Live your life.
Take your own decision.

Your parents cannot stop you from leaving bad marriage.
But beware: there is no perfect marriage.

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oluwaseyi0:
Because those parents sold their daughter

Abolish dowry and expensive marriage list and you will see a wonderful turnaround in women happiness in marriage

You can't eat your cake and have it back

A white lady can easily walk out of marriage because even in marriage she is a free human no one bought her same can't be said of most African ladies

Their is a case of my friend sister who dowry is 300k after marriage this young lady of barely 25 is seeing renew shege in her husband house, this husband is so 'cunning' that he will never beat the wife but the shege the wife is seeing is worse than been beaten

When wife was pregnant she told wife to go leave with her family so they could take care of her proper throughout pregnancy man never visit wife in her family house, wife gave birth through CS and husband never show up for 4 days, child dedication husband no show

So so many unspeakable attitude and behavior because he bought the lady at a premium price

It has nothing to do with dowry and everything to do with the way the society views women who aren't married.

It also has to do with men who have never been taught how to coexist with respect for women. A man abusing a woman isn't because of him paying her dowry. Even boyfriend's in Nigeria feel they should maltreat their girlfriends, abuse them mentally and physically. We see the comments on this forum everyday from boys in the red pill. They continue their toxic manners into marriage. They don't have love in them.

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

Sadly the story has changed, these victims are now the "victimizers" they are the Culprits. Lesser are the Parents Decision, most ladies are in marriages n its predicaments today because of GREEDINESS, let Not leave the CAUSE and now focus on RESULTS...
Many Ladies have Seen MARRIAGE as POVERTIES ALLEVIATON PROGRAMS .
U want all to be the FULL FOOLHOUSE WIFE with G-LE or LEXUS car from Wedding proposals.

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

Leave marriage people alone

How do you know they are not enjoying the marriage

Your views on marriages are lopsided.

That's medicine after death.

They should rather teach their daughters how to pick a good man, how to recognize and attract him.

Puss360:
The duty of a parent is to train their daughters to know themselves...
If you know yourself, you will know that from 20 yrs is now an adult and at that age any of your actions has to be taken with care....
From that age You should know when you feel you are ready for marriage, nobody should coerce you ..
You should also know the kind of man you are getting married to, nobody should know the man more than you....
If along the lane of marriage, you discover some toxic behaviour, decision to leave should rest on your shoulder Nd not your parents...

Remember, it's your marriage, it's your husband...
Not theirs...

Bro you have said it all but would these tiny legs empty heads listen?

Look at that one that wanted to committed suicide 2 days ago called Phreeda. These fools always go after lazy idiot of men who have nothing serious to do in life than to be using bleaching creams, using toothpaste with hard brush to brush their lips just to get pink lips, wearing female pants, wearing Micheal Jackson stupid trousers half way down, trimming eyes pubis then you hear these fools of babes saying "oh he is handsome" imagine that Phreeda spending over N30 million herself to marry that guy who now frustring her.

I don't know may be their brain don't work or something that they can't identify a lazy useless man who is an opportunist I don't know for them.

A real man marry his wife and not the woman marrying a man paying marriage bills and you expect such man to be serious? It won't work.

Useless lazy men using colour to dey buy market according to Yoruba says "awon fawo ra oja" lazy a s s holes.

Better hardworking guys go come to dem dem go chase him away because hin no get
f u c king pink lips, nor using bleaching cream, nor wearing female pants etc then after been beaten very well come on social media dey blame God.

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

Why do the women feel they need to ask permission to run for their Iives from a toxic situation? Let's start with that as that is a major problem.

Everyone just wants to use trending buzz words

In most cases, marriages become toxic because of the hidden characters of the wives, discovered after the wedding.
A lady might behave like an Angel during courtship, only to turn into a hardcore feminist after the wedding. This type of marriage can only work if the husband is a simp.
You are making me pay almost all the bills and your are claiming equal rights!
You want your own relations to always live with us, using all our resources, but you do not want to see any of my own relations.
No be winch be dat?
Have you ever wondered why, after divorce, the so-called toxic home becomes a peaceful home for the new wife?
E get why!
Ronu oooo!!

Marriage is slowly becoming extinct because of the selfishness couples bring to it...

No marriage is perfect, it all about tolerance, love, patience, forgiveness, etc.

Besides, marriage isn't a do or die affair, but society's pressures force people to marry blindly.

BrighterThanDay:
■ My dear, it's painful because at the end of the day, you are leaving a toxic marriage but you don't have your family to fall back on because they wanted you to remain there. That can be a very lonely place. I feel after a breakup, this is the time for your parents and siblings to shower you with the most love, but this is not always the case, certain parents even see it as you bringing shame to the family, just because you put your emotional and physical well-being first.

More lonely than remaining in a toxic marriage?

Is marriage meant to be an adult something? Why will an adult be needing allowance/permission to leave a dangerous situation? Is the adult adulting well?

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

"They refuses to marrying millions and millions of dollars for the..."? They refuses to marrying us or people like us...? WHO is US...? JESUS...? Check or read The Book of Exodus (& Genesis...), Leviticus (& Number...or plumber,...?), Titus, Ephesus...,etc?... I don't know where you would see JESUS CHRIST and sexual intercourse, or with sexual,etc; in The Book of Exodus, Leviticus, Ephesus,Titus,etc...?... I guess they don't know GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST-let alone leaves GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST ETC; because of Lexus...or because they want to be driving Lexus...? Because of sexual intercourse..., sexual intercourse, etc; for Lexus or because of Lexus...? Fear GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST, ETC; or fear sexual intercourse...? Fear sexual intercourse of Lexus, in Lexus/in a Lexus or because of Lexus,etc; or FEAR GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST ETC; which is THE BEGINNING of WISDOM...? Why are they anxious...? Because of Lexus or sexual intercourse...? Anxious to buy Lexus...or for,by&to buy sexual intercourse...? I doubt "if"/don't think they reads or learns anything from/about GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST/Lazarus or and Lazarus...,etc? Did they reads &or learns anything about GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST, ETC... JESUS CHRIST and Lazarus, JESUS CHRIST and Zacchaeus...,etc...?...

FOJEM:
In most cases, marriages become toxic because of the hidden characters of the wives, discovered after the wedding.
A lady might behave like an Angel during courtship, only to turn into a hardcore feminist after the wedding. This type of marriage can only work if the husband is a simp.
You are making me pay almost all the bills and your are claiming equal rights!
You want your own relations to always live with us, using all our resources, but you do not want to see any of my own relations.
No be winch be dat?
Have you ever wondered why, after divorce, the so-called toxic home becomes a peaceful home for the new wife?
E get why!
Ronu oooo!!

Most sensible comment so far!

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

What's your definition of a toxic and irresponsible man in marriage?

Karleb:
That's medicine after death.

They should rather teach their daughters how to pick a good man, how to recognize and attract him.

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The comment I was waiting for. A lot to teach young girls that goes beyond cook, clean and tight pumpum.

FOJEM:
In most cases, marriages become toxic because of the hidden characters of the wives, discovered after the wedding.
A lady might behave like an Angel during courtship, only to turn into a hardcore feminist after the wedding. This type of marriage can only work if the husband is a simp.
You are making me pay almost all the bills and your are claiming equal rights!
You want your own relations to always live with us, using all our resources, but you do not want to see any of my own relations.
No be winch be dat?
Have you ever wondered why, after divorce, the so-called toxic home becomes a peaceful home for the new wife?
E get why!
Ronu oooo!!

I can relate bro. Honestly no man marries a woman with the objective of subjugating her like his slave but women tend to change overtime in marriage in a negative way which in turn spurs the man to change accordingly.

What happened in the garden of Eden that lead to the fall of man was as a result of one woman's toxic behavior. It also makes for a good case study as to why women are mainly responsible for the health of their marriages.

Because that's the way her mother also endured her father till everything now set and peaceful between the two parents.

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

Die or let them die,etc; if they wants to die... There are many ways to die or to death/that leads to deaths...,etc; on Earth or in Earth...?( There are many ways that leads to HEAVEN and Hell, or to HEAVEN and Earth? Which one...?) In HEAVEN and Earth...?... Of course, you must have first dies or must have been the first to dies in your heart/with your heart...? To dies lays where...elsewhere or somewhere else in the elsewhere...? For where...? Death is wealth..., deaths brings wealth or death is the end of wealth...? End of someones wealth and health...? Of course, deaths brings health and wealth...? Hmmm?... So die...if you wants to die...? Die in GOD and in THE LORD JESUS CHRIST, ETC; name...? If that's your aim...

oluwaseyi0:
Because those parents sold their daughter

Abolish dowry and expensive marriage list and you will see a wonderful turnaround in women happiness in marriage

You can't eat your cake and have it back

A white lady can easily walk out of marriage because even in marriage she is a free human no one bought her same can't be said of most African ladies

Their is a case of my friend sister who dowry is 300k after marriage this young lady of barely 25 is seeing renew shege in her husband house, this husband is so 'cunning' that he will never beat the wife but the shege the wife is seeing is worse than been beaten

When wife was pregnant she told wife to go leave with her family so they could take care of her proper throughout pregnancy man never visit wife in her family house, wife gave birth through CS and husband never show up for 4 days, child dedication husband no show

So so many unspeakable attitude and behavior because he bought the lady at a premium price

Do this make it right? The husband is simply a monster. I paid an expensive marital list when getting married last month. Even at that, I love my wife so dearly and I cherish her family as well because they brought up a queen properly with good morals and character.

So my dear friend, as far as marriage is concern, marry who you love and think of the future prosperous lives both of you will lead thereafter together as a wonderful couple worthy of emulation by the upcoming couples to be. Love must always lead in a home because one's wife is same as one very self. So suffering your beloved wife is like suffering your own very self. Cheers 🍷.

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

After all, we know the differences between a daughter and the daughters...that would be slaughtered... "We know your thoughts on the way home alone with the kids and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST..." We know your thoughts and prayers, plans, etc;for the weekend to get more sense or to the house... We knows what MATTERS, your matters and OUR ALMAMATER... GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; ETC is/are OUR ALMAMATER... Not paternal grandfathers,grand mothers and maternal grandmother, forefathers fathers and mothers-fore, afore, dore adore...,etc; that enjoys laughters... Who is your daughter or who is even your daughters, a daughter or their daughters...?... Laughter... Mufu gbogbo...

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

Is both ways...but you are only interested in the liability

Talk another thing,Gone are those days when parents allow their children to stay in a toxic relationship,e don pass since and nobody tie your leg for the toxic relationship you hear,even weak illiterate ladies and guys today nor dey stay toxic relationship again.

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

What's your definition of toxic marriage? Are those women of good character who are the so called toxic marriage?

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

Not In all cases.
In the case of the Business woman saved from committing suicide on 3rd mainland bridge, she was honest to admit her family and friends warned her against the marrying the man..
As usual,a woman in love,like a strayed dog won't hear the hunter's whistles- she will only see 1reason why she smarter than her advisers till renewed SHEGE lands on her lap

BrighterThanDay:
Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.

A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad

What of when a man is married to a verbally abusive woman...why is every post against the man in marriage. What about men who are suffering. I know a man who makes sacrifices to provides for his family(note the wife doesn't even earn a Kobo) yet gets insulted at every slight opportunity.
Una no dey see those ones.

judedwriter:
Marriage is slowly becoming extinct because of the selfishness couples bring to it...

No marriage is perfect, it all about tolerance, love, patience, forgiveness, etc.

Besides, marriage isn't a do or die affair, but society's pressures force people to marry blindly.

Most of these girls' goals in marriage is all about materialism not knowing what is after 6 goes beyond 7 and 8.