LIVINGICONREBOR:
Does even know the meaning of the word "love"? I strongly doubt it. You can't possibly explain what you have never experienced at all.

Eazie351:


I wish I knew early that once distance sets in, your relationship is 70% compromised.

emmaodet:


Now, this statement is 1 reason I don't take anything Love serious anymore.

What kind of Love will restrict my goals?
Most times, what we need to survive and become better in life is not always in our immediate environment.
You will have to go school in another state to better yourself knowledge wise, get a job in another state like Lagos or Abuja or PH or doing biz that will take you away from your immediate environment for days if not months and the so called Love a thing can barely withstand distance.
What kind of rubbish Love is that? Only a gullible will take Love serious.
Most Nigerians japa because sometimes, you just have to leave your immediate environment to get a better life.
I been away from my family since late July just to put food on my table yet a useless Love can barely float while experiencing distance.
Many gfs are been banged by besties in school because bf is working in far away Lagos.
Many messing themselves up in NYSC camp just for a few months distance from someone you claim to Love.
Many guys who japad gfs are been banged here in Nigeria while the guy is hustling 2/3 jobs so as to bring the woman he thinks he Loves.
Bro forget Love and go anywhere in the world to better yourself.
You will never regret it because when you are doing better, you will never be short of women.
We are always scared of losing our gfs during our broke state because we are afraid we won't get a better deal if we lose them. A man will be short of quality options when he is down and so become clingy and also taking bulshits and rubbish from their so called gfs but when you are opportuned to grow, you will look back and laugh at yourself and foolishness for trying to keep your Ex.
All the crying, begging and regular subtle insults you receive all just to make sure the relationship doesn't break. All the efforts you were putting just to make sure the relationship doesn't go south while the other partner doesn't care where it goes.
Adding values to yourself as a man is not to be debated.
It is a Must and non-negotiable else your eyes go see weeeeeeen

emmaodet:


Now, this statement is 1 reason I don't take anything Love serious anymore.

What kind of Love will restrict my goals?, so-called Love a thing cant barely withstand distance?

What kind of rubbish Love is that? Only a gullible will take Love seriously.

Many gfs are been banged by besties in school because bf is working in far away Lagos.

Many mess themselves up in NYSC camp just for a few months distance from someone you claim to Love.

Many guys who japad gfs are been banged here in Nigeria while the guy is hustling 2/3 jobs so as to bring the woman he thinks he Loves.

pansophist:


Exactly for this reason, I wrote earlier that one has to be eligible to love. Most people don't see love in the angle of self-qualification.

A prostitute can't just wake up one day and say she loves Peter Obi, even if it's true, her love is useless. A prostitute can't be the first lady of Nigeria.

Most people think because they declared their love (which is feelings by the way), then they actually love, but when the true test of their love shows up, they fall flat without a fight.

If you love someone, you must be useful to them. You must have the virtues of tolerance, hard work, faithfulness, respect, forgiveness, etc. Because your beloved is imperfect, you have to be easy on them.

You have to apply the golden rule (Mathew 7.12) as the foundation of your relationship. The golden rule which is that you must do unto others, how you want them to do unto you.

You can not just shout that you love someone and think you have no duty towards them, to repair yourself, and make their life better because you love them.

But for some people, because they love you, they become a burden on you. They instantly turn to an orphan and expect VIP treatment, just because they declared by words, not actions that they love you.

She begins to make her beloved feel like he is not leveling up because the other guy she loves actually bought her the latest gadgets. You said you loved him but made him suffer financially to keep up with her ever-changing goalpost of material greed, behavioral disorder, and rotten character.

That is not love, it's parasitism dressed up as love. If anybody loves you in such a way, flee, it's a very useless love, you don't need it.

pansophist:
For men, being emotionally vulnerable is like telling a woman to be sexually reckless. Men protect their emotional integrity the same way women protect their sexual integrity.

The test of a man who loves you is if he can be vulnerable to you. That he can tell you his deeper fears, comfortably, without any single fear he would be punished for it.

Gerrard59:
Looking at the comments, I am glad I got sense early enough in life. I don't believe in love, especially as a man.

All that I love you, oya, talk your own. I no do am

Gerrard59:
Looking at the comments, I am glad I got sense early enough in life. I don't believe in love, especially as a man.

All that I love you, oya, talk your own. I no do am

Haynnie:

Guy change ur siggy we are in tinubu era. Lol