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Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 6:09pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
ronkebp: madam ronke it sure happens,i av heard n av seen on 2 occations n realy dat day i ad d best laff in a very long while. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by NaJoke2000: 6:26pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
jason123: OP Gbam!!! Love is not a one way road. Can any lady tell me categorically dat a man dat does not beat his wife, wld definately love her? Nobody supports beating or abuse. We shld not jump to conclusion. Dis story is not complete. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by ronkebp(f): 6:41pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
taryour: Ok, i did not use 'rant' in a derogatory way, i just equated his anger with how the words will be coming out of him, there is no way you can talk or advice in a subtle tone when you are angry. Oh well!!! i get the he does not get angry anylonger part, but i still wondered what you did that made him that angry. It is not that people or marraiges do not go through rough edges, we all go through marital problems, but there are different levels of problems. In my home, we correct with respect, my hubby cannot shout at me, i can never shout at him, no matter how angry i am, 'i take a deep breath, then say, you know! you should not have dropped this here or there', and let me tell you, that,'notshouting thing did not just happen in one day, my hubby is very demanding, but God gave him a wahala woman, so we are rubbing off eachothers' ego. He knows better than to shout at me all in the name of "correction". Then to say as if shouting is not bad-enough, then you will add kpankere ontop? HMmmmmmmmm!!!!!!! |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 6:43pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
taryour: Very intelligent post from a true African lady. OP,It would do you a world of good to study this post very well and let it be a guidance to your foot steps in matrimony. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 6:50pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
jason123: OP OP, A word is enough for the wise wife. Once you are submissive and work on correcting your mistakes that annoy your husband you are half way to success. I wish you well and hope you make the right choice,but remember you are wearing the shoe and know where it pinches you.Your husband cares for you and provides for you-put in a little effort to meet him half way and be the loving wife in whom your husband is well pleased. Goodluck. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by jason123: 7:24pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
taryour: This is exactly the same way my woman handles such issues! You two must be twins! At the end of the day, I always apologize because I see that she is hurt by my comments or rage but I also see that she gets the point I was trying to pass across. Women, once you can be like this woman above. You'll enjoy your relationship because after your husband shouts or whatever, he will have a re-think and apologize (if you deserve an apology or he was too harsh) and try not to hurt you again (at least you'll see the effort on his part). Women, take note. This is the way you handle your husband and before you know it, you'll be in control because you are the neck and the neck ALWAYS turns the head! |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by ronkebp(f): 8:06pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
^^^^^^^^^ why should he shout in the first place, is he in the zoo? that 'being quiet' until he calms down, works definitely but such attitude will never cease, he will always shout and end up apologising. why shout then? |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by jason123: 8:44pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
ronkebp: ^^^^^^^^^ why should he shout in the first place, is he in the zoo? that 'being quiet' until he calms down, works definitely but such attitude will never cease, he will always shout and end up apologising. why shout then? My woman, we are all humans. As humans, we have emotions; happiness and sadness, joy and sorrow, laughter and anger. Now, anger is divided into two: 1) Implosive anger and explosive anger. I'll advise you to appreciate a man that has explosive anger rather implosive anger. The women who get killed by their husbands is due to implosive anger. They kept the anger bottled up and in one day, they let it all out and do crazy things. Explosive anger is done by shouting. You need to let out the steam in one way or the other! Shouting is definitely better than violence or keeping quiet! We have to be pragmatic with these situations. He is human and he exhibits his emotions and pains in the right way for her to get the message. But because we men also love our women, we feel their hurt. Therefore, we apologize as soon as we realize that our woman is not happy. A happy wife is a happy home! |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 9:28pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
taryour: Taryour this isn't good advice you are puuting all the responsibility of a successful rship on the wife watching her hubby's mood. Na weather him be? He may be going through a phase and she may have some adjustments to make but nothing justifies him treating her like an animal but from what I have noticed such men do not change until they get to 60 yrs when op has spent her youth walking on eggshell around him. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
taryour: Would you let out the venom if it is also warranted at your husband? |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 11:07pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
stillwater: my husband dosnt live outside my home. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by armyofone(m): 11:14pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
@ taryour hahahahahaa, lady, are you joking so you and hubby use kpesu solve matter? oh well. why i go dey act all nice and cool if hubby is the cause of the hassle? ummm he better apologize with 12 Roses must be white. Or red Lilies. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 11:39pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
armyofone: @ taryour yes oo,dat as been workin for me n at d end i even get more dan 12 roses. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 11:55pm On Apr 25, 2012 |
can someone please explain to me what responsibility a husband has to make his wife happy - all i am reading is how you should watch ur husbands mood, correct your behaviour, lose weight, dress well, be submissive, don't get a job, don't shout, cook his fav food , give him mind blowing sex upside down, but apparently all a husband has to do to prove his love is buy a bag of rice and job is done - so what my father told me about married life was all a lie, it take 2 people to make a marriage work, I always thought both parties had to be happy in the marriage. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Outstrip(f): 12:27am On Apr 26, 2012 |
cotton101: can someone please explain to me what responsibility a husband has to make his wife happy - all i am reading is how you should watch ur husbands mood, correct your behaviour, lose weight, dress well, be submissive, don't get a job, don't shout, cook his fav food , give him mind blowing sex upside down, but apparently all a husband has to do to prove his love is buy a bag of rice and job is done - so what my father told me about married life was all a lie, Please read between the lines. Just because she said bag of rice does not mean it is only rice. How do you know he does not also buy bags of beans, Yams and imported assorted biscuits. Does she have to spell it out. LOL. Abeg I no fit laugh |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 12:40am On Apr 26, 2012 |
taryour: I honestly think this is richy using another ID |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by SisiKill1: 12:50am On Apr 26, 2012 |
jennykadry:Lmfao. Jenny stop finding my Richy's trouble oh! How can you say a whole Richy. . the Alpha male of the family section is pretending to be a woman. Take it back now! Take it back I say!! |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 1:06am On Apr 26, 2012 |
jennykadry: Very funny! Really,everyone in this section knows the poster with a thousand different monikers is Jennykadry. At times you post as a male and at times you post as a female. However using that phone number trick on the other thread was just ingenious. Going back and forth with yourself just looks down right silly. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 1:30am On Apr 26, 2012 |
Sisi_Kill: Take kini back. That poster lives and breaths of richy. She sounds 100% like him. Now I cannot figure out richys gender. Solve the puzzle with me sisi |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 8:00am On Apr 26, 2012 |
jennykadry: u are free to av ur own thoughts jenny,so u go ahead n think wotever d Bleep u like for all i care. Yeye humanbeing.... |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 8:31am On Apr 26, 2012 |
^^^ Richy, did I hit a nerve? |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by maclatunji: 8:32am On Apr 26, 2012 |
This competition over advice should stop now. If you want to pound your husband to submission please feel free to do so and if you want to roll-over on the floor to please your husband feel free to do that as well. See ehn, me I don't mind you guys e-fighting but find a single thread to do it so that we can go and watch the fight there. Let other threads be clean. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 8:38am On Apr 26, 2012 |
maclatunji: This competition over advice should stop now. If you want to pound your husband to submission please feel free to do so and if you want to roll-over on the floor to please your husband feel free to do that as well. See ehn, me I don't mind you guys e-fighting but find a single thread to do it so that we can go and watch the fight there. Let other threads be clean. mac ur point is noted jare,tnx. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by moremi2008(m): 8:48am On Apr 26, 2012 |
Some posts in this thread are just jaw-dropping! LOL @ the man going through emotional abuse from shouting at his wife! Just when you think you've heard it all!!! |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 8:51am On Apr 26, 2012 |
taryour: Richy, which kain noted? Abeg Comot hiaaa, we haven't even started saying hi to each other you are here giving up. Mschewwww |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 9:28am On Apr 26, 2012 |
The poster didn't even respond to anybody's question. She opened a thread & left people to make unnecessary assumptions. Really, it's just silly & rude of her for not replying anybody. Maybe that's why her husband use to beat her. Afterall it's a one sided story. We have not heard from the husband. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by maclatunji: 9:37am On Apr 26, 2012 |
bennyraz: The poster didn't even respond to anybody's question. She opened a thread & left people to make unnecessary assumptions. Really, it's just silly & rude of her for not replying anybody. Maybe that's why her husband use to beat her. Afterall it's a one sided story. We have not heard from the husband. Bros. you sef na wah for you. You know it is not easy for someone to start a thread. You now get the courage to start the thread and what do you find in a short space of time? People coming out with their Virtual 'AK-47s, Kalashnikovs, Rocket Launchers, Mortars, RPGs etc.' They fire without hesitation and restraint, what would you do as a non-combatant? You lie flat on the ground and if available a trench before you take a hit from the crossfire. So do not blame OP. 1 Like |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 9:45am On Apr 26, 2012 |
maclatunji: u no lie at all at all |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Nobody: 11:34am On Apr 26, 2012 |
@maclatunji. True talk jare. Dem don use their assumptions/experience send the Op into hiding. Too many questions. And i'm sure the OP got confused on who and who not to answer. Case wey no be their own case, they carry knife dissect am illegaly. Op just tell us d surface she no yarn wetin dey under d water and NLanders start to para. Omo, kai. God forgive us o. Nlanders i hail thee. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by ronkebp(f): 3:03pm On Apr 26, 2012 |
jason123:You are right Jason, but whether implosive or explosive, 'shouting' unnecessarily is a 'behaviour' that was acquired over time and has become part of the "shouter" (if english will permit me to use that word), now the "shoutee" is receiving different signals from that behaviour, i think as matured people we should learn to control our emotions, doing that separates us from animals. Especially when you are talking to your spouse. As a human being that also has an 'explosive emotional make-up" i don't expect anyone to shout at me if you are not my parents, that 'shout' can bring out the beast in me. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by taryour(f): 3:53pm On Apr 26, 2012 |
ronkebp: u av a point madam ronke. |
Re: Does He Really Love Me? by Busybody2(f): 2:32am On Apr 27, 2012 |
jason123: OP Today na today |
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