https://www.nairaland.com/8077051/boyfriend-married-another-lady-claims/1#129711189 The people who claim that I am an opportunist, social climber, and lazy are the reason I am writing this post. Am I truly such a sloth? for a student who pursued independent training while in college. For the previous three years, my partner has been employed, but I have never requested financial assistance. I've always thought that a man's duty is to love, take care of, and defend his woman. Not a single time do I feel entitled to her income; I pay my dues and bills

Before you hang me, my intended migrating partner and I truly filed for individual student visas. She was lucky enough to be admitted, but I was turned down. My friend, seeing my efforts, thought I had potential and that we could combine our resources, get married, and relocate; after that, I could follow my own path if I didn't want to live with her. I am paying eighty percent of the total cost of her studies. Could you please explain to me how I'm utilizing women to achieve my goals? Maybe it is wrong for me to obey this quote: 'When life gives you lemons, make lemonade'

My now-ex is a girl that I innately love and admire. We have the best friendship and relationship ever. Even if I go above and beyond to win the family over to my side, her dad still believes that I'm not good enough. I essentially take no short cuts when it comes to improving my financial situation and personal growth. I never wait around to hang out with anyone. Those calling me names should have their heads examined.

It's not my fault that I came out of a polygamous home, but her dad is uncomfortable with me doing so. I accepted his decision since I wasn't prepared to wed a woman without her father's approval, but if she can play her role and make her dad comfortable with me, I love her enough to do anything to be with her. I only need a little respect for myself.

As I write this, I'm prepared to give up on the idea of moving overseas for my sweetie, if only her family would accept me for who I am. I know the other lady will find this difficult, but she is a good friend who will understand. Please be aware that I gave my consent to love and marry her without being aware of her job or her family's wealth; all I did was fall in love with my girl for who she is, not for what she has or her background. Please read both of our stories; if you have any helpful advice, please share it with me.

Guy...u too shalaye....
U nor owe any body any shalaye

Truly you don't know your worth.

Person papa say NO. You said you will put head.

Just ready yourself for future things like
I should have listed to my father

Yugoslavia247:
Truly you don't know your worth.

Person papa say NO. You said you would put head.

Just ready yourself for future things like
I should have listened to my father

Well that is the reason why I back out. If she wanted me, she could have work on her family

This amazed me.

A grown adult doesn't know his left hand side and right hand side. 😂

Jeon:
This amazed me.


A grown adult doesn't know his left hand side and right hand side.
😂

Why would you say that? I decided to leave her but she felt I betrayed her. Hence she created a thread and some unfortunate ones started calling me names.

Danielu001:
Why would you say that? I decided to leave her but she felt I betrayed her. Hence she created a thread and some unfortunate ones started calling me names.

Hmmmm, you can't deceive me.
Bye.

Jeon:


Hmmmm, you can't deceive me.
Bye.

Like who are you? You are funny. I gain or lose nothing lying to you or anyone else. Moreso if your opinion makes you happy so be it.

This your rebuttal get as e be.
1. Were you in the know that your ex also sat for school exams which she didn't pass?
2. If u were, why didn't u tell her of ur own plans to try the same process?
Apparently, you both had plans to travel abroad perhaps that would soften her father's mind or he be resigned to fate. That did not work and then u unilaterally went to contract a "fake marriage" to avail urself an opportunity to japa.
My thoughts are: 1. You had left the girl in your mind way way back because of the issues with her family. You couldn't bear the continuous embarrassment but u kept on stringing her on including "free knacks"
2. If you were that financially buoyant to sponsor 80% of the cost of travelling in your "fake marriage", why ddnt you try it again with your ex? Yet u kept her in the dark.
3. I strongly believe that u supposedly "fake marriage" isnt literally fake. Its just another of your schemes as you surreptitiously wanted to travel abroad to perhaps spite your ex and her family.
Finally, its a selfish world and if u think that your actions would better your life, bros abeg run am. Many men have suffered such fate and you are at such an age where you should know Wats best for you.

Shalom.

Someone offered me $5,000 to come to UK to see him, I asked for his account details and transferred $10,000 then I blocked him.

labake1:
Someone offered me $5,000 to come to UK to see him, I asked for his account details and transferred $10,000 then I blocked him.

And then you woke up to soak gari… the end 🤣🤣🤣

asapeola:
This your rebuttal get as e be.
1. Were you in the know that your ex also sat for school exams which she didn't pass?
2. If u were, why didn't u tell her of ur own plans to try the same process?
Apparently, you both had plans to travel abroad perhaps that would soften her father's mind or he be resigned to fate. That did not work and then u unilaterally went to contract a "fake marriage" to avail urself an opportunity to japa.
My thoughts are: 1. You had left the girl in your mind way way back because of the issues with her family. You couldn't bear the continuous embarrassment but u kept on stringing her on including "free knacks"
2. If you were that financially buoyant to sponsor 80% of the cost of travelling in your "fake marriage", why ddnt you try it again with your ex? Yet u kept her in the dark.
3. I strongly believe that u supposedly "fake marriage" isnt literally fake. Its just another of your schemes as you surreptitiously wanted to travel abroad to perhaps spite your ex and her family.
Finally, its a selfish world and if u think that your actions would better your life, bros abeg run am. Many men have suffered such fate and you are at such an age where you should know Wats best for you.

Shalom.

. 1 Even though I was aware of the exam and its outcome, I continued to fulfil my boyfriend's responsibilities. 2. I attempted to persuade her to pursue her master's degree, but she preferred to pursue a career instead. She was aware of my master's application, but I was unable to bring myself to inform her of my friend's agreement. To be honest, I wasn't sure how she would react to it. 3. She is a witness, and I never take advantage of her in any way. We are inherently in love with one another.

Danielu001:
. 1 Even though I was aware of the exam and its outcome, I continued to fulfil my boyfriend's responsibilities. 2. I attempted to persuade her to pursue her master's degree, but she preferred to pursue a career instead. She was aware of my master's application, but I was unable to bring myself to inform her of my friend's agreement. To be honest, I wasn't sure how she would react to it. 3. She is a witness, and I never take advantage of her in any way. We are inherently in love with one another.

Look you are right.

I am tired of going to school, I want to work and earn money.

What hurt me the most was not even the fact that you married her behind my back, it was how you went about it.

Yes we broke up before you went and married her in your hometown. Then came back to lagos,pretending like nothing ever happened. If I hadn't look through your phone and seen your google search recommendations, I would have been none the wiser, not knowing that I had been relegated to your side chick and a future homewrecker.

Your actions is what has made me lose any sexual attraction to you. Sleeping with married men is a line I pray to never cross. So if I was this girl who you eventually married, is this how you would be behaving? That's the question I am asking myself and my vagina dries up.

Please masturbate and stay faithful to your wife. I won't go and look for her trouble, my issues were with you, not her. I wish you both well.

For now, I would choose celibacy and face my life. May we find what we are both looking for.