Badadvisor:

Which weed smh.
Anything smoke should be cut off completely.
I completely stopped smoking July 1st and that's the best decision i made this year.
Smoked for 6 years
It's not just worth it at all.

i dont try anyone anymore, but pure weed is cool nothing bad about it

JohnnA1:
Hope no be hide and seek mode una dey oh?

When a man say he met his woman at home, you should ask pple what that statement means

AareGaa:


I'm happy for both you. You're both lucky.
I will like to meet her.

Thanks. Hopefully

Flesh10:


When a man say he met his woman at home, you should ask pple what that statement means

👍🏾

JohnnA1:
You are a wise and practical man. Bro, according to you Wetin person should look for, in a woman?

Bros, when it comes to marriage, nobody be wise man o. Marriage wey dey humble even a marriage counsellor.

In my humble opinion, the very first quality that a man should look out for in a woman is her 'willingness' to remain married. Some women don't see marriage as a big deal, hence they won't even put in any work to make it work. You'll know them from the way they sound; 'Marriage is not an achievement'. 'It is better to be single and have peace of mind than to be married and troubled'. 'Most married people are suffering, even I that I'm single, I'm better than most of them'. If you ever hear a lady say something like this, please run for your life.

Another factor to look out for in a lady is her 'Family background'. Family plays a very important role in marriage (especially at the initial stage). If the woman that you want to marry is from a broken home, please run away. There's every tendency that she too will end up as a divorcee. If she's from a family where the mum calls the shot (even when the dad is alive), bros, run away. Why did I say this? The initial stage of marriage is mostly filled with quarrels and fightings, it will take God's grace, determination and family intervention to help calm the storm.

I don't know if this one counts, it's friendship. I and my wife are like best of friends. She doesn't really have any close friend or confidante apart from me. We don't keep secrets from each other (although I hide some of my skeletons sha). We gist like normal friends and relate as such. This has helped to forge a strong bond between us.

In conclusion, just marry a good lady and do your best to help her remain 'good' if you can't make her become better (just like in my own case)

Amayabor1:


Go seek help. Ozuor. Saying it as if it is an achievement. Nonsense attitude!

I wanted to ghost your comment but I say make I just reply.


Dude next time when you make a suggestion, make it in clear terms, what is go and get help.


From where? Who? How?


No be to dey shalaye carelessly, if you don't have what to say, skip am.

Badadvisor:

I'm battling with this exact same shit brother.
It has caused several failed relationships.
I don't know what to do but i know it's not right.
They always leave after trying to change it with my approval and we work towards it together but it always end with us parting ways 🥲

Bro this is what I tell all my girls before we get too serious, I'll tell them I like to shut off sometimes and it doesn't mean they've wronged me, so if they can cope fine or else make them move.


Most of them take it as joke and promise to change me, las las they either adapt or free me.



Just one gurl has managed to understand me, she calls me everyday but I pick at most, 3 times a week and she doesn't care one bit, and she remains my number one for that purpose

Benki003:


Bro this is me right here 🥺🥺 I thought it was only me that have this situation am happy to see am not alone

Oga we no too plenty like that cause our situation choke.


It's not about ghosting but maintaining a relationship despite all the ghosting

Flesh10:
6yrs relationship with my fiancee I can't seem to find any fault with her. I have searched and searched yet that babe is just too perfect in every area. I asked her about my flaws too and where I need to improve she also cannot spot.

We are a perfect match, 6yrs and chasing 7yrs no drama, no fight, no quarrel just both of us loving , making sacrifices and managing our little.

Lol... U people should keep lying to urselves. Una dey do una selves not me ..

Dotty lovers

SirMichael1:


This is exactly my problem too. Once I'm stressed or have something worrying my mind that I need to find solutions to, I ghost everything. I simply withdraw from anything emotional and just want to find solutions to the problem.

When I do this, my ex always feels very sad that I can't tell her what my problems are and how we could fix it together. Honestly, I wish I could tell her but I can't. I just want to be on my own and fix it.

I read somewhere that it's your brain's coping mechanism and somewhat reflection of how your childhood was. Something like people like this were often alone and most times, try to find solutions to things themselves and they grew up with that.

Bros you don talk am finish, I wish I can share my problems with my partners but then it's not like they'll solve it, highest na to encourage you.


But then shutting down everyone and facing your goal is bae, I've always had friends since childhood but nothing pleases me more than tackling my problems head on



There are disadvantage to this shit though, like not being able to run to anyone for help cause na you everybody dey look up to, it can be frustrating some times.


Yesterday my guy baby mama called and was ranting on how I rarely call her anymore, this is someone that I've spent more money on Than even her dead beat baby Daddy, me wey I no even get one child


I don tire to dey carry everybody problem for head, I need to breathe

stanliwise:

I so much relate with this. Anytime anything stress me na to ghost everybody and sort the stress out. Every of my babe don tire for me. Even me sef don tire for my sef lolx. Na God go help me make my wife be so understanding.

Funny thing is when I get back, I go wan start to relate like say we don dey talk since

Funny thing is that, I barely know when people ghost me, I literally don't care, I've lots of things happen, so I no send cause I'm certainly ghosting them too.


Funny thing is that, I make tons of calls everyday but I hardly call my friends or loved ones, not cause I don't care but because I know they're there for me, na paper chase sure pass. BTW they're still my biggest benefactors.

ravensckar:
Bros, when it comes to marriage, nobody be wise man o. Marriage wey dey humble even a marriage counsellor.

In my humble opinion, the very first quality that a man should look out for in a woman is her 'willingness' to remain married. Some women don't see marriage as a big deal, hence they won't even put in any work to make it work. You'll know them from the way they sound; 'Marriage is not an achievement'. 'It is better to be single and have peace of mind than to be married and troubled'. 'Most married people are suffering, even I that I'm single, I'm better than most of them'. If you ever hear a lady say something like this, please run for your life.

Another factor to look out for in a lady is her 'Family background'. Family plays a very important role in marriage (especially at the initial stage). If the woman that you want to marry is from a broken home, please run away. There's every tendency that she too will end up as a divorcee. If she's from a family where the mum calls the shot (even when the dad is alive), bros, run away. Why did I say this? The initial stage of marriage is mostly filled with quarrels and fightings, it will take God's grace, determination and family intervention to help calm the storm.

I don't know if this one counts, it's friendship. I and my wife are like best of friends. She doesn't really have any close friend or confidante apart from me. We don't keep secrets from each other (although I hide some of my skeletons sha). We gist like normal friends and relate as such. This has helped to forge a strong bond between us.

In conclusion, just marry a good lady and do your best to help her remain 'good' if you can't make her become better (just like in my own case)

Thanks chief.
Your first point REALLY makes a strong impression in me.
Now, how do you handle/tame your wife when ever she's in her unreasonable or stubborn mode?

meobizy:
I will be back when I settle on someone for a partner.

Come let's make this thing happen, na, no time.

Make our good story follow flood NL

NSK4U:
Filled with sxual fantasies. Porn addiction, gets aroused even at sight of my undies; often aims for it at any opportunity, want to s^ck me empty every minute. I think her libid jus too high and it scares

She's not changed yet buh I hope she does soonest

Omoh, E don Set for You ooo
Na mental trauma from Childhood dey cause am like that!

Therock5555:
My major problem is how I ghost my partners for no reason, I could be all mushy and squishy with you today and for the next one week, I won't take your calls.

I do it when I need to expend my energy on a certain problem, all my girls have tried to change me, the more I ghost them.


So we've all come to a compromise, if I ghost them, they wait patiently until I find them again, I fit forget babe for months before reaching out, and I'll act like we have been seeing ourselves since yesterday.


Na only God go help my wife if I marry oh

Same Here .... It feels Bad to Them especially When I begin on Higher Energies Only to Just goes So Cold 🥶 like Una Never talk before .... !

Once I'm Committed to Mental Draining Hustles(E.g Professional Exams), I'm Out of Fun Except Online ... even if my phone ring e dey vex Me .... I just switched to browsing Sim only .... I only want to hear my voice nothing else!

Any Other Voice go be like dem dey pinch me with Pins ...

I change for good easily though Once I'm Done, I will simply pick from where I stopped & Make it all Up for the Lost Time ... Nothing is gonna be Missed na to Pysche-Everything !

Flesh10:
6yrs relationship with my fiancee I can't seem to find any fault with her. I have searched and searched yet that babe is just too perfect in every area. I asked her about my flaws too and where I need to improve she also cannot spot.

We are a perfect match, 6yrs and chasing 7yrs no drama, no fight, no quarrel just both of us loving , making sacrifices and managing our little.

Marriage is another game entirely, Shaaa be ready to ManUp !

Goalminded1:

You better runnnnnnnn.
You'll regret it if you marry her.
No matter what you tell yourself to be able to cope with her, she won't change. She can only pretend to.
She's a nympho.
Dump her once you've satisfied your dating craving. That's if you won't be addicted to her by then. But marrying her should not be on the menu.
My 2 cents, though. You don't have to take my advice.

So this is your solution to the problem .... You Only added to the problem!

Tell him how he can reverse her menance!

SirMichael1:


This is exactly my problem too. Once I'm stressed or have something worrying my mind that I need to find solutions to, I ghost everything. I simply withdraw from anything emotional and just want to find solutions to the problem.

When I do this, my ex always feels very sad that I can't tell her what my problems are and how we could fix it together. Honestly, I wish I could tell her but I can't. I just want to be on my own and fix it.

I read somewhere that it's your brain's coping mechanism and somewhat reflection of how your childhood was. Something like people like this were often alone and most times, try to find solutions to things themselves and they grew up with that.

This is True For Me too .... Any other voice other than Mine is like a Noise to My Reverie ... I will just Ghost You ...

Just Me, Internet & God ... Kaiiiii, Solutions go Pass The Problems self everywhere go sweet like Ofe-Akwu

DonroxyII:
So this is your solution to the problem .... You Only added to the problem!

Tell him how he can reverse her menance!

No reversal of her menace. No solution, other than for him to run from her.
The truth will be a bitter pill for him and anyone else to sallow, but it will eventually be to his own benefit. He'll see.✌️

lovediehatelive:
They say,

'a leopard cannot change it's spots.'

But is it fair? I mean, we are talking about humans here not animals.

I know people hardly change, but saying everyone doesn't change is a big generalization and stereotypical.

To every rule, there's always an exception.

Now, before I get carried away and digress, let's stick to the topic.

What bad habit or character did your partner later stop?

For the ladies, did your guy stopped

gambling?
Womanizing?
Alcohol?
Smoking?



For guys, which one did she change, is it
Dirtiness?
Disrespect?
Chronic lying?
Ungratefulness?


Share your experiences, I believe there's a lot of good news out there, to bring back positive approach towards relationships!

ladies change for the worst not just worse believing in feminist factor as a way of not being controlled by men

DonroxyII:
Marriage is another game entirely, Shaaa be ready to ManUp !

No problem, I am mentally ready for that

MySolace:

Lol... U people should keep lying to urselves. Una dey do una selves not me ..

Dotty lovers

Your problem

Flesh10:


No problem, I am mentally ready for that

God's Speed Bro, Amen !

Goalminded1:

No reversal of her menace. No solution, other than for him to run from her.
The truth will be a bitter pill for him and anyone else to sallow, but it will eventually be to his own benefit. He'll see.✌️

You ain't Peaceful But Chaotic !

There is Nothing Irreversible Especially Since It's a Psychological Issues Not a Neurological Issues ....

She is just oversecreting Sexual Hormones Due to Some Exposures Which She lost Controls About ..

Because a Mad Man Can Not Heal a Mad Woman Only A Sane Man Could put her in Order with Alternating Phenomenon On a Gradual Processes to Block the Sexual Gamma Consuming Her ...While an Ignorant Man Would Run Because Madness is a Communicable Diseases!

It's Iike You are Acting in Opposite Direction in order to Alter Her Normal(Abnormal) Chemical Flows, It Takes Conscientious Efforts & Resiliences But Once Adaptations Kicks In for Her ... She will become normal without even understanding how you did it or how it happened..... All It Takes is Managements & Exhausting Her Sexual Wierdness During Sexual Sessions till She become Reversed!

Many people Especially Women are Suffering from Psychological disorder due to the Toxicity Abounded in Our Terrains...

Even if you no wan Mad Normally, Situations Go Make You Mad & If You Indulge in Sh.its to Keep Yourself Up, So pe Otilor! ...

Many Madmen Could Not Heal Many Madwomen na Ihm Make Our Societies Mad & Next Generations Madder !

How do you handle/tame your wife when ever she's in her unreasonable or stubborn mode?

Oga Ravensckar, thanks for your response yesterday, but you neva answer this my follow-up question oh.
Na learn I dey learn

JohnnA1:

Oga Ravensckar, thanks for your response yesterday, but you neva answer this my follow-up question oh.
Na learn I dey learn

Bros, good afternoon to you. Na the one wey the 'Spirit' permit me to answer I write so o.

I don't want to be forming marriage counsellor for public forum make village people no come reason my matter.

You can send me a dm make we reason like men. Drinks will be on you though.

Hm

DonroxyII:
Omoh, E don Set for You ooo
Na mental trauma from Childhood dey cause am like that!

Well na she sabi, me jus dey observe am jeje. She too geh plenty drama