I always heard that women were manipulative but I didn’t experience it until I got married.
My wife isn’t a bad person, in fact she’s a wonderful woman but I noticed that she develops this cold attitude towards me anytime I don’t dance to her tune most time

Recently she told me I’ve changed because I refused to go and pray with her and her mom and siblings. I told them I wasn’t interested in their prayers, it was new year eve. I told her I wasn’t going to cross over with her and her siblings , she was very angry.
She claims I’m too stubborn that I don’t listen to her , even when I try to tell her something new about my business , sometimes she will try to kill the idea and want me to do it her own way , so I stopped telling her about my business.

Another instance was when I told her that as a man I needed some time alone with my friends, because anytime I go out , she’s always calling me even when I’m in meetings. I got angry about and we quarreled about the issue . I work from home so I don’t go out a lot . I only go out maybe once throughout the week to either play football , hangout with friends but she’s always calling me , so after the quarrel she became very cold towards me .

There are other instances I can’t mention here where she has tried to label me bad because I didn’t agree to what she wants.

I now see that men who women label as good men are those that listen and act on their every whim but if you are a man who doesn’t like to listen to her and try do your own thing sometimes , you’ll become a bad person.


I Think this is how women are in general

I don't understand you o.. una two nor date ni abi wetin you dey talk sef

Oga, from experience....as long as you provide for the family/house, do your thing your way....believe me, she'd let you be after sometime...

That's the trophy you won. Enjoy your honourable wife

No matter how melodious a woman's tune is. I can never dance to it. First, always be the trouble maker in the house she will chill. The moment you give her that trouble making position. You are finished.

Welcome to the club bro.

You better be prepared for more.

She will soon weaponise not cooking and denying you sex....lol

OP, You seem to be Young in Marriage.

As a Man, you must learn to Master women, whether as Wives or Girlfriends.

They can be Manipulative @times But ALWAYS Play Cool, be Smart and Try to Outfox them.

Nicepoker:
No matter how melodious a woman's tune is. I can never dance to it. First, always be the trouble maker in the house she will chill. The moment you give her that trouble making position. You are finished.

💯

Wearetheugliest:
I don't understand you o.. una two nor date ni abi wetin you dey talk sef

They pretend during dating you will never notice any fowl play until you are married.

Ask a woman to describe a good man, she will describe a simp, a non living thing

The moment you decide to work with your brain and senses when having anything to do with a woman, you become a bad person, a stingy man, a difficult man etc

With what you've mentioned here, I think you're the problem...

funkmrflexx:
I always heard that women were manipulative but I didn’t experience it until I got married.
My wife isn’t a bad person, in fact she’s a wonderful woman but I noticed that she develops this cold attitude towards me anytime I don’t dance to her tune most time

Recently she told me I’ve changed because I refused to go and pray with her and her mom and siblings. I told them I wasn’t interested in their prayers, it was new year eve. I told her I wasn’t going to cross over with her and her siblings , she was very angry.
She claims I’m too stubborn that I don’t listen to her , even when I try to tell her something new about my business , sometimes she will try to kill the idea and want me to do it her own way , so I stopped telling her about my business.

Another instance was when I told her that as a man I needed some time alone with my friends, because anytime I go out , she’s always calling me even when I’m in meetings. I got angry about and we quarreled about the issue . I work from home so I don’t go out a lot . I only go out maybe once throughout the week to either play football , hangout with friends but she’s always calling me , so after the quarrel she became very cold towards me .

There are other instances I can’t mention here where she has tried to label me bad because I didn’t agree to what she wants.

I now see that men who women label as good men are those that listen and act on their every whim but if you are a man who doesn’t like to listen to her and try do your own thing sometimes , you’ll become a bad person.


I Think this is how women are in general

Sir, you have only seen the top layer! More to come! I think women see husbands as puppets to dictate to! Only if you're very wealthy that they're kind of in agreement with you most times! But even that, before you offer help to anyone they feel they should like the person or else they won't agree!
Just be careful along the way sir!

AsomStructures:
With what you've mentioned here, I think you're the problem...

honestly, I don't see any thing wrong with what he stated about his wife. She's just an overtly cautious and protective person. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that tbh.

There are only two freedom for a married man,
Freedom of Sex & freedom to enjoy a smoke/green bottle for those who endulge other than that, a married man is nothing short of a robot.

Trouble Gang Leader! I GREET YOU BROS! Wahala! Wahala! Wahala! Until she no go want your wahala! you go come pet am.

Nicepoker:
No matter how melodious a woman's tune is. I can never dance to it. First, always be the trouble maker in the house she will chill. The moment you give her that trouble making position. You are finished.

AsomStructures:
With what you've mentioned here, I think you're the problem...

How

So much terrible advice here. Sounds like your wife has yet to learn to accept differences in opinion while still letting love reign.

Talk to her about it. "I love you but we do not have to agree about everything "

Use safe words " shall we agree to disagree on this " .
Don't let these marriage endurers spoil your enjoyment marriage.

Well done

Which one be make I join her family cross over ? She should have married her family instead. Some women sha. The Bible say both of you will leave your parents and United. I dislike this kind women. Mcheeewwwwwsss

Wearetheugliest:
I don't understand you o.. una two nor date ni abi wetin you dey talk sef

They hide their real character during courtship

"Recently she told me I’ve changed"

Na you cause am. You started up the relationship by simping for her. Had it been you were strict and assertive from day one, you won't have been experiencing this now.

Any hand you wan use dey fellow woman, use am from the first beginning, once you stop na problem.

Honestly , na who marry Nigerian girl lose.

funkmrflexx:
I always heard that women were manipulative but I didn’t experience it until I got married.
My wife isn’t a bad person, in fact she’s a wonderful woman but I noticed that she develops this cold attitude towards me anytime I don’t dance to her tune most time

Recently she told me I’ve changed because I refused to go and pray with her and her mom and siblings. I told them I wasn’t interested in their prayers, it was new year eve. I told her I wasn’t going to cross over with her and her siblings , she was very angry.
She claims I’m too stubborn that I don’t listen to her , even when I try to tell her something new about my business , sometimes she will try to kill the idea and want me to do it her own way , so I stopped telling her about my business.

Another instance was when I told her that as a man I needed some time alone with my friends, because anytime I go out , she’s always calling me even when I’m in meetings. I got angry about and we quarreled about the issue . I work from home so I don’t go out a lot . I only go out maybe once throughout the week to either play football , hangout with friends but she’s always calling me , so after the quarrel she became very cold towards me .

There are other instances I can’t mention here where she has tried to label me bad because I didn’t agree to what she wants.

I now see that men who women label as good men are those that listen and act on their every whim but if you are a man who doesn’t like to listen to her and try do your own thing sometimes , you’ll become a bad person.


I Think this is how women are in general

It seems that you are newly married? If yes , She's fighting to be in control of you and family , Stand your ground don't give in to her manipulative ways because if you do , you be miserable in that marriage

Part of your job as a husband is to be a father of the entire house
Assume that fatherhood role and things will get better. It means listening more and explaining more. Like you would do for your child
Hope things get better

Father told me to married a woman who's mother doesn't like me.

I did and am truly happy.

Daughterboard:
Father told me to married a woman who's mother doesn't like me.

I did and am truly happy.

why did he tell u that

@OP The funny part is that the same woman won't ever wish for her male child to be under the control of any woman.. No gree for anybody this 2024.

The one u said u can not mention here is the one she asked u to lick her pussy for her during pre-intimacy that u refused abi I lie ?

This is the reason I broke up with a girl, she wants thing to be done her way and I told her I might be quiet but I'm stubborn as well so we won't work.