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Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Dagods(m): 11:36am On Jul 04, 2012 |
O boy u take style talk tru sha,in 'IMO'state u gat 2 include a pack of inner wear's 4 ur mother inlaw,hahaha....but if d babe is worth d price,then do it remember its just once 4 life no renewal. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Robena: 11:54am On Jul 04, 2012 |
[quote author=obongproff]I was wondering... were our fore-fathers "forced" or coaxed to pay such gigantic, extravagant, "community-service-size" of bride price that guys are forced to pay these days? Were they asked to bring like a 100 or 300 tubers of yam or more? Did they have to buy things like they were feeding a village or some form of community service or philanthropic donation? Did they have to pay for a reception hall? Did they have to spend up to half a million(in their own currency as at then) or more becos they wanted to get married? Were they usually given a long list which usually included kinsmen that the girl's parents don't even have an acquaintance with? And if they eventually brought all these(without having to borrow), what did they have left to feed their new family? Looking at today's wedding running costs, it's not just making any economic sense. What is the rationale behind spending over half a million on a two days event, that definitely won't bring back any financial dividends? Can't a dude get married with a maximum of 300,000 naira in this country, I mean including the total cost of traditional, court and white wedding? Am very sure that in the developed world, wedding is not that expensive? Or is it because of our under-developed or poverty-inclined thinking? Isn't it time we questioned this pocket-sucking-dumb-tradition of ours? I go to church and the pastors do encourage the youths to marry early, especially in order to avoid fornication. But the so-called tradition is not encouraging us to do so. An average guy has to save and eventually waste over half a million in order to have a "standard" wedding. I mean, what is even the definition of a "standard" wedding in the Nigerian context? Can't a man have a sub-standard wedding, depending on his pocket size? What happened to the old saying "Cut your coat according to your cloth", or is it not applicable to this case? Isn't it high-time this tradition of spending too much on wedding be reviewed and updated? Or is it a indirect means of encouraging late marriages? Sorry I had to pop out many questions, but these have been my thoughts lately? And I would really appreciate some meaningful contribution to this, cos this thing is quite annoying? [/quote] |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by ziccoit: 12:07pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
It is not about amount but value. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by dabrake(m): 12:12pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Spirit of Okija: These muthafuckers are broke ass Mofos..no comment. I'm pretty sure you are from mbaise |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by microgiant: 12:28pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
My friend's wedding the bride price was over N300K, everything he spent was more than N2M. If it costs you N500K, you should count yourself lucky. 1 Like |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by atuboweke(m): 12:47pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Another tribal thread , just to attack the God's nation ( Igbo). Why always the Igbos. I have one question to ask : does it mean that the poor one in the east don't get married. Am aware that the okada riders, bricklayers, painters, carpenters , infact low income earners are married ; so how come, where did they get the money?. when you visit your inlaws and pose as if you have millions, then expect a long list from them. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by warrior01: 12:48pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Lordave: I was there when my dad droped £15k as ma mum's bride price. Dat was B4 the war. lol... And you'll clock 20 this year |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by bakila: 1:00pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
claremont: This is one aspect of our culture that has to be looked at critically. What most people do not understand is that the culture of 'bride price' not only cheapens the Nigerian female, but it also invariably means that the Nigerian female is a commodity (not much different from any grocery item) that can be bought and sold at a price. The good news is that most educated families in Nigeria no longer practise such culture, it seems to be limited to the illiterates and bare-lettered sections of our society.No decieve yourself. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by greall1: 1:07pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
To my own concern bride payment depend on tribe Out of 3 tribe we have in nigeria Igbos are paying high price bride. Yorobos paying bride with understanding btw the wife and husband Hausa paying bride with a little change . 1 Like |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by mrkels(m): 1:19pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
I no blame this guy, its just the mentality of the illitrates we have in nigeria. And they are many, nearly 91%. They are not selling their daughters as commodities, they are simply showing off to families and friends. I watched this same topic about nigerian marriages on BBC last week where they showed a girls wedding in lag with almost 5000 guests and people were boasting that this was the weeding of the century. The english journalist was so diassapointed and disgusted in the african culture .he didn't even understand why that much amount of persons would come for a wedding they in which they knew little or nothing about the main people getting married. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by 2gbasky22(m): 1:45pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Mynd_44: Great. Another guy complaining about how "expensive" women are. If you think you can't afford women, TRY MEN so u mean u gay dudes are more expensive? |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by parryon(f): 1:59pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Bride price payment depends on the family of the girl and not on tribe.yeah it is mandatory to settle the tribesmen in igbo land during payment, after that most nice families would tell the groom not to give them anything but to use the money to take care of their daughter.my dad did it for my sister's husband and at the end of the day,the dude spent less than 70k on bride price.I think that is what most parents now do and that is why okada riders,bricklayers and other not well to do men can afford to marry today.......it all depends on how nice the bride's family is and how well loved the groom is. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Nobody: 2:01pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Pls poster you are a broke ass. If you don't have money to get married remain single. Nobody is forcing or dragging you to bring those things. Besdies not all community charge as much as you're exaggerating. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Nobody: 2:07pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
[color=#006600][/color] atuboweke: Another tribal thread , just to attack the God's nation ( Igbo). Why always the Igbos. I have one question to ask : does it mean that the poor one in the east don't get married. Am aware that the okada riders, bricklayers, painters, carpenters , infact low income earners are married ; so how come, where did they get the money?. when you visit your inlaws and pose as if you have millions, then expect a long list from them. thank you for this statement. People like sensational stories. Don't be surprised that the nonentities saying all these negative things have never gone for any trad marriage. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by anuforoudo(f): 2:09pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
It might sound funny but this post makes a whole lot of sense. For those who are not yet married..smile one day you definitely face it. By the time i sat to check all i spent over 500k. It is barbaric and inhuman to do such a thing. My father saw the list they gave me and was shocked. There should be a kind of re-orientation of our people especially those who think their female children are super markets that must bring bring returns. God help us. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by MrsChima(f): 2:10pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
I have two blackberries and two pounds of yams for the best groom! I am looking to expand my harem. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Nobody: 2:12pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
[color=#006600][/color] claremont: This is one aspect of our culture that has to be looked at critically. What most people do not understand is that the culture of 'bride price' not only cheapens the Nigerian female, but it also invariably means that the Nigerian female is a commodity (not much different from any grocery item) that can be bought and sold at a price. The good news is that most educated families in Nigeria no longer practise such culture, it seems to be limited to the illiterates and bare-lettered sections of our society.broke ass!!! Tradition is tradtion educated or not. Bride price does not cost more than 200k. Its when you want to add other things that are not necessary that it becomes expensive. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by 2gbasky22(m): 2:14pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
@op, it is obvious u ar plannin to get married in d nearest future.........but seriously these high cost of bribe price/dowry is common is in the eastern part. unlike where i come from, bride price/dowry is jst 25naira. The simple solution is, if ur pocket is not gallant, jst luk else where. Can someone check the dictionary meaning of dowry 4 me pls..........jst curious |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by MrsChima(f): 2:18pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Okay...three blackberries and four pounds of yams! |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by greall1: 2:38pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Marriage and bride price payment its just like competition in eastern state. If their daughter Wanted to marry they like to marry someone in ogbodo oyinbo Or business man that have money and investment. |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Nobody: 2:53pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
-565 |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Nobody: 2:57pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
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Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by adefash(m): 2:57pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
@ POSTER:the question i will ask is:did our fore-fathers receive fat salaries as we do now or did they make so much money? u want to marry a woman to take responsibility on her and start raising a family that u are supose to take care of yet u cant raise 150/200k for bride price.i dont see anyfing wrong with the practice.if u cant save money to get the stuffs then u cant take care of another man's daughter for life. also if u can marry a woman for free then u can change them as u change ur boxers |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by adefash(m): 3:07pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
i asked myself the same question when i wanted to marry(2yrs ago).but when i calculated the cost of what to get,it wasnt up to 100k.i still frowned @ it,but the answer that came to my mind was "if my daughter wants to get married,will i be pleased that she get married in silence?" what i will implore us is that this is our culture,our heritage.that it is not practiced in europe doesnt make it wrong.is the items that u bring that will feed the bride's family for life? |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Konnektions146(m): 3:14pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
sosoluv:imagine how yu re showing off yur naivety in de public - How can u take someone`s child to de court without bride price? - Do u think bride price is same as traditional wedding? C'mon, young lady ask ur parents how things are being done , Bride Price is de basic thing, de bible recognises it. den Trad, court and white wedding is anoda part dat u will do as much as u wish. if u aint informed, u re deformed.....ask if u dont know |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by yuzedo: 3:30pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Marriage is expensive in Naija so that when you marry woman, before you divorce am u go think twice about all the money wey u don trowey! |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by funshybam(m): 3:32pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
Lordave: I was there when my dad droped £15k as ma mum's bride price. Dat was B4 the war.was that a POSTPAID or PREPAID marriage? |
Re: Did Our Fore-fathers Pay Such High Bride Price That We Are Forced To Pay Today? by Nobody: 3:44pm On Jul 04, 2012 |
funshybam:CHINEKE... una go kill person for this NL... |
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