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Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?

Firstly, no one can tie you down except you are a slave or kidnapped. It is not by force to go into a relationship neither is it for kids. Relationships that will lead to anything are started by two mutually consenting adults. It takes two to tango. If either is tired or does not believe in it going anywhere, the door is always open to walk away.
A broken relationship is far far berra than a broken marriage.

Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

No they are not! The lady's decision to stick to that man means you believe in him or something come what may.  It is only a dumb ass girl that will not start asking questions about where the relationship is going few months after meeting the guy. If he cannot satisfy you with answers, the answer lies right above.  Let no man manipulate you by crying or threats of suicide if you leave him. While in love, you must always use both your heart and your head.

And btw, there are lots of guys who were not yet "men" that  still married their hearthrobs, women who stayed till the man was made. It's all a matter of perseverance, hope, trust and love. Sure, there are also some ugly stories buh like I said, while in love, you must always use both your heart and your head. and most importantly, always seek God for answers, he knows all.
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4wardever:
Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?

Firstly, no one can tie you down except you are a slave or kidnapped. It is not by force to go into a relationship neither is it for kids. Relationships that will lead to anything are started by two mutually consenting adults. It takes two to tango. If either is tired or does not believe in it going anywhere, the door is always open to walk away.
A broken relationship is far far berra than a broken marriage.

Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

No they are not! The lady's decision to stick to that man means you believe in him or something come what may.  It is only a dumb Bottom girl that will not start asking questions about where the relationship is going few months after meeting the guy. If he cannot satisfy you with answers, the answer lies right above.  Let no man manipulate you by crying or threats of suicide if you leave him. While in love, you must always use both your heart and your head.

And btw, there are lots of guys who were not yet "men" that  still married their hearthrobs, women who stayed till the man was made. It's all a matter of perseverance, hope, trust and love. Sure, there are also some ugly stories buh like I said, while in love, you must always use both your heart and your head. and most importantly, always seek God for answers, he knows all.
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couldn't have said it better. So poster are you married ? Are you in a r/ship? How sure are you that it will end in marriage. Mind you not every r/ship does in marriage.

Why Do Boys Go Into Relationship When They Are Not Ready For Marriage? Because Ko se fi sa ra ku

4wardever:
Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?

Firstly, no one can tie you down except you are a slave or kidnapped. It is not by force to go into a relationship neither is it for kids. Relationships that will lead to anything are started by two mutually consenting adults. It takes two to tango. If either is tired or does not believe in it going anywhere, the door is always open to walk away.
A broken relationship is far far berra than a broken marriage.

Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

No they are not! The lady's decision to stick to that man means you believe in him or something come what may.  It is only a dumb Bottom girl that will not start asking questions about where the relationship is going few months after meeting the guy. If he cannot satisfy you with answers, the answer lies right above.  Let no man manipulate you by crying or threats of suicide if you leave him. While in love, you must always use both your heart and your head.

And btw, there are lots of guys who were not yet "men" that  still married their hearthrobs, women who stayed till the man was made.  It's all a matter of perseverance, hope, trust and love. Sure, there are also some ugly stories buh like I said, while in love, you must always use both your heart and your head. and most importantly, always seek God for answers, he knows all.
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[color=#000030]Well articulated!

Op! The original concept of a relationship is to get to know someone better without strings attached. When you've gotten to know the person, and you both are compatible and tolerant of one another, then the relationship takes a turn for the better. . . Marriage.
I will not necessarily castigate anyone going into a relationship. Why? It's simply because i dont know your motives. If your motive of getting into a relationship with anyone is just for casual fun, casual sex etc, then and only then would i find your reasons for going into a relationship wrong in all it's totality. No one has the right to stir up another's emotions, toy with it, and then leave it in a state of quagmire. That's wholly wrong.
As regards tying the girls down, it depends on the motive of the girl too. If she was led into the relationship, believing that it will blossom into marriage it will be fair to say she was "tied down". If she was well aware, that the relationship was purely on a platonic level, with a possibility of leading to marriage, it's not tying down. Complications arise if one member in the relationship is taken for a ride, or when both members in the relationship FAIL to define the aim of the relationship. Sex, is "supposed" to be between married ones, but since the advent of contraceptives, "safe sex" and all the likes, sex has become a toy. It was naturally supposed to seal a bond between two adults old enough to get married. Adults with a sense of responsibility and acceptability for the consequences of their actions. When you bring sex into a relationship that is yet to blossom into marriage, it gets COMPLICATED of it's own accord!

The girl losing potential and eligible suitors is NOT as a result of blind love, but rather as a result of selfishness of whoever it is, leading her on. You dont blame Love for that. If you are not going to marry her, say so. Dont tell her you love her when you dont, or when by your actions, love is nowhere to be found. Dont tell her you gonna marry her, or give her the impression that you will marry her when in actuality you wont. . . That's selfish. People's emotions are easily stirred up when it comes to love, but blaming love for loss of suitors is a NO! Sometimes, she could also be blamed for that.

When does a boy become a man?  I'm lost there for real. What i know and believe is that if you do not understand the semantics of marriage, if you do not fully understand the responsibilities associated with marriage, if you are not emotionally mature, if you are not financially responsible, pls pls pls, dont speak of marriage. You can be in a relationship, but dont you take it to the next level. It's even better to stay off relationships than start what you rightfully know you can not finish! Individuals differ. Some can handle a relationship, and some can not. Know who you are first before you get committed. A promise is a debt. If you cant pay your debts, dont make promises.

Girls should also be able to define what they want in a relationship before heading in head first. Make your intentions known. If the terms are not acceptable to you, WALK! It's not by force to be in a relationship. It's not by force to have a boyfriend. Those who realize this fact about life are better off than the senseless ones that rush into a relationship, and rush out with broken hearts, worse than when they rushed in. Life is a stage. Dont skip a stage because you think you can, cos actually, YOU CANT! Some of the misfortunes of girls sometimes are of their own making! A boy approaching you for a relationship doesnt mean you should accept it, especially if you aint ready! You are not missing out. Forget the hype. Be focused and set your priorities and then stick to them. No one -male or female-  should go into a relationship without properly defining it. [/color]

Well said

@OP
r/ships are trials before the real deal (aka MARRIAGE), anyone who goes into marriage NOT knowing how to deal with women and their "sometimes" fukced up selves, will only FAIL miserably!
women are a rare breed of creatures, and are completely different than us men. for example, during discussions, we (men) are trying to make sense while women will just try to have the last word (regardless of if it makes ANY sense or not).
another example is how to deal with some of the questions that women ask us men. one of the most famous one is: "babe, does my [b]a[/b]ss look big in this dress?!" lol. it's a question that has broke many marriages in the past SIMPLY because some men made the infamous mistake of being honest in their reply.

so r/ships are necessary to understand what they will probably go through in marriage, and therefore ask themselves if they are REALLY ready for marriage. if you cant pass the test (aka r/ship) then how can you get the diploma (aka marriage)?! lol

MRbrownJAY:
another example is how to deal with some of the questions that women ask us men. one of the most famous one is: "babe, does my arss look big in this dress?!" lol. it's a question that has broke many marriages in the past SIMPLY because some men made the infamous mistake of being honest in their reply.

[color=#000030]That question is a Question i call checkmate! Is my arse big in this dress? If you say "yes" = You are calling her Fat!
If you say "no" = You dont think her arse is sexy. Therefore, you cant answer "yes" or "no". . .#Checkmate! [/color]

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]That question is a Question i call checkmate! Is my arse big in this dress? If you say "yes" = You are calling her Fat!
If you say "no" = You dont think her arse is sexy. Therefore, you cant answer "yes" or "no". . .#Checkmate! [/color]

lol, so what should be the correct answer.

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]That question is a Question i call checkmate! Is my arse big in this dress? If you say "yes" = You are calling her Fat!
If you say "no" = You dont think her arse is sexy. Therefore, you cant answer "yes" or "no". . .#Checkmate! [/color]

to "some" unexperienced guy, yes you are right, but if you have lived long enough with these creatures, you would know how to beat them at their own game. here are a few replies for such question:
A) before i answer, do you want the HONEST truth or you just want me to stroke your ego?!
B) your a[/b]ss is just the same size as it was yesterday, or last month when you asked me the same DAMN question.
[b]C) who cares how your [b]a[/b]ss looks in this dress? you've already wasted 2 hrs getting dressed, so let's GO!!!

IZUKWU:
lol, so what should be the correct answer.

the correct answer is to tell her your mind openly, and make her understand that if she doesnt like your answer, then she shouldnt ask the DAMN question! lol!

nice4life:
Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?
Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

I think a boy should go into a relationship when he becomes a man and ready for marriage.By
that time he always find a girl of his choice instead of tying a girls down in the name of relationship.

Just my thought though. Contribution are welcome.

by the same token, why do babes go into relationship when they are still playing the field with aristos?
are they not making boys lose potential and eligible chics due to blind love?

4wardever:
Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?

Firstly, no one can tie you down except you are a slave or kidnapped. It is not by force to go into a relationship neither is it for kids. Relationships that will lead to anything are started by two mutually consenting adults. It takes two to tango. If either is tired or does not believe in it going anywhere, the door is always open to walk away.
A broken relationship is far far berra than a broken marriage.

Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

No they are not! The lady's decision to stick to that man means you believe in him or something come what may.  It is only a dumb Bottom girl that will not start asking questions about where the relationship is going few months after meeting the guy. If he cannot satisfy you with answers, the answer lies right above.  Let no man manipulate you by crying or threats of suicide if you leave him. While in love, you must always use both your heart and your head.

And btw, there are lots of guys who were not yet "men" that  still married their hearthrobs, women who stayed till the man was made. It's all a matter of perseverance, hope, trust and love. Sure, there are also some ugly stories buh like I said, while in love, you must always use both your heart and your head. and most importantly, always seek God for answers, he knows all.
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Well Said  

Everyone doesn't enter a realationship looking at the end result. That's why the divorce rate is so high. Enter the relationship and enjoy and allow God to mature it.

nice4life:
Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?
Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

I think a boy should go into a relationship when he becomes a man and ready for marriage.By
that time he always find a girl of his choice instead of tying a girls down in the name of relationship.

Just my thought though. Contribution are welcome.

1.Your view is wrong because it is pointing fingers at boys only and you refuse to speak about girls at mostly age 18 to 25 who goes in relationship with the aim of finishing man account and thereby making the man life miserable

2.You do not to be bias because in most relationship, women are major factors to relationship break up with their huge demand ,they believe relationship is all about collecting money,gifts,health fee and school fees from men, mostly nigerian women

3.Relationship is not marriage,relationship is an instiuttion which you either graduate into marriage or get dismisal and restart over again but marriage is an institution which you will never graduate and that will takes patience because you can never learn enough until death t

born2fuck:
1.Your view is wrong because it is pointing fingers at boys only and you refuse to speak about girls at mostly age 18 to 25 who goes in relationship with the aim of finishing man account and thereby making the man life miserable

2.You do not to be bias because in most relationship, women are major factors to relationship break up with their huge demand ,they believe relationship is all about collecting money,gifts,health fee and school fees from men, mostly nigerian women

3.Relationship is not marriage,relationship is an instiuttion which you either graduate into marriage or get dismisal and restart over again but marriage is an institution which you will never graduate and that will takes patience because you can never learn enough until death t

gbam! Poster come and reply to this,