What advise shld i giv my friend? She is maried for 6yrs wt 2 children. Has been fatful to her husbnd. Infact he met her virgin. Tho he confesd his dirty past to her nd she forgave. And they lived in peace nd mutual love. Recently she discoverd dat her husb keeps an extramarital affair wt a maried woman. She cald d woman on fone nd chalengd her nd she apologisd nd promisd to desist. Since then the huby dnt even create an avenue to discus or explain anything to her.Since then d huby has been kepn malice wt hr. He locks himslf up in room wen hes bak frm work. Doesnt eat at home. Etc. The lady got furstratd dat she had to repot him to his dad. This made maters worse dat hes raining curses at her fr involvn a third party. They live togeda nd dont talk fr a month now. Wat shld she do fr d sake of her childrn to bring peace bak home. Coz she is determind to keep he home fr d sake of her children

I sympathize with her. It's a tough situation, but I tell you GOD is the GOD of all comfort. "Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God." -2 Cor 1:3-4

Thus, i would humbly suggest that she pray fervently (Phil 4:6-7), first and foremost, praying for her spouse - for a change of heart, which only The Lord JESUS CHRIST can do. Then study the word of GOD. She should continue to try to make peace with her husband, for GOD's sake, for the sake of her marriage (which is not to be ended for any reason - it is until death do you part [Romans 7:1-3]), and for the sake of her children.

"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." - 1 Pet 3:1-2 [conversation = conduct]. She may also influence him positively if she continues to show him unconditional love and respect, though she's been hurt, and show him how much she is hurt by his behavior and how it adversely affects their family.

"With GOD nothing shall be impossible"

Its silly, he cheated . Its left 4 her 2 take him up or die in silence. For God sake, the man cheated on her , does anyone understand that. The man should be the one begging not her. Its her decision if she wants 2 remain with him if he is not repentant or show him the door till he decides 2 repent.

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One thing I want to know is why did she call the woman ? That's not the right thing to do.

A conversation with her husband is more appropriate than calling his mistress, That's just rude.

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I nevery buy the "my husband was a saint and then he married me, he starts cheating stories"

Why did you marry the man knowing darn well he was a cheat ? Deal with him and stop harassin his concubines.

She actualy foned d concubine coz she is d wife of a pastor dat is her hubys friend. Think she had to scare her nd keep her too under some tension.

@poster
the following statement is the reason why this woman has FAILED big time (IMHO):

Pampers:

Coz she is determind to keep he home fr d sake of her children

this statement clearly says that she will accept whatever shiit her husband throws at her and therefore she should have NEVER called that other woman, but instead talk to her husband. why should the husband "create an avenue to discuss" anything when she was quick to act recklessly by challenging that other woman RATHER THAN TALK TO HER HUBBY FIRST?!

if she is not willing to deal with the issue at hand PROPERLY (the other lady is NOT the problem, her husband is), then she should shut up and accept her husband's infidelities or move on with her life.

the only way you CAN advise her is to tell her to go on her knees and beg her husband for forgiveness.

The wimp is just scared that his hands has been caught in the cookie jar and very soon tthings would blow up and the whole world would find out what happened between him and his Pastor's wife, that he has been shining her congo.

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chaircover:

Have I got this right . . . . .The pastors wife is having an affair

Yup!

Hmmm, This are the reason am scared to marry!!!lol,

Exactly.Thanks fr contributns.