Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Exodus15v11:
If your father has documents as proof that he reconstructed them, then they are his. Your obviously-broke Uncle is no different from a thief trying to reap where he didn't sow.

STARGREEN:
I don't think I appreciate his behaviour towards his parents as you made us to see.

However, I don't equally think he acted the way he did intentionally.

Sometimes, been in a foreign country doesn't translate to riches. Some open up to their financial challenges, while some keep mute.

Depending on your tribe, in some, 1st Son is 1st Son in spite of his health and economic situation.

If yours recognises the 1st Son as having share of his parents properties, let him not be denied because of his attitude, rather let his conscience judge him.

Someday he will get old, someday he will remember parents, till then, let him be helped to stand back on his feet or have a shoulder to lean on, brother is brother and remains brother even with different attitudes. There's a reason it's called Family.

Lastly, my father used to tell me never to drag land, rather that I should drag to make sufficient investments to price both the land and building in future.

tunwumi:
This is nicely put.

What about your father's juju to keep him there finally fade off and he's back to claim his right?

Nbote:
The sad truth is whether he disappeared or not, he's still entitled to a share of his Father's properties. Infact in Igbo culture as the first son he's the rightful owner of his Father's house

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Exodus15v11:
If your father has documents as proof that he reconstructed them, then they are his. Your obviously-broke Uncle is no different from a thief trying to reap where he didn't sow.

Klass99:


A very useless first son who provided no value whatsoever. Why should such a person inherit or lay claim to any properties, solely on the basis of being a first son?

We have some very messed up traditions that cause more harm than good, which need to be thrown away. Is it not men who created these traditions? Can the same men not undo them, if they really wish to?

Unlike you I mean every offence when I say (not to you specifically) that the useless first son should have stayed gone and never returned or reappeared to claim property.

What is wrong with some children sef? Are your hands broken or is your brain malfunctioning to a point where you cannot build or acquire properties of your own, without looking to grab what your parents had?

TheBillyonaire:


Do you want to read the truth? If yes, listen to the truth and advise your father accordingly.

Your Father's Elder brother is the authentic title holder of the inheritances by Right, and he is the right person to share the properties to your Dad and the rest of the family members as he deems fit.

Your father is to surrender possession of all properties to the Elder brother and account for the monies he has made from those properties since the demise of your Grand father, and your Uncle can decide to forego the revenue accrued from the properties during his absense to your Dad, but all the Properties are his and your father's trust and it is your Uncle that has traditional rights to share those properties to everyone else.

Did you guys care to know if your uncle went to prison and couldnt come for the burial or life was just too tough for him?

Bleep around and find out, is what people say on tik tok, even your ancestors will not support your papa on this.

Peter532:

My father has properties of his own. thank you.

correctguy101:


This is a wrong advice...

This is Africa and Nigeria..

If we were to truly follow all you're saying, then...

According to traditions,

First, calculations would be made on all that has been going on in the family, including the works done on these properties and the funds spent in both burials of his parents and the shameless uncle should first pay up his share before he will have mouth to try and haggle over anything. People lack shame these days. Imagine the arrogance...

Disowned or not, being in jail or not or having things hard or not, the tradition and culture does not care.

The only obvious fact is...

He has neglected his duties as a first born son. I wonder how he has the face to come out from heavens knows where and start to arrogantly lay claims on things he should have no business with.

Or don't you know a first born son has lots of duties when burying his parents?

I'm a Nigerian and from Delta State. Dem never born the person wey go try am for my family.

Even me that was in Nigeria and wasn't in the Egwa of the family had to pay some fines before I could do somethings at my hometown. Unless you're from Vawulenciaga and are always ready for the fight that will follow-up.

No will, so everything will have to be settled by the custodians in each family.

Peter532, take note and act accordingly.

His rights as a first born son will only count after taking care of the bills he'd left pilled up.

Else, your father should just deal with the shameless baastard like he's dealing with a thief....

Lucky man, he didn't jam ruthless werey like me.

Klass99:


If I were your father I will simply undo every renovation work done on properties he is laying claim to and let him have them, after I have returned said properties to their former state and status. I hate nonsense and stupidity sha.

achimendy:
the boy is a scoundrel.imagine joining his father to fight his uncle, instead of calling for peace.



Your father's elder brother is still part of the family, so you guys should just give him his own cut. This is family inheritance and he's down with the family, he is not dead or disowned so you guys should avoid unnecessary controversy and give him what rightfully belongs to him.



And tell your father to be logical instead of fighting over this issue. It might not end well with him and you the children.

TheBillyonaire:



Ruthless werey? That is not a good way to describe oneself, but I must respect your self-nominated tag.

Granted that there are bills to cover, that does not erode the position of a First son as a default Trustee to his Father's Estate.

His inheritance is not conditional upon settling any of such debts but it will be nice of him to look into it and make peace, because those who were custodians of the properties in his absence earned value from those assets and are primarily expected to manage related liabilities as well.

Delta and Edo axis must discourage the erosion of cultures and traditional values, otherwise, such disordered and individuated decisioning will result in chaotic political and social topsy-turvy.