Vergil:

Exactly! Air brain yourself. We are all human beings. Why promoting segregation, tribalism etc.

Fair enough, everybody should use their head. But don't over play the tribe card... Dumbo!

cugresources: @vergil, yes our parents don't usually approve our marrying yorubas, cos they know more than we do plus they say how the average yoruba person can betray an Ibo during the civil war, Awolowo and his yoruba cohorts displayed that; so our parents know that yorubas hate Ibos, but our nowadays youths don't know that or they are finding it hard to realize until another crises comes up in Nigeria to teach them lesson. as a result, our Ibo youths of today are too liberal when it comes to marriage; they marry anyhow, never listen their parents becos they have come to lagos or wherever and maybe made it more than their parents, who despite whatever are more wise. saying i am a waste of space, there is no problem, we all know who we are individually, so no fight, cos the one i fought yesterday I am still trying to deal with it. so u cannot hear a word from me darling. but I insist that any Ibo girl marrying a yoruba guy is an infidel...jews don't marry palestinians no matter what, we are jewish lineage and should act as one. if u want to practice western culture, go to your land or go and preach that to europeans and americans, and ask them too why they don't marry blacks? why don't queen of england marry a black? why can't prince of england marry a black lady? ask yourselves wise men and women?

cugresources: @vergil, yes our parents don't usually approve our marrying yorubas, cos they know more than we do plus they say how the average yoruba person can betray an Ibo during the civil war, Awolowo and his yoruba cohorts displayed that; so our parents know that yorubas hate Ibos, but our nowadays youths don't know that or they are finding it hard to realize until another crises comes up in Nigeria to teach them lesson. as a result, our Ibo youths of today are too liberal when it comes to marriage; they marry anyhow, never listen their parents becos they have come to lagos or wherever and maybe made it more than their parents, who despite whatever are more wise. saying i am a waste of space, there is no problem, we all know who we are individually, so no fight, cos the one i fought yesterday I am still trying to deal with it. so u cannot hear a word from me darling. but I insist that any Ibo girl marrying a yoruba guy is an infidel...jews don't marry palestinians no matter what, we are jewish lineage and should act as one. if u want to practice western culture, go to your land or go and preach that to europeans and americans, and ask them too why they don't marry blacks? why don't queen of england marry a black? why can't prince of england marry a black lady? ask yourselves wise men and women?

PrettyCindy: @ ACIDTALK, absolutely NO i didn‘t force him ooo. I know d implications of doing that and besides i c no reason y a woman would force a man to marry her because it always backfires at the end. It was his whole idea that is y i was stunned when he suddenly declared divorce as option when he gets tired.

When i took in for him, he refused to give me money for ante-natal or register me with his office NHIS. When i askd y, he said he doesnt want anythin to do with my child, he left d house,moved into a new place with a girl he was dating in the next compound &never contactd me all thru my preg. God was really faithful and kind to me during this period.
Anyway he has not seen my baby till date.when i called him last month to discuss child support with him, he clearly said he won‘t support but if he must, he will take permission from his eldest brother (his family pushes him around). I cant depend on him or wait for him oooo, i will take care of my son.

Someone said i should lower my expectations: well when we got married (only brideprice,no ceremony)he was earning #25000 while i was earning #50000. I believe in people progressing and couples growing together.

Next time i will aim a little higher because i was taken for a ride.

cugresources: @vergil, of course all marriage experiences ups and downs irrespective of tribe or race, but tribe and religion plays a key role in the success of every marriage all over the world. read your Bible well if you are a Christian. you cannot take because u saw some uneducated poor folks fighting cos of financial problem in their marriage to classify Ibo marriages as being entirely bad. I once listened to a radio program on wazobia here in lagos on: which men amongst all the Nigerian tribes are more caring to their wives? God knows I am not telling you lies, so many callers, ladies mostly, yorubas and other tribes and Ibos too from their caller handles, said it was Ibo men, some now voted hausa men as second, while majority made it clear that yoruba men are not always caring to their wives or girlfriends, and that thats why girls from other tribes love dating or marrying Ibo men. u yourself can ascertain that truth though u may shy away from it.

Ticklishmummy:

I know what it feels like my sister,trust me when I say so cos I am speaking from personal experience.First I want you to try as much as possible not to see things from a tribal perspective,am a yoruba woman and I want you to know it is the same everywhere (men will always be men and am sure a man will say women will always be women,if this happened to him too )but whatever has happened sure has happened.Even if you had half a dozen kids,you would still find love,cos at the end of it all whatever is meant to be will SURELY be.
But one thing is this-do not lower your expectations,do not think of compromising because you think you have had a kid and so it would be more difficult to find love again.

All you need to do is take your time,take care of your child and do not STOP looking good. All the best

cugresources: @queensmith, truth hurt u know...lolz...maybe u are eying one guy from another tribe, u better look well becos i won't be around to offer u assistance then. but then i keep telling u folks that being single and free is sweet, u guys doubted me, argued me like u are doing now. tomorrow u guys will still realize the truth of my words. ask your parents questions young guys and girls, stop deciding critical things like this all by yourselves. my parents want me to marry soonest but I am not ready and thats y i am myself cos i love my freedom, but most guys won't tell u this, just becos maybe u told ur a virgin and they probably want to sleep with u and disappear, many men can go this far just to satisfy their ego. start now to learn to be happy as a single person...you ladies should stop forcing yourselves into marriage as an escape route to certain issues. if u don't stop being desperate for marriage, cases like this will keep rising daily becos men love freedom and being unattached...know it but they won't tell u just to bleep u!

cugresources: @Fresh-dude, my father is an acclaimed Ibo chief, a political caliber and a pro-biafran country, and I am his true son. of course he cannot allow any of his sons or daughters to marry an infidel: yoruba man who betrayed Ibos during civil war, we will assassinate any family member that dares that, is as simple as that. We cannot co-habit with them okay? Yes my father is deadly of course, he wants to make sure he puts his family in order not allowing one marry from fulani, sudan, palestine, somali, tsui, yoruba, etc to complicate our united great home. again he wants me to marry soon cos he deems it fit, but I am not prepared emotionally to get involved with any lady, I am enjoying my freedom okay? so don't push me to the walls, as u can see what your fellow traitors, dubious men who knew they weren't ready to take responsibilities of marriage are causing to innocent women, I know u are about to deceive one too (probably a gullible-minded Ibo girl), i pity her life.

@vergil, to stand better chances of having a sweet happy marriage, marry someone from your tribe, and who also believes in your religion. then consider his family background, which would give u an idea of his or her upbringing. meanwhile, it doesn't dispute the fact that there are successful/happy inter-tribal marriages existing, but they are in the least minority, so to stand a better chances of having a successful marriage for the singles reading this, marry your tribe, your religion, and one that has good family upbringing. period! if u guys like, curse and attack till next decade, the wise people reading this knows the truth and what is obtainable and not just speaking for the sake of faking to unite Nigeria with other tribe's head! sighs

cugresources: @vergil, yes our parents don't usually approve our marrying yorubas, cos they know more than we do plus they say how the average yoruba person can betray an Ibo during the civil war, Awolowo and his yoruba cohorts displayed that; so our parents know that yorubas hate Ibos, but our nowadays youths don't know that or they are finding it hard to realize until another crises comes up in Nigeria to teach them lesson. as a result, our Ibo youths of today are too liberal when it comes to marriage; they marry anyhow, never listen their parents becos they have come to lagos or wherever and maybe made it more than their parents, who despite whatever are more wise. saying i am a waste of space, there is no problem, we all know who we are individually, so no fight, cos the one i fought yesterday I am still trying to deal with it. so u cannot hear a word from me darling. but I insist that any Ibo girl marrying a yoruba guy is an infidel...jews don't marry palestinians no matter what, we are jewish lineage and should act as one. if u want to practice western culture, go to your land or go and preach that to europeans and americans, and ask them too why they don't marry blacks? why don't queen of england marry a black? why can't prince of england marry a black lady? ask yourselves wise men and women?

cugresources: @Fresh-dude, my father is an acclaimed Ibo chief, a political caliber and a pro-biafran country, and I am his true son. of course he cannot allow any of his sons or daughters to marry an infidel: yoruba man who betrayed Ibos during civil war, we will assassinate any family member that dares that, is as simple as that. We cannot co-habit with them okay? Yes my father is deadly of course, he wants to make sure he puts his family in order not allowing one marry from fulani, sudan, palestine, somali, tsui, yoruba, etc to complicate our united great home. again he wants me to marry soon cos he deems it fit, but I am not prepared emotionally to get involved with any lady, I am enjoying my freedom okay? so don't push me to the walls, as u can see what your fellow traitors, dubious men who knew they weren't ready to take responsibilities of marriage are causing to innocent women, I know u are about to deceive one too (probably a gullible-minded Ibo girl), i pity her life.

@vergil, to stand better chances of having a sweet happy marriage, marry someone from your tribe, and who also believes in your religion. then consider his family background, which would give u an idea of his or her upbringing. meanwhile, it doesn't dispute the fact that there are successful/happy inter-tribal marriages existing, but they are in the least minority, so to stand a better chances of having a successful marriage for the singles reading this, marry your tribe, your religion, and one that has good family upbringing. period! if u guys like, curse and attack till next decade, the wise people reading this knows the truth and what is obtainable and not just speaking for the sake of faking to unite Nigeria with other tribe's head! sighs

Dede1: @OP

You can never find love again because you goofed to have given your only love to a Yoruba man. Believe me, you deserved it. I guess or maybe another imaginary love from another Yoruba man. You are very mischievous too because you said you are from east which could mean anything however you remembered to be specific about man’s ethnicity.

cugresources:
the simple advice is that she should desist from yoruba men! desist from non-committed Christians! desist from being bossy next time! desist from leaping before looking! desist from marrying a broke guy earning less than 50k! desist from almost many things!!

Good Girl:

What made you come up with the conclusion that she was bossy?

PrettyCindy: I was married to a Yoruba man 2yrs ago (am from d East). The man is from a polygamous family and deeply believed in divorce; infact 3weeks into the marriage he suddenly decared that divorce is an option when anyone of us gets tired. Bottom line, the marriage lasted for just 7 months.

I did all I could to make our marriage work but I was totally frustrated. My pregnancy was 2 months old when he physically assaulted me repeatedly kicking my stomach. My child survived and he is 4 months old now, a healthy baby.

Now the thing is this, am a single mum now as we are finally seperated. What chances are there for single mum‘s to find love, are they discriminated against? Am not saying i want to start dating again now, i just want to know what its like for us out there.