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all these epistle because of woman and men say we no get value

Fryx:
I think you should focus on the men that say you no get value. I am not promoting such believe here.

okay,broken relationship is better than broken marriage.

You have only a life, you don't have a spare

LAMENTATION OF RELETIONSHIP. L.O.R

Fryx:
■ I strongly believe she does not love me. I am used to being loved and I know how a girl treat the man they love.
But she, she only treat me with love once in a while. So it is safe to say she doesn’t love me. She just want to use me, and I will destroy her plans.

OP, are you an eejit or something? You say you don't like the woman yet you continue to allow her feature in your life to the point of you advising her or whatever you claim there. You no get sense or wetin? If you are not compatible then why don't you move on from her and find yourself company with those who are?

Imagine this kain stupid epistle over nothing wey person waste time read so.

Fryx:
■ I think you should focus on the men that say you no get value. I am not promoting such believe here.

You get value for yourself so?

Fryx:
■ Whatever is wrong with you is your p… For your information. My acquaintance are mostly women. And I love them, and they love me too. Learn to read and understand. I am not the cause of your frustration. I don’t have time and prefer being alone is different from “he said he don’t like women” Na men I go like b4?

See more rambling abeg!! Are you alright at all?

What does it matter whether you hang majorly with women? And what does it matter that you are a loner? You don't even seem to realize where the problem that plagues you comes from, do you? You refuse to let the woman go so you can move on, yet you think we are to applaud your stewpidity? Are you kidding me?

Fryx:
■ Read again. I never said I don’t want her to go. I have told her to move on many times because we can’t be compatible, but she will decline and insist I change instead. So, I advise we chose to remain friends (we are originally friends)
So, how is it my fault that she refused to leave me. Or that she will start crying and manipulating her way back into my life if I stop paying attention to her. I am not interested in starting another round of arguments with you, so I will stop responding to you. You don’t even know the full details yet you are assuming.

Please stop!!! You are making this even all the more irritating to read!

What do you mean you want her to go but she does not want to. Are you a kid or what? Nonsense!

Fryx:
■ I believe you read when I said I don’t have time for relationship. If a woman chose to be with me, I don’t pursue them. You get now? Being in a committed relationship is not in my plan, so you will always see me with different women. If a woman stay with me or not. Provided she is not my girl, I don’t mind. They can come and go. I don’t really care. Relationship is not part of my problem. I only care about money, and my future ambitions. But I have qualities that easily attract women to me. You understand now?

You think this extra rambling explains any of the rants in your OP? For crying out loud.... what the fk is wrong with you?

Fryx:
■ Ok. I get why you are feeling this way now. But guess what, this world is soooo multi-faceted that anyone that chooses to view everything from their own POV will always end up confused (like you are now) There is a reason we are studying Quantum mechanics in Physics. This world consist of trillions of matter, and each is unique in behavior. Humans are more than 7 Billion, and we are all unique in our thoughts and POV. If you can’t understand the way others view the world, you will find it difficult to see things the way they do. Your problem is - your brain can’t comprehend how I view life, and I understand how that can feel. But dear, that’s just how this life works. Everyone can’t think or see things like you do. And I just happen to be one of such people that’s on the other side of the spectrum.

Young man, you are clueless and have nearly no social intelligence of any kind.

Rambling meaninglessly on and on will not change that fact. I suggest you sit yourself down, read through your OP, and ask yourself why it is that you lie to yourself that you are not interested in that girl yet continue to hang on to her as though you cannot exist without her. Maybe that will get your brain cells chugging in the right direction at least.

Gosh!

Fryx:
■ You are also right that I am socially clueless. Any other observation? And I never said I am not interested in her. It is clear, I like her as a friend. Not for dating. In fact, she is the best thing to ever happen to me, and I love her for that. But not for dating dear, not for dating. And she had the freedom to date someone else, while we continue being friends. At this juncture, I think you are the one to sit and ask yourself if you have comprehension skill at all.

You must be kidding! After all that you wrote in your OP about her? You need to grow up please!

Too long for me to digest and advise you. You said you are not compatible so abort right now. The major bad thing is the diabolical part of her, that's a big red flag there. The rest is average for vaginarians especially the virgins. They are mostly naive and want men to worship their virginity. I like the part that she gives you space and doesn't want you to be talking too much but you no like am. The koko be say una two no go work. Peace of mind is critical in marriage and she won't give you that. You too won't give her peace as well since you talk too much and like to advise all the time like say you be her papa or her senior brother. You also sound like who no dey let go of simple issues. Oga mi, stop talking too much around vaginarians else, they will always disrespect you.

U said u av proof that's she's gone diabolical on u

Fryx:
I’ve learnt that a long while ago. She taught me. Thanks. Your input is valid.

[b]But don’t blame me for acting like a father. I am actually a father because of my lineage. I am expected to care for others. [/b]When a royalty stopped caring, he becomes a villain.

Browse how the late Alaafin and some of his high chiefs talk, you will understand why I have the trait.

I get you brother but the gender we are talking about here hates it when men care so much about them or try to educate them. Reduce the care a bit, give them some freedom, allow them make mistakes and you will see them crawl back to you for advice. When they request the advice by themselves or need the care, you'll have an upper hand at that time. The gender we are dealing with is a confused one so learn to approach tactfully.

Since you don’t want a relationship with her then you have to cut her off and move on. You can’t demand a friendship from someone after you reject their romantic feelings.

If a friendship is possible then you guys can start again in a 6 months to a year’s time. That’s if the other person agrees.

You’re trying to force things to go your way and that won’t happen because you’re dealing with a person’s emotions.

You can’t have your cake and eat it. It’s either you work on your relationship or you break up and go your separate ways because there’s no middle ground once the affairs of the heart is involved.

Fryx:
I know there might not be a solution to my problem. But, I simply want to vent…

I mean, how do women believe what’s impossible can suddenly become possible in the future.

It’s clear from the onset that me and this girl are not compatible. We even had a few fight and stopped talking at the time we barely known each other, but she came back in full force and won’t allow us to break up, even though it’s clear that we are too opposite people that will rarely agree.

There is sooo many things about her that I can’t cope with, despite her goodness.

Her goodness.

She is strict on her decisions and have a vision for her future.

She kept her virginity on purpose. Even though she had every reason not to.

She loved people for who they her. Her relationship is never about money.

She is very caring if she has the time for you.

Her bad…

She is very very very turbulent, which makes her come off as a snub, uncaring.

She can go for days without thinking about you (she said she does, but doesn’t have energy to call or message). But, how hard can it be to just say “Hi”

She will only call you or ask about you if you need help or if she need help.

She will fight you and raise her voice against you if she is not getting what she expected from you.

She can be very disrespectful too. Especially if she feels you hurt her.

Any little reprimand hurts her.


It’s tiring. Very tiring. I usually don’t have time for such stress.

I don preach to her tire. But I had to stopped when she said to me “you talked too much, you are not a woman.”

Even if she is wrong. She will expect you to say sorry. Which will annul the reason I reprimanded her to begin with.

To be fair though, I noticed she always make effort to adapt to my corrections. But, it’s not possible. That’s not who she is and she will gradually drift back.

All these signs are enough to just give up on relationships. I strongly believe we will be good as friends. But, she disagreed, she want me to make her a wife.

She said I should take her as she is.

She will even be teaching me how to treat a woman better. How not to talk to a woman. How not to make a woman angry. Etc.

However, I can’t change. I really can’t change, it is who I am. And I am a loner. I am very comfortable with myself and do not even include marriage in my future plan until I got entangled with her.

I said “entangled” because she has gone diabolical too. And before you said diabolical stuff doesn’t exist, I have proof to believe she is. And she did not hide it from me either.


But. This is just sick. I really wish she can agree to being just friends. She is too emotional, sensitive and turbulent for my liking.

I value efficiency and stability. I really can’t cope with such level of instability. It’s really sick.


Like, we were having a discussion yesterday, to which I left a message. You refused to check my message until just about 30 minutes ago.

And could you believe she only check because she needed something from me?

She couldn’t even issue an apology for replying late. She just responded casually like it’s normal. Very annoying. I found it disrespectful.

And when I told her I will ignore her the next time she message me because she need something from me. She got offended.

Is that too harsh on my part?

She believes a guy should be the one calling and looking up on her. Even if she is wrong, I should understand. I should fvcking understand that level of stupidity.

Is relationship not supposed to be an experience that you enjoy with your partner?

Why should I be needy, while you aren’t because you are a lady. How does that even make sense. How is that a relationship. I even enjoy more quality time with ladies that are more like a friend to me.

Honestly, I don’t think this can work. And I will find a way to collect the stuff she uses diabolically against me. It’s the only thing still keeping us together.


I strongly believe she does not love me. I am used to being loved and I know how a girl treat the man they love.

But she, she only treat me with love once in a while. So it is safe to say she doesn’t love me. She just want to use me, and I will destroy her plans.

You Better Marry Her, This is the kind of girl you really need in your life.
She is the Rainbow 🌈 in your sky
The Honey of your Honeypot
…What else self…

Why did you delete the OP.

She don see the post