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This write up has the following
1. Warning: Havoc of pre-marital sex
2.Sex is a place of transfer
3."Sweet" sex turned sour

"Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body." (1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP)

Dear friends,

God has a great plan for you no doubt (Jeremiah 29:11), but in the twinkling of an eye on the altar of pre-marital sex, such colourful and enviable destiny can turn to a piece of rag. In actual fact, many singles today have brought upon themselves a perpetual calamity that is waiting for them in the future.

That 5 minutes "pleasure" of sex with your so call boyfriend/partner/sugar daddy/sugar mummy/ girlfriend can be a trap that would give Satan and his armies of demons free access to your life. Some of the result of the pre-marital sex you engage in today, would have germinated into serious marital problems in the future. In the school of deliverance there is what is called, "Satanic legal ground." It does not matter whether you believe or not - infact Satan thrives on people's ignorance to afflict and destroy them (including Christians)

Listen very carefully, there are so many strange things happening in marriages these days - some because of the issue of sex and immorality.

Can i ask you a question,dear friend? That lady or guy you have been having sex with, do you have any inkling as to what ancestral course he or she carries? Do you know if he or she is battling with spirit wive or husband? Do you know if that sex partner fellow belong a secret society or cult? Do you know if there's a generational course running with high temperature and speed in the life of that your sex partner?

SEX IS A PLACE OF TRANSFER
What most of us don't realise is that sex is a covenant. Sex is a place of transfer, whether good or bad. Sex is a give and take place; some sort of exchange.

"SWEET" SEX TURN BAD.
A young innocent lady- church going at least - with a very good home training lost her virginity to man with dread-locks that love to smoke weed and dance to reggae music. After a while she began to mis-behave and using all manner of vulgar language that she would not even utter before. Every body around her were concern including her loving parents.Upon investigation, it was discovered that her good-natured and well-mannered behaviour change after that sexual intercourse with the rasta man. There was a transfer of the demonic spirit controlling that dread-lock rasta man that had sex with her.

Why am i writing this short piece (leaving everything i was doing) you may be wandering. It is because the Bible says, there is a way that looks right to a man or woman, but the end thereof is full of regrets, anguish, abortion and ultimately death. DON'T MORTGAGE YOUR FUTURE MARITAL LIFE ON THE ALTAR OF PRE-MARITAL SEX.

A word is enough for the discerning mind!

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Dear Single friends,

The problem with many marriages today thathas led to some people having phobia for marriage is because people prepare for wedding and not marriage. Wedding is just a day, (infact less than a day), while marriage is for a life time!

The problem with marriages today is: little preparation, but much expectation. And when this happens, couples get irritated and disappointed.

Why? Little preparation, but much expectation. A marriage you don’t prepare for will confuse you!What are some of the expectations?Quite a number of people believe marriage will solve everything.

Listen very carefully friends,…
1. Marriage will not cure lust;
2. Marriage will not cure greed;
3.Marriage will not cure terrible addiction like masturbation, alcoholism, gambling;
4. Marriage will not cure promiscuity;
5. Marriage will not cure anger and pride;
6.Marriage will not cure selfishness…

A marriage you don’t prepare for will confuse you. And that preparation begins with YOU and the CHOICE OF MARRIAGE PARTNER you make.

That is why is eBook (Choice of A Marriage Partner? Look Before You LEAP!) is for YOU. This 60-paged PDF eBook will adequately equip you alongside your Bible in choosing the right marriage partner with peace of mind, using TIMELESS BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES. The Bible says, unto the children of God is given the mysteries of the Kingdom (Mark 4:11). This mystery represents keys to acquire the understanding that will make you out-standing in life from the Word of God. This eBook by His grace will open your eyes of understanding so you don’t make the wrong choice.

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Remember that through knowledge the righteous shall be delivered (Proverbs 11:9). Through the knowledge based upon timeless Biblical principle, you too shall be delivered from making wrong choice!

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Dear Single friends,

A marriage you don’t prepare for will confuse you and bring so much regret and agony! (That will not be your portion in Jesus name).The next thing after school is not marriage, but to prepare yourself and discover your purpose.

Marriage is not a sprint (you don’t jump in and out of it). Marriage is a marathon race that requires stamina and maturity. Along the journey in marriage are bumps here and there. That is where YOUR preparation comes in handy.

There is a saying that as you lay your bed, so you’ll lie on it. Friends, how are you laying your “bed of marital future?” Many pains today are because of lack of preparation yesterday.

There is “a how” of getting into a marriage. The Bible says, if the foundation be destroy what can the righteous do (Psalm 11:3).In other words if the foundation of preparation is shoddy and carefree, then even a tongue-talking Christians can do nothing but experience bitterness and resentment.

The key is not to jump into marriage. The key is to be willing to learn at the Master’s feet (The Word of God) like Mary in Luke 10:42 and other life experiences. The key is to seek for knowledge. Daniel declares in that he understood by books (Daniel 9:2). How many books have you read, not just on marriage but other self- development books.

Friends, may i introduce to you an eBook that is not only informs you but TRANSFORM your mindset about the Christian marriage and what to look out for in choosing the right marriage partner with piece of mind. This is an eBook that took about 8 years of preparation to compose. The eBook was borne out of prayer and passion for Christian singles in preparation for marriage. The title of the 60paged eBook is, “CHOICE OF A MARRIAGE PARTNER? LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP’” and you can buy it at https:///y7j4baza and have delivered directly to your email box within 24 hours of purchase.

Now is not the time to buy iphone 6 or 7. Now is not the time to buy expensive clothes (all because you want to belong). Now is not the time to rush into marriage, all because everybody is getting married (you are not everybody). The Bible says there is time for everything (Ecclesiastics 3:1).Now is the time to buy books and empower your mental faculty. When you buy books, you are buying a man’s years of experience including the pains and successes on a platter of gold.

This eBook is very practical, laced with relevant Bible references available at https:///y7j4baza

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

iamJ:
Anybody wen email u to buy that book is not ready for marriage


Do book abt how to be a friend .....lobish

Thank you sir for the feedback. God bless you!

Read the following carefully…

Dear friends,
Marriage is tough business at it gathers problems as it matures and it’s only the fear of God, patience, tolerance, a spirit of give and take and mutual affection between you and your spouse that can make it a success.I don’t know your purpose of wanting to marry? But remember that your choice of marriage partner could make or mar your God-given beautiful life, leaving behind loads of regret and heart-break. I pray the Lord will help you as you allow him in Jesus’ name.

Do Something For Yourself Today That Your Future Will Be Thankful For.
Did you know that your choice of marriage partner will determine where you arrive tomorrow: marital bliss or bitterness?Did you know that pre-marital sex (sex before marriage), is not a guarantee your partner would marry you?Did you harbour any fear in your heart towards marriage because you have never experienced love even while growing up with your
parents/guardian due to their constant nagging and quarreling?Did you need a guide on what to really consider as a yardstick in choosing a marriage partner,one with the fear of God?.Then Look No Further…This ebook is for YOU!

Why Must I Buy This eBook?
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• It gives you a solid foundation to build on for successful marriage in the future
• It has a positive impact on your relationship with God
• It helps you to fulfill your purpose here on earth devoid of marital troubles and headaches
• It enhances your knowledge of the will of God with respect to marriage
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• It will place you miles ahead to anyone that wants to deceive you
• It will prevent you from choosing a marriage partner outside the will of God, that could lead to a life of regret and untimely death
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Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
aboveonly
courtshipshipguide@gmail.com

CollinsWeGlobe:
May God give me better wife, make i fit settle down serve God well.

My brother, the first thing is for one to give his/her heart to God (Corinthians 8:5), and then serve Him (Matthew 6:33), then good spouse becomes a bonus. What i have personally discovered apart from the aforementioned steps is that God does "pay" those that serve Him with good marriage/family. For He is a REWARDER of them that DILIGENTLY seek/serve Him. (Hebrews 11:6)

Stay blessed!

Understanding Marriage For Christian Singles 8

Forgiveness is KEY to a fruitful & lasting marriage

(Matthew 18:21-22 AMP)
"Then Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how many times may my brother sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? [As many as] up to seven times?Jesus answered him, I tell you, not up to seven times, but seventy times seven!"

Marriage is hard work! And there are Biblical terms and conditions that couple must adhere to if they are to have a blissful marriage. One of such terms and conditions is FORGIVENESS: the grace to forgive (and forget) your spouse of wrong doing.

Often, people use the phrase, "I LOVE YOU" without deep understanding as to what constitute LOVE. Someone said,"There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love." (Byrant H Mcgrill). The two: forgiveness and love,must go hand in hand in marriage.

One of the most profound and eye-revealing Scripture that has really helped my wife and i, are the words of the Master Himself, the Lord Jesus Christ in Luke 17:1 which states that,"Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come."

No one is an angel even though the couple are born-again, tongue speaking and looking forward to making heaven. As long as we are in this flesh, there would always be offences and we must learn to forgive and let go.

One the question i ask would be couple during counseling is about their understanding about forgiveness. Are you willing to forgive your spouse over and over again...and still love her/him anyway.

One of the reasons why many marriages eventually fail is because of lack of forgiveness. Spouses cannot forgive each other for past errors or faults. Having a forgiving attitude will help one’s marriage to last but having a vengeful and unforgiving approach to marriage will destroy the marriage. Unforgiveness will also cause communication problems and resentment.Matthew 18:21-22NKJV – Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

Conclusively, if you are not not married and you are contemplating marriage, don't even bother to marry if you are not ready to accommodate your spouse seemingly short comings.

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Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly.
courtshipguide@gmail.com

saaedlee:
Hi Romancelanders,

I don't intend to bore you with my bio n stuffs, just straight to the point. I attend a church and belong to the Security Unit; Altar Sector precisely (those guys that stand n face the church with radios plugged to their ears from beginning till the end of service). Because of my appealing face, I'm always chosen to be in front which is very close to the choir stand.

However, I have this lady in the choir, she's married but childless, we started speaking some weeks ago. We happen to start speaking one Wednesday when I had to drop her after service.

Fast forward, she calls daily and stuff, I got to know that the husband is impotent and she's the one that got him his job. Deep down in me, I do not want anything to do with her, but she's always calling and asking for dinner at her place or mine. I recently (today)also got to find out that the husband has been out of the country for 4 months now.

She is IN LUST with you and not love. If you truly care about your destiny run for your dear life. And if you are contemplating "sleeping with her," here are a few Scriptures to warn you of the repercussion (Proverbs 7 AMP)

1.My son, keep my words
And treasure my commandments within you [so they are readily available to guide you].
2
Keep my commandments and live,
And keep my teaching and law as the apple of your eye.
3
Bind them [securely] on your fingers;
Write them on the tablet of your heart.
4
Say to [skillful and godly] wisdom, “You are my sister,”
And regard understanding and intelligent insight as your intimate friends;
5
That they may keep you from the immoral woman,
From the foreigner [who does not observe God’s laws and] who flatters with her [smooth] words.

For at the window of my house
I looked out through my lattice.
7
And among the naive [the inexperienced and gullible],
I saw among the youths
A young man lacking [good] sense,
8
Passing through the street near her corner;
And he took the path to her house
9
In the twilight, in the evening;
In the black and dark night.
10
And there a woman met him,
Dressed as a prostitute and sly and cunning of heart.
11
She was boisterous and rebellious;
[a]She would not stay at home.
12
At times she was in the streets, at times in the market places,
Lurking and setting her ambush at every corner.
13
So she caught him and kissed him
And with a brazen and impudent face she said to him:
14
“I have peace offerings with me;
Today I have paid my vows.
15
“So I came out to meet you [that you might share with me the feast of my offering],
Diligently I sought your face and I have found you.
16
“I have spread my couch with coverings and cushions of tapestry,
With colored fine linen of Egypt.
17
“I have perfumed my bed
With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18
“Come, let us drink our fill of love until morning;
Let us console and delight ourselves with love.
19
“For my husband is not at home.
He has gone on a long journey;
20
He has taken a bag of money with him,
And he will come home on the appointed day.”
21
With her many persuasions she caused him to yield;
With her flattering lips she seduced him.
22
Suddenly he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter [not knowing the outcome],
Or as one in stocks going to the correction [to be given] to a fool,
23
Until an arrow pierced his liver [with a mortal wound];
Like a bird fluttering straight into the net,
He did not know that it would cost him his life.
24
Now therefore, my sons, listen to me,
And pay attention to the words of my mouth.
25
Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways,
Do not stray into her [evil, immoral] paths.
26
For she has cast down many [mortally] wounded;
Indeed, all who were killed by her were strong.
27
Her house is the way to [b]Sheol,
Descending to the chambers of death.

Understanding Marriage For Christian Singles 7

Marriage Does Not Cure LUST!

But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.(Matthew 5:28 ESV)

It a big lie to think getting married would cure or eliminate lust from your heart. A fellow is a web of lust must deal with the root cause before he or she gets married. If the foundation be destroyed what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3)

A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I remember vividly that some few months to my wedding (then my wife to be was living in Abuja),i almost fell into the trap of lust.And this happened right in the midst of being very active in the things of the Kingdom. The sister in question happened to be in a youth prayer group i belonged to...We grew 'close' and in a bit to encourage her more in the things of God, i started lusting after her in my heart. It was so strong that Satan used the sister to encourage that lustful tendencies that would have ended in fornication, but God saved me by His grace and helped me to keep my testimony untainted. I had to cry out to God for help and He completely delivered me from that temporary lustful madness. Halleluia!

A WORD OF ADVICE TO SINGLES
Purity is a heart issue.Marriage does not cure lust, The Bible encourages us to pursue purity.(Matthew 5:. You can be a virgin, but totally lost in lust. Purity is more than not having sex!

Many young people think that all their sexual lust will be solved the moment they get married, but the fact is that their problems will only begin then.Marriage does not cure lust, if it did adultery wouldn't exist.If you view marriage as a sex release, you will be a slave to lust forever; your spiritually journey would be greatly impacted negatively and ultimately ruin your marriage.

Conclusively, If is not dealt with, it becomes an idol in your heart and this can lead to wrong choice of marriage partner if you are struggling with sexual lust, the root cause must be dealt with decisively by personal deliverance (or being prayed for by a deliverance minister); for it is written "But upon mount Zion shall be deliverance, and there shall be holiness; and the house of Jacob shall possess their possessions."

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Stay blessed and free from lust in Jesus name!

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Consequences of Sexual Sins 7

*ABORTION*

Just as you cannot understand the path of the wind or the mystery of a tiny baby growing in its mother's womb, so you cannot understand the activity of God, who does all things.(Ecclesiastes11:5 NLT)

Dear Single friends,
I want you to pay a very close attention to the word: ‘’ABORTION.” Irrespective of your gender, please take this little write up with all seriousness it deserves because whether you are a male or female, it takes two to tango.
In the series 6 of the consequences of sexual sins, we dwelled on one of the end product of illicit sex being “Emergency Mothers & Fathers.” Sometimes, the lady eventually aborts the baby.

What is abortion?
Abortion is a hideous sin against the sanctity of life and the One who created that life, God! Abortion is baby killing. Abortion is murder because it involves human life.
From research aborted babies feel pain. In the womb, a 20-30 weeks baby’s ability to experience pain is heightened! Abortion does not make a lady UN-PREGNANT; it makes you the mother of a DEAD BABY!
Just think about this: if our parents had aborted us most of ones wouldn’t be in the world today. That is why pre-marital sex among singles is not encouraged by the Word of God. The problem is most people, particularly this generation think they know so much that they always ignore God’s Word. Some people are so educated that they cast aspersions at the Word of God. And God says in His Word that as long as people reject Him, it will be to their own peril.(Hosea 4:6)

God’s Thought On Abortion.
God’s Word says, ‘’Thou shall not kill.” (Exodus 20:13). Abortion is murder, like what transpired in Genesis 4:10. But the LORD said, "What have you done? Listen! Your brother's blood cries out to me from the ground! (NLT).
If God could hear the voice of Abel’s blood crying out to Him from the ground. Do you suppose God wouldn’t hear the cry of an aborted baby?

The Impact of Abortion On Your Future.
Quite a number of married couples today were once single. Some still have blood of aborted babies on their hand and have not seen reason to restitute and ask God for forgiveness. Satan uses that to afflict their matrimonial homes; and for singles Satan makes life unbearable for them with guilt.

Remedy
Are you reading this article and you are pregnant, please I beg you DO NOT ABORT THE BABY NO MATTER THE PRESSURE FROM YOUR PARTNER! Two wrongs do not make a right! This article is not meant to judge you but to speak the truth about the love of God to you in love (Ephesians 4:15). To enlighten singles about the involving themselves in illicit sex and the danger inherent in abortion…To rush to the Doctor for abortion, run to God and ask for His mercy and the grace to carry the pregnancy until delivery. God loves you (John 3:16) but hates sin, and that includes abortion.

Stay blessed.

Your friend,
@aboveonly

Your can asses the Consequences of sexual sins series 1,2,3,4,5, and 6 on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/courtshipthenmarriage/

Series 1: Feeling of guilt
Series 2: Self-condemnation
Series 3: Internal bondages & yokes will be strengthened
Series 4: Destiny diversion
Series 5: Ungodly soul ties
Series 6: Emergency mothers & fathers
Series 7: Abortion

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Corinthians 13:8 NIV

Hello friends,

Let me shock you: there is nothing called love at first sight contrary to popular opinion! “Are you serious?’’ someone might be tempted to ask me.

Instead, it is what I call “attraction at first sight.” You get attracted to anybody that fits into the mental picture of what you like. For example, I met my wife at the school library during my undergraduate days, and one thing that attracted me were her eyes (winks).i was swept up my feet before I began to relate more with her and by God’s we are married (12 years in the journey of marriage and still counting by God’s grace).

Many singles are moved by infatuation and assumed it is love! Assumption can be very costly dear friends. This is because love and infatuation feels the same way, BUT the difference between the two is: infatuation expires easily, but love stays. The Bible paints love thus: “Love never ends…” 1 Corinthians 13:8a.

How many of you have ever met someone that you felt so good about and three days later you ask yourself, “What came over me?’’ That, my friend is what is called infatuation!

Differences between Love and Infatuation

Love talks about devotion, infatuation talks about emotion. In love you “grow into” relationship then marriage, but for infatuation, you “fall into” and end up with heartbreaks and disappointment.

Love gives a aura of security, but infatuation begets an aura of uncertainty. Love lasts, infatuation is short lived or temporal.

The language of love is “I love you,” while the language of infatuation is “I want you.” In love, the bond is strengthened with time, while infatuation gets weakened with time.

The curriculum of love is based on shared experience, beliefs or attitudes, while the curriculum of infatuation is based on physical attraction or popularity. With love you become friends as well as lovers, but for infatuation, no real friendship. With love you can wait to marry, but infatuation is based on sex.

And finally, love always wants what’s best for the other person, while infatuation wants what’s best for themselves.

www.courtshipthenmarriage..com

Conclusion: Don’t mistake a temporary infatuation with love. You could end up with a bag of long term regrets.

Stay blessed.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." (Genesis 2:18 NIV)
Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered,two can defend themselves.A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
(Ecclesiatics 4:9-12 NIV)

Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? (Amos 3:3 NLT)

This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.(Genesis 2:24 NIV)

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." (Mark 10:9 NIV)

There are no individuals winners in marriage. You either win together or lose together. You will not lose in marriage in Jesus name.

Marriage is therefore a team work.

Have a pleasant day and God bless and heal every hurting marriages in Jesus name.

@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

www.courtshipthenmarriage..com

Consequences of Sexual Sins

*UNGODLY SOUL TIES*

"Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."(1 Corinthians 15-18 KJV)

What is Soul Tie? It is like a chain that links two people together in the soul realm, particularly through sex. There are two types of soul ties: Godly & Ungodly soul ties.

Godly Soul Tie (POSITIVE EFFECT) ;- When a man & a woman marry legitimately in the sight of God and man, God links the two together via the platform of sex (within marriage). The aim is to build a healthy, virile and close relation between married couples (Matthew 19:5). Godly soul tie has only positive effect on the married couple.

Ungodly Soul Tie (NEGATIVE EFFECT):- Any sexual intercourse outside marriage defiles that individual (Ezekiel 23:17). Illicit sex called fornication or adultery are platforms Satan uses to destroy a man or woman.

EX-LOVER SYNDROME: Many today are victims today of ungodly soul ties. That is why it is common FOR A PERSON TO STILL HAVE ‘FEELING’ TOWARDS AN EX-LOVER THAT THEY ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE ATTRACTED TO. It is so bad that sometimes even after 15 years of marriage (for example) a fellow may still think of ex-lover or ex-lovers...

Read more here http://courtshipthenmarriage..com

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others. (1 Corinthians 7: 7 MSG)

Dear Single friends,

One of the gifts of Singleness is that singles have the ability to SERVE God UNDISTRACTED. However, you must not take it for granted...don't waste the opportunity to build your spiritual stamina, christian values (Galatians 5:22-23), and christian character. You will sure need them when you enter the new terrain called #marriage.

If you are not on fire for God and be sure about you salvation while single and without distraction, i wonder how you would cope when you eventually get married.

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The journey to the marriage institution begins now...."Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do." (Ephesians 5:17 NLT)

"And now I entrust you to God and the message of his grace that is able to build you up and give you an inheritance with all those he has set apart for himself. Acts 20:32 NLT

Stay blessed and focused in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

chubbygal:
People of this generation are bleeped!
No true love,
No loyalty,
No trust,
No honesty.
Relationship nowadays is like a party,once the cake is finished the party is over.
Nobody cares.
To find a wife material is war now.
You cant be dating someone now and expect to be the only one,just pray your the highest shareholder in their heart.

2 Timothy 3:1-7
But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people. For among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions

Bible Text: “Watch over your heart with all diligence for from it flow the springs of life.” (Proverbs 4:23 AMP)

What is in your heart?
What you feed your mind/heart with is capable of lifting you up or bringing you down
What you feed your mind/heart with has uncanny tendencies of making you or marring you
What you allow your mind access to, controls your life, belief, and behavior in all spheres of life
The world today is so full of noise and rumblings…the media via all the internet platforms of social media as well as cable network has held most of us hostage.
A number of people today are confused, helpless and fearful! They live and breathe in fear, a life of uncertainty. Why? Because of the junks of information that we willingly expose our heart to.
You have the responsibility of placing a filter in your mind to prevent toxic inputs into that can create fear and unbelief in the Word of God.
Friends, if your heart is unhealthy, it affects everything else in your life: your relationship, choice of marriage partner decision, friends, career and much more.

Reasons Why You Must Keep Guard Over Your As Singles
• Your heart is the source of everything you do
• Your heart is valuable; you don’t keep the trash in your house for safe keeping, your throw them away at the dung sites.
• Your heart is regularly under attack. (Battles are won or lost in the heart)

How Do We Guard Our Hearts
Proverbs 4:23:”Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” (NLT).
As Christian Singles, feed your mind with the Word of God. Meditate regularly on it, until understanding breaks forth unto you.
Know what is written in the Bible concerning the issues of life. Ignorance is costly! (Hosea 4:6)
If you don’t know what is written, you can’t control what is happening around your life. (Matthew 4:1-11)

Let your spirit man be Word-soaked!

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." 1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV

Dear friends,

Bad friends not only corrupt our characters; they also corrupt our beliefs and godly values. The Bible says we must avoid worthless, foolish talk that only leads to more godless behavior.(2 Timothy 2:16 NIV)

This can only happen when we are not spiritually sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit.

You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life. You must choose quality over quantity. You must stay focused and surround yourself with like-minded friends. It is very essentially to the kind of life you want to live.

Even in the church, you must be very careful in forging close relationship with some types of people. Ever heard of the mixed multitude. There are some church goers that are always comfortable with sin, and do have explanation for them. Some talk about grace, as if that is a license to willfully sin.

Scriptural Warnings about bad influences or friends.

Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.(Proverbs 13:20 NLT)
Do not enter the path of the wicked, And do not walk in the way of evil. Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on. (Proverbs 4:14-15 NKJV)

Do not envy the wicked, do not desire their company; for their hearts plot violence, and their lips talk about making trouble. (Proverbs 24:1-2 NIV)

And now, dear brothers and sisters, we give you this command in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ: Stay away from all believers who live idle lives and don't follow the tradition they received from us. (2Thessolonia 3:6 NLT)

And what shall I more say? for the time would fail me to tell you more…(Hebrews 11:32a)

And now, brethren, I commend you to God, and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up, and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctified. (Acts 20:32 KJV)

Stay blessed and keep away from bad influences.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than yourselves. Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3-4 AMP)

In the world generally, what people care about is what is in it for me? A self-centered fellow is dangerous fellow. Relationships end quickly via the platforms of ego, disrespect, selfishness or disloyalty.

For marriage to succeed the oneness factor MUST prevail. For marriage to be meaningful, the singleness mentality must be completely obliterated from the sub-conscious of the couples.

The Bible points out that marriage is the reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. (Ephesian 5:31)

So if you are not ready to let go the single person’s mindset, then you are not yet ripe or matured for marriage (irrespective of your age.)
Quite unfortunate that many go into marriage with a single person’s mindset and a self-centered mentality. Marriage is really about giving up yourself for your spouse.

A self-absorbed person only can see the faults of others. But, they are often colour blind to their own.
Self-centeredness will do more harm than good to your spouse and ultimately to your marriage. Most of the issues that have led many promising marriages to the realm of divorce can be hinged one being selfish and self-centre. Not considering how your actions and inactions affects your spouse.

That is why marriage is liken to the relationship between the Lord Jesus Christ and the church being the bride. The Lord Jesus Christ gave Himself up sacrificially for the church.

Listen dear friends, true love is selfless; it is prepared to sacrifice without being prompted.

As you contemplate marriage, you must ask yourself quite a number of questions, one of them being, “Am i ready to let go of my single-hood mindset?”

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com
Further Bible Reference: Roman 12:10; Mark 12:13; 1Peter3:8; 2Corithians 8:9; Galatians 5:13

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Hello friends,

Let’s talk about addiction and its overall effects on relationships – whether dating or courtship.

But upon mount Zion shall be deliverance, and there shall be holiness; and the house of Jacob shall possess their possessions. (Obadiah 17, KJV)

What is an addiction?

Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continuation of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary responsibilities and concerns, such as work, relationships, or health. People who have developed an addiction may not be aware that their behavior is out of control and causing problems for themselves and others.(psychologytoday.com)

Addiction is a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli, despite adverse consequences. (wikipeadia.com)

People with an addiction do not have control over what they do or talk about.

Types of addiction...

Read more here http://courtshipthenmarriage..com

Stay blessed and free from addiction in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

LADIES, GOD WILL NOT BLESS YOU WITH A MARRIED MAN.

Hello Ladies,

God will not bless you with a married man, for God is never the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33)

Just in case you are confused, God will NEVER send you someone else's husband.

Never get too attached to something that isn't yours; don't be carried away by his numerous gifts and sweet nonsense talk.

Stop playing the role of a wife to a man who isn't your husband, for what you sow shall thou shall reap.The Bible says:''Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.'' (Galatians 6:7 ESV)

On the other hand if you chose to wait on God, and allow Him the FIRST place in your heart, it will amaze you the man He would send your way...a man that will treat you like a Queen.

Stay away from married man...keep them at arm's length,,,

...and wait on the Lord

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Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.(Psalm 27:14 NLT)

Stay blessed and focused.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Hello ladies,

I would love to write about the Biblical virtuous woman.

Pastor W.F.Kumuyi of the deeper life ministries has this to say about the Bible,’’ The picture of your future is in the scriptures.’’

Hence, it is befitting to look at what the Bible has to say about the woman that pleases God. This I believe is the dream of every single sister.
For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. (Roman 15:4 NIV)

Why the emphasis on the portrait of a virtuous woman?
It is because the woman has a very complex role to play in building a family. The woman specie is infused by God at creation some unique and vital qualities that without her, the man is incomplete...

Let’s take a brief look at the picture of the Biblical virtuous woman
1. She is driven by excellence in whatever she does
2. She is driven solely by the fear of the Lord. In essence, she is accountable unto God first before anyone else. She is able to bring her life unto the tutorship of the Lord Jesus Christ.
3. She likes being a wife and not a mistress or slay mama
4. She is family-focused
5. She is hospitable and charitable.
6. She is driven by modesty. She does not dress indecently by exposing her body to men to ogle and lust after.

Read more at https:///kfxm27t

Stay blessed and focused!

Your friend,
@aboveonly
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Hello friends,

In a world where values are fast eroding. In a world were nudity is being celebrated, and chastity abhorred and disdained. In a world were truth has been relegated to the background, and falsehood put at the forefront. In a world where promiscuity has become a fashion trend producing baby mamas and papas…

Read more at https:///kgpt8tw

Stay blessed.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Dear Christian Singles,

We at www.courtshipthenmarriage..com are glad to introduce for your pre-marital education a 10-page eBook:

"There Is A Bible Sense
AND
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In Getting Into Marriage''

Powerful words that can illuminate and banish every confusion as it relates to whom to marry; how to gain entry into the marriage institution are contained on the pages of this eBook.

Marriage is an institution ordained by God. It is a sacrificial commitment between both parties involved, in which both leave their former lives and come together to become one in a new life.

Marriage is not a man's or government's idea,it is God's!

Only 25 copies are available for now and it is FREE!

Kindly make a request for your free copy via courtshipguide@gmail.com.

Stay blessed.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

The Christian Single & The Will Of God.

Bible Text: 1Peter 4:1-7
Memory Verse: “That he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh to the lusts of men, but to THE WILL OF GOD." 1Peter 4:2, (emphasis mine )

Hello friends,
In our quest to BUILD ourselves up in readiness for the challenges of lifeand to a large extent great and blissful MARITAL FUTURE, I will love to share with us the above topic.
God Almighty is the greatest Manufacturer and we His children, the product (Genesis 1:26-28). And He never left us without guide as to His plans for our lives. He left us with what i call THE INSTRUCTIONAL MANUAL (The Bible ) which is able to guide and influence our choices in life. (Joshua 1:
What is the will of God?

Simply put it means the plan of God for our lives here on earth andeternity to come.
CHARACTERISTICS OF THE WILL OF GOD
1. God's will is PURPOSEFUL
2. God's will is PERSONAL
3. God's will is PRACTICAL
4. God's will is DISCOVERABLE
5. God's will is DO-ABLE
6.God's will is DESIRABLE
Every man born of a woman is a sinner. Man is born with a self-centred will; the Adamic nature, hence his thought is deceitful and desperately wicked (Jeremiah 17:9).
For man to access and do the will of God, he has to be genuinely born again - to experience the NEW BIRTH. (John 3:3,5; 2Corinthians 5:17).
The will of man or of the world always lead to death, destruction, sorrow, unfulfilled life (Proverbs 14:12) and ultimately eternal death in the lake of fire!

HOW DO I KNOW THE WILL OF GOD?

Read more at https:///l6jj7nx

Stay blesses and be illuminated by the Holy Spirit in Jesus name

Your friend
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Hello friends,

Is Living Together Before Marriage Or Co-habitation A Sin?

“All wrong doing is sin…” (1John 5:17a NIV)

I ask this question because a number of people claim that some things are not clearly spelt out in the Bible and as such hide under such claims to do things that suits them, not minding what God's position...

What is Co-habitation?
What does the Bible have to say about this scenario?
Why is God Against Living Together Before Marriage?

This and many more are answered in this article

Read here https:///kwedk6m

Stay blessed!

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Delight yourself in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart." (Psalms 37:4 ESV)

Dear Sisters,

You are the woman that every Godly man somewhere is praying for everyday to have as wife. All you need do is to keep delighting yourself in the Lord and waiting patiently for His timing.

Don't allow anyone that put you under undue pressure as regards getting married on time. God's time is always the best!

What Every Christian Single Lady Deserves

* You surely deserves a MAN after God's own heart, not just a boy who goes to church.

* You deserve a MAN who is a God chaser, and not a church goer

* You deserve a MAN who is a "man in heart" and not one tied to his mother's apron strings.

* You deserve a MAN who is a worshiper, and not just a religious person.

* You deserve a MAN who is not just a reader of the Bible, but a doer.

* You deserve a MAN who has a VISION, and not one given to TELEVISION.

Don't settle for an ISHMAEL, when God is preparing an ISAAC for you...

Don't settle just because you don't want to be single. Wait on the Lord for the real thing!

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. (Mark 12:30 ESV)

A husband can love his spouse best when he loves God first!

We love others best when we love the Lord Jesus Christ first, giving Him the first place in our lives

When husbands love the Lord more than their wives (the wife becomes the winner), it becomes easier for the man to:
* Treat the wife with dignity and respect
* Lift her up when she's down and afraid
* Nurture her heart and soul
* Support her dreams and aspirations
* Love her more than he loves his MINISTRY, CAREER, HOBBIES (e.g.,football)
* Cherish and admire her uniqueness
* And ultimately, love her just as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself up for her.

God bless all husbands that love God more than their wives in Jesus name.The big picture is that it robs off positively on the spouse, children and the marriage.

Yours in the school of the Bible,
@aboveonly
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WISDOM NUGGETS FOR CHRISTIAN SINGLES

Don't ever compromise your faith in Christ to keep your partner, because it would be counter-productive and detrimental to your soul! God is much more important!

Read more here https:///khgurej

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
LAWRENCE,SOLOMON BAMIDELE
courtshipguide@gmail.com

WISDOM NUGGETS FOR CHRISTIAN SINGLES (LADIES)

Hello friends,

He is not your husband, if he is already married!

Please, take your eyes off any married man. If you are into such relationship, put an instant end to it NOW!

It does not make any marital and scriptural sense!

Read more here https:///ma7wcq2

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
LAWRENCE SOLOMON BAMIDELE
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Some Break-ups Are NECESSARY for us to get back focused on God.

Dear Single friends,

Good morning!

God uses DISAPPOINTMENTS, BETRAYALS, and being JILTED as a correction and focus.

What to do? Read more at https:///mmoqhbl

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name,and happy new month!

Your friend,
@aboveonly
courtshipguide@gmail.com

"And the LORD said unto Abram, after that Lot was separated from him, lift up now thine eyes, and look from the place where thou art northward, and southward, and eastward, and westward. For all the land which thou seest, to the will I give it, and to thy seed forever. (Genesis 13:14-15, KJV)

The kind of relationship or friends that we associate with in the journey of life has a lot of bearing and influence upon our lives - either negative or positive.

Until we stopped moving with such people, God wouldn't speak to us; and sometimes when we have been blinded by our friendship with such people GOD WOULD THEN ALLOW SUCH "friends " TO DISAPPOINT US! So that He can have our undivided attention.

Some us would have gone farther than where we are now and achieve greater things for God and ourselves.

Who are your friends? Who do you associate with? What has your association with them brought to your life?

Don't get me wrong: I am not saying you should start getting suspicious of people around you. Far from it! But carry out a personal audit of your "friends " with the help of the Holy Spirit.

Your relationship will either EXALT or DEMOTE you! Make sure you are not travelling on the right track with the wrong people!

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Good morning

@aboveonly

Hello friends,

The marriage you don't PREPARE for will confuse you when you get in...

Many people prepare for wedding, and not marriage. Wedding is just a day (or less than a day), but marriage is for a life time...

Very interesting article that will challenge you..

Read more here http:///kouogq3

Marriage is not a cultural thing, but a spiritual thing!

Your friend,
LAWRENCE SOLOMON BAMIDELE
courtshipguide@gmail.com