I will like to tell my story about how I was a Surrogate mother in nigeria (benin) in the year 2020 My beautiful princess was almost 3year old when I came across an article about surrogacy,I was interested in it and made research about IVF and realized what couples go through emotional, physically, mentally and especially financially to get a child. I met an agent here on nairaland, advertising it agency,I chatted the number,that how I met Wisdom (not real name). Wisdom ask me if I knew what surrogacy was all about,I proudly said yes.(foolish me) that was how I was introduced to pastor mrs A( not real name) and her husband. I spoke with Dr A on phone she sounded nice,and gave me her whatsapp number,we chatted and I was asked to come down to Benin City,Dr A asked if my family knew what I was about to get into and I told her my mom and siblings knows about it but not my dad.i was sent 15k for transportation from lagos to Benin.

I arrived Benin,and was able to find my way to the address I was given.i was welcomed by favour (real name) such a beautiful soul.i was given food and a room to stay and wait for the doctor. Dr A came with her husband who is also a doctor and pastor.i was asked some questions about surrogacy and i also ask if it was IVF,she said yes that is what she and her term do, only IVF. My blood work was done,and Dr A asked me to prepare for my transvaginal scan.i was given folic acid and another drug( which I later found out to be clomid). my transvaginal scan came out okay and she she said my transfer was in two days time.i asked her that I was not on drugs how was my transfer in two days, she said the drug I took was for my uterus lining to get prepared for the transfer(the clomid) I believed her because I googled and google says when your uterus lining is okay for transfer the embryo will be transferred. The day of transfer,she asked me to clean up and prepare.i was taken to one of her ward( she has her clinic but it was not yet ready for opening) I asked her where is her team and if she is the only one doing it,she said that it doesn't take time,she brought out a straw like thing( I don't know the name) filled with thick substance in it( washed sperm) I was asked to lie there for an hour after it was inserted into me. my so called transfer was successful and I was pregnant 2weeks after.Dr A was very happy and I asked if there was a contract form to sign,she said yes that it was upstairs,that her daughter will get it( I never saw or sign the form) my sister was preparing for her introduction,so I had to leave benin for lagos. I told my doctor and she asked me to wait so my IP will book flights for my travel that I can't travel with IVF baby on the road because of risk of miscarriage. I left benin at 7weeks by Air and returned at 4month to Benin.

I came back to benin so I could start the medication and antenatal since I was on none apart from the ones I brought with my money. 2days after my arrival Dr A asked I should go for scan that the IP want to know the gender.i went and it was a girl,she said okay and asked me to register at Edo state specialist hospital for antenatal. Dr A asked me to be her secretary at her newly opened clinic, which I happy agreed during the period Favour was sent out of the house. Dr A asked me to please help her in washing some dirty clothes,I agreed and was shocked when 3 laundry basket was brought down. since I said yes already I washed them ( a big mistake and that how I took over favour's job with no pay) I became Dr A secretary and I found out that she collect 7.5millions from IP for IVF and Surrogate mother fee and do IUI on Surrogate without their consent( the Surrogate). I was almost 7month pregnant when I found out. she was looking for a Surrogate because she had a new client who stay in UK. she got one by helen ( not real name) she told helen that she pays 1.millon.i realized that she pays on how smart you are. I monitored helen procedure to be sure of my findings and I was 100percent right it was IUI,I ask her again if it IUI she does and she got very angry and asked me to stop asking her foolish questions.. helen procedure failed and she told helen that it was her fault, but she was asked to come back. When I was 38weeks she told me to prepare my things that I was to be induced for labour that night.

i delivered safely and left Benin,it took Dr A 2 months to pay me complete after I threaten to involve her church. I called Wisdom ( the agent on nairaland) that why didn't he let me know it was IUI not IVF,he said that why he stopped working with her when he found out and his Surrogate were complaining bitterly about how she treated them. Dr A called me in the year 2021 that she needs a Surrogate mother by February the next year if I was interested,I told her no that I'm in culinary school now so I'm not interested. The year 2022 a good friend of mine Chi ( real name) told me that she wanted to be a surrogate mother and I should go with her to the clinic because she she was scared. So, Chi and I went to OLIVE branch fertility clinic (real name) and that how we met Dr Emeka( real name) she was placed on drugs,I saw the couples she was working with because there wanted to create a relationship with their carrier,the couples were very happy when she was fit to be their carrier. Chi IVF was a success and she delivered twins. After seeing the drugs and how long it too I knew Dr A scam me big time I met a beautiful, caring and hardworking doctor Dr Ivy (real name) of OASIS fertility clinic at lekki.the first time I met Dr Ivy I knew I will work with her.i love the way her staff treat and respect their Surrogate unlike my first time where I was treated like nothing. I was given injection that needs to be taken very cold and drugs that I must take timely.my blood work and scan was good. I always go for scan to check my uterus lining,few days to my embryo transfer the couples had an issue and their procedure had to be stop, but dr Ivy asked me if she can transfer me to another clinic since she doesn't want to waste my time I was transferred to another clinic but the embryo failed. I told dr Ivy about it and she asked me to give myself some time before I start again,I asked if 6months was okay and she said yes on my way home I called Dr A that I was now interested in her offer and if she still do her ivf and she said yes that when I see my period I should come on the second day I told her that I was going to document this Surrogacy and she said yes( her mistake)I was going under cover now

On march 2 2024,I chatted Dr A that I was interested and said I should come on the second day of my period, which I said okay too March 15th I got my period and packed my bag for two weeks stay,on the 16th I got to iyare by pass 8am and did video call with her to send tfare( because she won't refund me) she asked how much is it,I told her non AC 11500 when AC bus is 12500 she sent 11k to my opay.i told AC bus to benin I got to benin by 5:02 on Saturday and a kindhearted man directed me to 5junction opposite kada house,I called and ask her for direction to her house because I can't remember the way,she I should wait that she is at her cousin wedding and can't leave yet. I saw some taxi men (it called drop in Benin) and ask them if they can get me to siluko road and I was charged 4000,I called Dr A to know if anyone was home so she can send me address but she asked me to wait,my phone was 1 percent so I told her was at kada house besides the mouka foam depot that a woman is selling food there. One of the taxi men ask if I was going and I told that the person will come pick me up,I sat with the woman selling food,but she left by pass 6,I had to sit with the taxi men till 7: 15pm when she came to pick me up. I was given a room and dinner after we talked for more than 2hours.i told her I was going to document my experience doing Surrogacy again and she said I should advertise her clinic so celebrities will do IVF with her. I couldn't sleep because mosquito finished my life. On Sunday morning I was asked to follow them to church, which I refused immediately, I was ask why and I told them I can't go to a church that preaches A and practice B. She quietly left me. after Sunday service a new Surrogate mother came with her two kids.i met one pregnant Surrogate,5surrogate that their procedure failed and 3new Surrogate( including me) I was told there are two more pregnant Surrogate. I ask how their embryo transfer was like and they all have the same complaint that the embryo was leaking out of them and if they tell the Dr she said it normal. I was ask if my was the same and I say no.i noticed that non of them was on drugs before the procedure unless you have infection which she charges the Surrogate 250k out of her bulk Money at delivery. I learnt that she uses a police woman ( I wish I know her name because I have not seen her) to threaten the Surrogates that nobody must know what there are doing, that Surrogacy is not legal in nigeria yet that she is helping them. I called my mom and explain what was going on, that I was right all along,she asked me to pray for a sign from God. on Monday the 18th of March,God gave me a big sign,I met the new secretary that over my job, after we got to know each other and few conversation she was shocked that my family knew and why I came back,as we're talking a woman knocked the gate, she taught that it was nepa. we asked the person to push the gate and a woman walked in.

She introduced herself that she was from Edo state
health regulations ( can't remember the full name) that
she saw the dentist poster outside so she wants to know
if it registered and licensed, the secretary said she has no
idea and gave out Dr A phone number. Dr A was called
by the Lady and she saw the IVF poster in front office
there and asked if IVF was done here, the secretary said
yes, when Dr A picked, the lady introduced herself and
asked how many clinics are in the building, she said one
( the dentist) the lady asked if it registered and licensed
she said yes.
The lady said but she is seeing IVF on her business card
that the secretary gave her,and if it registered and
licensed she said No that she is just a consultant that she
don't do IVF or any fertility treatment that she is just a
consultant. she was asked for her degree and she said
PhD but it belongs to the husband, the lady said hers not
the husband she said Bsc in microbiology,the lady said
okay that she is seeing a pregnant woman in the clinic is
she sure and she said yes
The lady ask for the clinic name,the secretary gave her
and it was not found in Edo state list of clinic.the lady
brought out a tab to show the some basic clinic
equipment but she had none only hospital bed. she was
asked how many staff but the secretary lied and said
3and she asked to see them but she was told that there
are per time staff. she asked for their source of power,if
it inverter or generator. the secretary asked her to called
that she don't know
Dr A was called and she asked the lady to wait that she is
coming so there could talk but the lady said she is busy
that she come another day and she left. the other
Surrogate had no idea what was going and ask who she
was and want she wants,I said I don't know.it was not up
to 20minutes that Dr A drove in,the secretary asked to
please leave though the back door and later come in
I went to my room and came out 5minutes later, Dr A ask
if I saw the lady that came looking for her,I said No that I
wanted to charge my phone that why I came to the clinic
only for me to be told that I was leaving the house with
the pregnant Surrogate to Egor to live,I asked why she
said she is helping Us and we want to implicate her,I ask
how, she said I was sure I didn't hear anything I said yes and I was told not to worry

That was how me and the pregnant Surrogate was
moved to Egor within 2hours and the other were asked to
stay in their room. she drove us to benin and warned us
not to let anyone know where we were,I told that not
possible that my family must know,she got angry and
said that why she doesn't use Surrogate from lagos that
the reason she use me the last time was because I was
from the north buy she was shocked when I came
because she was not expecting me to be educated.
we got to the house,there was no light or water on the
house and asked me the pregnant Surrogate with her
secretary to clear the bush in the compound,I told I can't
and drove out with anger. her husband called the
secretary to know if truly we didn't say anything to the
lady that came early in the day and she said we didn't
apart from what she told them
I went to her house the on Wednesday,my phone was off
because of low battery.i wanted to go complain to her
that the house have no water or food how are we
supposed to live there.i thank God for the secretary that
have two spare bed and gave the good one to the
Surrogate and the bad one to me.she sent me 20k after
the complain that she can't spend money on me till I'm
pregnant.i used the money to fill the 6kg the pregnant
Surrogate have,1300 per kg and made egusi and stew
with the remaining money
we went to ogida market to charge our phones 150naira
per one and my power Bank,from we went to her house
along siluko road.she was not hom(her daughter attend
upps and went to uniben for their interhouse sport) I
waited till pass 1pm when she came ,she was angry that
we came to the house ( me and the pregnant Surrogate)
she was scared and restless.i told her I wanted to know if
she is still using me this period or the next that I can't just
sit in Benin .she when I have done my scan on Monday
that will determine when the embryo will be transferred
maybe the next day or day after.i asked two more time
when is the scan she said Friday or Monday at Raytouch
she was just insulting the other pregnant Surrogate and
her younger sister,i went to the back and the other
Surrogate washing her clothes and that of her kids,and
some upstairs sweeping her house.
on Friday ( yesterday) my phone was off so I couldn't call
her for my scan.i went to Egor market to charge my
phone and whatapp her but no reply,I was able to
convince the 19year old to go back home to learn a skill
if she has no money to go back to school.she has never
given birth before, because her sister got pregnant and
Dr A collected the baby and paid her that why she came
too.i was happy that she left today.
I called my mom and explain everything to her,my mom
asked me to report with the evidence I have but seeing
the Surrogate mother ( the pregnant ones) I feel that I
should just keep shut, because there really need the
money.one of the Surrogate gave birth yesterday ( Fri
22) at Edo state specialist hospital though c-section the
child belongs to the lady but dr A brought the child from
her to give to a couple that paid for IVF. I think the
difference between her and baby factory Is she use IVF
as cover story.

should I take my mom advice and report her,the lawyer, police and her husband or keep shut with my evidence go back to lagos and mind my business as my sister said

What I don't understand is that, You knew deep down that the said doctor is a scam but you are still 100 percent ready to give it a short, Why?

You said you have evidence but from your write-up I can't find any evidence that's admissible in a law court.

You will still do what you have in mind, No matter the advice you get here, on that note, I got no advice for you. Thanks for the interesting writeup though

Women una get mind

Hmmm. This is really loud.

First, you need to do a video with all your evidence and keep in an email. Don't share with anyone including your Mum because any leak can put everyone in a big trouble. The evidence needs to kept safe and not shared at this time.

Second,you need to thread softly. People go extra mile when it comes to money. I wouldn't advice you call the police or anyone because they always prepare for the uncertainty. You have done the needful especially the advice to that young lady. Walking away from trouble in a lawless country like ours will be the best advice I can. You can never predict the end.

Finally, as you rightly said, mind your business and go back to Lagos. You can continue to advice ladies through social media on precautions, checks and process before taking the surrogacy step.

Life goes on ma'am.

REPORT HER, SPOIL HER BUSINESS, TARNISH HER IMAGE.
if you don't the cycle will continue and many more innocent women will fall victim just like you

fidelmarshal199:
What I don't understand is that, You knew deep down that the said doctor is a scam but you are still 100 percent ready to give it a short, Why?

Na their way.....

fidelmarshal199:
What I don't understand is that, You knew deep down that the said doctor is a scam but you are still 100 percent ready to give it a short, Why?

You said you have evidence but from your write-up I can't find any evidence that's admissible in a law court.

You will still do what you have in mind, No matter the advice you get here, on that note, I got no advice for you. Thanks for the interesting writeup though

if you read my post I said I wanted to go undercover and be sure about my findings,do you want me to post the pictures of the girls,or the name of the clinic.i dropped landmarks area so people in Benin can verify.or her voice note threaten her Surrogate with the police and lawyers if their family knows about it.
I can't take a risk step because my life is in danger too.or should I post video of her clinic lab or the room she insert the sperm with her phone touch light or the living conditions of the Surrogates.

I'm not there to work as her Surrogate,I said I wants to work with Dr Ivy because she I trust.thanks

Giftedheart16:



if you read my post I said I wanted to go undercover and be sure about my findings,do you want me to post the pictures of the girls,or the name of the clinic.i dropped landmarks area so people in Benin can verify.or her voice note threaten her Surrogate with the police and lawyers if their family knows about it.
I can't take a risk step because my life is in danger too.or should I post video of her clinic lab or the room she insert the sperm with her phone touch light or the living conditions of the Surrogates.

I'm not there to work as her Surrogate,I said I wants to work with Dr Ivy because she I trust.thanks

Whatever evidence you have please back it up on Google drive if you have a Gmail account.

Then leave Benin. Your safety first.

After you're are back safely in Lagos then you can change your number close whatever social media accounts you have then. Then you can share evidence you have with a blog or investigative journalist.
You can also tag Edo ministry of health.
For that regulator to come to he clinic then it means even the authorities are on to Dr A

Don't worry time will come and you will have the opportunity to share your evidence.
Just be patient.

This is very serious,
You need to leave Benin first before you can post anything concerning her clinic.

Besides,you need to report to Edo state ministry of health

But before that, you need to post every evidence on social media like Facebook and Twitter.

By that it will draw the attention of many states and Edo state government will be forced to act.

I'm close to all the places you mentioned.

Hide your evidence s and move out now cos someone that knows them might read this online and inform them.

22o62021:
This is very serious,
You need to leave Benin first before you can post anything concerning her clinic.

Besides,you need to report to Edo state ministry of health

But before that, you need to post every evidence on social media like Facebook and Twitter.

By that it will draw the attention of many states and Edo state government will be forced to act.

I'm close to all the places you mentioned.

Hide your evidence s and move out now cos someone that knows them might read this online and inform them.

thank you
I'm leaving on Monday morning

Following

Things dey happen for this our naija all because of monie.

Your experience is very touching. I am familiar with the locations you have mentioned. I know some women/young girls have been taken advantage of in the name of egg donation, IVF and surrogacy in Edo State, and I really want the perpetrators to be made to face the law. Like others have said, please keep your evidence securely for now and make sure you can leave that place safely before you report it to the government. Even when reporting it, you will have to use mediums like Nairaland and Twitter too so that it is not swept under the carpet by government because Dr A and her husband might have long legs and connections that they can deploy to frustrate you. It’s so difficult to know who can be trusted nowadays but I will keep an eye on your profile and follow for updates so I can share to people I know as well. All the best!

Document as much evidence as you can do safely.
Don't make this people know any of your family/close friend .
Relocate and cut all ties.
Forward the evidences to Gistlover and few blogs(you can pay for).

Social media has its good side ,use it well.
I pray you and every other victim gets Justice.

fidelmarshal199:
What I don't understand is that, You knew deep down that the said doctor is a scam but you are still 100 percent ready to give it a short, Why?

You said you have evidence but from your write-up I can't find any evidence that's admissible in a law court.

You will still do what you have in mind, No matter the advice you get here, on that note, I got no advice for you. Thanks for the interesting writeup though

She doesn't have to post the evidence she has on here. I am sure she met them here on nairalander

southernbelle:
Your experience is very touching. I am familiar with the locations you have mentioned. I know some women/young girls have been taken advantage of in the name of egg donation, IVF and surrogacy in Edo State, and I really want the perpetrators to be made to face the law. Like others have said, please keep your evidence securely for now and make sure you can leave that place safely before you report it to the government. Even when reporting it, you will have to use mediums like Nairaland and Twitter too so that it is not swept under the carpet by government because Dr A and her husband might have long legs and connections that they can deploy to frustrate you. It’s so difficult to know who can be trusted nowadays but I will keep an eye on your profile and follow for updates so I can share to people I know as well. All the best!

Last year, Those people were all over family section looking for young naive ladies for surrogacy and to exploit.

You put this up while still under her roof.

Do u know to what length people like this can go to cover their track..... She can kill you.

Get your things and get out of that place as fast as u can. U are already a threat to her.

Your life is now at risk.

Even if she isn't here, she works with alot of people that might be here.

Those families too will want to protect their child. Get out of that place now and find your way back home.

My little cent.

southernbelle:
Your experience is very touching. I am familiar with the locations you have mentioned. I know some women/young girls have been taken advantage of in the name of egg donation, IVF and surrogacy in Edo State, and I really want the perpetrators to be made to face the law. Like others have said, please keep your evidence securely for now and make sure you can leave that place safely before you report it to the government. Even when reporting it, you will have to use mediums like Nairaland and Twitter too so that it is not swept under the carpet by government because Dr A and her husband might have long legs and connections that they can deploy to frustrate you. It’s so difficult to know who can be trusted nowadays but I will keep an eye on your profile and follow for updates so I can share to people I know as well. All the best!

thank you very much for this

Foodqueen:
You put this up while still under her roof.

Do u know to what length people like this can go to cover their track..... She can kill you.

Get your things and get out of that place as fast as u can. U are already a threat to her.

Your life is now at risk.

Even if she isn't here, she works with alot of people that might be here.

Those families too will want to protect their child. Get out of that place now and find your way back home.

My little cent.

I also don't trust them even though there are both pastors and will likely preach today
I'm going back to lagos tomorrow, thank you

You don't really have any evidence per se. No paper work, no videos. A bunch of hurried voice recordings will not stand in court. It's better to just mind your business for now

thesicilian:
You don't really have any evidence per se. No paper work, no videos. A bunch of hurried voice recordings will not stand in court. It's better to just mind your business for now

I have videos,lots of videos.the voice recording some are more than 30minutes long. thanks

Giftedheart16:


I have videos,lots of videos.the voice recording some are more than 30minutes long. thanks

Then I stand corrected.
If that's the case you should start talking to a lawyer first to get all the necessary insight. But know that this will be a very long process, tiring and expensive.
It's a journey one has to be very clear about before embarking on. Personally, on one hand I'll very much like to see them brought to book, on the other hand I'm asking myself is it really worth my time.

Giftedheart16:


thank you
I'm leaving on Monday morning

Better for you

thesicilian:

Then I stand corrected.
If that's the case you should start talking to a lawyer first to get all the necessary insight. But know that this will be a very long process, tiring and expensive.
It's a journey one has to be very clear about before embarking on. Personally, on one hand I'll very much like to see them brought to book, on the other hand I'm asking myself is it really worth my time.

You're an evil demon and I'm sure your part of this fraud.

Satan the devil the deceiver. The hand of the lord will strangle you wicked animal. Satanic monster. Evil thief. Disgusting, inhuman piece of filth.

You want her to drop the case so that you can continue taking advantage of young girls. Your time is up and your reckoning is near you very sick demon.

OP please stay safe and make sure you leave Benin before exposing all you know. I'll support you financially if need be.

Disgusting monsters like this buffon can not be allowed to keep defrauding and endangering girls in the society.

No go find work , dey there find wetin no be your own