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Nimk:
jan 29th....dont know any bday mate apart from Oprah Winfrey

Am Jan 29th also Oprah Winfrey mate here

Yeah he go just be like make person enter ground

Unnecessary questions I hate them

marshalcarter:
na wa oooo

Real WA it's alarming they're many of them outside

paiz:
When there is life there is hope

Yeah there is..

I don't if am to say am been unlucky this week because have been saving so much this days and I make money online buying and selling bitcoins am not advertising my self over here so I make a good pay so I just bought my Camon cx Max few weeks ago

Recently I had an encounter with sars operatives because of the transactions they saw on my phone which they checked and and said it was exhibits that am a yahoo boy which I tried to explain but after receiving like 3 thunderous slaps I succumbed to them they asked for my ATM and I told them I didn't bring it along I already withdrew 12k just to get myself new clothes,they collected 11,500 from me and left me with 500 told me I should use it as transport..
It seems like public robbery to me..

Fast forward to Thursday which was yesterday I was on my way home at so I wanted to board another bus home when I started seeing someone moving fast beside me, step on my shoes from behind and told me sorry, someone has done this kinda thing for me before I will also tell that, back to the topic he started walking ahead of me straight to where the buspark was so I took away the thoughts of him been a pickpocket and when he got to the front he stopped and told me to stop using water for my shoe (Puma venty) I should not lie I did this once or twice..


He then told me he was a cobbler that as he stepped on my shoes it was somehow distorted by this time I am like 5steps to the bus park so he stopped me and told me he wanted to show me what he was saying he said I should take my legs together I started laughing in my mind, I didn't want to stop him because I wanted to know what he was up to. Firstly I didn't tell you guys that I learnt basic Magic skills and there's misdirection in magic with good timing you can pickpocket anyone I even do it to my friends for fun thank God I learnt something that saved me.

Back to the fun so in misdirecting me he took my phone but I knew instantly because I felt my pocket and asked him instantly of my phone and he said "Omo Aiye " (Slangs for the street boys) ..

He offered an handshake and I gave the handshake but this time I was more alert because I still had my wallet with me no funny stuff again and I was hungry no strength for talks ,in 5steps I was inside the bus I checked back and saw him no more..


Back to yesterday night I was home with my family I came for the festival so my friend in Ladipo around that shogunle area in oshodi Lagos told me someguys on bike used knife to collect his sisters phone but when they raised alarm they were out already...


We should all be more careful I don't know if it's the festival but there are more people outside...

And don't mind my English way too much blunders you can share your experience also

Following

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A lady hit on me and I never feel the trips I friend zone her Incase she go later set I don't want to start explaining frendzone they sweet gan .

But am waiting for a girl on nairaland that told me no and now regretting still reading sha

slayking:
Funny thing is, i rarely ask for a girls number and my moat recent attempt was successful, tho i have no intentions of starting anything serious with her.

We all have different priorities. Getting g a girl's number happens to be OP's priority.

Then you are really perfect and this post is not for you sir

slayking:
Theres no aurefire way to getting a girla number. Just be original and gemuine, if the feeling is mutual, she'll open up to you a d besides getting a girl's number doesn't mean she's open to date you.

It's just an open line of communication which can still be closed at any time.

Yes man but at times you don't have to be a bore or you will get rejected many times

MRSoftapples:
All this just for number?
Op you need to set your priorities straight in life..

What I do with my life doesn't matter to you.
But why you care is why am bothered and probably you should be in politics or buisness section.

johncallidon:
ok

Hmm

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OLAJADON:
even in your statement you said if a couple see themselves as a team, if in the relationship you are the one giving selfless love and your partner did not reciprocate then the relationship goes sideways what will be your story..... that is the point the op is making.

You don't have to waste your time proving your point to someone who isn't worth your time .
Appreciate your efforts but don't talk to that perfect guy who chooses the right person Everytime but I get laid more than his asshole.

Nofuckgiven:
Sorry a lady broke your heart but that is because you let her. No one forced you to date them or spend money on them in exchange for sex,stop lamenting! Happy Sunday.

Who's given a Bleep about what you just said and probably not all can afford me it's just a self help topic regarding the ones that has been posted on this forum but if you don't get have a nice day and a good job for you having my attention

Nofuckgiven:
People in love always sacrifice for each other. Sometimes one more than the other. That is why they say 'fools fall in love'! Just because you sacrificed more than the other doesn't mean you are stupid,if a couple see themselves as a team,its a win-win. Most people are just selfish.

See man it's your perception you are just talking off point people are attacking me saying someone broke my heart or something probably I can't even stand a foolish relationship
I am
Witty
Have charisma
The winning mentality
And know what I want so man be loving and don't be foolish and played then when they dump your sorry ass you later cry foul and think of sucide .
Be Alpha

OLAJADON:
don't mind that guy, what you wrote is very easy to comprehend, it is all about putting yourself first when you are dating and doing the right things you are suppose to do instead of regretting not doing them when the relationship goes sideways.
thumbs up

Thanks man you got it

Nofuckgiven:
He is saying all this because of the bad ladies he has dated. No one forced him to date them. I hate generalizations.

Probably had only two relationships and one is still on no bad intentions man am not saying you shouldn't be good but have limitations set goals for yourself and put yourself first IS that a bad idea and literarily you don't know me .

It depends on how you guys relate before
Don't take it as anything maybe if you are more witty there will be talks like sweety maybe you are even boring.

If you know the amount of things coded in the words Jesus died as a Nice person

lilmax:
op is just naturally dumb, he had a bad experience for being "foolish" and not nice....

being nice doesn't mean you should be stupid
being nice comes with common sense which the op lacked, how can you go to a food place you don't like?
how can you make your self look stupid to someone you just met?

once again being nice doesn't mean you lack brain

If putting myself first is lacking of sense and speaking up with doing things on freewill without expectations .

Brother Robert A Glove also lacks sense because you can do yourself good by picking up No More Mr Nice Guy

iamadonis2:
Senseless essays like this are the reason why:

1. There's so much madness in the world. When a person goes out of his way to be unfriendly, uncaring, and downright duplicitous.

2. People find it a herculean task to truly love themselves. You want to come off as manly and not lovey-dovey? Guess what?! You're teaching yourself not to love even you.

3. Misogynists increase exponentially. You, a boy, cannot bear to be in the same room with your Dad because he didn't treat your Mum right. Sorry, Bro, practice these senseless words put up by the OP and you'll initiate the cycle over again. Your male kid will abhor you.


My Advice: Truly be with a woman (note I didn't say love. Not all of us are capable of the dictates of love). Pamper her silly. Get her fanciest of all gifts. Take her to a vac at the Dubai Palm and watch her spend your money.

After all, it isn't about her. This is the life you've always dreamed of.

You said my essays is senseless man see what you are writing can everyone afford this , you see i still say the same thing ,Mr I have read 100s of self help books and put them up to life and they are realistic what I said was simple.

put yourself first

austinereds:
Nice write up op. if you are just polite they would rub on you.

If telling the opposite of my write up is polite then I won't tell my kids the opposite also probably it's my perception on many aspect of life not only love

Jkfc:
It's not making FP, all the posters above me take note

It's gold little can afford it

You are a nice guy and you met a lady today trying to be nice hooked up on a date with Her favourite spot even when you didn't like it.

Now you acted gentlemanly you were both happy ,you told her every single damn thing about yourself and why your work sucks your mum your dad your boss your life everything without leaving out any misery she could day dream about , and after like two weeks you still go along overly nice you asked for sex and she said no and you never asked again never wanting to piss her off you kept on being nice and after some time she dumped your ass and just tell you let's just be friends and anytime she has a heart break and calls you ,you still advice her friendzoned
and any other shit and after she dumped you you keep thinking why could she after all the love and how nice I were to her.

You see that's just the problem been Nice

There's a problem with nice guys

They always want to be perfect
I dont know why nice guys go about these traits ,they think if they are not been themselves thinking when they're perfect and not like there dad who had three wives or never cared about them people would like them.

Just be yourself and feel free do anything you want always put yourself first before anything .

Expect Something In Return For Their Good
I helped him fare his ticket abroad he his now rich and he isn't looking back ,washing the plate before your wife gets back and shes still like why didn't you wash the cooler , holding the door for someone to pass ..

You see crap all these shit from your mind if you ain't capable of helping at your own comfort please don't .

Do good at freewill and don't expect anything in return.

Don't think life like a Ponzi scheme it always ends up as scam.
Abbeylli

If you want to eat and someone telling you they are hungry tell them you can't and satisfy yourself .

How will you satisfy others when you ain't taking care of yourself..

Always Speak Up For Yourself
Don't do it because you want people to feel you are nice ,do this because you are willing to
Your girlfriend want to go to the Beach and you prefer cinema .
Tell her you probably want the cinema and she should go with you
Tip: Ladies love people that know what they want they feel secured with them
Someone wants you to do something and you don't feel like put it aside and tell the person you cant politely.


Always Have Fun And Put Yourself First

Yes put yourself first don't buy a big phone for someone when you don't even have one wanting them to like you.
Your girlfriend asks you for money and you don't have just tell them and don't borrow .
Have time for yourself go for your hubbies,wear nice clothes,shoes, necklace and if you can without hesitation donate for charity do with looking back be good at times ..


Now with your new traits considered by people as BadGuy or AlphaMale you can always live the life you want without giving a clear f*ck..

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Great You know let me just tell you the fucking truth just continue to be motivated

ziziangel:
Deep truth. I'm guilty of no 2. Thanks a lot

It Doesn't matter no one will bite you of you say no though??
Do be yourself..

Most people think they can never be happy,
what makes you happy? you don't even know...
Let me help you out with a story..



People who live there life been a saddist are mostly related to their low self esteem, which leads to thinking how bleeped up we are and it leads to high BP or heartfailure and its also makes us know they are liable to die young...





How do you stop been a saddist and just be HAPPY!!!!.


1. Change Your Perception About Life

It's simple as its title; people think life is a big deal that we have to live for people's sake..
You just have to live it the way you have always thought about it, you want to live the kind of lifestyle in movies just go for it, it's never to late you want to hit up the gym, you want to have a vlogging platform or an actor or a gymnast or stylist or broadcasting it's just one step go for it and don't sit on your ass thinking when time comes you will get along with life.



2. Stop Being People Pleaser
Yes just be a able to simple say no without being a bug.
Your friends wants you to come along to a party and you don't feel like don't force yourself.
Just say no with a simple reason and back off.
You don't feel like eating rice and they all want to eat rice just say no and tell the reason without being cocky.
You don't know if some of your friends are not willing to but are also people Pleaser and they may speak up also..

JUST SPEAK UP..


3. Resent From Arguments

There is a quote by Robert Greene which says never argue to win but win by actions. Argument always leads to both parties always wanting to be right.
So I went to watch football somewhere in lagos and a guy told me Cr7 doesn't even have many goals and I told him he has over 500goals which almost lead to an argument and I simply said.
"I agree with you"
Brought out my phone googled it and showed him and he said "Ok I didn't know".
And I stopped talking to him because I feel he isn't matured..

SO DON'T ARGUE..


4. Stop Being A Pain Or Being Close to Pained People

So there was this lady I knew, whenever we were together she never finds anything you say good, she never gets a joke she's a pure pain.

I later found out she wasn't cared for when she was younger so she blames it on her childhood..

Don't be like that forget about your past and never let it take over you stop the Blame game of how your dad rejected you or how your mum never cared for you and it affected your self esteem or you went to boarding or your former spouse was a cheater..

mehn let that go to the trash bin of your mind and CTRL+D..

5. Just FORGIVE AND FORGET

Keeping the past in your mind always thinking you will fightback never really earns us anything but spoils all...
I don't say you shouldn't fight back at bullies but be a gentle Man Or lady in my next self help topic I will talk more on standing up for yourself but you have someone who broke your heart because you are broke don't take it as a fight don't let it down you take it as a motivation and go on just forgive and let all the burden in your heart go you know what CTRL+D.

6. Step Out Of your comfort zone

Don't just sit alone and let boredom kill you go to the movies, parks, reserves, mall, speed dating, music lessons, gym, clubs, swimming lessons and any other interesting thing..

7. Be Positive

As it says just be positive


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