Date a guy whose values align with yours. Do not be in a hurry to delve into any relationship else you could get burnt in the process. Trust me there are guys still on the sexual purity journey just like you

Best case scenario, start a distance or online relationship, atleast sex would be out of the equation. If you interested, send a PM

Hideaki:
How do you cope with your sexual needs??


Find someone genuinely interested and mate away .

How do you cope with your sexual needs??
Discipline

Olaronke2478:


How do you cope with your sexual needs??
Discipline

With masturbation

Olaronke2478, very good, I commend this, this is exactly what I want our ladies to act on...

until a man does the necessary stuff with you by taking it to the next level, visiting your parents and you visiting theirs and taking the necessary steps, do not give in to any man... most men are just sexually frustrated... until marriage preparation are already involved, do not have sex! trust me, they will wait especially if you're a virgin and you're very sure of that...!

but one thing is, there's nothing wrong in a man asking for sex, it's just basic thing to men, but its not just sex for you as a woman, it's a part of investment on your side... men will ask for sex both with good intentions and of course the bad ones, you just have to know how to differentiate the wheat from the chaffs... and always pray to God for guidance because no one is perfect...

R u a virgin?

The responses are very good and thoughtful. Like Pansophis.t said, the issue is when the girl is not a virgin. I can be in a sexless relationship, but when a girl who is not a virgin states this as a rule, I find it very dishonest. She is changing the goalpost in the middle of the game.

Olaronke2478:

If you have nothing tangible to drop, don't derail my thread

Iyaebe good morning

Nazgul:
First I must commend you taking the decision of keeping yourself chaste until marriage.

However, if you want the men in your life to respect this decision, you must be completely honest with them by doing the following.

1. Avoid unnecessary billing. Regardless of how generous a guy is, if you start demanding for money from him, he'll definitely want a taste of your coochie, and if you keep refusing him, your relationship would most likely hit the rocks.

2. Avoid flirting with other guys. Nothing hurts a guy more like when he sees a girl who told him not sex before marriage flirting with other guys on social media. If you're not giving it to him, focus your time on making money, not in engaging other guys, cos that act would cause issues between you and him which can lead to a breakup.

3. Make sure your life is moving forward. Responsibile guys love and respect girls who have a mapped out blueprint for their future, and are actually taking successful steps towards achieving that future. Don't just sit there and say no sex, let him see you as a successful person. Start a business, no matter how small it is, get busy, give him creative ideas on how to invest his money. Believe me, he won't bother you for sex.

Thank you very much. Concerning your first point, I do not bill or ask for gifts from the opposite sex. "Nothing is free even in Freetown"
Your second point, I avoid flirting with other guys like a plague.

And your third point, that's the utmost priority on my scale of preference right now.
Thank you, once again for your inputs!

Reminderz:
Olaronke2478, very good, I commend this, this is exactly what I want our ladies to act on...

until a man does the necessary stuff with you by taking it to the next level, visiting your parents and you visiting theirs and taking the necessary steps, do not give in to any man... most men are just sexually frustrated... until marriage preparation are already involved, do not have sex! trust me, they will wait especially if you're a virgin and you're very sure of that...!

but one thing is, there's nothing wrong in a man asking for sex, it's just basic thing to men, but its not just sex for you as a woman, it's a part of investment on your side... men will ask for sex both with good intentions and of course the bad ones, you just have to know how to differentiate the wheat from the chaffs... and always pray to God for guidance because no one is perfect...

Thank you for your kind words

Kys whóre , you're nothing more than a pathetic worthless piece of shit


You're not a virgin , you're a fckn whoré

I am 36 years and dating a 28 year old virgin lady.
I have had sex severally before I met my babe and we are in a sexless relationship and planning for marriage next year.

There are plenty men like me but they can be found mostly in religious spaces.

Also, how do you dress and present yourself ?

Regardless of your looks, you will find a man that will cherish you and would support your decision .

Men are not necessarily against no sex in a relationship till marriage. If you're a virgin, a lot of guys will be glad and stick around. The problem is when you're not a virgin and then you don't want to have sex. Men see it as unfair and most men would feel others have had a piece of the pie and when it got to their turn, you decided to make them the sucker.

Men feel cheated when they're dating a non-virgin who is now insisting on no sex. Women should think properly about being a virgin or not. If you chose to lose it, the issue of becoming a secondary virgin wouldn't fly for most men.

nairagenone:
I am 36 years and dating a 28 year old virgin lady.
I have had sex severally before I met my babe and we are in a sexless relationship and planning for marriage next year.

There are plenty men like me but they can be found mostly in religious spaces.

Also, how do you dress and present yourself ?

Regardless of your looks, you will find a man that will cherish you and would support your decision .

Thank you

Gerrard59:
The responses are very good and thoughtful. Like Pansophis.t said, the issue is when the girl is not a virgin. I can be in a sexless relationship, but when a girl who is not a virgin states this as a rule, I find it very dishonest. She is changing the goalpost in the middle of the game.

A girl has a right to change the "goalpost" in the game as it is her body and her life. You decide for yourself whether that works for you or not. Saying one first has to be a virgin before one can desire a sexless relationship is inane. The same goes for boys.

Op. It should not matter whether you are a virgin or not for you to desire to be in a sexless relationship with anyone. It is your right and freedom to desire and demand whatever works for you in a relationship and only date those who are with you in your thinking.

Kobojunkie:
A girl has a right to change the goal post in the game as it is her body and her life. You decide for yourself whether that works for you or not. Saying one first has to be a virgin before one can desire a sexless relationship is ridiculous reasoning. Same goes for boys.

Op. It should not matter whether you are a virgin or not for you to desire to be in a sexless relationship with anyone. It is your right and freedom to desire and demand whatever works for you in relationship and only date those who are with you in your thinking.

A very SIMPle man

Walehelt:
■A very SIMPle man

Call it whatever you want to but it is a fact that your head there does not make law nor stipulate what another can or cannot do with their life and body.

zed7:
■ Men are not necessarily against no sex in a relationship till marriage. If you're a virgin, a lot of guys will be glad and stick around. The problem is when you're not a virgin and then you don't want to have sex. Men see it as unfair and most men would feel others have had a piece of the pie and when it got to their turn, you decided to make them the sucker.
■ Men feel cheated when they're dating a non-virgin who is now insisting on no sex. Women should think properly about being a virgin or not. If you chose to lose it, the issue of becoming a secondary virgin wouldn't fly for most men.

What you described is not a problem but a personal issue of yours.

No man is forced into a relationship so there is no reason to feel cheated. If you want a sex partner, then find a sex partner and move on.

OP, even if you have sex tomorrow and later on decide you no longer want to engage in sex in a relationship, not only do you have the right to demand just that, but you also do not have to settle for anyone badgering you with their inane personal issues about you not being a virgin anymore. It is your right to be in any kind of relationship you want to be in. Anyone who does not like that should go fk himself... that should be the way!

Kobojunkie:
A girl has a right to change the goal post in the game as it is her body and her life. You decide for yourself whether that works for you or not. Saying one first has to be a virgin before one can desire a sexless relationship is ridiculous reasoning. Same goes for boys.

Op. It should not matter whether you are a virgin or not for you to desire to be in a sexless relationship with anyone. It is your right and freedom to desire and demand whatever works for you in relationship and only date those who are with you in your thinking.

You nailed it all!

Olaronke2478:
You nailed it all!

Seriously! All this "You must have sex because you have had sex before " thinking is nonsense! Relationships no be by force neither is sex in relationship! If you can't find what you want with one person, move on and find someone else who wants what you want.

Kobojunkie:
Seriously! All this "You must have sex because you have had sex before " thinking is nonsense! Relationships no be by force neither is sex in relationship! If you can't find what you want with one person, move on and find someone else who wants what you want.

You must have sex because you have had sex before " thinking is nonsense
Yes, this line of reasoning is faulty

Kobojunkie:
Call it whatever you want to but it is a fact that your head there does not make law nor stipulate what another can or cannot do with their life and body.

If your gf is not fvckin you,who is she fvckin?

Walehelt:
■ If your gf is not fvckin you,who is she fvckin?

If you are insecure in a relationship, why bother remaining in it? If you are obsessively wondering who he or she is sleeping with, for your own mental sanity, leave the relationship. Think about it!
Even if you are regularly having sex with this person, nothing stops them from sleeping with others even then. So the problem is not with that person but with you.

Kobojunkie:
If you are insecure in a relationship, why bother remaining in it? If you are obsessively wondering who he or she is sleeping with, for your own mental sanity, leave the relationship. Think about it!
Even if you are regularly having sex with this person, nothing stops them from sleeping with others even then. So the problem is not with that person but with you.

Simple simpleton

If na my broda u be,with dis kind reasonin i go don poison u tey tey

Walehelt:
■ Simple simpleton. If na my broda u be,with dis kind reasonin i go don poison u tey tey

*** Yawn***

See these ones and their silly formulas. So in your mind, you actually believed before now that if you are fking her then it means no one else is fking her? Nonsense!

Kobojunkie:
*** Yawn***

See these ones and their silly formulas. So in your mind, you actually believed before now that if you are fking her then it means no one else is fking her? Nonsense!

Someone thats nt a virgin all of a sudden decided to be celebate when it is my turn, no be juju be that?

Walehelt:
■ Someone thats nt a virgin all of a sudden decided to be celebate when it is my turn, no be juju be that?

Nothing "juju" about it. We humans have a right to change our minds anytime we want regarding how we want to live our lives. Your personal obsession with virginity, or the lack, cannot change that fundamental fact of life for each and every human being. A person, male or female, virgin or none, has the right to choose to have sex or not to have sex. You have the right to accept their terms or fk off!

Kobojunkie:
Nothing "juju" about it. We humans have a right to change our minds anytime we want regarding how we want to live our lives. Your personal obsession with virginity, or the lack, cannot change that fundamental fact of life for each and every human being. A person, male or female, virgin or none, has the right to choose to have sex or not to have sex. You have the right to accept their terms or fk off!

Nah
"they have the right to accept my terms or they fvck off"

Fyi
That ENP you're tryin to impress, you won't see her pant

Walehelt:
Nah "they have the right to accept my terms or they fvck off"

See... this is why I talk say "Relationships no be by force neither is sex in relationship!. If you can't find what you want with one person, move on and find someone else who wants what you want.

Walehelt:
Fyi....That ENP you're tryin to impress, you won't see her pant

That your life and thinking revolves around the twitches of the piece of meat between your legs is a great sadness!

jus use condom...that why it was invented, or abstain till you ready for marriage, you wanting us to to tell you to be subtle wont be from me.