ayosmiles: thanks, ur words have touched me. I was in a conference 2day when my friend called that my gal was waiting 4 me in ma office. I came late to meet her angry nd i had to apologise. Then she said i shld hlp her with somethin on d internet. I was just too tired to go to cafe, so i dropped her there nd left her with ma friend to hlp her. Come nd see vexin. I knw she wont talk to me for some days.

ayosmiles: I recently discovered my gf is datin her ex secretly. I confronted her nd she confessed nd apologised. Later she started datin anoda guy nd would even go to his house straight frm my office when shes visitin. First time i caught her she said she was goin there to watch movies. Next she was cookin 4 hin nd other things but she still denied. D guys gf came to my office to complain that my gf is disturbin her bf. I confronted my gal, she confessed nd apologised again nd promise not to do it again. Then one day i left her in d office to visit a friend. She called around 5pm that she was goin home. Guess wht, i saw her on my way home around 8.30pm with another guy. I came down nd called her. She left nd followed d guy as if she didnt see me. Now dis gal is also jealous, if she sees a gal with me she freaks out nd i chased all my female friends cos of her. All my friends advice i dump her. I love her, i wanted to marry her but now i dont knw wht to do. Can dat kind of gal change or shld i leave her.

tobechi74: Poster, one question 4 u.plz

if u have a safe were u keep ur money, and u discover that d padlock cud be open by any key. Wat wil u do'?

Dispose it and get a beta padlock

keep it and pray d padluk automaticaly changes

Onegai: Everyone please stop insulting the OP. We've all been here where he is, some form or the other.
OP: she doesn't love you, to her you're the guy who will marry her, her backup. I promise you this! I was in your situation with a guy, while I was crying abt him, everyone and their father told me for sure, he had others, and I was his backup, in case he didn't find a hot version who had a good character. I'm happy now, because I'd rather be no.1. Don't you think you deserve to be no.1? Her jealousy is normal, my ex did the same, she's ensuring no-one snatches her backup while she's playing. Every good player has a dependable backup, and you're hers.

She is NOT for you and she will never be for you, even if you break up and she comes shedding crocodile tears and dressing like MFM, because she's gotten used to using you to stroke her ego and it's a bad and tough habit to break once you've started, ask anyone (99% of us have done it to other people and have had it done to us). What other excuse does a gf have for pretending not to see her man when he meets her in the coy of another guy? She no wan vex that nig.ger, so she no mind disrespecting you. If that other guy had not been important to her, she would walked away to the Numero Uno in her life, and since she didn't come to you, what does that tell you? What she is doing is hurting your ego, and last I checked, Love doesn't hurt you. It simply doesn't.

All the fun you have with her is infatuation, trust me! It is Mango that is overripe and spoiling that is sweet, the feeling of not knowing where you stand with her is making you pursue her. That her behaviour is learnt in Player 101 class (your male friends who have behaved like her towards innocent girls recognise her tactics). Abi you wan see the love letter I write my ex, declaring love while he was doing the same thing your woman dey do?? I never forget am? Better person don come sef!

And I promise once you leave, the tears and MFM attending to get you back will start (because which person in the world doesn't want to know that somewhere there's a guy/girl patiently waiting) once she realises that she is the backup of all those other guys (first guy's gf came to report her, so she definitely is). DO NOT ACCEPT HER BACK. I know someone who accepted the man who used her for backup, he's cheating confidently. Anyone who can cheat on you confidently and openly before marriage will NOT wake up respecting you and not cheating after. There are chicks wearing scarf and carrying bible and faking pregnancy in the crucial days of a relationship to nail a man down, your own is flaunting her flirtations and you wan marry??

If you think you deserve to be no.1 in someone's life, look for someone who treats you right. Or stick with this chick, because hey! You have "fun" times.

ayosmiles: thanks, ur words have touched me. I was in a conference 2day when my friend called that my gal was waiting 4 me in ma office. I came late to meet her angry nd i had to apologise. Then she said i shld hlp her with somethin on d internet. I was just too tired to go to cafe, so i dropped her there nd left her with ma friend to hlp her. Come nd see vexin. I knw she wont talk to me for some days.

Ekiti1:
guy I gbadun ur reply die. Two bottles for you.

ayosmiles: I think i might have been unfair to her. After d whole incident nd wht ppl said here i decided to ignore her totally nd give other girls a chance. I have this friend dats always takin care of me, cooks 4 me, buys me things nd does things my gf dont do but i cant date her cos i dont love her nd av told her several times nd she kept askin me why cos she loves me. I told her we were not compatible. Well, we started spendin more time 2gether lately. She came 2 my office. My gf saw her nd totally freaked out. She was cryin right there nd my friend was embarassed that she had to leave. My gf started beggin me to forgive her everything nd dat she didnt date d last guy i saw with her nd she's ready to change nd she cant live without me. I couldn't resist d sympathy nd guilt i felt. I hate to c her cry. We made up right there nd things are back to normal. The problem now is that i was supposed to see my friend yesterday but i called nd cancelled d meetin. This gal i cute nd lovin nd interestin but i dont love her, i love my gf. I hope am not making a mistake.

[/quote]Her jealousy is normal, she's ensuring no-one snatches her backup while she's playing. Every good player has a dependable backup, and you're hers.

She is NOT for you and she will never be for you, even if you break up and she comes shedding crocodile tears and dressing like MFM, because she's gotten used to using you to stroke her ego and it's a bad and tough habit to break once you've started, ask anyone. And I promise once you leave, the tears and MFM attending to get you back will start. [quote]

ayosmiles: we finally broke up anyway, on my terms

ayosmiles: I think i might have been unfair to her. After d whole incident nd wht ppl said here i decided to ignore her totally nd give other girls a chance. I have this friend dats always takin care of me, cooks 4 me, buys me things nd does things my gf dont do but i cant date her cos i dont love her nd av told her several times nd she kept askin me why cos she loves me. I told her we were not compatible. Well, we started spendin more time 2gether lately. She came 2 my office. My gf saw her nd totally freaked out. She was cryin right there nd my friend was embarassed that she had to leave. My gf started beggin me to forgive her everything nd dat she didnt date d last guy i saw with her nd she's ready to change nd she cant live without me. I couldn't resist d sympathy nd guilt i felt. I hate to c her cry. We made up right there nd things are back to normal. The problem now is that i was supposed to see my friend yesterday but i called nd cancelled d meetin. This gal i cute nd lovin nd interestin but i dont love her, i love my gf. I hope am not making a mistake.

ayosmiles: I recently discovered my gf is datin her ex secretly. I confronted her nd she confessed nd apologised. Later she started datin anoda guy nd would even go to his house straight frm my office when shes visitin. First time i caught her she said she was goin there to watch movies. Next she was cookin 4 hin nd other things but she still denied. D guys gf came to my office to complain that my gf is disturbin her bf. I confronted my gal, she confessed nd apologised again nd promise not to do it again. Then one day i left her in d office to visit a friend. She called around 5pm that she was goin home. Guess wht, i saw her on my way home around 8.30pm with another guy. I came down nd called her. She left nd followed d guy as if she didnt see me. Now dis gal is also jealous, if she sees a gal with me she freaks out nd i chased all my female friends cos of her. All my friends advice i dump her. I love her, i wanted to marry her but now i dont knw wht to do. Can dat kind of gal change or shld i leave her.

olumaxi: Love covereth al sins..if u r convincd u lov ha..go ahead..wit continued eforts on ur part,she'll change..but jst rememba u r d 1 to live wit her,not us