Kingrshd3:


Let me tell you d fact u see those marriages that last for 40years and d likes has many of this kind of happening and generous but they won't disclose it ...

Catching ur wife all in the name of cheating sometimes doesn't guarantee sending her out of the house because u will loose ur love and companionship what I see to this is for u to either punish her and also make sure u resolve the issue so such won't happen again..

because your happiness with then will make u live longer on earth but sometimes without ur love ones around you will lead to high BP and indirectly leading to early grave 🤔.


Call her and her family and your family to resolve things because u dont want to loose your happiness ..

My 2cent

Kingrshd3:


May God bless your generation that's what am telling the OP too I never knew u have posted something similar or same as I have done..

Many marriages that lasted 40years has more senecios than this but they won't say it ..

I have a personal experience with my elder brother and till date they are together but it's worst than what this OP is saying

Rinoxy:

It's your elder brother's choice, should never be a yardstick for others.

Afodot0022:
Good day nairalanders, top of the day to you all.

This topic is basically for the divorce men out there that are out of their marriage and living separately from their Ex wife and kids.

Attimes divorce can be a very devastating experience that the pains felt don't go easily especially if you are a responsible man that put in your best effort in the marriage to make things work but eventually went south.

It's even more heartbreaking if you caught your ex wife cheating and having extra marital affairs when you know as a man you don't deserve such betrayal, it could easily break you as a man.

Now my bone of contention is, divorce men out there, how do you deal with the fact that you are obligated to pay child support and care and also foot school fees and medical of the kids that came out of the union despite the family being broken.

How do you cope with this when the custody of the kids are with your ex wife and knowing she was the one that betrayed you in the marriage by cheating on you, will you be comfortable still sending her money for your kids upkeep and also paying their school despite the fact they don't live under your roof.

How do you men deal with this cos attimes, it can be so discouraging knowing fully well what led to the union breakup. Presently am separated from my ex wife on the count of infidelity, my two kids have been with her ever since and attimes anytime I think about the hurt and betrayal, I will want to end any sort of provision for the kids but because am a very responsible man that wants the best for my kids, it's difficult to just look away.

Attimes my thoughts could be like in as much the kids are staying with her, I am on the loosing side and my effort providing for the kids outside my jurisdiction might look like a wasted efforts being that the kids are with her 247 and she can easily still the glory by making the kids believe she is the one doing the provision.

Pls divorce and separated men, how do you go through this turmoil and ways to navigate through to be sure you are on the right track.

ogawisdom:


Remarry and move on is the only solution otherwise you have lost totally.

Start a new family, marriage was designed to favour women alot. The children will always love their mother much more above their father even under normal circumstances not to talk of divorced situation.

Women are just necessary evil.

Whatever you do plan well for your old age to ensure you have investments.

pocohantas:
When we tell you to fight for your marriages, you won't listen. A man that is not ready to endure has no business getting married. Go learn from your fathers how to endure. That is why marriages of old lasted.

PrinceofSarcasm:

How can Nairaland give anyone PTSD? That right there is a sign of some deeper underlying issues.
If total strangers on a forum can give you PTSD.