TroyJay:

Let him use the "Elimination Method". Let him:
~Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it.
~Always suggest eating out. A caring lady will care less about eating out, and would be more concerned about his thriftiness.
~Make up spurious gossips against his very close friends or family members. A st[i]u[/i]pid lady will take his side, instead of trying to calm him down.
~Pretend he is broke. If he has a car, let him park it somewhere and lie that it's been sold.
~Arrange for friends to always harass him over a spurious debt. To be continued. . .

These are things some of my married friends did before they finally chose a wife, and it worked for them. If she's not concerned about your personal affairs when you are contemplating marriage, she probably will not when you finally marry her. When it comes to the issue of choosing a wife, all hands must be on deck else you make a mistake of a lifetime. There are a lot of "ladies" but "wives" are a microscopical few.

May the best lady win!

TroyJay:

^^Firsthand experience from a couple of married ones around me! They were in a similar situation with the OP. Hey, he doesnt need to follow it!

TroyJay:

^^There are roles of a husband, and there are roles of a wife. I see nothing wrong if a woman is tested with the roles of a wife. It would be a shame if any woman tests a man with the roles of a woman, rather that that of a man!

Inked_Nerd:

A woman's "role" or purpose in life isn't to be your personal maid or personal cook. Your the sort that would have the audacity to open your mouth and complain if a woman decided to test a man on his finances. There more to women than just cooking and cleaning and if you choose to limit your thinking to just that then I feel sorry for the woman who may some day become a permanent fixture in your life.

Inked_Nerd:

A woman's "role" or purpose in life is not to be your personal maid or personal cook. Your the sort that would have the audacity to open your mouth and complain if a woman decided to test a man on his finances. There more to women than just cooking and cleaning and if you choose to limit your thinking that just that then I feel sorry for the woman who may some day become a permanent fixture in your life.

TroyJay:

Whoever said women are all about cooking and cleaning? This is someone you are about coming into his life. What makes you different from the other lady? He's at crossroads, confused. He values both women equally. They are not jobless ladies. Cooking and cleaning is part of her roles as a wife, although not restricted to her alone, a wife CANNOT skip that responsibility in all totality. If that is the "only" test that would help him differentiate from the two ladies, then what tha heck? He's NOT basing the test as a prerequisite for finding a wife, for he has found "two" already. . . Just Differentiation!

Inked_Nerd:

I'm replying based on how you worded your response so stop acting as though I just presented you with new information. With that being said, you said "Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it.", "Always suggest eating out. . . " which lead to my comment about cooking and cleaning. You used those lines as though such tests are the only ways to determine if someone can or will make a good wife--these are YOUR words, not mine. Being at a crossroad is no reason to employ lame brain ideas. No woman's duty is too cook and clean. Just because YOU choose to assert these indoctrinated gender roles doesn't make it true. Like I said before, had the script been flipped and a woman came here talking about testing a man financially, you and your likes would be getting up in arms and proclaiming that there is more to a man than his money. Everything which I have mentioned about cooking and cleaning are in relation to the implied comments which YOU made. All I simply did was decipher it. You laid the foundation to this implication, not I.

Let's just say you are missing the point. This aint about gender compartmentalization! This is about using the minute details to differentiate btw 2 women he's finding hard to make a choice from!!

TroyJay:

Let him use the "Elimination Method". Let him:
~Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it.
~Always suggest eating out. A caring lady will care less about eating out, and would be more concerned about his thriftiness.
~Make up spurious gossips against his very close friends or family members. A st[i]u[/i]pid lady will take his side, instead of trying to calm him down.
~Pretend he is broke. If he has a car, let him park it somewhere and lie that it's been sold.
~Arrange for friends to always harass him over a spurious debt. To be continued. . .

These are things some of my married friends did before they finally chose a wife, and it worked for them. If she's not concerned about your personal affairs when you are contemplating marriage, she probably will not when you finally marry her. When it comes to the issue of choosing a wife, all hands must be on deck else you make a mistake of a lifetime. There are a lot of "ladies" but "wives" are a microscopical few.

[b]May the best lady win! :[/b]D

TroyJay:

Let's just say you are missing the point. This aint about gender compartmentalization! This is about using the minute details to differentiate btw 2 women he's finding hard to make a choice from!!

Inked_Nerd:

Biko, tell me how you came up with this lame brain method. A woman cleaning your house, following nonsense gossip, pretending to be broke, will not prove that a woman loves you. It's foolish trickery like that that can lead to mistrust and breakups. How about you go back to the drawing board and come up with a more intelligent manner to solve this guy's friend's dilemma.

Inked_Nerd:


I didn't say that it makes most guys are lame brain--I said that the idea/method is a lame brain one. No problem though, I stay away from African men like that anyway. It's quite sad that that is how some of you value your women. I used to feel sorry for men who'd end up with women who sized them up by using them as ATM's but with such ideas, I can't say that I feel bad for then anymore nor do I think some guys should ever be complaining when such women take them for a ride.

TroyJay:

Let him use the "Elimination Method". Let him:
~Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it.
~Always suggest eating out. A caring lady will care less about eating out, and would be more concerned about his thriftiness.
~Make up spurious gossips against his very close friends or family members. A st[i]u[/i]pid lady will take his side, instead of trying to calm him down.
~Pretend he is broke. If he has a car, let him park it somewhere and lie that it's been sold.
~Arrange for friends to always harass him over a spurious debt. To be continued. . .

These are things some of my married friends did before they finally chose a wife, and it worked for them. If she's not concerned about your personal affairs when you are contemplating marriage, she probably will not when you finally marry her. When it comes to the issue of choosing a wife, all hands must be on deck else you make a mistake of a lifetime. There are a lot of "ladies" but "wives" are a microscopical few.

May the best lady win!

TroyJay:

Let him use the "Elimination Method". Let him:
~Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it. a HONEST/STRONG MINDED woman would tell you that your house is a mess and that the least you could do is clean it up before she comes around.

~Always suggest eating out. A caring lady will care less about eating out, and would be more concerned about his thriftiness.a SMART lady will say OK and take you to inexpensive places to eat.

~Make up spurious gossips against his very close friends or family members. A st[i]u[/i]pid lady will take his side, instead of trying to calm him down. a WISE lady Knows that in such BS matter, the easiest thing to say is:" babe, whatever you decide, i'll be by your side".

~Pretend he is broke. If he has a car, let him park it somewhere and lie that it's been sold. i doubt this will make any difference to her, if she has her own ride.

~Arrange for friends to always harass him over a spurious debt. how is that suddenly any of your GF's problem?!

These are things some of my married friends did before they finally chose a wife, and it worked for them.

If she's not concerned about your personal affairs when you are contemplating marriage, she probably will not when you finally marry her.

When it comes to the issue of choosing a wife, all hands must be on deck else you make a mistake of a lifetime. There are a lot of "ladies" but "wives" are a microscopical few.

TroyJay:

SMH! OP, it's either you choose a practical advice, or you listen to feminists and analysts on this thread. . . All they did was to castigate the post i made but NONE of them gave you the way forward!

MRbrownJAY:

@OP
that friend of yours is NOT ready for marriage, so instead of forcing himself into bondage (which would surely end up in misery and unfaithfulness) why doesnt he face the facts and be real to HIMSELF and his family?
peer pressure from family/society should NEVER be a reason to decide to get married, N E V E R!