All the things she's told me about herself have been out of her own free will; because in our relationship, she's the extrovert (while I'm the opposite)

Inked_Nerd:

Lemme ask you something OP, do you have asëxual past as well [regardless of the number of people you have been with or what kind of sëxual acts you have or haven't been involved in]? If not then you shouldn't be taking on the task of judging her based on her sëxual past.

As for her having/not having an abortion, if her ability to have children is truly a concern of yours then only way you could find out is if you find out from her DIRECTLY or if she goes to a gynecologist and is examined. Aside from that, there are no other ways to find out. Don't just rely on hearsay as a means of trying to find answers because in the process some [if not all] of the things people may be telling you could be false. Also, her being your girlfriend doesn't mean that you should try to strong arm her into telling you. If you truly care about the likelihood of having children in the future then you must ask her yourself!

~Killz~:

Bro, i don't know about you, but i think an extrovert would have told you all about that if she really had such a past. If you care less about her past, why not go all the way? Having an abortion previously doesn't mean she cannot have babies, unless her womb is lost. . . Errm, why don't you just ask? Hard, but then. . . If she's honest like you portray her to be, she'll spill.

Goldieluks:

OP like inkie has rightly stated, it is better you sit her down and tell her how you feel.
Feel free to aks her the question but not in a direct way, use other means and if you
are really serious about having her as your other half, then it is better you make
your feelings known.

Ejiné:

Not about baby-killing, mehn!!
You don't understand. This girl is just extremely fragile. Her emotions work on some bizarre domino-like order. Little misyarns get her weeping and fighting with me! Yes, I've accepted she's not perfect; and I've found other 'corner-corner' ways to get around her moments.
But I just seem to have reached a dead-end with this abortion issue. I don't know how to go about this without getting her hurt; so here I am on the internet looking for 'mgbor'.

Bro, bear in mind that she also has her fears about you(e.g, what if he shoots blanks?). . . but she is willing to let that slide just to be with you. . .

~Killz~:

Bro, bear in mind that she also has her fears about you(e.g, what if he shoots blanks?). . . but she is willing to let that slide just to be with you. . .

freecocoa:

PS,I heard that if you suck a woman's bobbsy and milk comes out of it then it means she's had a child before or had an abortion,so try sucking as hard as your lips can,that might help. 

freecocoa:

Hmm,na wa o,OP you have a past too so its a two way street,if you are bothered you go ahead and ask her cos its not advisable to go into a union with insecurities,besides having had an abortion doesn't mean one can't conceive and being a virgin before marriage also doesn't guarantee having kids,btw that your cousin seems like an amebo.


PS,I heard that if you suck a woman's bobbsy and milk comes out of it then it means she's had a child before or had an abortion,so try sucking as hard as your lips can,that might help.

andromida:

@op I personally knw of several gals who have had up to 10 abortions . . .

Ejiné:

Okay. . . I need to be honest.
My girl and I have been dating since the late '05. I've introduced her to my older siblings, not as a "future wife" or anything, but as a girlfriend at the time (you know what I mean),  . .

What if she's lost her ability to have a child? How would I know? I don't want to ask her these troubling questions, but I also don't want to live without this vital info.
Please, ladies and enlightened peeps, are there any 'physical signs' through which I can find out?
Abeg, I no wan chop disgrace 

queensmith: Only sarcasm can fully deal with this question.

OP you cannot tell anything; there is absolutely no way of knowing, if you marry her you are submitting to the state of the unknown in which no man can cope.
One is meant to know every minute detail of a womans life before he marries her, you was meant to groom her from childhood and keep a video dossier of all her activities. You failing to do so has now lead to this connundrum.

We thank God all hope is not lost, it's not too late to visit the orphanage and adopt a little baby girl, you can groom her for 25 years.
Remember you need to keep her locked in a cell to make sure external influences of civilisation has no affect on her.
Make sure you hire Catholic Nuns to teach her the firm Catholic beliefs that shape your life.
Good luck with all that.

Ejiné: Okay. . . I need to be honest.
My girl and I have been dating since the late '05. I've introduced her to my older siblings, not as a "future wife" or anything, but as a girlfriend at the time (you know what I mean).
In our relationship though, I've been a bit conservative with 'questions' regarding her past, because I'm too careful (to a fault) in order to avoid making the people around me feel 'uncomfortable'. All the things she's told me about herself have been out of her own free will; because in our relationship, she's the extrovert (while I'm the opposite). She's adventurous (sexxually), but also emotionally fragile.

But my real problems began this January.
There's this mounting pressure on me to get married; both from parents, siblings, cousins, and even the girl herself (She hasn't been blunt per se, but I can tell from her recent talks about all her friends, roommates and colleagues getting hitched up). And even taking into consideration some sacrifices she's made for me, I'd find it difficult to forgive myself if I didn't make our union official.
However, I still have my doubts about her checkered past. Stories from my female cousin who went to the same Igbinedion Secondary School boarding house with her in her hometown back at Benin, tell me about her very loose sexxual past; about her evening sneak-outs, her 'tag-team' blah blah blah and the rest of that craap. You know, all those freakishly nasty things some people would rather forget about themselves. I wouldn't have given a damn, really, if my cousin hadn't finished it up with one final disturbing question . . . "How sure are you she hasn't even washed some out?"
Now, I'm not one to punish or treat people badly about things they long did when our paths hadn't crossed, but mehn! I was raised in a staunch Catholic family, and our views regarding the marriage institution are rather extreme - "If you can't do it in one take, don't even try at all."
I don't want to ask her these nasty questions, but it would suck if such a hideous secret only starts to gain visibility after we've wed. I could care less about how many men she's slept with (cuz I wasn't exactly Mr. Squeaky-Clean myself in my 'dorm dayz'); but it's this abortion thing that really bothers me.

What if she's lost her ability to have a child? How would I know? I don't want to ask her these troubling questions, but I also don't want to live without this vital info.
Please, ladies and enlightened peeps, are there any 'physical signs' through which I can find out?
Abeg, I no wan chop disgrace 

freecocoa:
PS,I heard that if you suck a woman's bobbsy and milk comes out of it then it means she's had a child before or had an abortion,so try sucking as hard as your lips can,that might help.