Skii: This goes without saying

It depends on the platform from which you are making the conversation. In this regard, I take it that you are speaking to ladies from the approacher or potential toaster point of view.


Depending on the quality of the lady as well as your own quality and especially what you say (since most women are moved by what they hear), the first moments are very important.
What you say, don't say or how you say what you say determines the level of responses you get and I daresay regardless of the mood, except she has been befallen by some extreme tragedy which is hardly the case.

Advice, too much preparation for conversation and too much confidence building dey kill. You have to work yourself up to that natural masculine level of confidence that can get you into any conversation with anybody and sustain it. [/b]

pendo89: Yes I am guilty of this.Will tell you why and when I use it.
1. If I am to busy concentrating on something and he keeps pestering when I have no time for stories I use yes /no/later /wait.
At that moment my concentration on him is 2%
2. If I am very bored or moody and don't feel like talking.At times you just want some peace and quiteness. So one word answers work.
3. If I want to create suspense and make you probe further ie if I am in a happy mood.I will always explain if you probe cz that is the fun am getting at.
4. If you are a plain bore and I have no interest.I use them to politely cut you off instead of being direct and rude. Its for you to sense I have no interest and leave me alone.
Note.If a girl is into you she will keep stealing glances and checking your face and body. If not she looks the other way while giving short answers.


Thanks babe-you are da bomb.

pendo89:

Now that man understands it well.

very very important. Those who haven't mastered the art of talk use money to entice. And they boast of winning any girl.It works.But you are still a loser if you cant charm your way into a girl's heart through talk! not pocket.

Theres nothing worse than a man who tries too hard to strike a conversation and sustain it. Some ask the wrong questions at the right time. Others ask right questions at the wrong time.
Some men have mastered it and what they do is read the girl before bombarding her with unnecessary queries.

MRbrownJAY:

bro, i disagree with you, as it all has to do with how you approach your intended "target".

@OP
if you give this lady the chance to give you BS answers then she will, so change your tactics and get this lady involved and comfortable with you. here are just a few questions that CANNOT be answered with one liner answers:
- oh you are a student, so why did you decide to study medicine/law etc?
- there was a huge traffic jam on the way, how did you manage to come here so quick?
- woah you are a lawyer/doctor, tell me how exciting or boring a day at work is?
- really, you are from Kaduna? so how different life is, now that you are living in Lagos then?
- are you single, really.......so why/how did your last r/ship ended?
- why is a beautiful girl like you single?
- he cheated on you? but how did you found out and how involved in the r/ship were you at the time?
- how do you view men now that you have been burned ONCE?

anyway you can clearly see where i am going with this: GET HER INVOLVED IN THE DISCUSSION, and when she finally relaxes around you, it will come out naturally out of her mouth.

Kevin_II:
silumyemi let us go on a date and after that we will go to my room i want to show you something

warrior101:


I have been watching this topic like forever... You sound like a perfectionist from what you've been saying. Not that's its bad or good but i think you should slow down because everything has +/- side to it... Guys are humans and should be seen as one...

These kind of girls are to be seen as men haterz... They think we should be like this and that or do it like this and that before this and that can happen whereas they themselves are not good... (now i am not referring you you here my dear sister)... Cheerio

pendo89: Yes I am guilty of this.Will tell you why and when I use it.
1. If I am to busy concentrating on something and he keeps pestering when I have no time for stories I use yes /no/later /wait.
At that moment my concentration on him is 2%
2. If I am very bored or moody and don't feel like talking.At times you just want some peace and quiteness. So one word answers work.
3. If I want to create suspense and make you probe further ie if I am in a happy mood.I will always explain if you probe cz that is the fun am getting at.
4. If you are a plain bore and I have no interest.I use them to politely cut you off instead of being direct and rude. Its for you to sense I have no interest and leave me alone.
Note.If a girl is into you she will keep stealing glances and checking your face and body. If not she looks the other way while giving short answers.

Kevin_II:
silumyemi let us go on a date and after that we will go to my room i want to show you something

Kevin_II:
silumyemi let us go on a date and after that we will go to my room i want to show you something

Risky_mallam: Well, you can always joke about her being "mono-syllabic" by insinuating that it seems she doesn't have much words in her vocabulary.

Has always worked for me.

Scash: There are open questions and there are OPEN questions. Personally, I admit I'm nt good at starting conversations with guys I'm not close to, so I usually wait for them to take the lead... But some guys, jeez! Wen dey ask some questions one word ansas wld even be too much, I don't ansa at all
There was I guy I usd to knw. His questns r plain irritatin 'u'v eaten what did u eat' and maybe I say 'rice'. He'd be like 'Woowww!! Rice! (as if rice was one food thrown down from saturn), den he'l start really pestering u on his own share (that's his own idea of a joke)
So wen he asks questns like that, I just ignore him... Cos we'd go thru d same boring conversatn again...

And I don't tink dt makes me rude or a snob

Scash: There are open questions and there are OPEN questions. Personally, I admit I'm nt good at starting conversations with guys I'm not close to, so I usually wait for them to take the lead... But some guys, jeez! Wen dey ask some questions one word ansas wld even be too much, I don't ansa at all
There was I guy I usd to knw. His questns r plain irritatin 'u'v eaten what did u eat' and maybe I say 'rice'. He'd be like 'Woowww!! Rice! (as if rice was one food thrown down from saturn), den he'l start really pestering u on his own share (that's his own idea of a joke)
So wen he asks questns like that, I just ignore him... Cos we'd go thru d same boring conversatn again...

And I don't tink dt makes me rude or a snob

Adaeze003: I do that when I'm busy, not interested atm and when I'm piss₹d. As for how to cope, you can flaunt your fun side/sense of humor by making a joke out of it. If she's not buying it just take a walk.. ..

Scash: There are open questions and there are OPEN questions. Personally, I admit I'm nt good at starting conversations with guys I'm not close to, so I usually wait for them to take the lead... But some guys, jeez! Wen dey ask some questions one word ansas wld even be too much, I don't ansa at all
There was I guy I usd to knw. His questns r plain irritatin 'u'v eaten what did u eat' and maybe I say 'rice'. He'd be like 'Woowww!! Rice! (as if rice was one food thrown down from saturn), den he'l start really pestering u on his own share (that's his own idea of a joke)
So wen he asks questns like that, I just ignore him... Cos we'd go thru d same boring conversatn again...

And I don't tink dt makes me rude or a snob

MRbrownJAY:

bro, i disagree with you, as it all has to do with how you approach your intended "target".

@OP
if you give this lady the chance to give you BS answers then she will, so change your tactics and get this lady involved and comfortable with you. here are just a few questions that CANNOT be answered with one liner answers:
- oh you are a student, so why did you decide to study medicine/law etc?
- there was a huge traffic jam on the way, how did you manage to come here so quick?
- woah you are a lawyer/doctor, tell me how exciting or boring a day at work is?
- really, you are from Kaduna? so how different life is, now that you are living in Lagos then?
- are you single, really.......so why/how did your last r/ship ended?
- why is a beautiful girl like you single?
- he cheated on you? but how did you found out and how involved in the r/ship were you at the time?
- how do you view men now that you have been burned ONCE?

anyway you can clearly see where i am going with this: GET HER INVOLVED IN THE DISCUSSION, and when she finally relaxes around you, it will come out naturally out of her mouth.

MRbrownJAY:

bro, i disagree with you, as it all has to do with how you approach your intended "target".

@OP
if you give this lady the chance to give you BS answers then she will, so change your tactics and get this lady involved and comfortable with you. here are just a few questions that CANNOT be answered with one liner answers:
- oh you are a student, so why did you decide to study medicine/law etc?
- there was a huge traffic jam on the way, how did you manage to come here so quick?
- woah you are a lawyer/doctor, tell me how exciting or boring a day at work is?
- really, you are from Kaduna? so how different life is, now that you are living in Lagos then?
- are you single, really.......so why/how did your last r/ship ended?
- why is a beautiful girl like you single?
- he cheated on you? but how did you found out and how involved in the r/ship were you at the time?
- how do you view men now that you have been burned ONCE?

anyway you can clearly see where i am going with this: GET HER INVOLVED IN THE DISCUSSION, and when she finally relaxes around you, it will come out naturally out of her mouth.