Luxythere: Next time he begins to beat you.
Tell him his daughter is watching and that's what she will expect from a man who is supposed to love and protect her.
His son is watching and will most likely treat his wife like this
Finally its not about you two...You have kids and must respect each other.

taryour:
do u tok back at ur husband when he is angry? Do u take to corections wen he corects u or u keep repeting d same thing? Does he drink or smoke? Wot are dose things u do to make him beat u and send him out of d house?do u prepare his food on time? Do u nag?do u deny him sex?

Ifymma: I want to share this with you and probably hear your opinion. My husband buys me virtually everything i want including my children, we lack nothing in terms clothing. In terms of foodstuff he buys bag of rice before the old one finishes he has purchase and other one, but provision and everything in the house he provides all for us. He always tells me he loves me But each time i do any little thing to offend him he always gets annoyed and at times beats me and send me out of the house, this makes me hate him because i feel he doesnt love me. Please let me know (Do he really love[color=#990000][/color] me?)

Ifymma: I want to share this with you and probably hear your opinion. My husband buys me virtually everything i want including my children, we lack nothing in terms clothing. In terms of foodstuff he buys bag of rice before the old one finishes he has purchase and other one, but provision and everything in the house he provides all for us. He always tells me he loves me But each time i do any little thing to offend him he always gets annoyed and at times beats me and send me out of the house, this makes me hate him because i feel he doesnt love me. Please let me know (Do he really love[color=#990000][/color] me?)

ronkebp: @ Poster...just invest in a 'karate school" and learn how to fight.....when you are ready, take your kids away from the home,as in keep them away form the boxing arena,. get gloves and nice sneakers, and both of you should fight wella....when you do this for the next three fights beating his arse too, he will stop beating you, violent men only know one langauge, 'violence"!!!!!!!!!. No matter how submuissive you are, you will still receive slap for forgetting to put water on the table for him to wash his hands.

jason123: OP
Most what you read here are from a woman's point of view except this:



The key word is: DO YOU TAKE TO CORRECTION WHENEVER YOU HAVE YOUR TALKS WITH HIM? As a guy, it can be frustrating when you have to correct your spouse especially after you two have been together for so long . . .it would seem as if you are deliberately trying to frustrate him.

Woman, your husband LOVES you! Take that from me! Now, he wants you to love him back by not frustrating him. Once he corrects you, take it to heart and work on it. I am sure when he sees your "EFFORT" in that aspect, he will not touch you again, not to talk of beat you! If you think he does not love you and you move out or do shakara. Trust me, MANY other women will take your place and actually work on themselves to make their him happy!

About working to start contributing to the home: It does not change a thing! If you try to frustrate him by not taking to correction or talk back because you now earn, he will be more frustrated! Be a submissive woman and he will shower you with more love! God bless!

Remember, he loves you o! Don't ruin your marriage! Take care and may the Lord give you wisdom!

Outstrip:

Do you take correction when your wife talks to you. When you don't can she slap you around like the family's unwanted dog. Nonsense. You had to go throw God into your useless posts. Who is ruining the marraige the raging bull or the one who is being oppressed. Nonsense. Nigerians and their oppressive mentality. When it comes to suffering Nigerians are always proud to take first place. Wearing the badge of suffering with pride. Please just because you can settle for a life of suffering does not mean that you should inflict it on others. Which many other women will take her place? Yes of course. The ones that have also be indoctrinated by people like you. Stay married or die trying. Stay and endure. God is on the throne. God's time is the best. Tufiakwa. Please do not get me started today

Outstrip: I am trying joor. That poster just wanted to awaken the beast. I am saving my energy for my crazy schedule. I try to come here and chill and he/she decided to provoke me

MRbrownJAY: @OP
this guy

MRbrownJAY:
btw: many men only have to open their bible to believe that they are the HEAD of the family....and therefore whatever they say, goes.

Johndoe100:

Who is "this guy"? You mean her husband?



Boy aren't they primitive? Imagine believing the bible, how African can you get.

jason123:
Johndeo100, I am glad you are here. So, tell me, I could I have been chatting with myself in the politics section yet, type this down. SMH! Dude, you are/were simply paranoid.

Johndoe100: Who is "this guy"? You mean her husband?

jason123:

Woman, I don't know why you are bitter but I have this to tell you.

First of all, my spouse corrects me whenever she sees something she does not like and I take to correction (though, not everything because somethings are what makes me a man. They are my character). She said I shout a lot when I get angry and I took it to heart and changed. I prayed about it with her and CHANGED! I only shout on an average of once every six months and that's if she really annoys me.

Look, in a relationship, the two (man and woman) should respect eachother and try to make eachother HAPPY! If the man does not like what she does, why does she not want to change? Is it until the man finds his happiness outside the home she will change? After all, the man does all his duties and makes sure she lacks NOTHING!

About the violence part, I have never beaten my spouse because my anger sends the message I want it to send. I also annoy her and she passes the message across in whichever way she deems appropriate! We (my woman and I) are PARTNERS!


I am a man, I know the feeling! The woman in question here (OP) does not take his rage serious and therefore, she thinks its okay to do whatever annoys him again and again and again!

What the man is going through is EMOTIONAL ABUSE! and when he could not take it anymore, he translated that to PHYSICAL ABUSE! He simply wanted his spouse to feel what he is going through! We men have emotions as well. When women do somethings, its painful but we take it up the chin and not talk but it does not mean we don't feel it!


OP, you better change your ways and take his correction to heart and I am sure he will NEVER touch you again. Be happy for your husband LOVES YOU DEEPLY (that is why he cares at all)! Please, try to love him back!

ronkebp: @ Poster...just invest in a 'karate school" and learn how to fight.....when you are ready, take your kids away from the home,as in keep them away form the boxing arena,. get gloves and nice sneakers, and both of you should fight wella....when you do this for the next three fights beating his arse too, he will stop beating you, violent men only know one langauge, 'violence"!!!!!!!!!. No matter how submuissive you are, you will still receive slap for forgetting to put water on the table for him to wash his hands.

taryour:

jenny do u realy need to use insultive words?are there no other ways to pass a mesage across without insults? I just hope u dont use such words in ur home at ur kids when u are angry.

jennykadry:

Ehen woman, what scores have you got to settle with me now?

taryour:


ronke don kill me with laff today ooo.
But madam dont o tink dat would anger him more,n dont forget he is alot more stonger,d more she fight back d more she gets beating. Wot is she dies ( God forbid) in d procces

taryour:


my God am loving this.

@op. Let me teach wot works for my family. Eact time my hubby is mad at me, i simply keep qiute,listen to him,say less,pretend am not angry,at d end i apologise even it am not wrong. All d while i was quite i was takin good note of all d complains so i dont repeat them. I cant stand my hubby anger so dats wot ido,i predend am not angry cos i also av a bad temper,now imnagine i reply or argue wen he is angry n corecting me,ofcourse he will get more angry more n my own added to it will simply bring down d roof on my head and i will eventualy get more bitter. If dis should go on in a marriage will destroy d love n peace i dat home. So i av learnt to keep quite,listen,takenote of his point,pretend am not angry.
Ater his anger must av gone down,he is more relaxed after a warm bath,i serve him his meal. After eating i bring up a joke or we plane our ps2 together, while d joke is on i simply in a very humble n respectable way ask him " baby dont u thgink u were to harsh on me wen u were angry ?" while i say this,i watch out for d expression on his face,if i read any signs of anger coming up again,i keep quite n change topic. D rest will b solved inside d bedroom on our bed as usual. Some times i dont even raise d issue untill he goes out,then ui invite him for a chat were we iron it out online cos we chat alot. We as women could make our man apologise to us even if they did not ofend us. I can proudly say since i got married,i an never shouted ,argue,talk back e,t.c at my hubby n it as realy help me. D onky pple dat feelk my anger are those outside my home.

taryour:


my God am loving this.

@op. Let me teach wot works for my family. Eact time my hubby is mad at me, i simply keep qiute,listen to him,say less,pretend am not angry,at d end i apologise even it am not wrong. All d while i was quite i was takin good note of all d complains so i dont repeat them. I cant stand my hubby anger so dats wot ido,i predend am not angry cos i also av a bad temper,now imnagine i reply or argue wen he is angry n corecting me,ofcourse he will get more angry more n my own added to it will simply bring down d roof on my head and i will eventualy get more bitter. If dis should go on in a marriage will destroy d love n peace i dat home. So i av learnt to keep quite,listen,takenote of his point,pretend am not angry.
Ater his anger must av gone down,he is more relaxed after a warm bath,i serve him his meal. After eating i bring up a joke or we plane our ps2 together, while d joke is on i simply in a very humble n respectable way ask him " baby dont u thgink u were to harsh on me wen u were angry ?" while i say this,i watch out for d expression on his face,if i read any signs of anger coming up again,i keep quite n change topic. D rest will b solved inside d bedroom on our bed as usual. Some times i dont even raise d issue untill he goes out,then ui invite him for a chat were we iron it out online cos we chat alot. We as women could make our man apologise to us even if they did not ofend us. I can proudly say since i got married,i an never shouted ,argue,talk back e,t.c at my hubby n it as realy help me. D onky pple dat feelk my anger are those outside my home.

ronkebp:

Tayour i really do not know what you do to your hubby that makes him so mad to the point that he would start to rant on you, why you keep quiet and listen? i am trying to think, the only time i can see my hubby displaying is when i bring a man home to our matrimonial bed or steal his money to go and build a house in lekki< or else i really can't remember my hubby shouting at me as if i was a little child.

Outstrip:


You project the anger on innocent outsiders. I am sure the housemaid chops multiple slaps for no apparent reason. You reasoning and advice is dangerous.

Outstrip:


You project the anger on innocent outsiders. I am sure the housemaid chops multiple slaps for no apparent reason. You reasoning and advice is dangerous.