thatchic:

The problem is, our orientations in Africa - poverty and suffering has led to our men calculating and weighing up everything against the worth the woman they married - look you can not quantify a woman's worth!!

thatchic:

Stop flogging a dead horse, people need to wake up and smell the coffee. Marriage is a contact and comes with obligations and responsibilities. With a relationship you can wake up in the morning pack your bags and leave and no one will bother you, with a marriage you MUST go through the courts of the land you live in. No if’s or buts’ about it. Alimony and child support are based on the income of the higher earner. A millionaire cannot pay the same amount as someone who makes $60,000 a year. He is required to maintain his ex wife and children in the LIFESTYLE TO WHICH THEY ARE ACCUSTOMED TO. These laws were put in place to protect the woman and kids ( the most vulnerable). In Nigeria I have seen “men” throw their wife out with only the cloth on her back.










The problem is, our orientations in Africa - poverty and suffering has led to our men calculating and weighing up everything against the worth the woman they married - look you can not quantify a woman's worth!!

Now Mr Prest has succeeded in the first stage of his attempt to get the huge payout overturned by the Appeal Court. He has been granted permission to appeal by relying on Nigerian ‘customary native law’.

Mr Prest founded Petrodel Resources around ten years ago and in 2007 it was reported to have a turnover of close to £2.5billion.
But his lawyer Martin Pointer QC told the Appeal Court that a gift of £10,000 ‘seed money’ from his Nigerian father before he died in 1992 was the foundation stone on which his oil empire was built.
He said that under ‘customary law’ in Nigeria Mr Prest became head of the family with a responsibility to use his late father’s money to look after his four siblings and their children.

Mr Pointer argued his company’s assets did not belong to Mr Prest  but were ‘held in trust’ for his children and those of his siblings under Nigerian law.
Mr Prest’s brother Michel has  also launched a claim in the Nigerian High Court to declare that Petrodel Resources forms a part of their late father’s estate.
If successful, Mr Prest’s personal wealth would be dramatically reduced.

Theblessed:

[b][size=16pt]Well the woman is just so laid-back.  

I can't imagine that she allowed her marital to be discussed in Nigerian courts when she should have taken him - not to the UUKcourts as they would be llenienton him rather, she should have taken him to the USA - there he would have known water dey two types:

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In fact, he would have return to Nigerian in his boxer shorts and flipflops because, their courts no dey take nnonsense  Na she cause her own trouble for allowing him to get to the courts before you.

Also, it depends where the family fortune is investmented/secured right now - if in Nigeria, forget about it and if the West then, counter-petition him in any of the Western courts since you are not happy with the deal.

Also, to be able to maintain the opulent lifestyle he introduced you to all your married life after this divorce (my assumptions), take him to US courts, them go squeeze some chunks off him unless you had a prenup then, their  hands would be tied.  

As for British courts, prenups doesn't really work here as its not legally, recognised - and Parliament had not passed any laws to that effect thus, you would've had a better chance here in the UK.  

After all, you married him in the West, nobe so o? Then, out-smart him by taking him there to decide your future! Indeed US courts, would have made you so, so happy!

You see, if its true that Nigerian courts are deciding this matter then, count your losses and move on, as they won't really support your right to divorce a wayward husband and at the same time, asking for equitable divorce settlement - big mistake babe, big mistake but good luck with the fight at least, in the end you'd have your freedom to live a happy and independent life!!! [/size][/b]

Theblessed:

[b][size=16pt]Well the woman is just so laid-back.  

I can't imagine that she allowed her marital to be discussed in Nigerian courts when she should have taken him - not to the UUKcourts as they would be llenienton him rather, she should have taken him to the USA - there he would have known water dey two types:

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[li]Hot water
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[li]Cold water
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In fact, he would have return to Nigerian in his boxer shorts and flipflops because, their courts no dey take nnonsense  Na she cause her own trouble for allowing him to get to the courts before you.

Also, it depends where the family fortune is investmented/secured right now - if in Nigeria, forget about it and if the West then, counter-petition him in any of the Western courts since you are not happy with the deal.

Also, to be able to maintain the opulent lifestyle he introduced you to all your married life after this divorce (my assumptions), take him to US courts, them go squeeze some chunks off him unless you had a prenup then, their  hands would be tied.  

As for British courts, prenups doesn't really work here as its not legally, recognised - and Parliament had not passed any laws to that effect thus, you would've had a better chance here in the UK.  

After all, you married him in the West, nobe so o? Then, out-smart him by taking him there to decide your future! Indeed US courts, would have made you so, so happy!

You see, if its true that Nigerian courts are deciding this matter then, count your losses and move on, as they won't really support your right to divorce a wayward husband and at the same time, asking for equitable divorce settlement - big mistake babe, big mistake but good luck with the fight at least, in the end you'd have your freedom to live a happy and independent life!!! [/size][/b]

desertboom:

'A woman's worth' Can someone enlighten me on how much a woman is worth? Please, does a man worth anything in marriage? Does a woman worth much than a man in marriage? Please, I need answer from the female folks here

Theblessed:

[size=16pt]Well the woman is just so laid-back.  

I can't imagine that she allowed her marital to be discussed in Nigerian courts when she should have taken him - not to the UUKcourts as they would be llenienton him rather, she should have taken him to the USA - there he would have known water dey two types:[/size]

chaircover:

I haven't read all the replies to this thread, but this is my take on this.

2.1 million sounds like a lot but in reality it isn't. It will just about buy her & the kids a house similar to the one that they probably live in now.

The 35K a year will NOT be enough to pay for the bills and maintenance of that house alone, talk less of other things.

By all means if indeed the money used ot set up the company didnt come from them both but from the husbands family, then that should be taken into consideration, however on the flip side, how many married men with access to $13,000 are able to do anything tangible with it. Wifey could at the time could have encouraged her hubby to buy a car or go on holiday and blow the whole lot. She gave him her support when he used the money to start the business and over the years would have supported him in various ways.

Ive said this before and the fact that a woman doesnt put money down doesnt mean that she is useless. An encouraging word here, a prayer there, a shoulder to lean on cannot be expressed in monetary values and this should not be overlooked. Sometimes when you know that someone has your back, you become more confident and you tend to take more risks and these risks may pay off.

I personally think that if the man can truly afford it, then he should give her what she wants and let her go on her way. The Lawyers are probably getting more than the figure we are talking about here anyway which is a shame and the children are watching the acrimony and it cant be doing them any good. The Law suit is also going to affect both husband and wife mentally an healthwise whether they loose or win. Going to court is stressful in its self.

The other side of love is sure worse than hate if there is such a thing and I hope they can sort this out without too many casualties.

2.1 million sounds like a lot but in reality it isn't. It will just about buy her & the kids a house similar to the one that they probably live in now.

The 35K a year will NOT be enough to pay for the bills and maintenance of that house alone, talk less of other things.

Ive said this before and the fact that a woman doesnt put money down doesnt mean that she is useless. An encouraging word here, a prayer there, a shoulder to lean on cannot be expressed in monetary values and this should not be overlooked. Sometimes when you know that someone has your back, you become more confident and you tend to take more risks and these risks may pay off.

I personally think that if the man can truly afford it, then he should give her what she wants and let her go on her way. The Lawyers are probably getting more than the figure we are talking about here anyway which is a shame and the children are watching the acrimony and it cant be doing them any good. The Law suit is also going to affect both husband and wife mentally an healthwise whether they loose or win. Going to court is stressful in its self.

divine2043:

Damola,

I think your replies says it all. It is just like people do not like the bitter truth. It points at the same thing - many Nigerian ladies choose to be on the back foot and are lazy and money grabbing. The same attitude portrayed during relationships is propagated in marriage.

So I keep asking a question- why did the lady marry her husband?

I have not read any sensible post from any lady on here. It shows they only want to get married to a rich man and for his money. IT shows also that they may be prepared to kill the man for his money as well.

Shocking but true.