bennyraz: Interesting

I can't fccking wait to see the commercials of when ''WEED'' is legalised

kayusfit: AND THIS BULL Poo MADE THE FRONTPAGE when most of my post are deleted. Smh for all the eediots on nairaland including the OP

Dont take it personal!
Chill!

I decided to farabela read tru d comments b4 I share my own n I'm rily amazd coz 4 d 1st tym, evry body made gud coments...

IMO, I agree der's notin bad in ladies askin a guy out but plz ladies, Knw ur Guy VERY WELL b4 u do so. Dnt wonda lustfuly at hm n tink he's ur tru bf, b patient enuf to knw his friends, movs n wat he does so dat u dnt fall a trap wen u r togeda(dat is if he agrees).
As rgads mysef, I'v ad 2 ladies who ad a crush on me in d past. D 1st showd it in her characta n I got d gist. I bhavd manly n took it 4rm wer she stpd n we enjoyd our time togeda. Bt lemme admit dat it was her mom dat got us separatd coz we ar of diff religion n we wer brought up in d same neighbourhood (we livd as neighbours anyway n ma mom n hers wer nt d bst in talkin termz truout). So we ad to quit bt she stil calls n snd me txts as I do. I stl av feelins 4 her n she does n I knw dat wateva god say wil b wil b.
D 2nd lady, ma ex-classmate yl in skul den walkd up to me n tld me to her face dat she likd me. However I wasn't in a rush coz I mst admit she wasnt d mst beautiful of ladies bt she's wel endowd n vry brilliant. So I took mytym to study her n afta about 7wks, 'I ASKED HER OUT PERSONALLY' evn wen I knew she confesd to me she likd me n I knew her ans was gona b a yes.
We broke up of recent, nt dat we ad a fyt bt because d distance was jst 2 much to bear nau dat we'v finisd schoolin.
I mst say dat bot of dm wer nic ladies n I ad dif encountas wit dm coz 1's weaknes seemd to b d odas strength. It has made me mov on absolutely wel n I tel u, av nt regretd avin sumtin to do wit dm.
As 4 d 1s I askd out, non seemd to eva stay. Silly tins wil apen n we ar off! I tink I prefa it wen a matured n wel-to-do lady asks me out coz I'l b safe with her so lng she has wat I want in a lady. N my vry gud friend is also a witness as to a lady askin a guy out coz dy'v bin datin nau 4 around 5yrs or more(although dy'v ad dia tough tyms aswel).

In essence, notin bad to me. Jst knw ur guy vry wel.

I don't feel it's wrong for a girl to ask me out.In doing it she should not be overbearing.She should do so in a humble and nice way.Although African culture frowns at it but I personally think it's cool.

cindyrella:


Well I kinda agree with you, there really is nothing wrong in being blunt and telling a guy u like him and wants to be friends with him...
but I can't do it..
I am just too shy to walk up to a guy and say I wanna be friends with him... Where will I even start from??

start wit:hi u always luk happy.even wen he's sad“lol .

During my University days, there was this chic who had a long crush on me (and I did not know). She did not know how I was going to respond (or react) if she ever told me about her feelings. Sometimes, I observed that she was acting up somehow whenever I was around, but I did not bother myself, because I didnt know what was on her mind (I dont read minds)

One day, she mustered the courage to tell me. Although we eventually did not date, we became BETTER friends. She became her normal self and did not have to bother herself about how I was going to react ('cos I explained politely without insulting her, why we could not be intimate).

Today, she is married to a very nice guy and we are still very good friends and she still holds me in high esteem.

As for me, I don't feel embarrassed if a woman asks me out. Actually, it happens almost everyday here in Port Harcourt. I'd oblige if the feeling is mutual, but if it's not mutual, I'd say NO in a polite way that makes that woman my friend for life.

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Shephummy: Hmmmm.... Civilizatn don spoil d whole thing. Its very wrong 4a lady 2ask a guy out o. A man shud ask a girl out, dat is d ideal way. Al ladies ar given natural attractn by God, no mata hw ugly she may luk, Her man must cum 4her. Woman ar creatd 4rm man. So a man wil alwaz luk 4her missing rib. Cheers.

its better you start luking for one to approach before it is too late. remember (OKO WON LODE)

Dont ask me out, i wil hit u & run bilivin ur doin lyk dat to evri oda guy

Joeblis: ur such a freaky dumbazz, must you insult in every comment??by the way 96.1% of nigerian's are using BB so relax ur mind!!

Omo, wetin bring bb for this convo? U̶̲̥̅̊ are a bigger dumbazz for making dat remark.

kayusfit:



YOU ARE A LOW LIFE FOR STARTING SUCH A DUMB AND BASELESS THREAD. FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

just cause he asked a question, he is all of a sudden a low life? many girls battle with this on the daily. It's good to talk about it so we ladies know how men feel about it and vice versa.

kayusfit: AND THIS BULL Poo MADE THE FRONTPAGE when most of my post are deleted. Smh for all the eediots on nairaland including the OP

RIP @op: action speaks louder

janyj: .


You are the one getting it twisted, because a girl asking a guy out is not beautiful thing to do!!!

*Hits him with a stick*

*He falls to the ground crying like a baby*

I was about to reply your dump comment, but Joeblis already did



Thanks Joeblis you saved me a whole lot of typing

*Pours pepper flavoured hot water on both of em* cheers!

jydeayanx: Gr8 comments NLers From my own perspective, it's actually the way u go abt it. U as a girl, u can actually spew it out that u like him, and it'll be alright, whereas u could jst show it in ur actions, and it could loose all hell! It's actually abt the pple involved, and the way u go abt it. Try to know the kind of person he is, so there won't be any misconception

thats what I think too. It depends on how you go about it and the people involved. Quite frankly, I think guys pretty much go through the same thing. Some guys are also scared of asking a girl out so its not a big deal for guys. which guy wants to get rejected? Bottom line, it depends on the mindset of the people. The girl needs to know the kind of guy she is dealing with. If na conservative/traditional guy then maybe not (I use these terms loosely).

kayusfit:

B.I.T.C.H HOW ARE YOU?

wait what??! Are you high? how the heck you are you gonna call me that? I mean, from where though? Lol. Smh. Peace bro

Its very ok to ask a guy out instead of dying in silence. But, if the lady isn't wat I want I no go gree ooo. I had a friend, much older than me (abt 10 yrs), she asked me out and we started dating. After a while she come tell me say she isn't getting yunger and she wants a child frm me. Usain Bolt would have been proud of me. I run no look back oooo

Egba girl:

wait what??! Are you high? how the heck you are you gonna call me that? I mean, from where though? Lol. Smh. Peace bro

Your afro, cheek, and teeth look attractive; can you ask me out?

kayusfit:

B.I.T.C.H HOW ARE YOU?

Why call the girl a b.itch? Some of you monkeys are the reason why naija men are being labeled as being backward..

You're a loser!

hypeman:

Your afro, cheek, and teeth look attractive; can you ask me out?

hahahahahahahhahaha If I choose to ask a guy out, it would be someone I actually knew and had feelings for and a whole bunch of other things. sorry.

Egba girl:

hahahahahahahhahaha If I choose to ask a guy out, it would be someone I actually knew and had feelings for and a whole bunch of other things. sorry.

And who said you can't get to know me? Feelings is a subconscious thing and knowing is relative to social networking..

Let's do this.. Show me what you've got, mama.

hypeman:

And who said you can't get to know me? Feelings is a subconscious thing and knowing is relative to social networking..

Let's do this.. Show me what you've got, mama.

LOL. not sure I agree with your definitions though.

I share Georgesylva's view. It's not wrong and shouldn't be a crime. However, it should be done with maturity and more importantly with wisdom. Everybody has a right to express his/her feelings. Or why should Ngozi be ashamed of telling me she's in love with me if I could easily do thesame with her. It's free world please...!

Egba girl:

LOL. not sure I agree with your definitions though.

Just say you're shy, I can see it all over your smiley face.

So, can we make our convo private?

life_style: My Ex told me through her kid brother that she "love" me and we dated for more than 6 years.

lay low!

crusifis: for d first time, a girl asked me out, though it was on fone, and funny enof, after dat day, d babe number no go again (dont know if na d same shyness make her throway her phone)

hell yeah, u're rite!

I wish i knew u. I'd flaunt my masculine things around u till u jettison dat out of the way mentality of yours. Girls your type masturbate a lot behing the scene . I hate pretence

janyj:

You can say whatever you like, everyone is entitled to their opinion, if you are saying all this nonsense for me to ask you out, then you must be dreaming . A man will treat a woman the way she wants to be treated, if you act cheap he will definitely treat you like a cheap girl, its up to the lady to decide.

i'm afraid u will have to find ur man in a month of sundays . I knw how to tantalise your type shaa

Culture-wise Ȋ̝̊̅†̥̥'s wrong,bt in dese modern days dere Ȋ̝̊̅§ freedom of xpression,where u CªИ̲̮̣̥̅̊ xpress ur feelings.in my own view,it's nt a wrong thng fø̲̣̣я̅ a girl to ask a guy out,if a girl feels for a guy let her walk up to him nd tell him,bt nt to a guy whom she knew his dating sumbodi else.I'v had two xperiences on dese issue

You guys say this ,but it's equally unpleasant to women when men approach them Willy nilly, i can't think of anything more irritating than a complete stranger approaching you for romantic interest. I automatically assume men like that have aids. If you can be professing love to a stranger its obvious you have no limits.

queensmith: You guys say this ,but it's equally unpleasant to women when men approach them Willy nilly, i can't think of anything more irritating than a complete stranger approaching you for romantic interest. I automatically assume men like that have aids. If you can be professing love to a stranger its obvious you have no limits.

Ok. No one should be professing love to any stranger whether guy or girl. It should be to someone you know (and I dunno about the word love either). To be honest, the furthest I would go is tell a guy that I like him and only someone I'm comfortable with and I have known for a bit. It depends on the kind of relationship we already have. I'm not gonna walk up to some dude and be like " I like you. Can I have your no?". Thats pushing it for me. The "stranger thing" is a no-no for me.

valdprof i'm afraid u will have to find ur man in a month of sundays . I knw how to tantalise your type shaa

SMHID
It is guys like you that make jest of ladies when they ask you out, so you are saying moral values should be overlooked right? The truth is bitter you either take it or leave it

I knw how to tantalise your type shaa

What is that suppose to mean?

queensmith: You guys say this ,but it's equally unpleasant to women when men approach them Willy nilly, i can't think of anything more irritating than a complete stranger approaching you for romantic interest. I automatically assume men like that have aids. If you can be professing love to a stranger its obvious you have no limits.

Nt to a stranger BU̶̲̥̅̊τ̅ to sumone she knws very much.on d other hand,its possible to c a person for d first time and admire d person,if she opens up,its nt bad