ronkebp:

Oh so you have not seen where women beat their hubbys' to coma right? my dear, they are many outside, some of these men with their bragodo, get flogged by a woman and not all men are stronger than the women. At least even if she does not win the fight, she can match up to him. It is nonsense to be receiving beatings from a man who is supposed to be your husband and not a father!!!.Any woman that receives a slap from a man and stands there quiet, is digging her grave, small-small.

jason123: OP
Most what you read here are from a woman's point of view except this:



The key word is: DO YOU TAKE TO CORRECTION WHENEVER YOU HAVE YOUR TALKS WITH HIM? As a guy, it can be frustrating when you have to correct your spouse especially after you two have been together for so long . . .it would seem as if you are deliberately trying to frustrate him.

Woman, your husband LOVES you! Take that from me! Now, he wants you to love him back by not frustrating him. Once he corrects you, take it to heart and work on it. I am sure when he sees your "EFFORT" in that aspect, he will not touch you again, not to talk of beat you! If you think he does not love you and you move out or do shakara. Trust me, MANY other women will take your place and actually work on themselves to make their him happy!

About working to start contributing to the home: It does not change a thing! If you try to frustrate him by not taking to correction or talk back because you now earn, he will be more frustrated! Be a submissive woman and he will shower you with more love! God bless!

Remember, he loves you o! Don't ruin your marriage! Take care and may the Lord give you wisdom!

taryour:

madam ronke its been very long my hubby got angry with me cos i av learnt not to get him get him angry anymore. And pls my hubby does not rant. Tnx ma

taryour:


my God am loving this.

@op. Let me teach wot works for my family. Eact time my hubby is mad at me, i simply keep qiute,listen to him,say less,pretend am not angry,at d end i apologise even it am not wrong. All d while i was quite i was takin good note of all d complains so i dont repeat them. I cant stand my hubby anger so dats wot ido,i predend am not angry cos i also av a bad temper,now imnagine i reply or argue wen he is angry n corecting me,ofcourse he will get more angry more n my own added to it will simply bring down d roof on my head and i will eventualy get more bitter. If dis should go on in a marriage will destroy d love n peace i dat home. So i av learnt to keep quite,listen,takenote of his point,pretend am not angry.
Ater his anger must av gone down,he is more relaxed after a warm bath,i serve him his meal. After eating i bring up a joke or we plane our ps2 together, while d joke is on i simply in a very humble n respectable way ask him " baby dont u thgink u were to harsh on me wen u were angry ?" while i say this,i watch out for d expression on his face,if i read any signs of anger coming up again,i keep quite n change topic. D rest will b solved inside d bedroom on our bed as usual. Some times i dont even raise d issue untill he goes out,then ui invite him for a chat were we iron it out online cos we chat alot. We as women could make our man apologise to us even if they did not ofend us. I can proudly say since i got married,i an never shouted ,argue,talk back e,t.c at my hubby n it as realy help me. D onky pple dat feelk my anger are those outside my home.

jason123: OP
Most what you read here are from a woman's point of view except this:



The key word is: DO YOU TAKE TO CORRECTION WHENEVER YOU HAVE YOUR TALKS WITH HIM? As a guy, it can be frustrating when you have to correct your spouse especially after you two have been together for so long . . .it would seem as if you are deliberately trying to frustrate him.

Woman, your husband LOVES you! Take that from me! Now, he wants you to love him back by not frustrating him. Once he corrects you, take it to heart and work on it. I am sure when he sees your "EFFORT" in that aspect, he will not touch you again, not to talk of beat you! If you think he does not love you and you move out or do shakara. Trust me, MANY other women will take your place and actually work on themselves to make their him happy!

About working to start contributing to the home: It does not change a thing! If you try to frustrate him by not taking to correction or talk back because you now earn, he will be more frustrated! Be a submissive woman and he will shower you with more love! God bless!

Remember, he loves you o! Don't ruin your marriage! Take care and may the Lord give you wisdom!

taryour:


my God am loving this.

@op. Let me teach wot works for my family. Eact time my hubby is mad at me, i simply keep qiute,listen to him,say less,pretend am not angry,at d end i apologise even it am not wrong. All d while i was quite i was takin good note of all d complains so i dont repeat them. I cant stand my hubby anger so dats wot ido,i predend am not angry cos i also av a bad temper,now imnagine i reply or argue wen he is angry n corecting me,ofcourse he will get more angry more n my own added to it will simply bring down d roof on my head and i will eventualy get more bitter. If dis should go on in a marriage will destroy d love n peace i dat home. So i av learnt to keep quite,listen,takenote of his point,pretend am not angry.
Ater his anger must av gone down,he is more relaxed after a warm bath,i serve him his meal. After eating i bring up a joke or we plane our ps2 together, while d joke is on i simply in a very humble n respectable way ask him " baby dont u thgink u were to harsh on me wen u were angry ?" while i say this,i watch out for d expression on his face,if i read any signs of anger coming up again,i keep quite n change topic. D rest will b solved inside d bedroom on our bed as usual. Some times i dont even raise d issue untill he goes out,then ui invite him for a chat were we iron it out online cos we chat alot. We as women could make our man apologise to us even if they did not ofend us. I can proudly say since i got married,i an never shouted ,argue,talk back e,t.c at my hubby n it as realy help me. D onky pple dat feelk my anger are those outside my home.

ronkebp: ^^^^^^^^^ why should he shout in the first place, is he in the zoo? that 'being quiet' until he calms down, works definitely but such attitude will never cease, he will always shout and end up apologising. why shout then?

taryour:


my God am loving this.

@op. Let me teach wot works for my family. Eact time my hubby is mad at me, i simply keep qiute,listen to him,say less,pretend am not angry,at d end i apologise even it am not wrong. All d while i was quite i was takin good note of all d complains so i dont repeat them. I cant stand my hubby anger so dats wot ido,i predend am not angry cos i also av a bad temper,now imnagine i reply or argue wen he is angry n corecting me,ofcourse he will get more angry more n my own added to it will simply bring down d roof on my head and i will eventualy get more bitter. If dis should go on in a marriage will destroy d love n peace i dat home. So i av learnt to keep quite,listen,takenote of his point,pretend am not angry.
Ater his anger must av gone down,he is more relaxed after a warm bath,i serve him his meal. After eating i bring up a joke or we plane our ps2 together, while d joke is on i simply in a very humble n respectable way ask him " baby dont u thgink u were to harsh on me wen u were angry ?" while i say this,i watch out for d expression on his face,if i read any signs of anger coming up again,i keep quite n change topic. D rest will b solved inside d bedroom on our bed as usual. Some times i dont even raise d issue untill he goes out,then ui invite him for a chat were we iron it out online cos we chat alot. We as women could make our man apologise to us even if they did not ofend us. I can proudly say since i got married,i an never shouted ,argue,talk back e,t.c at my hubby n it as realy help me. D onky pple dat feelk my anger are those outside my home.

taryour:

outstrip,i av no maid in my house,n d last time i ad a very bad temper was before i got angry. I av snce learnt to apply d same style outside. But if it is warranted,i give out my venom to whom ever deserves it accordinly. It would b wicked of me to hurt or abuse an innocent person.

stillwater:

Would you let out the venom if it is also warranted at your husband?

armyofone: @ taryour

hahahahahaa,
lady, are you joking
so you and hubby use kpesu solve matter?
oh well.
why i go dey act all nice and cool if hubby is the cause of the hassle?
ummm
he better apologize with 12 Roses must be white. Or red Lilies.

cotton101: can someone please explain to me what responsibility a husband has to make his wife happy - all i am reading is how you should watch ur husbands mood, correct your behaviour, lose weight, dress well, be submissive, don't get a job, don't shout, cook his fav food , give him mind blowing sex upside down, but apparently all a husband has to do to prove his love is buy a bag of rice and job is done - so what my father told me about married life was all a lie,


it take 2 people to make a marriage work, I always thought both parties had to be happy in the marriage.

taryour:

yes oo,dat as been workin for me n at d end i even get more dan 12 roses.

jennykadry:

I honestly think this is richy using another ID

jennykadry:

I honestly think this is richy using another ID

Sisi_Kill:
Lmfao.

Jenny stop finding my Richy's trouble oh! How can you say a whole Richy. . the Alpha male of the family section is pretending to be a woman.

Take it back now! Take it back I say!!

jennykadry:

Take kini back. That poster lives and breaths of richy. She sounds 100% like him. Now I cannot figure out richys gender. Solve the puzzle with me sisi

maclatunji: This competition over advice should stop now. If you want to pound your husband to submission please feel free to do so and if you want to roll-over on the floor to please your husband feel free to do that as well. See ehn, me I don't mind you guys e-fighting but find a single thread to do it so that we can go and watch the fight there. Let other threads be clean.

taryour:

mac ur point is noted jare,tnx.

bennyraz: The poster didn't even respond to anybody's question. She opened a thread & left people to make unnecessary assumptions. Really, it's just silly & rude of her for not replying anybody. Maybe that's why her husband use to beat her. Afterall it's a one sided story. We have not heard from the husband.

maclatunji:

Bros. you sef na wah for you. You know it is not easy for someone to start a thread. You now get the courage to start the thread and what do you find in a short space of time? People coming out with their Virtual 'AK-47s, Kalashnikovs, Rocket Launchers, Mortars, RPGs etc.' They fire without hesitation and restraint, what would you do as a non-combatant? You lie flat on the ground and if available a trench before you take a hit from the crossfire.

So do not blame OP.

jason123:

My woman, we are all humans. As humans, we have emotions; happiness and sadness, joy and sorrow, laughter and anger.

Now, anger is divided into two: 1) Implosive anger and explosive anger.

I'll advise you to appreciate a man that has explosive anger rather implosive anger.
The women who get killed by their husbands is due to implosive anger. They kept the anger bottled up and in one day, they let it all out and do crazy things.

Explosive anger is done by shouting. You need to let out the steam in one way or the other! Shouting is definitely better than violence or keeping quiet!

We have to be pragmatic with these situations. He is human and he exhibits his emotions and pains in the right way for her to get the message.

But because we men also love our women, we feel their hurt. Therefore, we apologize as soon as we realize that our woman is not happy. A happy wife is a happy home!

ronkebp:
You are right Jason, but whether implosive or explosive, 'shouting' unnecessarily is a 'behaviour' that was acquired over time and has become part of the "shouter" (if english will permit me to use that word), now the "shoutee" is receiving different signals from that behaviour, i think as matured people we should learn to control our emotions, doing that separates us from animals. Especially when you are talking to your spouse. As a human being that also has an 'explosive emotional make-up" i don't expect anyone to shout at me if you are not my parents, that 'shout' can bring out the beast in me.

jason123: OP
Most what you read here are from a woman's point of view except this:



The key word is: DO YOU TAKE TO CORRECTION WHENEVER YOU HAVE YOUR TALKS WITH HIM? As a guy, it can be frustrating when you have to correct your spouse especially after you two have been together for so long . . .it would seem as if you are deliberately trying to frustrate him.

Woman, your husband LOVES you! Take that from me! Now, he wants you to love him back by not frustrating him. [size=14pt]Once he corrects you, take it to heart and work on it. I am sure when he sees your "EFFORT" in that aspect, he will not touch you again, not to talk of beat you! [/size] If you think he does not love you and you move out or do shakara. Trust me, MANY other women will take your place and actually work on themselves to make their him happy!

About working to start contributing to the home: It does not change a thing! If you try to frustrate him by not taking to correction or talk back because you now earn, he will be more frustrated! Be a submissive woman and he will shower you with more love! God bless!

Remember, he loves you o! Don't ruin your marriage! Take care and may the Lord give you wisdom!