed in that room for some months before I could be able to get some other stuff, your room is luxurious compare to mine and upon that , the peace I have is out of this world.


.....and going forward,glory be to God!

Datboredberry:
The guy living in this sort of apartment shouldn't even think of getting married.

Financial stability is as relevant as love... If not more...

As for dating, ofcourse! Somehow, it's fun...

I remember, I dated guy who invited me to his friend's home... Just like this!

There was a colourful mat on the floor... A bulb... It gave off a dim red light... I still think it was insanely romantic...

But I didn't love the guy tho... We spent minutes, he tried to get me to take off my clothes... With I was wriggling, trying to escape his tight grip on my waist...

Your neighbour is an idiot... For shaming your condition... Funny enough, it's men who set such high standards for themselves...

There are millions of ladies who wouldn't care what your home looks like... Damn! If your personality is great... I wouldn't mind if it's a mud house... Just enjoy the company...

If I date men in your condition... And I sincerely love him... them we would work together to build a better home...

But I definitely would not make you feel small... My own parents have been in situations where this would have been a castle...

And, bad times don't last... Just do your sh**... Avoid entitled hoes and don't let all the negative energy from your dumbass male friends get to you... Okay?

There are decent women..

oh I can't like this comment a million times

MadamVanessa:
Thank God for the timely intervention of the boyfriend, because white are very funny human beings. Before you know what's up she has committed suicide out of depression and thinking that nobody really loves her.

And the headline will be " Woman committed suicide After Pals Fail To Show Up For Planned Dinner"

Seriously,as funny as this sounds , it is very true.