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10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 11:32pm On Mar 07, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Killz3(m): 11:41pm On Mar 07, 2012
He's a discombobulated mad man! I wonder why you tolerate such nonsense. . . Yeah, 10 years of your life were spent loving him, but damn, how long will you live with this and tolerate his intrusion?
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by MrsChima1(f): 11:44pm On Mar 07, 2012
Onyche! You lost your shoe? grin grin
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by IbroSaunks(m): 12:16am On Mar 08, 2012
it's over and you need your space to heal, rather than dwell on the past. tell him to get outta your face
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by r231(m): 12:37am On Mar 08, 2012
IbroSaunks:

it's over and you need your space to heal, rather than dwell on the past. tell him to get outta face

Gbam
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Tedpgrass: 2:14am On Mar 08, 2012
Forgive me for this somewhat presumptuous entry,
if it causes any offence.

Seems bro wants to eat his cake and have it.
Got commitment issues but still wants the role of long-term partner,
wt some bedmatics and other fringe benefits if possible.

If u, I must stress "U" are ready to move on, need to set your boundaries
to enable a clean break, heal, appraise, re-set from learnt lessons.

Otherwise, 3 yrs later, u remain stuck in a relationship not going anywhere,
or dating someoneelse as rebound ( not fair to the new chap or yourself) or to repel this malingerer
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by MrsChima1(f): 2:41am On Mar 08, 2012
r231:

Gbam
undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by omega25red(m): 5:17am On Mar 08, 2012
please forgive me for the following

don't be stupid can't you see that this dude is just planning to use you while he has sex with other women? Seriously how naive are you and why is this so confusing for you? Yes 10yrs is a long time but if it is over, tell that dickhead to get lost
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Nobody: 6:38am On Mar 08, 2012
wow. 10 years. this is why folks really shouldn't date unless they ready for marriage within the next 1-2 years. thats a lot of time wasted. definitely gonna leave an unhealthy soul tie.
A whole decade wasted and countless opportunities past. Sucks being a girl.  lipsrsealed

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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by dabrake(m): 7:25am On Mar 08, 2012
@op, when next he comes close to him bath him with a good conc. acid or with hot oil or order for his arrest. What nonsense?! He knows how painful it would be to lose you to another man so he is trying to avoid it. He is winless winlessness loser. If you are scared you can call me let me help you execute the 'project'. As far as i am concerned, you must be in your late 20's/early 30's. Your biological clock isnt tilting to your favour girl
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mobf: 8:13am On Mar 08, 2012
aleroo:

I had to create a new ID for this purpose.

My ten year relationship is finally over and I know not why.

The news is he still want to be friends.

Wants me to still cook for him.

Calls me out of the blues to ask where i am and gets upset when am not home.

Am on leave and mentioned to him that i had to travel and he said theres no need for that.

He comes to my house and looks around to see if theres a guy somewhere around.

Says the reason he still cares is cos ten years is a long time to throw away without making an effort to make it easy on me.

Am confused about the mixed messages.
You finally saw the light huh? after ten years. What a shame

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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 8:44am On Mar 08, 2012
Poster, how in God's name did you date someone that lonnggg??
Me, I nor fit ooooo
If I know the relationship aint alter bound after a year, men I ball.,.

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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 10:04am On Mar 08, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by slimyem: 10:08am On Mar 08, 2012
jeez!
why did you wait around all these years?

anyways.what's done's  done!
there's no point being friends with him or hanging around him.
set your boundries and start again on a clean plate. cool cool cool
goodluck!
aleroo:

Thanks guys for your comments.

I dont know wether to forgive him and move on or payback, it just overwhelms me.

Am on the brink of depression.

I dont no wat to do
how do you plan to payback?
what's the whole point of paying back?
is it going to bring back the ten wasted years?

these are questions you need ask yourself before taking whatever action you plan to. sad sad sad
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Honeycity(f): 10:25am On Mar 08, 2012
@ op
im so sorry about what you passing thru at the moment
but if i may ask, how old are you?
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 10:32am On Mar 08, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by legendsilver(m): 11:32am On Mar 08, 2012
my dear nairalander, am in the same shoe wit you ooo, mine is just six yrs. so painful and touching,
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 08, 2012
Why do fo.ols fall in love?

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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by dabrake(m): 11:55am On Mar 08, 2012
@aleroo, you have to work on yourself. You have to keep him at bay by fire by force 'cuz from the way you are acting, even after you are married, he will still call you for sex and (un)fortunately, you will(100% sure) give in. Our greatest weapon towards women is psychology so you have to counter that. Peace
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 12:15pm On Mar 08, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by tellwisdom: 12:25pm On Mar 08, 2012
[size=15pt]And who said its a must he marries you, even if the relationship is 20years?? angry angry No make me vex oo angry angry[/size]
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by MrsChima1(f): 12:36pm On Mar 08, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by baroong: 12:43pm On Mar 08, 2012
@ op
Seriously dont allow this guy to sit on the fence in your life. Dont be confused. If he said it is over then let it be over. It is not easy but try and move on. He cant have his cake and eat it. Tell him to stay the hell out.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by tellwisdom: 1:02pm On Mar 08, 2012
sheyyyyyyyyyyy Na must say dem go live forever?? angry angry

Whats this guy's fault??   
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by jaybee3(m): 1:06pm On Mar 08, 2012
I know it's hard to let go after seeing someone for 10 yrs but i'm almost 100% sure this dude will never marry you.
The quicker you move on with your life the better.

Change your number
Tell him he ain't welcomed at yours any more
Go and start dating

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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 1:14pm On Mar 08, 2012
Thanks baroong and jaybee
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by yme1(f): 1:22pm On Mar 08, 2012
10 years?she faints first

This dude is selfish, he doesn't want you anymore yet he doesn't want anyone around you
Move on dear, trust me I know its easier said than done
but in this case for your sanity you have to let him go
don't hold on to him thinking he might get back to his senses and come back to you
Tell him straight to back out of your life, let your attitude towards him show you are ready to move on and over him

The lord is your strength dear
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 1:37pm On Mar 08, 2012
y me:

10 years?she faints first

This dude is selfish, he doesn't want you anymore yet he doesn't want anyone around you
Move on dear, trust me I know its easier said than done
but in this case for your sanity you have to let him go
don't hold on to him thinking he might get back to his senses and come back to you
Tell him straight to back out of your life, let your attitude towards him show you are ready to move on and over him

The lord is your strength dear


*Pours her water*
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by MrsChima1(f): 2:01pm On Mar 08, 2012
I am not for quick engagement, but damn sure not for long engagement. 

In the first six months, a man will know whether you are the one or not.  He had his answers apparently. 

Watch the movie, "He is not that into you".  Many women need to see and embrace it. 

Good luck on your next relationship.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by jaybee3(m): 2:11pm On Mar 08, 2012
aleroo:

It happened with me, unfortunately he dumped my sorry Bottom and guess wat? He's now into mega bucks
Is this the main problem why you can't see beyond the obvious?
Money surely doesn't equate to happiness and neither can it buy it
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Nobody: 2:52pm On Mar 08, 2012
aleroo:

I had to create a new ID for this purpose.

My ten year relationship is finally over and I know not why.

The news is he still want to be friends.

Wants me to still cook for him.

Calls me out of the blues to ask where i am and gets upset when am not home.

Am on leave and mentioned to him that i had to travel and he said there's no need for that.

He comes to my house and looks around to see if there's a guy somewhere around.

Says the reason he still cares is cos ten years is a long time to throw away without making an effort to make it easy on me.

Am confused about the mixed messages.

It's not a case of mixed messages. The guy has ended the relationship but wants to keep you under his feet to ensure that you do not move on, because a man's worst fear is to have his ex-girlfriend/wife move on. He'd rather have his favourite team from the English Premier League lose 10 consecutive matches.

If he wants to make it easy for you as he claims, then why does he come over to your house to see if there's someone else around? What is it about you venturing into another relationship that he fears so much to the point that he has to linger around your house? Ask yourself.

And people claim that women are the difficult ones to understand ?? 
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by newmusic: 3:00pm On Mar 08, 2012
If after 6 months, you are not sure of your partner, its better you bail out and give someone else a chance. I dont believe in dating for donkey years before deciding her future with me, its really unfair.

Sorry OP, but there must be a reason for this. Are you medically compatible?

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