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I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.

So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

He's the same student as much as myself and knows that this will mean extra year for me o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

Host78:
I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.

So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

i dey come make i bath then i go kan answer

na why dem talk say put ur trust on God, man fails.. you self no try you should've borrow the money and keep in safe place from him earlier two weeks ago since he was willing to lend it to you...since you're working try explain things to your boss ...person with money no dey stay.

papiSNEH:
na why dem talk say put ur trust on God, man fails.. you self no try you should've borrow the money and keep in safe place from him earlier two weeks ago since he was willing to lend it to you...since you're working try explain things to your boss ...person with money no dey stay.

it's online work so I can't just get the money from my "boss".

He's into this their crypto stuff. So he told me to wait for him to withdraw the money first which he'll do that Thursday (yesterday)

Unknown to me he has withdrawn it on Wednesday or so.

This na money of over 200k o.

And I needed only 40k.

I'm thinking of going to collect my laptop from him and selling it but how do I get a buyer between my now and Monday?

This kind matter wear skirt!!! Bro you're not entitled, that boy no be your friend. No be everybody dem dey call friend oooo. I select friends like beans. If E dey sure say you go get the money before 16th, then use a loan app, that's the best bet for now

Your peers and familiar faces often don't want to see you better than them. That's human nature. They prefer see finish. Believe people the first time they show you who they are. He not only spent the money, he spent it on something that is not urgent. Put a picture of his clothes against your success, that tells you all you need to know. He's telling you his welfare is more important than you and yours!

If you didn't have an agreement, I would have said you're entitled but let this teach you a lesson, love all but trust few. Watch what people do and not what they say. Don't be too angry with him, man is inherently selfish. Allow him but take your L and move on. He's entitled to spend his money the way he wishes, you're entitled to wise up and sort out your issues for YOUR OWN GOOD. The world doesn't love you.

I asked AI to summarize what 50 Cent said about entitlement. My brother, NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING.

Analysis of the friend's behavior

Disregard for agreement: Your friend's decision to spend the money on clothes shows a blatant lack of respect for the deal you made, your situation, and your future.

False assurance: Giving you repeated assurances and then cutting you off at the last minute is a manipulative tactic that adds to the betrayal you feel.

Prioritizing wants over needs: He chose a want (clothes) over your need (exam fees), despite knowing the high stakes for you. This highlights his selfish mindset and the self-serving nature of his entitlement.

History of taking advantage: The fact that he's still using your laptop reinforces a pattern of behavior where he accepts your help without feeling a need to fully reciprocate or respect your property.

Applying the 50 Cent mindset to your situation
Your situation is an example of the kind of betrayal that 50 Cent talks about when he says success breeds envy and entitlement. While your friend may not be envious of your money, he is envious of your stability and the fact that you were in a position to help. He then feels entitled to that stability without working for it.


Your path forward

Focus on your immediate problem: Your education is the priority. Redirect the emotional energy from his betrayal toward finding a solution to pay your fees by Monday.

Don't expect accountability: Your friend has already demonstrated his character. Do not waste more energy on seeking an apology or demanding he fix the situation.

Embrace self-reliance: This is a hard-earned lesson in self-reliance. Learn to put your trust in your own ability to solve problems, rather than relying on someone who has proven unreliable.

Re-evaluate the friendship: As the search results suggest, a good friend pays people back and honors their commitments. It's time to assess if this person's actions align with your definition of friendship.[/quote]

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OP, I agree with the last recommendation, reevaluate the friendship. Don't keep malice or be angry with him but go back to my last post and read the words on the pictures, believe people when they show you who they are and reevaluate the circle of people you keep around you. Collect your laptop from him because people often act surprised when you give them the same treatment they give to you.

Host78:
I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.

So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

He's the same student as much as myself and knows that this will mean extra year for me o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

Well, I dunno how other people think though. But for me, I cannot hate someone for not giving me what I could not give myself. Irrespective of the story behind them not giving me. This helps my sanity and ensures I don't get emotional when men fails.

Secondly, nobody owes you jack. Even your parents. When you grow with this mentality, you will be more appreciative and less judgemental. It helps your overall well-being and hustling spirit.

Lastly, based on the few points above, the only decision you should make is to stop putting your trust in men. Rather, put your trust in God. For he never fails.

Any decision you make off this predicament is emotional. Rather, if after 3 weeks, you still feel how you do, you can cut him off for you to get peace at heart. Whatever makes you heal. Provided it won't directly or indirectly hurt someone else.

if only you got on your knees and gave him a few jobs, the money could have been yours

All I see in this is na you loose guard.

But You go thank God say you even get something to sell pay your school fee.

Why wait still the eleventh hour B4 paying school fees sef?
Something wey you for pay ASAP as semester start.
Anyway it's good you now know your frienemys.

Problem na wetin they show man things and things.

And you still call him your friend, collect your laptop from him and cut off from him forever. Your choice because one day he'll kill you

Host78:
it's online work so I can't just get the money from my "boss".

He's into this their crypto stuff. So he told me to wait for him to withdraw the money first which he'll do that Thursday (yesterday)

Unknown to me he has withdrawn it on Wednesday or so.

This na money of over 200k o.

And I needed only 40k.

I'm thinking of going to collect my laptop from him and selling it but how do I get a buyer between my now and Monday?

“I'm thinking of going to collect my laptop from him and selling it but how do I get a buyer between my now and Monday?”

Good. As your wicked friend is leading 1 - 0, this must be achieved. Go with your own wickedness, a strong mind and a couple of friends. When you get there, take your laptop and charger. Don’t listen to please on this particular day because if not you will never see your laptop again. Also you can use your laptop as collateral instead of selling it.

Get a loan from online apps since you already have a date to pay back. This would save you from this stress except you have the intention of not paying back. This is a temporary solution for now

@op

Bro, u’re not entitled at all.

U’re hurt because someone u trusted and helped gave u solid assurance, then pulled the rug at the last minute, and left u facing an extra year.

That’s not “friendship”; that’s betrayal.

Cutting him off isn’t wickedness; it’s self-preservation.
• He borrowed ur laptop and still couldn’t keep ₦1 aside for the promise he made.
• He knew the one that turned a simple loan into life-altering damage for u.

Do this:
1 Protect ur peace—collect ur laptop back calmly but firmly.

2 Quietly step away. No long explanation, no fight; just distance.

3 Focus every energy on finding that school-fees money before Monday (crowdfund small, beg family, sell something, anything).
U will survive this.

Real friends don’t gamble with ur future.

U deserve people who keep their word, not excuses wrapped in “sorry.


U’re not wrong for walking away. U’re wise.


This one pain go pass, I promise.

Keep ur head up, king. 🙏❤️

Your friend nor rate you at all

Op sell property and sort yourself out. Collect the laptop and sell, you can always recoup when you get back to your feet. That was how I survived in school. As for the friend, you better keep him at arm's length. Such people with low IQ can do things you least expect. You are not safe around him.

So you wouldn't pay you school fees again?

Next time drop collateral and written note that he can sell it if you don't pay on so so & so date. He clearly don't trust you.

Solution.
~ Write IOU
~ Bank loan
~ Loan shark
~ Sell things
~ Write your school

Endless options...

Many people we call friends actually see us only as associates or someone from their past.

That ridiculous excuse he gave shows he doesn’t trust you. He is no different from someone you occasionally greet while passing. You don’t need to sacrifice for him, and you shouldn’t expect him to sacrifice for you either... If you wants to borrow money from him, treat it like dealing with a stranger and give him solid assurance or collateral.

It's completely understandable to feel gutted and overwhelmed right now. It's not just about the money, but the deep sense of betrayal from someone you trusted and helped, especially with exams and your academic future on the line. That’s a heavy weight to carry.

Right now, take a breath, and think clearly: your immediate focus needs to shift to damage control.

Since Monday is urgent, reach out directly to your school's financial aid or dean's office immediately to explain your situation and ask for a short-term extension or payment plan. Some institutions have emergency protocols for students in exactly this bind.

Then, quickly tap any other trusted friends, family, or even community support networks who might be able to bridge the gap temporarily. This was a profound letdown, but don’t let this person’s failure define your path.

You can still navigate this.

Host78:
I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.

So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

He's the same student as much as myself and knows that this will mean extra year for me o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

just tell him to return your laptop quickly because you need to sell it to raise money

Host78:
I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.

So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

He's the same student as much as myself and knows that this will mean extra year for me o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

Lessons learnt, try your luck elsewhere. You can still be friends but don't give him shishi. Go and collect your laptop, tell him to want to sell it to raise funds for your fees🤷🏿. I kept one friend from five years in my house, told him to park out this year which I had to pressure him after the deadline severally. Baba is beefing me. My electric line had fault, he refused to come fix it despite several calls and ended up not picking my calls. I lost weight and was starving as the economy was biting, I buy foodstuffs while he doesn't, dude was only interested in alcohol and womanizing, chronic one for that matter.

Guy, collect that laptop 📌💯, today please 🙌. , Go to the shop this morning 😎

So op said he needs 40k
I don't know if op has parents or not
But here is another game
40k will be given to op to payback on that day
Op may turn out a scammer
Or give several unconditional excuses
As per say na exam.things
So here is it
We give op the 40k
He collect his laptop from the said friend

Perhaps op is too young to understand who a friend is, meaning he still leaves the laptop with the friend

Host78:
it's online work so I can't just get the money from my "boss".

He's into this their crypto stuff. So he told me to wait for him to withdraw the money first which he'll do that Thursday (yesterday)

Unknown to me he has withdrawn it on Wednesday or so.

This na money of over 200k o.

And I needed only 40k.

I'm thinking of going to collect my laptop from him and selling it but how do I get a buyer between my now and Monday?

The help of a man is useless

pneumaticos:
So op said he needs 40k
I don't know if op has parents or not
But here is another game
40k will be given to op to payback on that day
Op may turn out a scammer
Or give several unconditional excuses
As per say na exam.things
So here is it
We give op the 40k
He collect his laptop from the said friend

Perhaps op is too young to understand who a friend is, meaning he still leaves the laptop with the friend

I'm not a sc*mmer boss.

You can see the screenshot here too.

Also I can give you my ID card with a selfie or video call for verification. It also has my matric number for easy tracing.

Payment no dey delay at all.

I'm going to get the laptop from him this afternoon though.

Problem is selling it. My power bank is on sale on fb at the moment no one to price it yet.

Host78:
I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.

So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

He's the same student as much as myself and knows that this will mean extra year for me o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

you can never know who's truly your friend until you start facing challenges. Keep record of the lessons you learn in hard time

Go with some friends to take back your laptop which you should use as a collateral for your school fees.

Host78:
I'm not a sc*mmer boss.

You can see the screenshot here too.

Also I can give you my ID card with a selfie or video call for verification. It also has my matric number for easy tracing.

Payment no dey delay at all.

I'm going to get the laptop from him this afternoon though.

Problem is selling it. My power bank is on sale on fb at the moment no one to price it yet.

How.much do you need Ans when will you pay back

Host78:
it's online work so I can't just get the money from my "boss".

He's into this their crypto stuff. So he told me to wait for him to withdraw the money first which he'll do that Thursday (yesterday)

Unknown to me he has withdrawn it on Wednesday or so.

This na money of over 200k o.

And I needed only 40k.

I'm thinking of going to collect my laptop from him and selling it but how do I get a buyer between my now and Monday?

Have you ever borrowed money from this guy before?

Did you pay back the loan?

Collect ur laptop sell it and help your life....
No one is coming to save anybody