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Re: I Lost Him! by kelz88(f): 3:17am On Nov 28, 2011 |
What's the rush? Don't see why he can't wait for you to finish schooling. Why should you bow to his demands? You are still both young to be getting married. Dunno what all this rush/hype is for. This is someone you will have to be married to for better or worse, etc till death do you part, unless you don't mind divorce. Please make sure you actually love this guy and picture him being a great husband and great dad before you make any hasty decision. |
Re: I Lost Him! by Yemmyc(f): 6:55am On Nov 28, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY:i do luv him ,i didn't mention dat coz i hate d fact dat he his feelin so insecure.buh 2 b precise i hate how mch i luv him, he his mo than jst a friend, ain't stallin him. |
Re: I Lost Him! by Exponental(m): 7:52am On Nov 28, 2011 |
Dont make marriage sound like an ailment, disease or crime. Go 4 d marriage, u could av a baby n still further, it depends mainly on ur IQ, let him understand ur points while u try convince abt some conditions will apply. "Dont 4get, education is a continous process" |
Re: I Lost Him! by iyatrustee(f): 12:31pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
kelz88: i have to disagree with ur tots on the bolded. Every lady has her time in the market. there was a time in my early 20's -mid 20's when you had men falling over heels just to toast me. I was dating my hubby then and felt i was too hot for him cos of the other admirers. fast forward to my late 20's and just a few guys looked my way. if becos you think she is still young, there is ample time there you get it all twisted. why do you think guys go for younger girls? the best you can advice her is to wish the guy is understanding enough to postpone having babies with her. Correct me if i am wrong. Yemmyc: marriage takes a lot i agree. but the bulk of the work comes with the arrival of your babies. until then, its just life as usual. Marriage and Education are two continuos institutions so sorry to burst your bubble, you must pursue them together either way. |
Re: I Lost Him! by kpolli(m): 12:33pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
sexkillz: it's sad that i have to agree with sexkillz Truth is, she never told us how old she is and let's not lie, waiting for a degree is no more an excuse. . . . am sure she has married classmates. . . . But they have only be dating for 2yrs n he is already rushing her, well there is a reason y he is being insecure and trying to rush her, which means he myt not be the good guy these NL girls have been telling her to keep a hold of. . . . Don't jump into something u wud regret. . . . best u can do is introduction and if too much money is worrying him then u can move in with him and become his responsibility. . . . I have no problem with them dating for just 2yrs and then getting married, I only have a problem with the fact that she is still a student in a 2yr relationship n he is trying to rush her into marriage. . . . Plus she myt even be a jambite |
Re: I Lost Him! by drnoel: 1:11pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
The story is incomplete ma sister. There are more to the story than what u told us. Like how many other guys u are dating or if he has seen u with any other guys. Giving u an advice will depend on how complete u tell ur story, |
Re: I Lost Him! by BCuZiMBlaCk(m): 1:22pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
Hehehe oya now |
Re: I Lost Him! by Nobody: 3:21pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
Yemmyc: well if you DO love him then: - have you expressed your love to him? i dont mean the occasional "i luv u" sms, i mean SHOWING the guy that you do love him. many are too proud/shy to let their partner know how they truly feel. - have you sat down and expressed your future plans with him. it may be that this guy truly believe that he will loose you if he doesnt wife you right now.it all comes down to communication. how difficult is it to tell someone:"yes but let me finish my education first"? - do you "think" he is the ONE or do you "KNOW" he is the ONE? - shouldnt you have simply said yes? then FIRST become his fiancee for about a year (and see how it works out) then SECOND pick a traditional wedding date about a year from that, and then FINALLY the big wedding about 6 months away. that would give you about 2 and half yr to finish your studies. my point is that: if you REALLY love and want to MARRY this guy then you will find a solution/compromise rather than just giving up. the fact that you are quick to throw the towel says a lot about how you feel about this r/ship. |
Re: I Lost Him! by Talking(m): 3:47pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
Wislet:^^^ D best reply IMO. Keep it up amigo. |
Re: I Lost Him! by Yemmyc(f): 3:56pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
drnoel:oh well ma bro, am 23 2 b precise, ain't datin no oda guy xcept though i've got bunch of admirers, am proud 2 say i dnt cheat on me, it hurts 2 knw fins dont work out d way we planned. |
Re: I Lost Him! by Yemmyc(f): 4:10pm On Nov 28, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY:mr brown jay i grab wat u meant in d above comment, heaven knows i tried all ma possible best 2 show 2 him dat i luv, nd said yes 2 his proposal but dat he shld giv me sum time buh he insisted NOW, it nt dat i made up ma mind already,am simply confused on wat 2 do, fenkz 4 ur contributn so far. |
Re: I Lost Him! by 2sexy(m): 6:57pm On May 19, 2012 |
slimyem: hey!relationships are about compromises.Gbam! Tell her make she hear. I decided to let a girl just for the reason she does not want any relationship any longer even though she knows that I so much loved her. I pleaded for 7 months but d babe say no. I just let her be. Her claims is that she does not want anything to disturb her and that when she is ready, the right person will come for her as if its that easy to find nice guy. I know I am a nice guy and I know how to care for a lady and make her feel like a queen but what this girl does not realise is that my kind her so hard to come by. She says she would pray about it but honestly no need for prayers in this case because even God is not sleeping. |
Re: I Lost Him! by lordkrato(m): 7:54pm On May 19, 2012 |
sexkillz: [size=14pt]Op! Freaking kiss-ass....no hard feelings... |
Re: I Lost Him! by lordkrato(m): 7:55pm On May 19, 2012 |
sexkillz: [size=14pt]Op! Freaking kiss-ass....no hard feelings... |
Re: I Lost Him! by Killz1(m): 8:04pm On May 19, 2012 |
lord krato:None taken. . . Jesus loves you. . . But stop being an Idi[i]o[/i]t! |
Re: I Lost Him! by iyatrustee(f): 8:08pm On May 19, 2012 |
^^^^ u ve finally lost it mehn! which one be jesus loves him again? |
Re: I Lost Him! by Killz1(m): 8:14pm On May 19, 2012 |
iyatrustee: ^^^^ u ve finally lost it mehn! which one be jesus loves him again?I have repented. . . Jesus loves you too. |
Re: I Lost Him! by lordkrato(m): 7:59pm On May 21, 2012 |
iyatrustee: ^^^^ u ve finally lost it mehn! which one be jesus loves him again? Hurts right |
Re: I Lost Him! by pobey(m): 9:37am On Jul 03, 2012 |
sexkillz: [size=14pt]Op! When yemmyc is 35 and a working class big babe,she will get a husband after attending all the marriage seminars and vigils organised by pastors,alfas and imams...if Not she will marry her father or one of her uncles..Because by then she will have been too exposed,exprienced and has tasted so many dicks that she herself will be confused |
Re: I Lost Him! by olaboy1: 11:22am On Jul 03, 2012 |
Yemisi, Yemisi, Yemisi (e me lo ni mo pe e). If you are not feeling this relationship anymore, find another bail out plan and not hide under the umbrella of studying. Iyatrustree, thanks for keeping it so real, am so proud of your truthfulness about your life, you are awesome. Beauty fades and it's the truth. When i visited Nigeria recently, I met a lady i almost gave up my life for admiring and trying everything to get some 9 years ago, but I was shocked to see her looking so drained and ugly and felt a huge sigh of relief for not ending up with her. Relationships will never come balanced, it's either the guy is the one begging for marriage or it's the lady, in your case you are lucky it's the one begging, but enjoy it whilst it last. When a man/woman goes through all the troubles of uni life and finally graduates without a waiting job, with age counting along like an uncontrollable counter, then flashbacks of past potential husbands that they have turned down will set in. My friend's wife was initially refused visa to join him here simply because she failed to use those sweet darling words on the day of her interview to talk about her husband and marriage, I was shocked when i saw the refusal letter with the quote "I are not satisfied that the marriage is subsistence enough, and suspect it's a marriage of convenience as the wife failed to show any emotional attachment". Although they finally won this case on appeal, so Yemmy, i think you have run out of love for this guy. thats my point |
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