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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by sharpman1(m): 3:02pm On Mar 08, 2012
OP,

Tell him to buzz off.

Stop taking his calls and tell him to stay away from you.

You too, stay away from him.

The guy is a selfish goat.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by SAFO(m): 3:03pm On Mar 08, 2012
Is there no such thing as common law marriage in Nigeria? 10 years is a long time sista. Hopefully your coochie hasn't shriveled up by now.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by MrsChima1(f): 3:03pm On Mar 08, 2012
smh@safo
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Nobody: 3:09pm On Mar 08, 2012
SAFO:

Is there no such thing as common law marriage in Nigeria? 10 years is a long time sista. Hopefully your coochie hasn't shriveled up by now.
And does being in a relationship for 10 years cause that?
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by SAFO(m): 3:40pm On Mar 08, 2012
Just a lil tongue & cheek humor but yeah 10 yrs is a long time. After a few years maybe 4 tops, I would've called it quits. OP, you deserve better

@chima it's SAFO not safo. Get it right angry tongue
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by MrsChima1(f): 3:42pm On Mar 08, 2012
Good Girl:

And does being in a relationship for 10 years cause that?

Don't mind SAFO. (him spechul)
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by SAFO(m): 3:53pm On Mar 08, 2012
^^^ The PC term is exceptionally gifted grin
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Nobody: 3:59pm On Mar 08, 2012
SAFO:

Just a lil tongue & cheek humor. 
Oh I see.  cheesy So it was just with a light touch, eh?
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 5:22pm On Mar 08, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by jaybee3(m): 5:23pm On Mar 08, 2012
Make the world your oyster then.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by coogar: 5:27pm On Mar 08, 2012
aleroo:

I had to create a new ID for this purpose.

My ten year relationship is finally over and I know  not why.

The news is he still want to be friends.

Wants me to still cook for him.

Calls me out of the blues to ask where i am and gets upset when am not home.

Am on leave and mentioned to him that i had to travel and he said theres no need for that.

He comes to my house and looks around to see if theres a guy somewhere around.

Says the reason he still cares is cos ten years is a long time to throw away without making an effort to make it easy on me.

Am confused about the mixed messages.

better go back to him before it's too late.
you have been with this dude for a decade - in your formative years.
i doubt you can ever find happiness in another guy - 10 yrs is too long a time to adjust and any sane man won't risk marriage with you knowing you still communicate with this dude.

swallow your pride and move back to him.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 6:04pm On Mar 08, 2012
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Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by coogar: 6:07pm On Mar 08, 2012
aleroo:

@coogar i de fear u o. Someone rejected me and u r telling me to swallow my pride and go bak? I have no pride left and if he doesnt come back then its his loss.

the key is not to put yourself in a position to be rejected.
do what he likes at all times.
simples!
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 6:12pm On Mar 08, 2012
^Coogar. pls read the thread all over again particularly d posters parts. Then advice her better.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by tellwisdom: 6:18pm On Mar 08, 2012
^Coogar. pls read the thread all over again particularly d posters parts. Then advice her better.

Yes, he just did grin grin grin
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by coogar: 6:19pm On Mar 08, 2012
mcnepow:

^Coogar. pls read the thread all over again particularly d posters parts. Then advice her better.

there's nothing else to read.
her relationship is over - she did not say who was the guilty party - maybe she cheated, maybe she deceived or even lied on what she shouldn't have lied about.
then again, 10 yrs relationship shocked shocked shocked shocked the poster has weakened her own bargaining power spending that many years with a guy without making it official.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Bukizo(f): 6:24pm On Mar 08, 2012
This goes to show how selfish ppl can be sometimes.

you dont want the girl and yet you dont wna see other men around ur? What a controlling n selfish guy.

You need to be strong girl and start severing all ties u have with this guy (the sooner the better)

It will be hard but you just gotta do it otherwise he will continue to use u.

He is so selfish it's inconceivable mmmmccchhhhheewwww!!!!!!
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by kelz88(f): 6:27pm On Mar 08, 2012
Chei! What a waste!!  sad BTW, why weren't you guys doing it prior to the break up? :S All this time you were dating for so long how come he never proposed, etc? Did you not sense something was up? What reason is he giving for the break up? Does he see it as "taking a break"? Did you actually love him or was it just something you just kinda got used to? Sorry for asking so many questions. Just tryna understand why he would want to throw 10 years away, and would rather be friends.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 6:37pm On Mar 08, 2012
The relatnshp is ova, that i agree bt u said she shld swallow her pride n go back to him. That i wouldn't subscribe to. . .
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 6:39pm On Mar 08, 2012
Aleero did u actualy date 4 that long or u were friends 1st then started dating later? wat led to the breakup? jst share a lil more.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by SAFO(m): 6:49pm On Mar 08, 2012
Coogar is somewhat right. From what we know right now, OP has been working since 23 yrs old. Graduated from school so I assume maybe 2 yrs after that she started the 10 yr relationship. So by my math that's 23 + 2 + 10 = 35.

Now I don't know what the market looks like for marriage(able) women over the age of 30 but I can't envision too many suitors waiting to bust down your door.

Should you go back? Might have to weigh your options. undecided
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by kelz88(f): 6:51pm On Mar 08, 2012
She said she's 29!!
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by coogar: 6:55pm On Mar 08, 2012
kelz88:

She said she's 29!!

even 29 is almost past the expiry date. grin cheesy
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by SAFO(m): 6:55pm On Mar 08, 2012
^^^OK missed that part but that still puts her on the cusp of 30.

She'll be competing with them young 20 yr olds.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 7:03pm On Mar 08, 2012

even 29 is almost past the expiry date. grin cheesy
hahahaha, u want make i laff throway fuel??
.

She'll be competing with them young 20 yr olds.
Na wa oo, so competition dey?
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by coogar: 7:04pm On Mar 08, 2012
SAFO:

^^^OK missed that part but that still puts her on the cusp of 30.

She'll be competing with them young 20 yr olds.

24 yr old babes that are graduates, that work in big corporations, prettier, sexier and readily available.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by mcnepow(m): 7:08pm On Mar 08, 2012
Issokay. . .
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by ifedun2: 7:21pm On Mar 08, 2012
@aleroooo!Am one of the few who do not believe that every relationship must lead to marriage.Having said that,i think you have to redefine your relationship with this guy.Av heard some women foolishly say they cant live without a particular man.I hope you not in that category.Its obvious he doesnt want marriage,so be not deceived.To get ova the breakup,you have to keep him at arms length.If he is not the one picking your bills,stop him from playing lord in your home.If you choose to keep having him as friend,that should be later.Socialise,stop brooding and i tell you,love will find you again.Trust me,its better to spend 10yrs in a bad courtship than spend 6mnts in a terrible marriage.All the best!
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by SAFO(m): 8:59pm On Mar 08, 2012
mcnepow:

Issokay. . .

I wish her the best but the odds are stacked against her
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 9:04pm On Mar 08, 2012
Thanks to all for ur concern.
@ coogar i never lied abt anytin,he could c rite through me. I did not cheat either. All d males around me envied and hated him cos they tot he had scored d best girl.

@kelz our not doing it b4 d break up was an indication that sumtin was not rite. He didnt give any reason. I really loved him. I still do

@mcnepow we started dating from d 1st day, it was love at first sight, d love,friendship,passion togetherness,tolerance and undastanding was sumtim else.

I guess it was never meant to be. Pple around think its all a big joke, that we want to suprise them with the wedding cards. I wonder where i get this strenght from. Maybe am still in denial
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by aleroo(f): 9:07pm On Mar 08, 2012
@SAFO yeah they are.
Re: 10yr Relationship Finally Over by Nobody: 10:50pm On Mar 08, 2012
This guys deserves a slap tongue tongue tongue

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