I'm a young man and still living with my parents and sisters. I earn some good amount of money and I'm doing okay for myself, I try as much as I can to help my family out with food stuff for example I've helped with 100k for food stuff from now till December and did a little things too like support my mom and help my dad but I'm very unhappy with my sisters and mom.


My sisters always verbally abuse me by insulting me when I don't do something for them and try to make feel guilty for not giving them what they ask for, when I try to set boundaries like what I don't like they tell me to shut up that I'm the junior that I'm talking rubbish

Just this Morning while I was still getting up with sleep in my eyes and praying they started banging my door that light meter has finished and I should come and pay but I was confused so I just didn't respond till I finished praying and came out. Before I did she was already shouting that they should leave me since I don't want to answer and she'll put #200 naira own if that what I want.

She injured her leg from the door while she was going out side to do it and now she's blaming me that I'm the reason why it happened to her, saying I'm still her junior and I don't have sense that why would I not answer her. I'm shocked and I told her how I'm I the problem and I just literally woke up, I just told them that I hate them and now she's insulting me more

I don't respond but I'm getting very angry at this and I'm looking for a way to leave the house and relocate, they are my older sisters and they don't even work or do anything but I don't say it to their faces but I don't see why they don't give me mutual respect at all

move out

HelpfulBro:
I'm a young man and still living with my parents and sisters. I earn some good amount of money and I'm doing okay for myself, I try as much as I can to help my family out with food stuff for example I've helped with 100k for food stuff from now till December and did a little things too like support my mom and help my dad but I'm very unhappy with my sisters and mom.


My sisters always verbally abuse me by insulting me when I don't do something for them and try to make feel guilty for not giving them what they ask for, when I try to set boundaries like what I don't like they tell me to shut up that I'm the junior that I'm talking rubbish

Just this Morning while I was still getting up with sleep in my eyes and praying they started banging my door that light meter has finished and I should come and pay but I was confused so I just didn't respond till I finished praying and came out. Before I did she was already shouting that they should leave me since I don't want to answer and she'll put #200 naira own if that what I want.

She injured her leg from the door while she was going out side to do it and now she's blaming me that I'm the reason why it happened to her, saying I'm still her junior and I don't have sense that why would I not answer her. I'm shocked and I told her how I'm I the problem and I just literally woke up, I just told them that I hate them and now she's insulting me more

I don't respond but I'm getting very angry at this and I'm looking for a way to leave the house and relocate, they are my older sisters and they don't even work or do anything but I don't say it to their faces but I don't see why they don't give me mutual respect at all

If you have sense, you will move out to a small apartment- single room, so nobody comes to encroach. Just send a certain amount monthly to your parents and lock up no matter the sob stories from anybody

You are too weak bro
Tell ur sis say if na madness mak she stop am mak this be the first and last time mak dem go try such because you too get responsibility and things mak u Dey reason
Bro dem go calm down

I don`t have your sisters` side of the story but verbal abuse is a no no.

If I were you, I would tell them that from now on and for all times, you would only consider polite requests, consider, not necessarily answer in the affirmative.

Lance008:
You are too weak bro
Tell ur sis say if na madness mak she stop am mak this be the first and last time mak dem go try such because you too get responsibility and things mak u Dey reason
Bro dem go calm down

Na bro u just added more gas to fire be dat ooo

Joecross888:


Na bro u just added more gas to fire be dat ooo

Maybe
Sometimes dem need to see ur other side
But bro take things easy the way you think it is right

Lance008:

Maybe
Sometimes dem need to see ur other side
But bro take things easy the way you think it is right

Anyone, anything that can make a man angry can send him to hell... Never let anyone see Ur anger be calm at all time emotional intelligence

If you feel you're ready and you can sustain yourself financially, find your own place, even if it's a one room apartment.
You will have your peace of mind, and they will come to respect you.

You may be

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https://www.nairaland.com/7905631/myth-january-always-hard

Something related to the above thread, self entitlement mentality from friends and family as if they were there when one was struggling for the money.

People need to be consciously aware of that trait, those are the things that run one's down financially.

Nothing concern me but E dey mind

What separates a Man from a Boy is Maturity. Irrespective of age.

Since you can afford it, I will advice you to rent an apartment and move out. Support them and visit periodically. If your business is not bound to your current location, please consider out of town. Even if your business is there, still get an apartment.

If you cannot leave, then shut up and do as you are asked as the small boy you are who cannot Man up for himself.

Your post already includes the solution to your problem. As long as you can afford your own accommodation, move out of that house!

You can always assist your family financially and otherwise from wherever you live.

Go rent house

It is well....

Hathor5:
I don`t have your sisters` side of the story but verbal abuse is a no no.

If I were you, I would tell them that from now on and for all times, you would only consider polite requests, consider, not necessarily answer in the affirmative.

Consider kini?

If my sib try this, na hot slap e go get..

We respect our seniors.

Don’t leave oo, talk sense to them, are you the only son? Remind them that you have long expected them to be married but you are just enduring and they are not helping. You are the man, don’t let those girls push you out, it is not funny out there, next time get a loud speaker and play music and develop thick skin and don’t let anything they say get to you, if your mum trouble you, remind her that you did not invite her to give birth to you and henceforth tell her that she MUST take care of you or heaven will fall, where their madness start is where yours should start and now is the time.

Go and rent a new place and stay

Yesterday i read about Anthony Joshua who said he still stays with his mom at the 34yrs,does it mean he cant afford an apartment of his own? Why do we always give wrong advise all the time by asking him to leave just cos he has little money? From your statement you said you have assisted your family from Jan till date with approx 100k and i will ask you a simple question, how much do you think will be cost of decent accommodation in your location excluding payment of your bills, medical and feeding?
Let me tell you something, all women are same be it your sister or girlfriend, they all have entitlement mentality or the ideology of trying to prove they are not weak just as the society sees them, if you can tolerate your girlfriend with all her nagging character but you find it offensive when your elder sisters talk to you. Do you think your elder sisters are happy being single or not being able to contribute to the wellbeing of the family? Do you know the emotional stress which day are passing through? Bro your sisters are talking to u in such a way because you guys are one, don't find it offensive rather an act of love. Try and ask yourself if you were to be in there shoes how will you feel?

Take your financial opportunity of assisting the family as a blessing and not as financial burden on you.

And finally never take the words from your mom or your elder sisters personal for it will go along way to help. Women tends to talk or speak out of emotions