Dey play.
Forgotten one can't give what he/she doesn't have.

TemplarLandry:
Why not?
The single person could be a God sent.

Laye

Yes na, we believe in theory in Nigeria

Some persons are gifted with d spirit of counselling. Irrespective of their age or gender....when they speak u know it's filled with wisdom.

In my opinion....its not ryt...he might think otherwise

Shey wetin you talk make sense to you because how can a married person take advice from a single person, does that make sense?

If you like take medical advice from tailor. No you sabi.

Burgerlomo:
Shey wetin you talk make sense to you because how can a married person take advice from a single person, does that make sense?

A lot of married people would have had their lives saved had they listened to advice from unmarried friends and family telling them to quit before it was too late. Look at Osinachi. If she had listened to those who told her to flee for her life, she would not be food for worms today.

Goalnaldo:
you better don't follow this woman to argue or you might ruin the rest of your day. Looks like you don't know her. Nairaland chief argumentator

Once you note some moniker here on nairaland you will never quote or mention them e.g Kobojunkie AKA Argumentator


My experience with him/her I regret why I login nairaland that very day.

dawnomike:
You can give your advice but truly, there are somethings you can't really get spot on except you're married.

That is a fat lie.

TemplarLandry:
Why not?
The single person could be a God sent.

You don't have sense, you can never give what you don't have

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

If you’re not married how can you advise a married person if you haven’t experienced their situation? That would only be an entitled opinion

The only person you should give advice is someone whom you have been in a similar situation to theirs. The advice you give them is to tell them what you did, not what the best thing should be, because you don’t know the best thing to do, you only know what you did based on your circumstances

Well, will a pilot take advice from a frequent flier.... it depends on the details.

If it is how to make the flying experience better, why not.

But if it how to skip through foul weather, avoid mid air collisions or calculate takeoff weights, I think not.

It depends on what the issue befuddling the man are..... details.

socialmediaman:


If you’re not married how can you advise a married person if you haven’t experienced their situation? That would only be an entitled opinion

The only person you should give advice is someone whom you have been in a similar situation to theirs. The advice you give them is to tell them what you did, not what the best thing should be, because you don’t know the best thing to do, you only know what you did based on your circumstances

Exactly, the summary is, details. There are marriage counselors who are single, married, divorced, etc. They all have unique experiences and competencies and will not be universally successful.

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

Don't mind them. But they can take financial aid from those who are yet to marry.

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

That's the stereotype that's making many people suffer. I don't always stress myself for folks like this but whenever you have good advice for him please share.

It's actually just like chess, those outside are seeing all the moves you aren't taking but once they seat down for their turn or to replace you they fumble.

A good advice can come even from a kid.

Stevenbright:


Don't mind them. But they can take financial aid from those who are yet to marry.

Adakintroy:
If you like take medical advice from tailor. No you sabi.

Not the same analogy but yes, a tailor can give you better advice than a doctor but only a minority of the time.

TimT:
But this advice matter sef tire me especially for this Nigeria..... Person wey the wife dey keep malice with am go dey advice another person for their marriage...
So now where's the best source to seek for advice..

No where.A lot of marriages have broken down due to advice from fellow married ones.
Use ur brain and word of God, as well as counselling of ur relations.

Wetin he wan advice ,like catholic priests teaching MARRIAGE COURSE person wey no marry wetin he wan teach

Wisdom matters

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

Just forget it, you cannot.

Aklee4994:
Once you note some moniker here on nairaland you will never quote or mention them e.g Kobojunkie AKA Argumentator


My experience with him/her I regret why I login nairaland that very day.

lol

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

Take it this way should a married baby take advice from an unmarried mature man and excellent mind?

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

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Even married people may find it difficult to give accurate advice because we marry different characters. Your counselor or pastor may suffering and smiling in his or her marriage. Singles need to exercise common sense, vigilance , hardwork, with Divine guidance while making the choice. It has an element of luck.

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

I have become a very reliable adviser to married couples.

Forget about being single, it's about being responsible, having a good understanding about relationship and knowing how you'd have handled the matter if you were in his shoes.

There are lots of things most married couples don't know before they got into marriage that I already know being single.

sonofthunder:



Not the same analogy but yes, a tailor can give you better advice than a doctor but only a minority of the time.

You are talking circles.

Pastev1:
Beloved, Experience they say is the BEST TEACHER. Marital counseling is not knowledge-based, rather it's experience/practical is over 75% required.

Phantom233:
Apostle paul the greatest prophet with significant counseling on marital affairs wasn't married. Wisdom to counsel is a divine gift not marriage-base

Adakintroy:


You are talking circles.

No I'm not... You are talking in circles by stating unfounded assumptions as gospel.

I know several people who have saved the lives of their family/children/loved ones by listening to the counsel of a "tailor" against that of a "textbook" doctor who was going to kill them.


Doesn't mean that next time they are sick, they'll go and consult a "tailor".