WhiteOne: One of my husband friends was very disappointed with his sister. They are from a polygam family background; their father had two or three wife, a lot of girlfriend and 20 kids. Now this lady, herself second wife in her late 30, early 40, tried to convince her brother wife, which was leaving in the UK with their two son, to divorce him because, he was having a long-term girl friend in Nigeria.
Reason long –term girl friend became pregnant and was on her way to become wife number three.
When the brother was in money nobody said a word to the first wife, when he was taking number two back home, number two was from the same village, when number three came, the brother did not have so much money anymore and was on his way back to the UK.
What a mess, all of the men of this family have two to three wife ANS sleep around as, if there is no tomorrow. All the wife which are marring into this family, know this!
So why now the sister in low opened her mouths to the first wife of her brother, what is behind all this?

Freesia: At least you are now aware of how she rolls so it would be advisable to call her before visiting,it's kinda odd considering you used to be close but that's what she wants.
Generally it's rare to find a situation where women who used to be best of friends as single women and are still very close as sisters in law.Not sure what happens there but something changes.

Outstrip: Did you call her to tell her you were coming to her house for 1 week before you showed up?

luckgames:

Advisable to stay away from the sick lady

Olalekan 0: May God punish these sister in-laws. A friend of mine is no longer on talking terms with his four brothers now due to ill treatment he suffered in the hands of the wife of his eldest brother.His three other bros sided with the wife cos they didn't want to upset their wealthy eldest brother who made it categorically clear that whoever does not like his wife could go to hell. My good friend now lives isolatively in the US for the past 7 years,does not call home and has vowed never to come back as he feels he has no family

WhiteOne: People, Are YOU mad !!!
Not to let in your husband’s brother! He should call his brother first to register and asked for permittion to stay over for a week.
What next, if his mother would like to come, he has to ask his wife first, if this is alright?
LOL. SCHEISSE IST DASS.

Akshow: must e tell ha b4 e shw im broda haus? E must av informed es bro n e (d bro) must av informed d wyf.

Olalekan 0: May God punish these sister in-laws. A friend of mine is no longer on talking terms with his four brothers now due to ill treatment he suffered in the hands of the wife of his eldest brother.His three other bros sided with the wife cos they didn't want to upset their wealthy eldest brother who made it categorically clear that whoever does not like his wife could go to hell. My good friend now lives isolatively in the US for the past 7 years,does not call home and has vowed never to come back as he feels he has no family

Outstrip:

He is not living in isolation. He is living in peace. People can be so thick headed sometimes. Everybody else in the family is wrong but your friend is right. He said categorcally that anybody who does not like his wife should go to hell and like a typical Nigerian that is a bad thing. Afterall it is not about the man living in peace in their home for heavens sake it is about a brother that went to live with him.

DailyNews: I forgot to add that if this brother-in-law happens to become a minister or a senator tomoro, it is dis same hostile wife that will be d first to remind d husband to meet his brother to give him contract, appointment or some other favors, so y create a hostile environment now?

Now, let me share a personal family story to help other single & married ladies out there to learn. Firstly, I am d last in the family, and I am working and earning good money from my work and personal businesses, etc. why am i telling this? to let u knw that my family is able and not reliant on any one family member. again, i am d only one still living with another family member; my 2nd immediate elder broda, which its becos he is still single, & there is no need for me to rent an apartment. ok, i have one hostile sister-in-law who acts d same way d wife op narrated acts, even though we hardly visit she & her husband cos everyone is busy & engaged such dt i even feel so thirsty to see & be with my nieces & nephews, bt no time.

dis sister-in-law acts so hostile u wud wonder wots her problem, y she is eating herself cos of ppl dat kia less or not. but unknowingly for her, her husband, my brother is even tired of her ill character & made move to divorce her & remarry, so he strted a serious affairs with one girl, nd finally went to pay d girl's dowry, & we got to find out & my father said over his dead body. becos he do warn us dat once ur married, no going back, so look well. my mom said never despite dis lady's hostile & shabby character. me & my siblings said, never and even fought with him secretly. so he went behind with his friends to pay d dowry & my father found out & went to the new girls family with my brother's wedding pics, his pic with d wife & kids to shw d parents of d ne girl, & warned them to tell their daughter to keep off dt his son is married legally & traditionally, & nothing like divorce in his home, so that ws d end of it.

dis lady never knew abt dis till date even as i write dis, & will never knw cos we did it for our family image & progress. & she & her husband are living happily nw. but in her ignorance, she still keeps her hostile life towards us, & her husband has tried to no avail, but she never knew dat if nt for us the in-laws, she wud have been somewhere crying her eyes out cos my brother as we later learnt, instructed his lawyer to commence a divorce case against her, which ws stopped after our intervention. all dis she never knew.

to all single & married ladies reading this, pls embrace true love, peace & happiness at all time, dis world is nothing, if u die now everything ends; ur enemies will even come & eat & drink on ur grave. love unconditionally, love ur house maids, they are humans, ur gateman, driver, colleagues at work, pls does it take anything much to love & embrace ppl around u? remember, wives that beef or nurture hostile environment with their in-laws always live to regret it sooner or later in life, so y create one? funny enough, this lady used to be an exceptional lady when my brother was courting her, sighs. pls embrace love my dear sisters & brothers. peace!

allycat: I once had a nasty experience with my BIL,he came unannounced when already had 2 other in laws one who was very ill and needed extra care in the house with me. No problem. The same day he arrived an unknown babe came to the house and sent the night, no problem. The next day I came back from work and met yet another girl in my house. Because there were already guest he was sleeping in my room and the next morning this girl was wearing my nightie. He is older than my husband who was not in town the day he arrived, so I kept my mouth shut till my husband arrived the 2nd evening.I then told my husband that I would tolerate a lot but not anyone using my matrimonial home as a brothel, he had a talk with his brother and the girl left the following day as it was already late when my husband returned. After that I could do nothing right, my peices of meat were too small. I sat at table without waiting for him, I greeted him one kind in the morning, the list went on and on. Meanwhile this guy came into the country from UK,didn't bring as much as a pin for my husband, hid milk, juice and cereals in his room and only brought them out when he finished what was in my fridge and pantry. At a time he wanted to take my car to go visit his friends when he knew that my other in law had a hospital appointment and said I should take the man to hospital in a taxi. My husband and I don't even share soap or towels, but this my lovely BIL's girlfriends were using my nightwear, towels, soap and cosmetics. I threw away a couple of things after his visit, i couldnt bring myself to use them again. After about 2 weeks he moved out to a hotel cos even his own sister refused to have him stay in her house with his girlfriends which she said her husband would find insulting.but I was still blamed for making him uncomfortable in his brothers own house.
Some in laws can take the piss. He stopped talking to me for almost a year and boy was I glad. I had my peace. We have made up now and I don't know what his brother said to him he treats my home with much more respect cos he comes into town almost every 6 months and spends about 2 to 4 weeks with us. The only thing I do is when I know he is coming I jack my husband for extra housekeeping so that his brother can eat big big meat. Shebi the size of my meat was one of the things he complained of.

Outstrip:

It is not her brothers house. It is the home they have both built together. This is the problem with Africans especially Nigerians. No sense of boundaries. In life there are boundaries for everything. Even animals learn boundaries. The ones who don't end up in a cooking pot. Nigerians will like to hold on to concepts that even animals have somehow found a way to deal with. I cannot call my sister and tell her that I am coming to "her" house. When my brother marries tomorrow I will not be going to "his" house. We need to learn to be civil to each other. Funny how we are quick to blame the woman when the poster has acknowledged that she just assumed it was okay. Honestly it is just bad behavior. It does notmatter if she was staying for 1 hour or 1 week.

Basics007:
I noticed the wife wasn't that receptive towards me. It initially started with subtle things like taking the infant away from me while playing with him,grumbling all around the house like an housefly etc Then it progressed to locking the kitchen,hiding small stuffs like buckets,soaps etc. It wasn't as if she was overtly hostile towards me but i could sense that my presence wasn't totally welcome in the house. I tried to remember if i did anything wrong but but couldn't really place my finger on anything. In short I couldn't wait for the 1 week to be over before i ran like a bat out of hell from the house cos to be frank i wasn't comfortable at all there.

naijapay:

What a BIL! Some people are so rude and show absolutely no respect for others! Even the galfriends no get shame sef! He was really taking the piss!