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sinizia:
Bros, you have two options. Get her to see a qualified doctor fast and check if she can be cured; or take her to a good pastor and see if God can heal her. If all of these fails, it's time to forget about marrying her, no or lack of sex in a marriage is no joke.

kushma:
My advice for you Is to go for a therapy but if it does not work out I will advice you to leave her oo unless u are ready to play away match because marriage without sex could be boring.

yemimylover:
Most of dis tin iz cuz by type of circumcision practice on her nd i gez ix type3 or type4 sha
see ur doctor ): Most of dis tin iz cuz by type of circumcision practice on her nd i gez ix type3 or type4 sha
see ur doctor ): Most of dis tin iz cuz by type of circumcision practice on her nd i gez ix type3 or type4 sha
see ur doctor ):

Thanks for the advices.

Recall I said I've a but with the idea of seeing a doctor. Reason being that she might not agree to it, stating she is normal and where does that place me. I really think it has to be done with care. However, thanks. I'll give it thought.

KAPOVee:
marry her... U're in love with her remember? There's Nothing compared to marrying the one you love!

In as much as love is important in a marriage, I equally think happiness is essential for long-term marriage.

Mprex:
help her pls. talk to her about it. let her understand your stance first before you proceed to see a doc or a counsellor

I kind of like your idea but can throw more light on "understand your stance first" I didn't get you there.

Enegod:
if she refuses, threaten to dump her... she'll open up!

Gratitude man.

INTERMAN:
Ok. You say Your girlfriend is suffering from frigidity, why not put her in the fridge?

Frigid not fridge.... Very funny and wicked[color=][/color]

Enegod:
Her bad experiences when she was a teen could be the cause. I'd recommend professional counseling to address previous trauma.
Rape, assault, or just being highly pressured to have sex against her desire,all have lasting effects on how she view sex as well as her response to it.

If that's not the issue, she should see a doctor to check other possible female problems that could effect her desire and sensation. Best of luck to you!

Thanks for your advice.

What if she refuses to accept she has a problem?

Tallesty1:
Let's swap babes?.

Very funny . but why?

MEGGATRON:
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Please can you help with more on that. Thanks.

Cutehector:
Mehn, dnt get married to her.. U dnt want to regret later

Thanks for your advice.

Will she never recover and get married? I want to help her and us. Do you really suggest I leave her? Is that people suffering from it don't stay married?

Please throw more light.

Please bear with me it is bit long. But please read carefully.

NOTE: this thread was created more than two months ago because at that time I needed advice to help redirect and better my relationship. Advices and suggestions were carefully accessed and adopted where necessary. But... You might not believe what happened two weeks later until now. If you're new I suggest you read the old post before the new post.

OLD POST:
Like seriously am considering proposing to her. She got most of the qualities and potential to make a good wife. In fact, I imagine our future together as husband and wife. Beautiful children and a beautiful home looking into the sea. Both of us together might be just a fantasy because she is suffering from a serious sexual complication called frigidity.

Frigidity according to my research: Is an aberrant sexual condition in both male and female. It is the lack of sexual excitement in the sexual orgasms of the male (penis) and of the female (virginal).

Please what should I do? Am confused. I love her but how do I approach this situation with her. She is so disinterested in anything that has to do with sex. Please your advice is needed here. Though, I have thought of the following but there is still 'but'.
- visited a counselor - but will she agree with me without having ill feelings about my thoughts.
- suggest more sexual activities like: Kissing, MouthAction etc - but will she not think me a sex addict and despise me.
- suggest we stay as friends (no sex) - but will she not think it is the end of the relationship.
- suggest I lay low untill she feels comfortable with sex - but will she ever be comfortable.

Please what should I do? Please note that your advice will be highly appreciated, thanks.


NEW POST:
Well I took the advice from majority's suggestion: Which was to sit with her and explain my feelings concerning this issue with her as to clear any misunderstanding about my purpose of suggesting a counselling for us. I did just that.

But to my shock... She was pregnant and had attempted abortion before I learnt of it. As a matter of fact, she was already few weeks pregnant (probably two or three) before we met. She admitted this after two months of our relationship meaning the pregnancy was almost three months old before my knowledge of it. She cried and explain how it happened and as well ask me for help abort the pregnancy (something I've never done for myself). I was so shocked that I thought she is just pulling my legs and it just a joke. But when we went out a day later at a fast food and she repeated it again, I felt cold shiver running down my spine. I was like what have I gotten myself into (a frigid?). She explained how she'll be disowned by her parents and pleaded for my assistance. Being overwhelmed and confused (I almost wanted to run to nairaland for help but changed my mind) coupled with the fact that I love her and won't abandon her when she needs me most, I decided to do something I vowed never to do in my life (abortion). I stood by her and footed the bills taking full responsibility and risk (now it seems very foolish of me) to see her through the challenge.

Even till the eleventh hour, I still hoped this was just so kind of test from her. But deeper inside I knew it was just a false hope. Well everything went successfully and I felt relieved. Considering the ordeal she just went through I decide to be mute about our relationship issue to allow her recover properly.

After a month plus, after the situation she was so obedient and more caring than myself. She calls me like everyday and demands she wants to see. Like to a point of obsession, she must see me everyday. My valuation of her worth had diminish gradually and now she is obsessed with me. Although, I still love her but I had my reservations, especially because she still acts like before always disinterested with anything that has to do with sex (see me see wahala was my thought).

Like seriously, she gets pregnant and yet she hates sex? Alright, lets visit a counsellor. She explain that she is fine and will have it when she feels like. A mistake of unintentionally touching her boobs when playing leads to a serious warning. Na wa ooo even my sister will understand it was a mistake because I can never take advantage of any woman let alone someone I loved.

As shocking as this may sound, she still calls like everyday demanding to see me (I be your father ). Honestly, I felt being use and at the same time being loved. Yet am confused because as annoying as this may appear... She has Bleep rated video (blue film) on her phone. Something, I just refused to question her about (maybe fear or something).

I just had to stop... Because I can go on and on and yet I can't make a concrete decision because am just so confused. Please I need your advice as this is tearing me down. Please your advice on what next to do will be appreciate.

Ps: Please try and be fair on this especially because she is not here to defend herself... Even criticism on my own part will be welcomed.

cc: Lalasticlala, Ishilove

Alright!

dunkem21:
Nice one. I agree with you.

Thanks.

Ok

I've said this another thread and I'll repeat it again:



Buhari can't win the 2015 presidential election. Sadly, Goodluck will continue as the president even though I would want another or better choice but Buhari is a NO NO NO.

#2. BUHARI IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO CHALLENGE GOODLUCK
Lets face facts here, in a democratic sense Buhari is not any level close to Goodluck. Goodluck is head and shoulders above him which makes me wonder why APC in all their talk about "CHANGE 2015" cannot effect change within the party. Maybe APC have no better candidate to challenge Goodluck. It beats mine imagination to think APC in all their wisdom choose to elect a man who at some point had made statements capable of instigating war and terrorism. Or perhaps he imposed himself (remember he's still a general if you challenge you go.... lipsrsealed )

See reasons here: https://www.nairaland.com/2079423/5-reasons-why-pdpll-win

Buhari can't win the election. Sadly, Goodluck will continue as the president even though I would want another or better choice but Buhari is a NO NO NO.

See reasons here: https://www.nairaland.com/2079423/5-reasons-why-pdpll-win

laykorn:
Rented crowd or not is not the matter here. It seems like these PDPs can't understand.
Dem born Jonathan well to go campaign for Adamawa or Borno state?
Ayamlaykorn

I think this speak volume of whom you want to be your president. He is free to campaign anywhere why not the next person. Shame on you and your supports

Five (5) Reasons Why PDP Will Win Presidential Elections And Lose The Governorship Race In Rivers State By Abelsconcept (a Rivers man)


Disclaimer: This thread attempts to address in the writers opinion the outcome of 2015 elections in Rivers State. Hence, do not attach personal attacks to any word(s), statement(s) used by the writer because they are as a result of the writers orientation about Rivers state politics.


#1. GOODLUCK IS STILL A SON OF THE SOIL
The saying that, "when a father flogs his child with the right hand and cuddles the child with left hand" is very applicable in Goodluck's case here. It is true at some point most Rivers people have seen Goodluck as an enemy rather than an ally. Mostly because of his decisions that has affect the ordinary Rivers man such as ceding Rivers Oil wells to Bayelsa and Akwa-Ibom states. Am not interested with his personal battles with Gov. Amaechi but rather what affects me as a Rivers man. Having said all that, remember my earlier quote, President Goodluck is a still son of the soil and I believe most Rivers people will forgive him (just like me).

#2. BUHARI IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO CHALLENGE GOODLUCK
Lets face facts here, in a democratic sense Buhari is not any level close to Goodluck. Goodluck is head and shoulders above him which makes me wonder why APC in all their talk about "CHANGE 2015" cannot effect change within the party. Maybe APC have no better candidate to challenge Goodluck. It beats mine imagination to think APC in all their wisdom choose to elect a man who at some point had made statements capable of instigating war and terrorism. Or perhaps he imposed himself (remember he's still a general if you challenge you go.... )

#3. AN IKWERRE MAN CANNOT HANDOVER TO ANOTHER IKWERRE MAN.
Seriously? I can't believe I just typed that. Am beginning to sound like one of those ethnocentric dudes (hahahaha ). I think it reality that people want to be recognized in midst of others, be it a person, family, ethnic or tribe they want to be recognized to feel accepted as a part that makes the whole. E.g. The Igbos have to announce secession from Nigeria when they felt marginalised, remember north and southwest crisis etc. We have peace because we've fought wars.

The issue of over looking an ethnic group because they're minority is the sources of may crisis we've had today. Rivers state is a peaceful state where different ethnic groups coexist and I don't see that changing anytime soon. Hence, the present administration in its wise thinking has rotated the mantle to the waterside people. It'll come to upland again after eight years then it will be the Ogonis, maybe my peoples turn (I'll be a contestant, possibly the governor ). Remember peace is a product of war.

#4. THE SUCCESSES OF THE PRESENT ADMINISTRATION IN RIVERS STATE.
The present administration has done well to a certain extent. Though, they could've done better especially in the second term but all in all it is above 40% which is enough for a pass mark. Comparing Rivers state's improved standards to other states you'll understand its being a success at 40% (that speaks volume of the entire country).

Having said that, that gives this administration the benchmark to propel the state in the right direction which includes wapping party to achieve it's purpose. So irrespective of the party, the people will vote the man presented by this administration as a way of saying thank you to this administration and for the continuity in progress of the state.

#5. WIKE IS A POLITICAL TOOL
I wanted to apologise to Wike supports then I remembered Ghandi's statement that says "do not apologize for speaking the truth....". Nyesom Wike has allowed himself to be used by the powers that be. Recall he worked with present administration as the chief of staff of the government house before the influences from top told him lies that he'll be the next governor of Rivers state. I used to like him because I felt he was outspoken person but then I realised he was just used. I totally lost the regard for him when he said he will make Rivers ungovernable for the present administration.

Seriously, am suspecting the decision to elect Wike as governorship candidate of PDP knowing fully well that he'll not stand a chance by virtue of being an Ikwerre man. A very poor decision by the power brokers in Rivers state PDP. Hmmmmm, this people.....

Berthezda:
so all u do is kpansh up and down the earth?

This guy is crazy!!!! I can't stop laughing

I don't know who is telling the truth here the PDP or APC supporters. However, as Rivers man, my take is that most persons who attended the rally were not there to support the presidential candidate rather they were there because they believed in their governor and his choice (Dakuku Adol Peterside).

This issue of APC or PDP winning Rivers state is more than a political party issue. The people of Rivers state, am sure mostly will vote PDP during the presidential elections but will opt for APC come the governorship race.

Any GMB for change or GEJ till 2019 does not interest us that much here. What we need is a good leader and PDP has made a wrong decision in Rivers state, just like APC made a wrong choice in the national level as well.

Nigerians are very wonderful people.... The man tried to narrate his 2014. Yes he made several confessions which includes admitting to sleeping with different women at different times in 2014.

Crucifying him for saying that is absolutely wrong. Most of you calling him dog have done worst in 2014. Recall he said several things about his 2014 but the one you choose to criticize is his admitting to sleeping with different women, like you never slept with anyone (more) in 2014.

My problem with my countrymen is will are too quick to judge. Remember to look in the mirror first before telling your brother to remove dirt from his eyes. Thank you.

gameboy727:
School passed through them. All we do is cram cram and cram to pass and get good grades. We don't really study for the education.

That's the truth! All we do is cram and have A's and B's because without a 2.1 no body looks at you God damn degree. To me, I think preference on classifications of university degrees is highly overrated and abused.

Imagine where a student tries to expand his/her knowledge on a particular course and then goes into the examination hall, writes and even expanded on the topics taught by lecturer. Then ends up having a C or worst still fails for trying to teach his lecturer. I means, you can't eat you cake and have it principled.

The system of education in Nigeria, I don't of other countries, discourages inventions and adventure. A student who tries to research and develop an idea is often discouraged by those who are supposed to guide and encourage him/her. I remember, a particular incident in one of the southeastern universities in Nigerian where a student of architecture researched and designed a suspended building applying the known laws of magnetism in physics. He almost failed. He had to start a new design all together. That design is very feasible. It a shame that nobody will encourage. It's a case of the blind leading the blind. Am afraid it could be worst in the near future expect something drastic happens.

pweedyuz:
there is nothing creepy in going into ur brother's room to sleep wen u fully have enuf space in ur own room......"creepy is definitely not d word to use in this context"

being over closely knitted to ur blood brother is also not wrong too.
if u grew up close to ur sisters nd u guys practically do things together....I.e sharing a very good bond with them,,u won't be here saying all these things.

I'm not denying d fact that I haven't heard stories about brothers sleeping with their sisters but there is no other word to term it other than abnormality........Yes,,d both of u r abnormal...d guy for making a move nd d girl for succumbing or vice versa.

brother,,,dis is blood we r talking about....#cousins set aside#.....
I have cousins dat "literary" bath together sef..... I.e...d Sister myt b putting on a bra without closing d door nd d brother will just barge in on us,,say whatever he wants to say nd leave..........I was surprise d day I saw this nd she told me ""wetin dey dia ""
p.s.......she s getting married tomorrow

tho I don't do d aforementioned,,,, but that doesn't mean I don't change my cloths in front of my brother....#using wrapper or towel#

but please,,,d thought of sleeping on d same bed with ones brother or Sister is not appalling............ everything rests on d foundation,, training,background, closeness nd fondness of d said siblings.

Of course, I grew up with my large family in a two bedroom flat with seven siblings(four boys and three girls) plus my parents. Thing is all the boys sleep in the sitting room while the girls are in one and parents the other. Though, we all eat, play and fight together but nothing like being too attached to any particular family member(s). I also mentioned spending two years with my elder sister during which we shared same room and bed (did you even read the original post?).

To me, there is everything wrong with a grow up girl passing nights in her brothers room while she has hers. You can argue that you have a close relationship with your brother but having regular sleepovers with him, to me, it's being overly close knitted and could lead to jealousy on your part when you see your brother with other women. It same reason some ladies complain of boyfriend's sister jealousy. Every adult human requires space. Even hot lovers give each other space. Married couples have to feign travel just to have some space from their spouse. Privacy is what am talking about here.

Come on, you're no longer a baby. Fine, when you're a baby you needed you brother's security, love and warmth. But as grow up adult, ask yourself if it right to seek warmth in your brother's arm? Maybe love and security yes, but warmth a big NO. Ask yourself why do I go to his bed when I have mine?

Ask for cousin, who said "wetin dey dia". I don't know what is appropriate and inappropriate like you said in your post that you're surprised, I feel same here. My take on it will be simple if you can answer these questions: Do they share same bed? Where they separated at some point in the lives e.g one traveling for like four or five years with seeing the other? Do they talk in secrecy? Do they take each others side in a general argument? Does one rebel against the other most times? Please do some research it may give you an insight of this "wetin dey dia".

Hedybee:
I still maintain wat i said in d other thread. Anybody who has feelings for his/her siblings is abnormal. I might not know what it is like in other families, but at this juncture, i want to commend n appropriate my parents for d kind upbringing they gave to us and my brothers, for never giving me any reason to live in fear and to doubt d very foundation our parents gave us. My sisters r married n none stays in my state. I have no option than to roll with my brothers. They are my best friends

You're getting it wrong. In fact, for you to categorically state that someone who affectionately close their relations is abnormal makes me wonder how you claim to roll with you brothers. I've see and heard of stories where ladies cry because they're going to leave their father home to their husband's. They don't cry because they do not want get married. They're happy getting married but the relationships with family will no longer be first priority.

This thread attempts to disapprove of two grow up siblings of opposite sex sleeping together due to obvious reasons stated in the thread (that's if you read it ooo). How can you go to your brothers' room when you have space for yourself. To me, I call it being over closely knitted and perhaps creepy. It is in circumstances that you've sleepovers with your brother(s).

striktlymi:
Very well written and your thoughts properly articulated.

I agree with a number of things you have said but I do not think it inappropriate for siblings of the opposite sex to have each others back.

Family should always be the pillar on which individual members can fall back on in moments of crisis; this is one advantage of being raised in a closely knit family.

Your sister's desire for your counsel and comfort in such moments should be treasured as against you seeing it as awkward.

If she doesn't come to you, who else do you want her to go to? Friends? Or she should go through the pains all alone? I don't think that is right.

One major reason why the community experiences a dearth in morality is because the family unit is not as close as it should be and instead of kids learning from home, they pick all soughts from their friends and on social media.

The saying "show me your friends and I will tell you who you are" won't hold true if each family brace up to their responsibilities.

I understand your grievance and for the most part, I agree with you but this shouldn't be a basis for errecting imaginary walls between members of the same family, simply because they happen to be of different sexes.

Thank you for the compliment. It is highly appreciated.

Unlike most nairalanders who bumps into a thread skip through it and go ahead to drop comments without properly digesting the content of the thread. Who told you're qualified to post comments when you've not read through the article.

Back to you Sir, I really appreciate you advice and as a matter of fact, it is great and good to be backbone for your family members irrespective of sex. Having said that, it is also pertinent to point out that clinging to a particular relation among others is not in my best interest.

Once again, thank you.

naijaboiy:
i really don't understand this Op's point

Are you saying because many people agreed they can sleep with their sibling of the opposite sex in a room,,then they are practising inbreeding?

What evidence do you have to back this up?

You even had to copy their comments and paste here which to me is very wrong.

You need evidence to believe right? You want me to install hidden cameras in their rooms when they go to bed unclad with their sisters and message her body. Listen, brothers and sisters are supposed to be each others backbone and not playing with each others genitals.

From experience: Their is this overprotective brother who scrolls his sister's phone every micro second to find out her private life, who is dating or attempting to date her. He'll copy out the number and call guy to scold him for running with his sister 19plus old girl. These people are closing knitted but am observant person might sense the air of rebellion and dominance which characterizes the behaviours of those involved in incestuous relationships. Having said that, these people are best of friends, they prefer each others side when sleeping time comes. One evidence you should look for do they jealous their brother's/sister's girlfriend/boyfriend? If that is the case you don't need evidence.

You still want me to install hidden cameras? So you can see when they're pouncing abi?

As for the copied comments, I ensure not print anybody's name to the comments. I just wanted a proper look at them for assessment.

Am seriously worried with the sort of comments I've been reading on nairaland. In the mood of this festive season most nairalaners had the opportunity to spend quality time with their families. Hence, this development has also created avenues such that sisters and brothers had had to share same room or bed, or even bath together.

So topics like:

https://www.nairaland.com/2066405/sleep-brother-sister-same-room#29300505

https://www.nairaland.com/2066935/get-unclad-brother-sister-presence

Have been created.

I've personally gone through most the of comments and found some deceptive and unacceptable. The truth is that once you're involved in an act that is not accepted by the society you always look for ways to justify your actions.

A lot of things are happening out there that requires a lot of attention these days. Sisters and brothers engaging in illicit sex. It is becoming more common than gay practices. The worst is that this illicit act is protected by the family, using excuses such as love, care and protection among family members.

You hear strange stories every now and then from foreign media speaking out against incestuous relationships and sentencing offenders to jail. However, in my country, Nigeria nobody wants to hear about it because it is an abomination that shouldn't be allowed outside family ears.

It is true that most of us grew in poor homes such that we've to share room with our brothers/sisters. I remember visiting a friend whose parents and other four siblings share just one room until he was 20years old. They'd to divide the room with a blind and they all slept together. Myself, when I was growing, I'd to share a room with my elder sister for about two years. I can assure you that sometimes it wasn't pleasant at all. For instance, waking up in middle of night and finding her rolled so close to me. Its awkward. Or perhaps, she is fast asleep and her clothing are slightly or completely removed from her body and I've to cover her up. Or maybe, she has scattered her underwear on the bed and I want to use the bed and I've to pack them up. I feel really uncomfortable with these issues. My elder sister is more than tens years old than me, which makes me call her aunty. However, it was not still comfortable because I was almost a complete adult at that time. Though, I never have incest with her and the thought never crossed my mind. But today after like five years since I left her place. She admires and even at times tries to compare my qualities with her boyfriend's. Sometimes, I wondered why? Until I researched and discovered that those two years of sharing same bed, eating and doing almost everything together has created a bond between us such that she calls me when she needs comfort after a break-up, or sad event in her life.

She see me as her best friend and caring brother. However, to me is a bit awkward because I don't see reasons why she should run to me for emotional comfort. Don't get me wrong, I love and respect my sister a lot. Infact, she almost single-handily saw me through school. However, I felt and still feel she had my other sisters to run to and they'll comfort her. Hence, my point is emotions can evolve as long as sharing together is involved no matter the relationships in question here.

Kids sleeping brothers and sisters sleeping together is acceptable but after puberty it no longer acceptable. Maybe, a few sleepovers due to circumstances after puberty. I've gone into research and discovered many incestuous families hiding behind caring, loving and protecting. In some countries, it is an offense for relations of opposite sex to spend night together in a room talk more of sharing a bed.

The Reasons Behind The Topic:

[b]1. EMOTIONAL FEELINGS: [/b]Some nairalanders think that relations can't develop emotional feelings within themselves. Hence, I feel they're ignoring the reality of the issue here. Which makes wonder if most are not involved in the illicit act. Some brothers I've seen even go as far as blocking every little advances from other guys towards their sisters. They offer different reasons for their actions. Will you date and marry your sister? Some will even save their sisters name on the phone as: My Angel, My Only, My Love, My Heart etc. When you ask them why? They'll give you different versions of the story. They claim that any person who develops emotional feelings for their sister/brother is abnormal and sick. Let me ask you this questions: Why do most ladies go after men who bear qualities of their father or brothers. Especially if they've great qualities. It is also vice versa for the guys. Guys tends to go for women who possesses attributes similar to their mother or sisters. Or you've never admired or even envied your father/mother for marrying such a great woman/man as your mother/father. Or we've not heard of father impregnating daughter?

[b]2. THE TRUTH AND THE LIE: [/b]Some nairalanders' comments are very disturbing such that an average guy out there will start thinking they're abnormal for admiring their sisters attributes or qualities. It is a lie. Though, it's a pity that some guys go to the extent of acting it out. Which is an unacceptable norm in the society. Having said that, it is pertinent to point out that in every strong denial their is an element of truth. For some nairalanders who 'd ascertain that they sleep unclad, bath and even UnCloth their sisters. Some of the comments are truths hidden behind an unsuspecting statement while other are free minded statements. However, you can decide for self. I've randomly selected few of the comments unedited for your assessment. They are:

[b]Comment 1.
[/b]Hian, Abomination kwa.

I dey sleep Unclad sef with my sisters for same room. Sometimes, dey go tell me to go and shave .. with that their sharp mouth.

I dey help them unclip their bra, massage their shoulders and understand their monthly cycles.

It means nothing and doesn't move a vein.

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[b]Comment 2
[/b]you for real? Siblings? Same mama same papa shocked
As long as I'm at home, my only sister doesn't sleep anywhere but my room.

I dey read some shocking comments here o. Like some people can be tempted to "touch" their own flesh and blood? If my sis were as sexy as nicki minaj and I see her nakeed, it wudnt raise a vein for phuck's sake she's a sister cool

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[b]Comment 3.
What exactly are you preventing?

Your statement simply means you don't trust your own blood brother enough. Or has he made sexual advances at you?

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[b]Comment 4
[/b]Honestly!

I see nothing sharing a bed with my sister no matter how old I am. I mean is this supposed to be a question worth opening a thread for?

It only depicts the kind of things happening in some families in our society today sad

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[b]Comment 5
[/b]Hight of stewpidity ur broda for crying out loud
Wia dos prevention de prevention tin comes to ua mind eh
U guys though amazes me atimes I wonder weda dis re genuine humans
Last two years during ma IT at aba
I stayed with ma cousine with her gal friend and we stayed in der 1 room apartment for half a year ma own na go hospital for morning dn come back late we all slept on de same bed
Even presently dis xmas me n ma cousines n sibling whom I hv nt seen since chatted for so long I forgot to go to ma room n we pass de nite der
So u guys should reason like a beings for once

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Comment 6
Why not? I spent the night in his room last night,and yes on the same bed

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Comment 7
Op, stop saying things like this!

Your own brother??

Na wa o...

My sister, if I visit them, dem dey roll on top my body...na wa o!

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Comment 8
From birth till this moment my brother and I have slept in the same room, with few other siblings too, there's nothing wrong, we used to share the same bed sef.

Op why would your mum even say such?

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Comment 9
I cant do dat bcus prevention is better dan cure.

Response: You are sick
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Comment 10
Of course I can. Infact I enjoy sleeping with my lil bro in the same when my sis isn't around cus I hate to stay alone. There's nothing there. My lil bro is my BestFriend

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Comment 11
On the contrary, they are beauties, endowed and chicky. None of them remain sef. The last one was crowned queen in her school days and would have continued as a model if no be for one sharp guy way come kidnap am carry am run go abroad.

I remember my favourite music to them. ''Nwanne ona alu nu nwanne ya e ..

If brother dey marry sister ...chai

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Comment 12
shocked you don't mean it! U unclip their bra, massage them and calculate their cycles? Do u also change their pads and wash their panties as well, sleep unclad with them and they will help u do the shaving. Mehn don't play sinful saint here, tell me u can do all that without getting excited and I will tell u that u are either a gay or medically u are not a man. I na ako tell by moonlight!

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@op I don't blame your mum for saying dat, cos dis days a lot are happening in dis our society, dat was a motherly advice to u,it doesn't mean she don't trust u or ur brother's, she was just being protective of u all, I av seen brother's sleeping with sisters to the level of getting pregnant nd giving birth to the child, a friend of mine her elder brother raped her nd threatened her not to tell anyone tho she was in primary 4 then........when she has the courage to leak the secret that was the end of their parent marriage the husband was blaming the wife of not been observant nd so on...till today she hate her brother, so can she now get married now nd allow brother's nd sisters to share the same bed ...NO she won't, my self I don't av an elder brother even if I have one I can never share a rum with my bro , if u are a good brother no wrong feelings towards your sister's...........we thank God for your life .....it doesn't means all guys are like you , some brother's are dog and possess with evil spirit
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When all my siblings are home, we sleep on the same bed(most times) and yes I sleep unclad covering myself with a piece of wrapper, you need to see how the 4 of us squeeze in on one bed gisting and then fall asleep like that.

Only a very twisted, perveted bascard,would think of being intimate with a sibling, sick people full this world sha.

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Hian, Abomination kwa.

I dey sleep Unclad sef with my sisters for same room. Sometimes, dey go tell me to go and shave .. with that their sharp mouth.

I dey help them unclip their bra, massage their shoulders and understand their monthly cycles.

It means nothing and doesn't move a vein.

Response: I wanted to comment but when I saw yours I decided not to because you've said it all.. We've even had our bath together....
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It is obvious that APC have made a mistake by electing (Buhari imposed himself) as their presidential candidate. It is no contest against the underachieving President Goodluck Jonathan. It is a case of gray and dark.

Though, Jonathan is not the best for option for Nigeria but it is a far cry to compare the two men.

Sir Celestine Omehia is the former Governor of Rivers State. In this interview with journalists in Abuja, he gave reasons why Buhari should not be voted in as President. In his view, if General Muhammadu Buhari is elected president in 2015, his election would be tantamount to retrogressing the country. Excerpts:

By Chioma Obinna

DO you think that President Goodluck Jonathan is a match for Buhari in the coming 2015 election?

I don’t have any fear about Buhari being the APC presidential
candidate. People are rating Buhari from his military achievements, but we are now talking about the democratic government of Nigeria.

If Buhari achieved anything, it was by the force of arms – the use of the army, the use of gun and so on. If you put Buhari and Goodluck Jonathan in the same environment, you will see that their behaviour would be different. One was democratically brought up. The democratic ideologies in him are different from the military ideologies in Buhari.

Practical politics


Buhari has not learnt anything about democracy and more so, Buhari’s so called achievements in administration were not piloted by him. They were practically piloted by his second-in-command and the second-in-command unfortunately, is not his second-in-command now. He has a professor as his running mate. And we are not talking of academic work; we are talking of practical politics.

We are not talking of who will be tested in the laboratory, we are not talking about who will be tested in the farmyard; we are talking of democracy in politics. So, if the two second-in-commands are not the same, it then means that Buhari cannot do better than Jonathan.

But one thing is basic: Jonathan has had democratic experience from being deputy governor to governor, from being governor to vice president, being vice president to president. You cannot compare their experience in life in terms of democratic experience. You cannot compare their achievements. Put on the same scale, Jonathan will score 80 percent, while Buhari will score 20 percent in democratic achievements.

If you put them on the same scale, the vice presidential candidate of the PDP who was once a governor and vice president for some number of years will score much more than the intimidated vice presidential candidate of the APC. So, put the two together, Nigerians are matured enough and reasonable enough to think and know that Jonathan stands a better chance to give Nigerians what they need. Again, don’t forget that being the president for four years running; Jonathan has set several things in motion: several projects, several principles, and several ideologies that could keep Nigeria moving.

On the other hand, if Buhari is given the opportunity, he will set Nigeria ten years backward because we will start a new idea not from where Jonathan has started. He will go back and draw a plan that is different from what Jonathan has started. And in that case, Nigeria will be taken ten years behind the schedule. So, the issue of continuity comes to play.

I have always said the issue of continuity is important in Nigerian politics and in the Nigerian administrative system. Mind you, APC is only coming up with vendetta. APC has never said anything good about any other party. So, when they talk about what they can do for Nigeria, APC would always think of how to destroy what the PDP has set up to do and in that case, there would be a lot of abandoned projects, there would be a lot of wastage of our resources, there would be a lot of acrimony between the two parties. So, there would be no need creating such things.

Waste of resources

Nigerians are not good with continuity and that is what we want to avoid.

The APC has always talked of change. That takes me to the idea of APC – change, APC – change. What is there to change? They have never told you what they want to change. They will never come out to say these are the programmes they want to change.

In any case, who are the members of the APC now, properly so called members APC? They are all members of the PDP who abandoned the project and ran into the APC. And what are they going to change? Changing what they had already done? Take for instance, the campaign director of APC is a former PDP person. What is he going to change? He is going to change what he started in PDP. What it means is that ab initio, he was wrong in all he did in the PDP.

Masari is the governorship candidate in Katsina and he was a Speaker in the PDP. What is he going to change? Look at the former PDP chairman from Kwara, Baraje, what is he going to change?

Audu Ogbeh was chairman of the PDP, what is he going to change? Does it mean that all these PDP members who are in APC were failures and they now realise that they were failures and they want to make a change? It is never easy to change what you have done unless somebody else will change it. So, APC cannot change what they have done.

One major issue that would remain a problem for President Jonathan is the issue of insecurity, what is your take on this?

The issue of insecurity is a common global phenomenon. Criminals are born every day. There are criminals all over the world and Nigeria is no exemption. What we must understand is that Jonathan did not create the insecurity in the north eastern part of Nigeria; therefore, it is the problem of Nigerians and not only Jonathan’s.

For Buhari to say he will end the insecurity immediately he takes over power, it then means that he is the creator of the situation. He knows the origin, he knows where it started and more so, he is from the north. Although he is from the North West, he is from the North; therefore, he created it to destabilize the administration of Jonathan.

Talking about insecurity, the people that are affected are Nigerians, therefore, he owes it a duty to help Nigerians and save their lives whether or not he is in power, whether or not the APC is in power. If they have the antidote to it, this is the time they should help instead of looking at Nigerians suffering and dying.

Suffering and dying

This is the time they should play their role in one way or the other. But the question is, what role have they played to end insecurity in Nigeria?

So, if they cannot proffer solution now, they have no solution at all even if they are in power.

The dust raised in Rivers state following the conduct of the governorship primary election is yet to settle. Are you confident that the PDP would have the day in the forthcoming election?

I am very sure of PDP winning Rivers state. I am very sure of that because primaries are always in this form. No primary election in Nigeria has ended and the loser agreed that it has ended.

There has always been the belief that the last is yet to be heard. Even till names are submitted to the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) and even after that, people are still going to protest. So, it is natural in Nigeria. It is not the same thing when compared to other parts of the world where there are gallant losers.

In Nigeria, there are gallant winners, but there are no gallant losers. But one basic thing about Rivers state is that it is a PDP state. It has always been like that. People in Rivers state don’t really like going to opposition except the individuals.

When I left the PDP and joined the All Progressives Grand Alliance (APGA), people joined me massively because of my personality as Celestine Omehia, because of their beliefs in my programmes, my ideologies and what I can afford them. So, people followed me and I still believe that the 2011 election was won in Rivers state by APGA led by me.


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Interesting.... Nice one.

I see, all these bad-mouth towards the governor is all because he made a choice on being a free man.

It is a shameful experience to think of the comments posted on this thread. It just shows the level of impunity and rottenness in the society (Nigeria). I do not like defending any Nigerian politician because to me they are all political kleptomanias' and Governor Amaechi is not an exemption. Having said that, it is pertinent to point out that Amaechi's crime is his choice to be free.

I pity those of you who are busy celebrating mediocre autocrats as champions. It's like a blind man leading another blind man (who is leading who).

As a Rivers man, I've seen a enough, I don't need some made up statistics to misguide me. I see the difference between yesterday and today in my state. I've also foreseen a bright future for the state.

Governor Amaechi is never the best but sure is a starting point.

PS: Don't never ever allow anyone to push you around. Remember, tough times don't last but tough people do.

I vote

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andyanders: You spoke the truth and I feel the so called pastor encouraging such is a demonic pastor from the pit of hell.

What are you saying....

Smh....

I have three questions for the op. please I need answers to these questions:
1. Why did God created a man and woman, and ordered them to multiple.
2. Why did God allow your stuff (penis) to grow alone with you when it is so obivious that you'll only need it when you get married.
3. What is your original intention for creating this tread. Let me guess; you just got out or about going into such relationship hence you want to know the opinion of others, or perhaps you want to segregate and condemn other Christians or maybe as usual prophet udeme wants to warn us right?