I have a friend who is 28 years old, she lost her parents 7 years ago and have been staying with her Aunty, during those 7 years she has face emotional abuse upon abuse, her Aunty is the type that likes to control, you have to obey her or she will abuse and abuse you and even threatened to drive her out of her house many times.
My friend endured for years, last month, a friend of ours told her about a job opening and want her to come for the job, she went and got the job, mind you the job is in another state and she will start in a week time.
Now this my friend have told her aunty about the job and how she will be going to another state because of the job.
This is now bringing an issue because she and the Aunty are the only ones living in the house, the Aunty 2 children are all in the university and the Aunty is telling her that she shouldn't go for the job, the Aunty start telling her how she is abandoning her that she should wait for her senior child which is in 300 to finish before leaving the house.
I personally told my friend to go for the job and don't reason anything but she has a soft heart and she thinks maybe she should stay until her Aunty senior child finish school.
If you were in her shoes what will you do

Tell her to leave that house ASAP
That aunty is a big time manipulator.
By the time the senior kid finishes up with whatever he/she's up to, this once in a lifetime opportunity would be long gone
And who's to say that she won't come up with some new excuse as to why she shouldn't leave when the kid finally comes back?
It's not as if she's even treating her well in the first place
May God not let us come across people who wants to hold us back for their own selfish reasons

SweetBuns:
Tell her to leave that house ASAP
That aunty is a big time manipulator.
By the time the senior kid finishes up with whatever he/she's up to, this once in a lifetime opportunity would be long gone
And who's to say that she won't come up with some new excuse as to why she shouldn't leave when the kid finally comes back?
It's not as if she's even treating her well in the first place
May God not let us come across people who wants to hold us back for their own selfish reasons

That's what I told her but the said Aunty is always complaining of sickness most of the time and the Aunty is making it seems she is wicked for trying to leave the house

Athena6:

That's what I told her but the said Aunty is always complaining of sickness most of the time and the Aunty is making it seems she is wicked for trying to leave the house

The more reason why she should leave.
If your friend were that important to her in the first place, it'd have shown in her actions right from time
From what you're saying here, that is not the case here
Nobody treats someone who's important and dear to them like that
She knows your friend is softhearted and she's trying to take advantage
I repeat, she should leave that house
She's 28 for God's sake, not 16 or 17

SweetBuns:

The more reason why she should leave.
If your friend were that important to her in the first place, it'd have shown in her actions right from time
From what you're saying here, that is not the case here
Nobody treats someone who's important and dear to them like that
She knows your friend is softhearted and she's trying to take advantage
I repeat, she should leave that house
She's 28 for God's sake, not 16 or 17

Thank you I will try and knock sense into her head

Athena6:
I have a friend who is 28 years old, she lost her parents 7 years ago and have been staying with her Aunty, during those 7 years she has face emotional abuse upon abuse, her Aunty is the type that likes to control, you have to obey her or she will abuse and abuse you and even threatened to drive her out of her house many times.
My friend endured for years, last month, a friend of ours told her about a job opening and want her to come for the job, she went and got the job, mind you the job is in another state and she will start in a week time.
Now this my friend have told her aunty about the job and how she will be going to another state because of the job.
This is now bringing an issue because she and the Aunty are the only ones living in the house, the Aunty 2 children are all in the university and the Aunty is telling her that she shouldn't go for the job, the Aunty start telling her how she is abandoning her that she should wait for her senior child which is in 300 to finish before leaving the house.
I personally told my friend to go for the job and don't reason anything but she has a soft heart and she thinks maybe she should stay until her Aunty senior child finish school.
If you were in her shoes what will you do

she's not ready to progress na ,her aunt's kids are in school why she dey languish for house lol.

you have done your best

Tell that your friend that she'll be the greatest fool on earth if she doesn't disappear from that house. She need to own her life.

There are some human who don't want good thing for someone close to them.

She has already made her choice to stay back, why are you disturbing us like our opinions matter?

If your friend is able to endure with her aunt don't try to convince her to leave. On the other hand, if it's her decision to leave for the job, then she can go. One important factor you must remember when giving advice to people or helping other people decide what to do is that every decision has a consequece. It's your friend alone that understands the depth of her relationship with her aunty and her ability to put up with her. If your friend leaves for the job and things don't turn out to be as she expected, she will be the one to bear it. There's no where in the world that you go without facing challenges, what makes a difference is your ability to sail through without losing heart.

Athena6:


Thank you I will try and knock sense into her head

Use this hammer

No long talk from me abeg, just tell her to go or stay to regret

Never you put your life goals, dreams and ambitions on hold for any man/woman, especially for people who don't value you....

Her aunt is only been selfish...

SweetBuns:
Tell her to leave that house ASAP
That aunty is a big time manipulator.
By the time the senior kid finishes up with whatever he/she's up to, this once in a lifetime opportunity would be long gone
And who's to say that she won't come up with some new excuse as to why she shouldn't leave when the kid finally comes back?
It's not as if she's even treating her well in the first place
May God not let us come across people who wants to hold us back for their own selfish reasons

On point. She should go for the job asap if she love herself.

I feel like slapping your 28 yrs old friend.na dunce