hello guys,

pls i need ur advise before a wrong decision is taken.

There is a young man i met on my way home sometimes ago,he stays in anthony while i stay in ojota but we work on the island so he drops me home after close of work everyday. he's been dropping me off now close 2 eight month and now we are used to eachother to be sincere i feel so much 4 him.

he's been asking me out now close to two months and av not given a reasonable response but u can easilly take us for lovers the way we do.two weeks back i introduce him to my friend and she told me that he's a married man which am still finding it difficult to belief cos there's has never been any traces of such.

I went to his house,search 4 possible evidence and even asked him and he denied saying its not true. i know i love this guy and am thinking of having something great with him but now am confused cos am not really sure if he's married or not

should i still date him? or step back which is a very difficult task.

Well He might be married if he did not deny it. Dating a married man will only earn you a greater heartache. it is better you deal with it now. Except you are just interested in having fun no matter whose ox is gored. Then you swim but be sure he is not leaving his wife for you.

Well

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Ask your friend that told u he's married to show u some evidence to prove the guy is married

The fact that he's married could be true. Guys could go extra mile to get what is not theirs, the fact that u already love him too could blind u to somethings, You need to tread softly.

Be wise & ask your friend questions to reveal what she knows.

I know what it feels like to be in love but you need to be more objective now. Take your time and clarify the issue of his being married. Try getting info from his place of work. its your best shot, u need to be very diplomatic about it tho. Getting involved with married guy is no way to go.
Wish you the best

maybe his wife and kids if they gat one is abraod, lol

Ezinwannem!

that is exactly what i dnt know but he still tells me he's not married and i keep wondering atlist there should be traces of that in his house maybe pix or something honestly am confused.

thanks to every one that has contribute but pls i still need more advice.

@ poster,
                u need to be careful,it can be on 2 side.

1.  why cant u ask ur friend, how she got an info about d guy.because, woman are  desperate, she can used dat, as a tricked so dat u will stop d relationship with him or she may be interested in him aswell.
2. it can be 2ru, just make your findings through his place of work,house and his church.

U SHOULD TRY AND GET CLOSER TO HIS BEST FRIEND MAYBE U CAN GET A CLUE AND LET UR FRIEND PROVE HER OBSERVATION (SHE TOO MAY BE JEALOUS) U COS THE GUY MAY ONLY BE INTERESTED IN GETTING IN BETWEEN UR LAPS HIM QUESTIONS ABOUT HIS PAST AND PAY HIM UNSCHEDULE VISITS DONT LET THE COMFORT U GET FROM HIS FREE TRIPS GET INTO UR HEAD

@poster, what are you talking about he told you he is marriad and same time want to go out with you so funny story what exaltly do you want us do for you. you only know the man, pls be straight to your question ok


am out of here till l get the full gist ciaooooooooooooooooooo

Anyway,keeping mum to issue like dis helps no situation.hence the world is full of ups and downs.d man might be doing all dis based on experience of d past.at d other hand he may be a God sent.Ask ur friend to prove herself beyond resonable doubt and move ahead to pray about it.its a life journey God helps uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu.4 counselling u can reach out to me on 08059634428,08069040531

Hmm counselling? Spiritual or Romance ?

Funmeme, i dont understand you o. wehat do you mean by "should you still date him" and "when people see you they think you are lovers." A beg stop deceiving yourself, you are already dating the guy.

He's been dropping you for the last eight month. Se the man be father christmas? He would pass his house at Anthony go to drop you at Ojota, all for nothing? A begi! Again, you are not dating but you go to his house, not only that, you even searched his house for signs to know wether he's married or not.

A beg we no be small boys and girls o. Plenty water don pass under the bridge. the thing now is, make up your mind. Since you said you are in love with him, one, can you be a second wife? If not stay back if you are not convinced that he isnt married. Two, how did your friend know that the man is married? Are you sure she's not planning to make you lose him so that she can take over?

Anyway, you too should do some reasearch on your own> Chikena

@jintujinta

guy u raised a gud questn, who knows if both of them 've been chewing & slaming each other? i beg dont deceive urself jare, d koko here be say wetin u dey go find 4 him house? wot search 4 proof? na u know ur body any way, may Baba God help u ooo,

you're right.

he's been dropping me off now close 2 eight month

hmmmm,the man na fahter chrismas?
And he has been browsing your site too

he's been asking me out now close to two months

you mean he has proposed to you?



@poster,
you are very economical with the truth cos no man in his right fucking brain will be dropping you off like that without sleeping with you for the past eight months considering the distance b/w anthony and ojata
Besides, what happend to your boyfriend since all this while?

@ Poster.

Thread softly. Truth is he is probably telling u lies or maybe hes being truthful
Maybe hes separated or goin through a divorce.
Do u trust him, has he told you any tall tales of recent.
You should know this guy better than we do.
Sometimes the answer is lying there for u to see.

@jintujinta, gyara2,and OZD
y r u guys skeptical? must u date everylady u giv a ride? they might just be frends and notin more,
but b'cos of d closeness they r fallin in lov wit themselves but sha i still seal my mouth, i no not wat to advice

@Poster,
You said the guy has been asking you out for over two months and you havent given any definite response.
If you still doubt his marital status, tell him you can only date someone who will marry you. If he say yes he wants marriage then ask him to take you to his people not for the normal introduction but just to start to know them. The body language you observe in such encounters will confirm his marital status.
Otherwise, email your (the 2 of you) first names + respective ages, and I will reveal all the cloudy details to you within 72 hours.

Its great to follow ones mind and do something crazy

a skeptic mind? the answer is probably know!!!

Just be patient and make proper investigation .

poster, u have been following home for once and hasnt he ever received a call from someone that u can call his wife


jide, that wasnt necessary, the pix

@OP

NEVER HAVE ANYTHING SERIOUS WITH A MAN OR WOMAN WHO HAS NEVER TAKEN YOU TO SEE HIS/HER PARENTS OR SIBLINGS. FORGET THEIR FRIENDS. A GOOD STARTING POINT TO BEGIN YOUR INVESTIGATIONS.

His being married is irrelevant.
He may or may not be lying to you.
Bottom line, you feel something for him.

You can usually tell what the deal is after you have had sex.
At least you will not lose all ways.

Many men who live in the big cities in Nigeria. . .have wives and children in their villages or other parts of Nigeria.

Heeeeey, love is a risk. Take yours!
Play him, before he plays ya!

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