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I feel in love with an Mbaise girl during COVID period and we have been dating since then.
I had the chance to bond with her family most especially her mother. Her dad died long ago so it was only her and her mum
I did visit their house and she already saw me as inlaw

The day that changed everything was when her mum had an accident with okada as her left ankle twisted and became deformed. My girl called me and I had to travel to the hospital she was in.
Since she had no other child to help I decided to sacrifice and support her mum during her recovery based on "inlaw" vibes but what I saw next really messed me up.
This chubby woman after that accident started ageing rapidly and getting very slim. I can't explain it
Someone that was chubby healthy string vibrant but immediately she had leg accident she started ageing rapidly and slimming down despite food and medication was sorted out.
After 1 year this woman turned into skeleton. Her cheeks sunk inside i couldn't even recognize her.
I kept asking myself how can okada accident on leg make a grown hefty chubby vibrant Igbo woman turn into skeleton with very old look.

Unfortunately, she died on September 29th last year. At this point I was so heavily invested with the mum during her health battles. We did every lab test including HIV still they couldn't find out what she was suffering

Now she dead, guess what happen to my Ex

My Ex was a nurse and for some reason she tripped off and fell down the hospital stairs. She said she was rushing to they're for emergency before she fell and landed with her hips and broke right hip.

Her colleague used her phone to call me
I rushed to the hospital she was still in pains. I spoke with the doctor who said we should x ray. After x ray we were advised to pay 2M for hip surgery. Long story short we decided to use traditional bone fixers from Akwa Ibom.

Now just like her mother before her death
Some similarities started coming up

She started losing weight massively.
She started getting old facialy
She started suffering different types of sickness that she didn't have

Everything was looking like deja Vu like her mother case. My own parents nearly disown me because they were angry that I spent so much money on her and her family. My mother in particular said she saw that my Ex family is being attacked heavily spiritually and I should cut ties with Mbaise people tha they are very fetish

Mind you
I NEVER BELIEVED IN JUJU OR SPIRITUAL ATTACKS but this made me think that her matter might actually be spiritual

I was supposed to marry her before her muomsi kpai which messed up our plans after a year or so she too has hip accident and start ageing rapidly like her mother.

Someone told me it's juju from Mbaise.
And now I'm scared she will die too
Because she is showing the same symptoms and we have done kidney test livertest and everything test and doctor didn't see anything so it makes the case of spiritual attack more real.

I decided to cut ties with her despite her condition. Because I'm sacred if I marry her she might die and I don't want to experience such trauma

I have seen peoplefracture leg bones recover and nothing happen to them

But how person go get leg injury come lose weight grow old fast come die.

Frrom bone injury ooo

Now her daughter dey go thru the same thing

I never believed in juju but Omo this girl and her family really open my eyes!!

Bro lemme just advise you
Since you already know it's spiritual
You and your girl should go spiritual
I dunno why you guys (especially your girl) didn't go spiritual
But wetin pain me pass, nah the money you don waste

And if you eventually marry that girl, they might likely attack you too except you're ready to go spiritual

Damnnnn!!!!!


This is horrible… Guess you need to take the lady to the Lake of Avalor, to cure the sorcery enchanted on the lady

This one strong ooooooo

Rolimathematics:
I decided to cut ties with her despite her condition. Because I'm sacred if I marry her she might die and I don't want to experience such trauma

When you see people start to shrink rapidly due to sickness or trauma, just know that it would take the biggest stroke of luck or God's grace for that person to return. it is death hovering. many reading this will agree because they have seen it before.

You are very free to cut ties. It is your life and your decision. In a matter as serious as marriage, no one knows if he/she will marry the most healthy spouse who will still end up dead a day or two weeks afterr wedding day BUT nobody wants to willingly start marriage with glaring stressful baggage. Don't let anyone gaslight you and say you are wicked or this or that.

My own focus here is this. If you feel that there is a spiritual undertone to all of this, then you better go for cleansing because you have been intimately around that family for an extended period of time. You have even been MARKED as inlaw.

To be spiritually fortified is an underestimated skillset especially when in Christ.
You claimed to love her and now you wanna abandon her in her lowest. Not cool man.

TheGoodisboy:
Bro lemme just advise you
Since you already know it's spiritual
You and your girl should go spiritual
I dunno why you guys (especially your girl) didn't go spiritual
But wetin pain me pass, nah the money you don waste

And if you eventually marry that girl, they might likely attack you too except you're ready to go spiritual

that is why I cut ties with her💔💔
It seems there is something bigger than me tha I don't know about.

I don't want to marry into a family with spiritual problems. But the sad part is that she is managing herself now since I left and she has been crying that I left her.
Her friends are now helping her but I still love her. The problem is I am overwhelmed by the stress and I feel this beyond me

It's a spiritual issue from her mother side maybe it affects the women some battles are better fought before it happens. Now that it has happened your own is your future you're talking about and that's your children and generation.

If she has other extended family they should go and check around if it's a reoccurring situation then it is something from the family.

You stood by her from her mother's situation and now this my dear I won't blame you because some spiritual battles are very tough if they see you're the one that will break her loose they'll start from one or your finances.

Keep praying for her and render her help if you can but let her go.

AllBlack:
When you see people start to shrink rapidly due to sickness or trauma, just know that it would take the biggest stroke of luck or God's grace for that person to return. it is death hovering. many reading this will agree because they have seen it before.

You are very free to cut ties. It is your life and your decision. In a matter as serious as marriage, no one knows if he/she will marry the most healthy spouse who will still end up dead a day or two weeks afterr wedding day BUT nobody wants to willingly start marriage with glaring stressful baggage. Don't let anyone gaslight you and say you are wicked or this or that.

My own focus here is this. If you feel that there is a spiritual undertone to all of this, then you better go for cleansing because you have been intimately around that family for an extended period of time. You have even been MARKED as inlaw.

My mum said the same thing. But one if Herr friend is moving mad and now accusing me of using the girl for ritual
This really shattered me because I know what I spent on her mum illness and nobody refund me. Now doctor is asking for 2m for hip surgery which I refuse and she is now using traditional method but the sccary part is how rapidly shestarted ageing and looking old just like what happened to her mother. Na that one off me.

Rolimathematics:
one if Herr friend is moving mad and now accusing me of using the girl for ritual

The worst mistake you will make is responding to that friend.

You decide what you want to do. Your life.

Now people see her and start asking me why she is so lean?? Omo shame come dey catch me to dey explain her condition

How person go break hip come dey age rapidly and looking strange.

People that know us before, always look shocked when they visit her. And now it started looking like I am taking care of a woman as if she is my wife but we are not married yet. The stress dey choke

JOACHINpedro:
You claimed to love her and now you wanna abandon her in her lowest. Not cool man.

Take her address and go continue where the NOT COOL GUY stopped. Go and be THE COOL GUY.

PS. don't forget to carry your spiritual fortification along

Thank you brother, She made mention of some family issues with land from her place in Mbaise.
She has relatives but according to her they don't relate like that. during her mum case, none of extended family visited until when she was at point of death.
Even the burial was kata kata from the husband family. If not for the love I had for her I would have zoomed off since but now I regret not leaving earlier as I'm already neck deep in their family.
Now that I left I feel tremendous guilt but the last thing I want is to be a widower who lost his wife. God forbid!!!
It's better I'm gone than to experience such a stigma and trauma abeg

Jozilinn:
It's a spiritual issue from her mother side maybe it affects the women some battles are better fought before it happens. Now that it has happened your own is your future you're talking about and that's your children and generation.

If she has other extended family they should go and check around if it's a reoccurring situation then it is something from the family.

You stood by her from her mother's situation and now this my dear I won't blame you because some spiritual battles are very tough if they see you're the one that will break her loose they'll start from one or your finances.

Keep praying for her and render her help if you can but let her go.

AllBlack:
The worst mistake you will make is responding to that friend.

You decide what you want to do. Your life.

The crazy part be say all her bestie girlfriends NONE OF THEM CONTRIBUTE SHITT!!!!!! NONE OF THEM

Now they are spreading rumor tha I use their friend for ember rituals can you imagine!!!!! untop person I planned to marry.. broooo I snapped and decided I'm done!!!

I still worried that she will die like her mother but God knows I have tried my best.

JOACHINpedro:
To be spiritually fortified is an underestimated skillset especially when in Christ.
You claimed to love her and now you wanna abandon her in her lowest. Not cool man.

put yourself in my shoes
I spent 400k and her mum still die
Now if I spend for her and she dies
I will now be the one to bury her

Do you think any man alive would want to go through such trauma in the name of love? We are not married yet and I don't want our marriage to start from crisis
It's not an easy situation at al

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnnn!!!!!


This is horrible… Guess you need to take the lady to the Lake of Avalor, to cure the sorcery enchanted on the lady

All na still money I go spend
I spend all this money and her friends accuse me of using her for ritual. Do you know how sad and heart breaking it feels

My own issue is that a Nigeria girl will not endure you even for one month if u don’t provide her fantastic financial bills, but a man will suffer for a girl who would have abandon u promptly if roles were reversed.

Yess you are wrong for doing that to her, I don't even believe you love her 😒

I'm sure you must have promised her that you will be by her side through thick and thin, and suddenly now you have cut ties with her, men are unbelievable, can't be trusted for once

Reasonable, really. A little bit of romance never hurt anyone. It's all about the relationship, right? AcadaWriter

Rolimathematics:
Thank you brother, She made mention of some family issues with land from her place in Mbaise.
She has relatives but according to her they don't relate like that. during her mum case, none of extended family visited until when she was at point of death.
Even the burial was kata kata from the husband family. If not for the love I had for her I would have zoomed off since but now I regret not leaving earlier as I'm already neck deep in their family.
Now that I left I feel tremendous guilt but the last thing I want is to be a widower who lost his wife. God forbid!!!
It's better I'm gone than to experience such a stigma and trauma abeg

plus if she had a female child for you she would likely go through the same fate

Rolimathematics:
put yourself in my shoes
I spent 400k and her mum still die
Now if I spend for her and she dies
I will now be the one to bury her

Do you think any man alive would want to go through such trauma in the name of love? We are not married yet and I don't want our marriage to start from crisis
It's not an easy situation at al

Truth is that you can decide not to marry her, but abandoning her at this stage of life is not cool.
No matter how you wanna convince yourself, she is never a stranger to you.



PS: Do what you can for her. Must not be financial if you don't have much.
We are all humans, nobody knows tomorrow.

AllBlack:
Take her address and go continue where the NOT COOL GUY stopped. Go and be THE COOL GUY.

PS. don't forget to carry your spiritual fortification along

Well, i get your point. Trying not to enter what you don't understand. Very valid
But the watchword is "Abandon"

First of all, I have a job that is demanding
I can't just leave work and attend to her and we are not married. She was the one taking care of her mum now she expect me to take care of her and I can't abeg
I have a life of my own

JOACHINpedro:
Truth is that you can decide not to marry her, but abandoning her at this stage of life is not cool.
No matter how you wanna convince yourself, she is never a stranger to you.



PS: Do what you can for her. Must not be financial if you don't have much.
We are all humans, nobody knows tomorrow.

Rolimathematics:
Thank you brother, She made mention of some family issues with land from her place in Mbaise.
She has relatives but according to her they don't relate like that. during her mum case, none of extended family visited until when she was at point of death.
Even the burial was kata kata from the husband family. If not for the love I had for her I would have zoomed off since but now I regret not leaving earlier as I'm already neck deep in their family.
Now that I left I feel tremendous guilt but the last thing I want is to be a widower who lost his wife. God forbid!!!
It's better I'm gone than to experience such a stigma and trauma abeg

I don't blame you for the decision you took.

Personally I would not agree to marry a guy who has glaring health issue.

I can't wait this long only to marry only to become a widow soon after, Tufiakwa!

Rolimathematics:
First of all, I have a job that is demanding
I can't just leave work and attend to her and we are not married. She was the one taking care of her mum now she expect me to take care of her and I can't abeg
I have a life of my own

Okay Sir.

Rolimathematics:
My Ex was a nurse and for some reason she tripped off and fell down the hospital stairs. She said she was rushing to they're for emergency before she fell and landed with her hips and broke right hip.

Her colleague used her phone to call me
I rushed to the hospital she was still in pains. I spoke with the doctor who said we should x ray. After x ray we were advised to pay 2M for hip surgery. Long story short we decided to use traditional bone fixers from Akwa Ibom.

Now just like her mother before her death
Some similarities started coming up

She started losing weight massively.
She started getting old facialy
She started suffering different types of sickness that she didn't have

Everything was looking like deja Vu like her mother case. My own parents nearly disown me because they were angry that I spent so much money on her and her family. My mother in particular said she saw that my Ex family is being attacked heavily spiritually and I should cut ties with Mbaise people tha they are very fetish

Mind you
I NEVER BELIEVED IN JUJU OR SPIRITUAL ATTACKS but this made me think that her matter might actually be spiritual

I was supposed to marry her before her muomsi kpai which messed up our plans after a year or so she too has hip accident and start ageing rapidly like her mother.

Someone told me it's juju from Mbaise.
And now I'm scared she will die too
Because she is showing the same symptoms and we have done kidney test livertest and everything test and doctor didn't see anything so it makes the case of spiritual attack more real.

I decided to cut ties with her despite her condition. Because I'm sacred if I marry her she might die and I don't want to experience such trauma

I have a question for you bro?
If you were in her shoes, do you think she would do same for you?
I mean all the money spent and all the running you did
You guys really need to wise up oo
I can't even spend that much on the mother talk more of the girl herself

Maybe you’re the bad luck. You came in her life and her mother dies and now she’s at death’s door. Please leave her alone because your presence in her life has brought her misfortune.

JOACHINpedro:
To be spiritually fortified is an underestimated skillset especially when in Christ.
You claimed to love her and now you wanna abandon her in her lowest. Not cool man.

The dude has tried, if I have plenty of money I will still help even though we won't be dating anymore.

Rolimathematics:
that is why I cut ties with her💔💔
It seems there is something bigger than me tha I don't know about.

I don't want to marry into a family with spiritual problems. But the sad part is that she is managing herself now since I left and she has been crying that I left her.
Her friends are now helping her but I still love her. The problem is I am overwhelmed by the stress and I feel this beyond me

See Brother eh
If nah me b you...
I won't abandon her totally
If you have the money, you may still b helping her once once
The only thing I can't advise is marriage cos with wetin I read, there's fire on the mountain except you're reading to cook yourself too

But y can't you suggest for her about going spiritual (I laff when people said nothing like spiritual in this planet earth)

Just a quick story about me....
My current gf don carry me Waka (when I mean Waka.....I mean deep Waka)
And the funniest part of it, nah me suggested about it....I already made up my mind to go spiritual with my full chest
Does it worth it...... CAPITAL YES