Outstrip: There is nothing I hate more than a parent that tries to turn kids against the other. Even if they are separated or divorced. it is very cruel to get kids involved in your stupid decision to marry the wrong person. Kids do not have the capacity to understand things. It is very stressful for them. Now let me go to the OPs post. I am not sure how this man told you guys this or how you have chosen to interprete it. You pointing out that her salary is meager yet she yells at him makes me feel that the man is not innocent in this. Would it be okay if she made more money? Would it be more bearable for her to keep being abusive. Anyway it's only the man that knows what really happens in his home. it looks like he and his wife are doing a fine job of destrying their home. She telling their children and he telling his coworkers

MegaG: there must be something the man is not telling. that trait was never in her b4 they got married not even b4 the kids start coming. so there must be something that led to it. women are not devils. love her and she will be submissive to u. a woman that is truly loved, cannot help but be submissive except she's a witch. guys, treat your wives well and in turn u will have a peaceful home!

geeez: There's a debate in my office about a colleague's cousin.

He's the bread winner of his home and his wife's salary is meagre. However, when there's an arguement, the wife yells at him in the presence of the kids and later tells the kids terrible things about their father. Now the guy has noticed his kids are kind of distant from him and more drawn to their mother.

Any ladies in the house? Is this normal?

harakiri:

This is perfectly NORMAL when a man decides to get married. From your post, the man is doing okay for himself and he's more or less shouldering MOST of the household responsibilities BUT he was dumb enough to go to the registry and swear his life away to a woman. If he was a "baby-daddy" doing okay for himself and having more than enough women begging for his attention, this same woman wouldn't have the effrontery to dare such nonsense. That's the cold truth.

If you're a grown man and you want kids without being manipulated by the feminine gender, then take my advice :

DON'T GET MARRIED! ! !

taryour: Op
dat man is not a full grown man yet,and i doubt if he is truely d breadwinner of d home. That woman is d kind that their husbands beat up,am sure the next time she wunt only shout on him but tie him up when he is asleep and beat him blue black with koboko,while d kids watch and laff. Foolish woman and ode man.

geeez: There's a debate in my office about a colleague's cousin.

He's the bread winner of his home and his wife's salary is meagre. However, when there's an arguement, the wife yells at him in the presence of the kids and later tells the kids terrible things about their father. Now the guy has noticed his kids are kind of distant from him and more drawn to their mother.

Any ladies in the house? Is this normal?

megawax8: u must be high on sumtin,its ladies lyk u dat end up in broken homes jst 5-10 yrs into ur marriage....work on urself now u have d tym to

Van snickers:

You are calling the man an "Ode" but if he goes all "Jim Iyke" on the Woman, it's Women like you that will call him a Monster.

Outstrip:
. . . Now let me go to the OPs post. I am not sure how this man told you guys this or how you have chosen to interprete it. [size=14pt]You pointing out that her salary is meager yet she yells at him makes me feel that the man is not innocent in this[/size] Would it be okay if she made more money? . . .

paris10:

If he had slapped her then that would sum up the point I've been trying to pass across. No excuse for a woman to shout at the husband, really? Not when he's a cheater, not when he lies all the time, not when he's a wife beater, not when he shouts at his woman in front of his kids, not when he's an egoistic maniac, not when he's a control frick, not when he gives all the money to his family and not when he doesn't pay attention to the needs of the children.

Regarding having privacy, I believe husbands should always know when katakata wan burst (lol), and take his wife to a private place to address the issue.

GboyegaD: Absolutely abnormal. To me, the guy has since lost his respect and it would be better he has a heart to heart talk with the wife to know why she is acting in the way she is and that way, they can get to resolve the matter well enough.