i av this girl which i luv soo much but the problem she has is dat shes nt always satisfied wit wat she has,she will even go to the extent of buyiny things in credit which i will av to pay for later cos i dnt want problem.i tried all my best just to make sure shes ok but upon all shes nt satisfied and she like comparing our relationship to others.just recently i met anoda girl who happens to be cool,ok,serious and i think shes ok 4 me.but the problem nw is i love both of them and i dnt knw wat to do

You cant really please her.
If you know wats good for you, leave her now.

If you have spoken to her and she hasnt chnged her ways, then you need to stop paying for whatever she has bought on credit - and let her pay for it.

I have seen couples who are dealing with this issue and its so hard - you dont wanna start your life like that.

jimbutu:

i av this girl which i love soo much but the problem she has is that shes nt always satisfied wit what she has,she will even go to the extent of buyiny things in credit which i will av to pay for later because i dnt want problem.i tried all my best just to make sure shes ok but upon all shes nt satisfied and she like comparing our relationship to others.just recently i met another girl who happens to be cool,ok,serious and i think shes ok 4 me.but the problem nw is i love both of them and i dnt knw what to do

this is where i get problem with some peeps . . u don't love both of them. . i mean it's nat plausible. search ur heart very well, and choose one

adeboo:

You can't really please her.
If you know wats good for you, leave her now.

If you have spoken to her and she hasnt chnged her ways, then you need to stop paying for whatever she has bought on credit - and let her pay for it.

I have seen couples who are dealing with this issue and its so hard - you don't want to start your life like that.

i second that

efuah:

this is where i get problem with some peeps . . u don't love both of them. . i mean it's nat plausible. search your heart very well, and choose one
i second that

Why can't he love both? Can a wife with four kids and 3 siblings love her kids, husband and siblings at the same time?

adeboo:

You can't really please her.
If you know wats good for you, leave her now.

If you have spoken to her and she hasnt chnged her ways, then you need to stop paying for whatever she has bought on credit - and let her pay for it.

I have seen couples who are dealing with this issue and its so hard - you don't want to start your life like that.

I support that too.

@ poster thank God you are not lost yet.

Scopium:

Why can't he love both? Can a wife with four kids and 3 siblings love her kids, husband and siblings at the same time?

that's a different love from a different angle my dear. . . u kno it, u r simply refusing to understand. . don't stress me this morning. . too early

search yourself you know what is good you.

efuah:

u kno it, you're simply refusing to understand. . don't stress me this morning. . too early

jimbutu:

i love both of them and i dnt knw what to do

@poster
this one na lie oh! u can't love both gals d same way or at d same time,so my guy MAKE YOUR PICK

jimbutu:

i av this girl which i love soo much but the problem she has is that shes nt always satisfied wit what she has,she will even go to the extent of buyiny things in credit which i will av to pay for later because i dnt want problem.i tried all my best just to make sure shes ok but upon all shes nt satisfied and she like comparing our relationship to others.just recently i met another girl who happens to be cool,ok,serious and i think shes ok 4 me.but the problem nw is i love both of them and i dnt knw what to do

You are not even a man. _{(SHAKES HEAD)}

Your girlfriend controls you like a puppy! <sub>WHAT?! . . . DICTATES YOUR WALLET LIKE IT'S HERS?!

DO YOU BUY AS MUCH FOR YOUR OWN MUM OR SISTER?</sub>

My advice is 'Get away from the relationship and any other'. _{TILL YOU LEARN TO BE A MAN AND TO CONTROL YOUR WOMEN!}

You need to 'be in charge' man. _{IF NOT THE GIRL IS 'IN CHARGE'} ^{'CHAI!' . . . SHAKES HEAD.}

The same scenario might repeat itself with 'the new girl' if you don't first learn to 'be in charge'.

The problem is _{PARTLY YOUR FAULT BRO!}

Control your women _{THEY HAVE TOO MUCH POWER OVER YOU.} ^{OR GROW UP!}

BLESS YOU G!

but he can't leave her because he needs her to get his green card
thats the only reason i could think of

Lie number 1
That u love both girls.
Lie number 2
That u dont know what to do

Now let's reason (to get her) or together;

U can't love both of them, u only love one and don't have d liverage to leave one.
I can imagine ur type, u don't like hurting people at the end of the day u hurt urself!
Don't make me think u r one of those pisces guys ok?
Walk out of the first relationship its a hell and walk into heaven.
U can't change her if u have not succeeded till now, u will not again.

U know what to do but u r looking for ways to do it or rather the easiest way.
U already said u met a good girl and knew she was d one for u right?
What do u now want from nairaland? Guy, do it right away, its the top most thing on ur mind now.

Leave that debtor or else u will run into more debts with her in the future ok?

I have spoken!

I keep saying this; HOW DO You LOVE TOW PPLE AT THE SAME TIME WITH THE SAME AMOUNT OF LOVE

ITS NOT POSSIBLE PPLE, THINK!

lyk someone said u knw wat to do; i ges u dt hav d guts to do it o mayb u fear d overdemandn gal d whole point is dat u gat to mek a choice!!

bebe2007:

@poster

if you feel you can never satisfy this other woman then let her go. If you do not eventually she will nag you silly and you would be forced to let her go then and it would be too late by then. make up your mind fast before you loose both.

@efuah

Yes its very possible to love two people at the same time, you may love them differently though. I used to think like you but now i know better. Its even three possible. So Scopium is right there. They are so many people out there that you can get along with big time if only you give them the opportunity, i do not think there is one Mr. Right anymore, he is whoever you choose. Its the thing called decency that restricts us from other guys when we are commited to one already, other than that, if you make yourself open and available to another guy, chances are you may just fall in love with him too which brings us to my point that it is very possible to love 2,3,4 etc people at the same time.

Thank you very much Bebe2007 . I'ma buy you a drink or maybe not a drink but something you like

@bebe2007: u broke my heart with ur post! just the same way no 2 days in ur life are the same, likewise u can neva be in love with 2 pple the same way and at the same time not to talk of 3,4,5, etc.


@ oga poster: ur post reeks with fear and confusion. ur obviously think of backing out, why?

1. u have gathered enouf exhibits to use against ur current girl (which i do not question)
2. u found urself a ready substitute

so guy, what are u waiting for, our blessings? pls go ahead and do wht a man has to do!

u meet wan wey wan suck all ur money for bank account, and u meet another one wey better, no disturbance, did u even have to ask? abi e get something wey d other girl dey give u wey u no wan leave am, as yoruba people dey talk
oun ti o fe je, soun ni ko je o gbon? abeg wake up! abi na when she turn u to church rat u go realise say she no be d one for u?