armyofone: and how does that feed you a nice starbuck white chocolate mocha? how is it ya god damned business if i am omni centered?
phew, bruv don't make me miss playing my humvee simulation game.
Now, enjoy the rest of the day. gal gotta go for training

singing and hummming ''the potter's hand''

Claus: My thoughts have already been expressed by the likes of Debosky, but I just want to write sha.

Culture and tradition are functions of time. You hold on to certain traditions because they are good, not just because they have been there for years.

Perhaps because I'm used to the concept of a woman's family contributing to weddings, I find it very strange that it's causing an issue. Even if it's 80%, if the husband had to spend the money in an emergency situation (and this does look like an emergency situation since my understanding of rent in Naija is that when moving to a new place you have to pay several years rent in advance, but if your current rent is expiring, you'll just have to pay the next year's rent) then she should be happy to help out even at 80%.

If you feel there'll be pressure from society coz you paid for your own wedding, then society doesn't need to know who paid. This is where discretion will protect you.

If you feel there'll be some future negative reaction from your husband coz you paid, then you shouldn't marry him.

ronkebp:

Claus i like what you have just posted here, but my question is, forget about the emergency situation, the guys rent was supposed to expire september anyways, that is, it will be a month or few weeks after his wedding. Where did he think he was going to get the money to renew his rent or get a new place?

ronkebp:

Claus i like what you have just posted here, but my question is, forget about the emergency situation, the guys rent was supposed to expire september anyways, that is, it will be a month or few weeks after his wedding. Where did he think he was going to get the money to renew his rent or get a new place?

MRbrownJAY: *****MBJ goes on his knees and start praying*****

[b]In the name of Jesus, I want to thank you father for sparing my life from ever meeting such ungrateful wicked women/monsters, as some of the ones portrayed on this thread. o holy father pls keep on guiding me away from these leeches and guarding me from being trapped by one of them. I give you glory for your creation, but these our sistas are just too much, obviously the evil serpent still has a hold on their minds. In your name I bind all demonic forces that have come upon their possessed minds, and I seal all of them in the protection of Your Precious Blood that was shed for us on the cross. Mary, our Mother, we seek your guidance to lead these women on the right path with the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and surround us with your mantle of love to discourage these enemies of progress to ever succeed. St. Michael and our Guardian Angels, come protect us in battle against all the evil greedy ungrateful women that roam the earth. In the Name of Jesus, I bind and command all the powers and forces of evil to depart RIGHT NOW away from the minds of these lost women, our homes and our lands. And we thank you Lord Jesus for You are a faithful and compassionate God.

let me hear you say AMEN[/b]

MRbrownJAY: *****MBJ goes on his knees and start praying*****

[b]In the name of Jesus, I want to thank you father for sparing my life from ever meeting such ungrateful wicked women/monsters, as some of the ones portrayed on this thread. o holy father pls keep on guiding me away from these leeches and guarding me from being trapped by one of them. I give you glory for your creation, but these our sistas are just too much, obviously the evil serpent still has a hold on their minds. In your name I bind all demonic forces that have come upon their possessed minds, and I seal all of them in the protection of Your Precious Blood that was shed for us on the cross. Mary, our Mother, we seek your guidance to lead these women on the right path with the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and surround us with your mantle of love to discourage these enemies of progress to ever succeed. St. Michael and our Guardian Angels, come protect us in battle against all the evil greedy ungrateful women that roam the earth. In the Name of Jesus, I bind and command all the powers and forces of evil to depart RIGHT NOW away from the minds of these lost women, our homes and our lands. And we thank you Lord Jesus for You are a faithful and compassionate God.

let me hear you say AMEN[/b]

chinwe11: Nairalanders, i have some questions oh. I am getting married in August..............my fiance and i are both working, but the house where he is staying now is having some problems, and might fall soon, so the landlord told them all to evacuate so he can renovate. (The rent was expiring in September anyway) My fiance then decided to use part of the money for the wedding to rent a new house for us. The problem now is, after renting the house, he had to do renovations etc, and now the wedding for the money is almost finished to about 20% left. he is now saying shebi i also have money that i should make up the remaining 80%. Please nairalanders what do you think? Is a woman supposed to pay the bulk money for the wedding?



Afterall what plans did he have for rent after the wedding? I told him to borrow money he said no.

ronkebp:

I read it well, he does not have enough money yet to marry and pay for the house, it is the same thing we are talking about, bobo yen o ni owo 'igbe-yawo yet. so the marraige ceremony should be postponed. If the lady wants the marraige "at all cost", then she should foot the bill. But am sure in the future, the man will brag about he was not the one that married her, she forced herself on him by paying for the wedding.

MRbrownJAY: *****MBJ goes on his knees and start praying*****

[b]In the name of Jesus, I want to thank you father for sparing my life from ever meeting such ungrateful wicked women/monsters, as some of the ones portrayed on this thread. o holy father pls keep on guiding me away from these leeches and guarding me from being trapped by one of them. I give you glory for your creation, but these our sistas are just too much, obviously the evil serpent still has a hold on their minds. In your name I bind all demonic forces that have come upon their possessed minds, and I seal all of them in the protection of Your Precious Blood that was shed for us on the cross. Mary, our Mother, we seek your guidance to lead these women on the right path with the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and surround us with your mantle of love to discourage these enemies of progress to ever succeed. St. Michael and our Guardian Angels, come protect us in battle against all the evil greedy ungrateful women that roam the earth. In the Name of Jesus, I bind and command all the powers and forces of evil to depart RIGHT NOW away from the minds of these lost women, our homes and our lands. And we thank you Lord Jesus for You are a faithful and compassionate God.

let me hear you say AMEN[/b]

armyofone: You should see the current bride price and dowry for my head
but Nkem is joyous a man should be able to do everything without eyeing his lady's wallet . after marriage, yes, before marriage, nah!
OP, this guy na future kata kata, watch out.

He that findeth a good lady, findeth joy from the Lord.
i forget the chapter and v, no ask me.

dokunbam: Help your hubby out ☀̤̣̈̇f the situation. Woman you don't need τ̅☺ ask us here. You should know the right thing τ̅☺ do. Women ₪☺ D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ won spend their own moni. Haba

dayokanu:

His rent expires in September and he would have simply extended by paying one year rent. If you pay 1m for extension you would definitely pay over 3m in a new apartment cos Now he has to pay multiple years, renovate, clean, pay agency fees etc which upset his budget.

The solution is simple and you have said it. Postpone or cancel the wedding if the OP is not willing to contribute

But given her dumb outlook to life she think borrowing is a better option

Tgirl4real:

But Jenny, once she has agreed to marry him things are different now. Its not like she is setting him up on a biz or sponsoring his Edu. This is their wedding ceremony. And we both know that a huge chunck of the money will be spent on the bride.

I see why we have a lot of unmarried live-in couples trying to save up for their wedding. These people will end up living together for like 5-10 years without tying the knot. At the end of the day, the guy will leave and marry another girl. We've seen a lot of threads like that here.

dayokanu:

He was prepared to extend on his old house which he had money to cover. But the old house was falling and he had to move out to get a new place.

Everyone knows getting a new place is way more expensive than extending. Extension can be done for 1yr, New house is nothing less than 2yrs.

Extension is free and doesnt need renovation, New house comes with cleaning cost, renovation, fees like Agency, agreement and lawyer plus movement cost

If cost of extension is 1m, new apartment would be at least 3m

dayokanu:

His rent expires in September and he would have simply extended by paying one year rent. If you pay 1m for extension you would definitely pay over 3m in a new apartment cos Now he has to pay multiple years, renovate, clean, pay agency fees etc which upset his budget.

The solution is simple and you have said it. Postpone or cancel the wedding if the OP is not willing to contribute

But given her dumb outlook to life she think borrowing is a better option

chinwe11: Nairalanders, i have some questions oh. I am getting married in August..............my fiance and i are both working, but the house where he is staying now is having some problems, and might fall soon, so the landlord told them all to evacuate so he can renovate. (The rent was expiring in September anyway) My fiance then decided to use part of the money for the wedding to rent a new house for us. The problem now is, after renting the house, he had to do renovations etc, and now the wedding for the money is almost finished to about 20% left. he is now saying shebi i also have money that i should make up the remaining 80%. Please nairalanders what do you think? Is a woman supposed to pay the bulk money for the wedding?



Afterall what plans did he have for rent after the wedding? I told him to borrow money he said no.

Busy_body:


Na who wan do marriage ehn

Nor be she dey wear the shoe and sabi wey e dey pain am

Na whose biological clock dey overspeed ehn


Thank God I did not come as a Nigerian man, you girls for don smell pepper nor be small






PI Detective Bisi, has a nice ring to it

ronkebp:

Dayo for which area....lekki which renovation is there again in a new apartment?? that has just been newly built, did he get a 4 bedroom uncompleted building and decided to finish the building ni?

chinwe11: Nairalanders, i have some questions oh. I am getting married in August..............my fiance and i are both working, but the house where he is staying now is having some problems, and might fall soon, so the landlord told them all to evacuate so he can renovate. (The rent was expiring in September anyway) My fiance then decided to use part of the money for the wedding to rent a new house for us. The problem now is, after renting the house, he had to do renovations etc, and now the wedding for the money is almost finished to about 20% left. he is now saying shebi i also have money that i should make up the remaining 80%. Please nairalanders what do you think? Is a woman supposed to pay the bulk money for the wedding?



Afterall what plans did he have for rent after the wedding? I told him to borrow money he said no.

dayokanu:

As at 2007 when I was looking for a house in Surulere the cost of a 2 bedroom was around 500k, I would have paid for at least 2 yrs, Some landlords wanted 3yrs added to agreement, commission and agency

My cousin just rented a house in Magodo and he paid 1.2m a yr for it in 2011. 2.4m for 2yrs plus agency commission and everything over 3.5m

So you need to update your ideas about rental costs in Nigeria. Is it not in the same Nigeria where they sell a plot of Land for 400m thats over 3m Dollars for an empty land that even floods in rainy season