those people dat married d person they love commonly engage in pre-marital sex which is sin b4 God...

[color=#006600][/color]But wen we love d one we marry, we stay in d part of holiness in God. beloved youths, pre-marital love is lust n evil b4 God. Dont love any Girl or Boy b4 gettin marry.

I will advice you love the one you marry cos in many cases people marry who they find available at a time they are ready to marry so the better you start loving the one you married the better. Most ppl never really get to marry the ones they truely love cos somehow that person had to marry someone else.

ebenholer: [color=#006600][/color]But wen we love d one we marry, we stay in d part of holiness in God. beloved youths, pre-marital love is lust n evil b4 God. Dont love any Girl or Boy b4 gettin marry.

Do me a kind favour .......shove your religion up your arse.

Love these days has been bastardized by selfish reasons. The true test of love is when it is faced with challenges. My advice to your friend - if she finds the man attractive or is attracted to him in certain ways she should go ahead to marry. However, if the man in question is in no way attractive to your friend, please she shouldn't because she might not endure the early stages of marriage. Love is best enjoyed when you grow with it. Love is just like any other emotions you cannot be happy forever, likewise you cannot be in love forever. Also, love isn't the only ingredient to a successful marriage. At some point, tolerance, patience and understanding overtakes love. So it is better to love who you marry.

Johndoe100: On the surface this looks reasonable, but the kicker is in the next line which goes like this:
"parents should allow their children to marry who they love think they love, so that if the men misbehave the women can promptly get divorced." With parental aproval "understanding and tolorance" are key. As everyone on this board knows, the cabal and their leader chaircover consider tolerance and understanding in mariage to be a manifestation of low self esteem.
You just gotta love these hags and their coven.

man where have you been? Been looking all over for you since tha 3rd world war. Almost gave up, even had a monument of eba erected in your memory down my throat.
So glad to have you back and to think that we are still fighting this war? Aaaarrrrggghhhh, Guess the illuminati has an agenda after all.

[color=#006600][/color] In marriage, there is no one factor dat guaranties marriage success. It's got 2 do wit many factors b/cos man is a three-party being.the spirit,the sole and the body. A good marriage partner must possess a matched quality wit d spirit,soul and body of de colleague. ie their spirits must believe in one deity/spirit realm,2.their mindset,emotions and words must edify one another, and d financial ability 4 de nourishment of d body at least 2 a lenght and also hav d ability/qaulity 2 supply some other humanbody needs such as sex.etc @op God himself talks about loving who you marry,he never talked about marrying who you love.whether or not you married who you loved, the obligation is luv who you married unconditionally n experience a blissful union 4 life. ephesians 5:25 it 's posrible and easy b/cos d mouth of d Lord has raid it.

Spirit of Okija:

If the one that loves me dosent have Big breast, mad curved hips, big yansh, yellow skinned, blue eyes, 6feet tall, American trained with american accent.. Then she cant possibly love me.. no matter what she does..

superfulous!

If she goes on with it she better know that she has to make it happen otherwise she is screwed big time!

Marrying the one i love...As simple as that.

Dyt: An example
Dere is sm1 I know, she is madly in love wit sm guy bt d guy cares less and dere is anoda dat loves her with every of his hrt beat and willing to marry her ASAP, I personally advised her go 4 d one who loves her, love grows, u nurture it

So as 4 me, I will love d one I marry

in other words, love is infectious and contagious, so, get vulnerable!

Luv is a natural phenomenum bt it doesnt com naturally. It's possible u luv smbody 2day n u may nt luv them in d future. Getting married 2 who u luv is nt d key 2 a happy n succesful marriage cos dat luv could wane. Luving who u marry is a beta option cos luv comes by decison. U only luv smbody cos u hav decided luv them. Chikena!Luv is a natural phenomenum bt it doesnt com naturally. It's possible u luv smbody 2day n u may nt luv them in d future. Getting married 2 who u luv is nt d key 2 a happy n succesful marriage cos dat luv could wane. Luving who u marry is a beta option cos luv comes by decison. U only luv smbody cos u hav decided luv them. Chikena!Luv is a natural phenomenum bt it doesnt com naturally. It's possible u luv smbody 2day n u may nt luv them in d future. Getting married 2 who u luv is nt d key 2 a happy n succesful marriage cos dat luv could wane. Luving who u marry is a beta option cos luv comes by decison. U only luv smbody cos u hav decided luv them. Chikena!

I'll say you should marry the one you love. The reason why most pple stop loving eachother in marriage (according 2 step707) is because love is not enough in marriage. Before you get married and telling a man/woman to 'take the rest of your life', make sure He is your friend.
Whenever you feel the love is dying you still have a friend that can understand you whenever and however. All the best

@STEPO 707,UR CORRECT. ITS BETA 2LUV D 1 U MARRY CUS 2DAYS SO CALLED LUV B4 MARRIAGE IS NW STH ELSE. ITS ONLY ON FEW OCCASIONS DAT LUV B4 MARRIAGE IS TRU. I PREFER ARRANGED MARRIAGE.

Abeg, marry the one you love and who loves you. But if you are not really sure whether that person is good or not, contact those who knows him well. Plead with your parents to concur with your interest in a manner that will not hurt them. Good luck.

THE TRUE TEST OF SINCERE LOVE IS TOLERANCE OF ERRORS

brightmon:
he/she is simple, honest and just want to be ther for you, not to impress but just ther.
Dont be selective and remeber He/she is not always what you expect.

wise Quote,very impressive

Loving the one you marry for me!
Marrying the one you love does not cut it for me cos having joined the marriage train,I have come to find out that "love" is infact the least of the problems one encounters.love unlike respect,maturity,commitment is not static(the feelings comes and goes at random) and its also its almost humanely impossible to not love a man/woman that respects and treats u right.

ifyalways: Loving the one you marry for me!
Marrying the one you love does not cut it for me cos having joined the marriage train,I have come to find out that "love" is infact the least of the problems one encounters.love unlike respect,maturity,commitment is not static(the feelings comes and goes at random) and its also its almost humanely impossible to not love a man/woman that respects and treats u right.

Speak for womanhood.

I cannot love someone I am not intensely attracted to sexually, no matter how much she respects me or treats me right. The word intensely is very important.

Sagamite:

Speak for womanhood.

I cannot love someone I am not intensely attracted to sexually, no matter how much she respects me or treats me right. The word intensely is very important.

Ashawo okunrin

naijababe:

Ashawo okunrin

Answers with one hand in the air: "Present, Ma"!

Rofl @ sagamite.
I think we are in the same page sha,as long as other factors are present and constant(sexu.al attraction included) love is the least factor anyone should worry about. It falls in and happens along the line.
Btw, sagamite, which one be "intense" sexual attraction?how dem dey kpekus dat one?

ifyalways: Rofl @ sagamite.
I think we are in the same page sha,as long as other factors are present and constant(sexu.al attraction included) love is the least factor anyone should worry about. It falls in and happens along the line.
Btw, sagamite, which one be "intense" sexual attraction?how dem dey kpekus dat one?

With the heart my sister, with the heart....have you ever kpekused opening your heart to your hubby.....? try it, you will see it is different from love making and bang..ing.

Fhemmmy:

Sometimes, it is hard to respect without Love . . . mind what i say oh, sometimes

Bros I think they go hand in hand. You may respect your teacher for example, and not love - this respect makes you listen and become obedient. Get my drift??

That word “love“ has alot of baggages. I will want to love the one i marry but before marrying him, i should at least feel something for him or like him because its the feelings i have developed for him that will soften me up into consumating the marriage else i can never ever sleep with someone i don‘t love.
I believe love grows and certain characters of the man such as kindness, way of thinking, maturity, responsibility, neatness‘ intelligence etc may make me start falling in love with him when we are married. Also in such situations, both couples have to win themselves to each other. One sided love will never work. They both have to love each other.
Op, tell her to get to know the man, let them talk more,let her understand his person and appreciate his personality. If he possesses a few of the qualities she wants in a man, she can build the rest up.
The most important thing is that the man should be the type that respects women and values marriage.

haha Sagamite, interesting.

how do you know you are s.exually attracted to the person?
are you equating love to se.x?

Sagamite:

Speak for womanhood.

I cannot love someone I am not intensely attracted to sexually, no matter how much she respects me or treats me right. The word intensely is very important.

Loving the one i marry ....U may love a lady but ur nt compatible with each other...U may also be compatible with someone but u dnt love her....Compatibilty and Love, Choose one..

ifyalways: Rofl @ sagamite.
I think we are in the same page sha,as long as other factors are present and constant(sexu.al attraction included) love is the least factor anyone should worry about. It falls in and happens along the line.
Btw, sagamite, which one be "intense" sexual attraction?how dem dey kpekus dat one?

There are girls who would get it simply because they can get it up. That does not mean you will put a ring on it.

Intensely attracted are girls who you just want to tear up everytime you see them. You are thinking you would happily hit that ish morning till night for the rest of your life.

That is attraction level o. Personality is a different thing. Because I am intensely attracted to you does not mean I would put a ring on it if your personality is shyt.

armyofone: haha Sagamite, interesting.

how do you know you are s.exually attracted to the person?
are you equating love to se.x?

I would know by the combination of her bre[i]a[/i]st, backside, face, figure and manneristic va va voom.

I dated this guy for 8 whole year and I loved him wit evrything I am. I could tell that he even loved me much more. We have a son together. Our wedding date was fixed for d 9th of april dis year and I was particularly very excited because I was finally goin to get married to d only man I ever loved. After d most magical vals day we spent together, he was travelling back to abuja, had an accident and died! Now dat dream of marrying d man I love is gone.
If I decide to get married tomorrow, its neva goin to be for love but because I have to get married. If I end up loving the man,then he's lucky.

anitank: I dated this guy for 8 whole year and I loved him wit evrything I am. I could tell that he even loved me much more. We have a son together. Our wedding date was fixed for d 9th of april dis year and I was particularly very excited because I was finally goin to get married to d only man I ever loved. After d most magical vals day we spent together, he was travelling back to abuja, had an accident and died! Now dat dream of marrying d man I love is gone.
If I decide to get married tomorrow, its neva goin to be for love but because I have to get married. If I end up loving the man,then he's lucky.

Am so sorry for your loss!!!, may his soul rest in peace!!!that is serious!!!!......

Its all about marrying the one you love.loving the one u marry is a bit hard when u don't marry the one u love

PLS IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO STATE CLEARLY THAT NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE YOUR LIFE PARTNER.THAT DECISION LIES WITH YOU ONLY IRRESPECTIVE OF WHATEVER CIRCUMSTANCE YOU FIND YOURSELF.BECOS YOU ALONE WILL BEAR THE CONSEQUENCE OF YOUR MARITAL DECISION.