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For close to three days now, I have had to push out of my mind the strong inclination to do a write up on the topic, “Suicide Is Not An Option,” hoping that someone, or somewhere out there who is going through a very rough time, would read this piece and be encouraged not to take his or her own life.
Whatever the tragic situation you are going through or have experienced of late, and thinking in your mind to commit suicide, please DON’T DO IT. Suicide is not an option! Jesus Christ, the Son of the Living God, loves you and can make a message out of the mess you have found yourself.

God says concerning YOU, in Matthew 11:28-30, that:

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (NIV)
There is always a way out, and if you hand over everything to Jesus Christ, no matter how bad and tragic things may be for you, He will rescue you and give your life a meaning and direction.
Doing hard drugs, excessive alcoholic consumption, or sexual addiction can never bring you the much needed succor. Tell it to Jesus. He will give your rest on every side
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Causes of Suicidal Thoughts
Quite a number of people in Nigeria, and all over the world are going through a very difficult time. May be as a result of unfaithfulness in marriage, financial burden, unexplainable addiction to hard drugs and violent sex, and the like. What are the causes of suicidal thoughts that often lead to suicide?
Suicidal thoughts have many causes. Most often, suicidal thoughts are the result of feeling like you can't cope when you're faced with what seems to be an overwhelming life situation. If you don't have hope for the future, you may mistakenly think suicide is a solution. You may experience a sort of tunnel vision, where in the middle of a crisis you believe suicide is the only way out.
There also may be a genetic link to suicide. People who complete suicide or who have suicidal thoughts or behavior are more likely to have a family history of suicide
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The Way Out.
For one thing, it is normal to have times of sadness in this fallen world.These times of sadness only become a serious problem when they begin to linger for days, weeks, and months. When this happens, it’s time to reach out to someone for help. Even more serious are when this sadness leads to thoughts of suicide. When a Christian reaches this point, they can’t put off seeking help and should do so immediately. There are wicked spirits that often put these thoughts in our minds. When we fail to read the Bible on a regular basis and our prayer life drops off precipitously, we can fall prey to feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, and being of no use for God or anyone else. It is sometimes a simple brain chemical imbalance which can be treated. At other times it is counseling that can help lift us out of these deep valleys. The point is, we all get depressed, have times of sadness and may even contemplate suicide but when these feelings stay with us for a long period, they can lead to apathy, irritability, and even suicide. It’s time to get help, even if it’s in the Word of God, so here are some Bible verses that can help us when we have times of extreme sadness or have suicidal thoughts.

Help Through The Word of God.
Here are some spiritual tablets or capsules that can help you out of suicidal thoughts. Confess them out loudly and memorize them:

Psalm 34:18-19New International Version (NIV)
18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
19 The righteous person may have many troubles,
but the Lord delivers him from them all;

Psalm 55:22New International Version (NIV)
22 Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you;he will never let
the righteous be shaken.

1 Peter 5:7New International Version (NIV)
7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Isaiah 53:4, NIV
Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted.

Joshua 1:9New International Version (NIV)
9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Psalm 23:4New International Version (NIV)
4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley,[a]I will fear no evil, for you are with me;your rod and your staff, they comfort me
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There is no need to go it alone. God wants us to cry out to Him and seek out godly counsel from others, even if it means seeking medical help.
Suicide is not an option, God has a purpose for your life!

N.B. Feel free to send me sms on 0802 631 9698 or write me at solo.lawrence@gmail.com for further counseling. It is well.

Hmmm...

Why only the ladies ; what of the guys?

Dear friends,

The All-Knowing God spoke through Apostle Paul in 1Corinthians 11:1 thus, " Pattern yourselves after me (follow my example), as I immitate and follow Christ (the Messiah)." AMPLIFIED BIBLE VERSION.

In essence we are to look to role models whose lives mirror the character of Christ within and without in order to learn from them.

This is very scriptural and we at www.courtshipthenmarriage..com are sold out to anything scriptural when it comes to issues that border on relationships!

Today, we bring to your reading pleasure and spiritual education the quotes of one of God's generals of our time who is a husband to one wife, father, grandfather, spiritual father,mentor to mentors, thoughts on being spiritually guided in the journey to marriage.

May I present to you my Daddy GO, OUR Daddy GO, Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye, the General Overseer of one of the fastest growing Pentecostal churches , The Redeemed Christian Church of God, otherwise called RCCG.

FIND BELOW HIS THOUGHTS AND BE BLESSED IN JESUS NAME.

1. " Spiritual guidance is extremely important in the question of marriage because MARRIAGE CAN MAKE YOU OR BREAK YOU." emphasis mine.

2. " It is a dangerous thing to move without the Lord's green light."

3. " God will guide only the meek. These are the ones who are ready to LISTEN TO GOD. There are some who will rather STAMPEDE GOD. " emphasis mine.

4. " God will guide only the meek. The type of person God may show you to marry may not be the type of person you want to marry."

5. " Let God guide you. Do not choose first and then ask God to ratify. "

6. " Please do not get yourself into a trap. God may not deliver you that easily. Remember that once you are in a marriage, you cannot get out."

7. " As a born-again Christian, taking a wedding vow is a life-long decision. Once you are in, there is no going back."

This and many more words of wisdom are available in his book, " Journey To Marriage.."
Do well to buy and read for yourself, knowing fully well that the more right things we know the less mistakes we make.

Till I come your way again, remember: marriage is not just a good idea; it is God's idea.

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

Your friend,
LAWRENCE SOLOMON BAMIDELE.
courtshipguide@gmail.com

Life is warfare and you are either a victim or victor. I dare to say that to make your dream marriage come true is also a warfare.

The Bible says that " And from the days of John the Baptist until the present time, the kingdom of heaven has endured violent assault, and violent men seize it by force (as a precious prize - a share in the heavenly kingdom is sought with most ardent zeal and intense exertion). Matthew 11:12 AMPLIFIED BIBLE VERSION.

You don't need a prophet or a seer to tell you that the marriage institution has endured various shades of demonic assault. There are all kinds of ANTI-MARRIAGE SPIRIT manifesting in our society today and the world at large.

EXAMPLES OF ANTI-MARRIAGE ACTIVITIES AMONG SINGLES ARE:
1. Unfruitful courtship, 2. Fear to approach the opposite sex. 3. Late marriage, 4. Regular disappointments (jilting), 5. Evil stigma (as a lady you are so beautiful and yet men don't take you serious), 6.Destroyer of beauty, 7. Sickness/addiction that drive away serious partners, 8.Not discovering the right partner.

Irrespective of what you have experienced or going through, I have a good news for you that you will not be a victim of anti-marriage spirit but A VICTOR in the prevailing and overcoming name of Jesus. (Amen).

How did I know this?

It is written in 1John 5:4 that whatever is born of God is VICTORIOUS OVER THE WORLD... (Amplified, emphasis mine).

If you are born of God (as in you have accepted Jesus Christ as your LORD and PERSONAL SAVIOUR and constantly looking unto Him); then there is no force in hell that can stop you from fulfilling your colourful marital destiny.

Overcoming does not only come by prayers: it also come by REVELATION!

You must have a functional knowledge of the Word of God; read it regularly, obey it, meditate and apply it to your life.

You don't learn how to shoot a gun at the battle front, you learn it before the battle comes, otherwise you become a victim.

Don't just prepare for wedding, take time to really prepare for marriage. Wedding is less than a day's activity, but marriage is for a life time.

Marriage is not just a good idea; it is God's idea!

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

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So beautiful...

So refreshing...

A breathe of fresh air...

The following Bible verses came to my mind the moment I saw this topic vis-a-vis the picture of the lady...

" Also (I desire) that women should adorn themselves modestly and appropriately and sensibly in seemly apparel, not with (elaborate) hair arrangement or gold or pearls, or expensive clothing. But by doing good deeds (feeds in themselves good and for the good and advantage of those contacted by them), as befits women who profess reverential fear for and devotion to God." (1Timothy 2:9-10, AMPLIFIED BIBLE VERSION )

Hmmm...

Strange happenings...

What a shame....A wedding ceremony ought to be a thing of joy and merriment but theirs turn out to be an arena of fighting with reckless abandon.

Wait a moment! What would then happen once the couple began their education in the school of marriage (which by the way has started on a very destructive and confusing foundation.

I keep telling people that WEDDING DAY IS JUST A DAY, WHILE MARRIAGE IS A LIFETIME.

People put so much effort and resources for wedding day rather than doing a proper work on themselves with an eye for the marital future.

Why is that people go through a lot of preparation in their pursuit for academic excellence and so many other endeavour in life but neglect proper and detailed preparation on something like marriage that can make or Mar their collective well being.

If you rush into marriage you will eventually rush out. (divorce, separation, etc).

Why do you want to marry?

Are you ready to let go of yourself inorder to please your partner?

Are you ready for the sacrifice that comes with marriage?

What is your concept of marriage? What are yours fears for marriage?

Do you have the emotional stability and maturity to handle the different seasons of marriage?

Despite all the money and well-wishes, quite a number of would be coupled don't prayerful prepared which to me as a christain is the most important. The spiritual controls the physical! These and a number of this resulted to what those couple witness on their day of joy.

May your day of joy not turn sorrow and regret in Jesus name.

Quite a number of insightful and educative stuffs for those preparing for marriage can be read at the link below.

www.courtshipthenmarriage..com

Thanks for the information.

Blogging is HARD WORK.

At the early stage, you to consciously encourage yourself....but in no time you will be cruising.

But you must be passionate about your niche. It shouldn't just be about making money (which is good) or goggle adsensed.

Think of creative ways of solving problems and in no time money would come in torrents .

Let your content add values to your readers/followers.

Stay blessed.

My niche is basically for Christian Singles In preparation for marriage.

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Wow! This is great and God be praised forever. May the good Lord continue to uphold your home in Jesus name. Congratulations sir and ma.

"Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic but it is instead old-fashioned and outraged!"

Seriously, who are the "many" that have made such declaration as you pointed out. Many of such "many" personalities have died. So why should we base out destiny and well being on such declaration that has no foundation? (and does not last). The Bible refers to such declaration as "grass" and "flowers" that does not last and the Bible says, " ...yes all people are like grass. Grass dies and wildflowers fall. But the Word of our God continues forever." (Isaiah 40: 9 -8, Easy-To-Read Bible Version.).

A wise child of God would pitch his/her tent with such proclamations from the Word of God. To build one's life around the declaration of mere mortal men no matter how brilliant, is asking for trouble (as we can witness with the troubles in most marriages today).

Listen carefully to this:

" In Christ all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are safely kept...I tell you these things so that no person can fool you by telling you ideas that seem good but are false. Be sure that no person leads you away with false ideas and words that mean nothing. Those ideas are worthless ideas of people in the world." (Colossians 2:3,4,8. Easy-to-read Bible version )

And lastly, you asked: "Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's hook-up culture?"

Bros, for peace to reign in our lives (including marriages ) we MUST adjust to the instructional manual of The Manufacturer (God Almighty), which the Word of God and not the other way round.

No matter the "hook-up culture" that you pointed out, abstinence before marriage is reasonable and healthy because the Word of God support it.

In conclusion, irrespective of what the "many" might have said or are saying, sex before marriage is not beautiful. HUMANS CANNOT FIND TRUE JOY BY BREAKING GOD'S LAW.

Marriage is not just a good idea; it is God's idea and for us to enjoy it and be fulfilled, we must take side with God's Word and not man.

Check my signature: by His grace I wrote extensively on this subject called abstinence from sex before marriage

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

A thought provoking question...please find below my take (Christian perpective).

"Is Abstinence Before Marriage A Realistic Message?"

Yes and No

Yes, to those that are really the children of God (truly born-again, John 1:12), and are focused on obeying God's Word, (I.e., the Bible). Sometimes they are exposed to sexual-related temptations, but because their innermost desire is to please God, the grace to escape helps them out.

No, because the Word of God does not make any sense or meaning to any mortal man except that fellow allow the Holy Spirit to re-format the fellow's mind by the instrumentality of the Word of God. (Romans 12:1-2)

"Many people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching?"

"Many people" is not everybody. And just because some people are not adhering to this godly counsel doesn't mean people are not obeying. The Bible says that we can do nothing against the truth but for the truth. And since the Word of God says marriage is honourable in all and that the future marital bed should not be defiled, hence God would judge (Hebrews 13:4) and so, it should be taught.

Look at this scenerio:if you are presented with an unripe orange to eat/take, and very certain my brother that you would reject it. Why? Because it is unripe and the taste being acidic and sour would destroy your taste but and ultimately every other good you have love to eat. So why not take the unripe orange anyway since orange is a good nutritious fruit and people would always want to take it.

Check my signature, I have a detailed write up on this topic..

To what extent would you defend the one you love and protect him or her? Would you fight for his love or would you join those maligning him/her? Would you share in his shame,his low moments or would you look the other way and leave him to face it?

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marriages fail for a lot of reasons.

1.the foundation of the marriage

2.the God factor,as in not involving Him from the onset.why?except the Lord builds the house the labourers labour but in vain(Ps.127:1)

3.Couples dont see marriage as a project that MUST not fail,hence you dont jump into it without counting the cost-if rush into it,you 'll rush out

4.Couples are not able to manage the good & bad times.

5.Lack of mutual respect

6.Financial differences

7.Sexual reasons/infidelity

8.Absence of patience

9.husband not ready to LOVE/wife not ready to submit

10.Spiritual reasons as in warfare(the spirit husband/spirit wife of which a lot of people are ignorant  of .check http:///nekko8 for more on this)

11.Unfriendly friends

12.In-law wahala

13.Prayerlessness

Addendum:for singles:dont rush into marriage;seek proper counsel;be sure about whom you plan to marry;believe in God and commit your plans to Him;i believe all will be well.

Is infactuation same thing as love?I beg to disagree.This two exclusive words are more often than not mistaken for each other.What then are the differences?

1.infactuation is instant desire;yousee the opposite sex for the 1st time & all you dream of is how good he or she would be in bed;Love is frienship.It takes root and grows one day at a time.

2.infactuation has an element of sexual excitement,while love is maturation of frienship.

3.infactuation is marked by the feeling of insecurity-you are excited & eager but not genuiely happy-nagging, doubts,unanswered questions;love on the other hand is marked by understanding & mature acceptance of imperfection that you may notice in your partner.There is a mark of security even if it involves long distance relationship.

4.infactuation speaks thus:"we must marry right away" for fear of losing out or the risk of loosing him/her;but love says don't panic,be patient,for he/she is yours!

5.infactuation lacks confidence-e.g.,when one of the partner is away you wonder if he/she is unfaithfull to the extent of browsing thru youryour partner mobile phone;BUT,love speaks confidence.It means trust.You feel calmed,secured & unthreatened.Your partner feel that trust & its makes him/her trustworthy.

6.Finally,infactuation might lead you to do things you will regret later & feel let down;BUT,love makes you look up,contented & a better person than you were before.

So,when next you tell somebody "i love u," please pause a moment & ask if you actually meant it.WHAT'S YOUR TAKE ON THIS?

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Really,the society is never kind to a single girl,who is successful and searching for a marriage partner.Also,there is no sin in being a single lady and achieving.You are in love with a person and not the possession.
Nothing will go wrong if a single lady has a good job,a car and a good apartment if she does not live with her parents.On the other hand,an eligible bachelor,who is sure-footed,should never be put off by a lady's financial stance.Why should he anyway?Love exceeds material possession and men who are intimidated with such mundane things as cars or money are not men.
So what should a single,searching but successful lady do?Own a car if you can afford it,BUT NEVER ALLOW IT TO OWN YOU!Be humble and treat men with respect.
To be single and successful,you need to allow God be your guide in getting a marriage partner.Don't rush at any proposal because the man could love your success and not your person,or what do you think?

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From christian point of view i wouldnt advise you to do such.The implication of such move may hurt you for the rest of your life.By moving in with your boyfriend before marriage you make your self very cheap and your self worth/respect would be at stake.
How are you sure the so called boyfriend will marry you at the end of the day-there are so many cases of "use and dump",
It is not good to move in with you boyfriend before marriage.Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled but God will judge wholemongers and adulterers(Hebrew 4:13).
Stay blessed and focused!

Is it justifiable by any standard to succumb to a relationship with a man who is already hooked to another woman? Does it matter that it has become so common and every single lady you know is doing it? Is it justifiable? You have seen homes broken and relationships rubbished for that fact but is it fair to be the one responsible for a broken home? Have you put yourself in the other woman’s shoe? You are doing it now. Would you tolerate it if you were the one whose husband is being dated?

The word for such a scenerio is called INCEST-an abomination.Whoever is involved should stop.
God forbids!

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Every partner who senses that a relationship is taking a serious and committed path should learn to say some truths about the past.Though it could hurt or could cause atemporary friction,TRUTH IS WORTH TELLING ALWAYS.
The price to pay for lies is more expensive than truth.On the other hand,there are some truths which some partners could find very disturbing and even know that it could lead to headaches and heartaches in the future.
Often,some live with it and go ahead with wedding plans,but if you cant swallor the bitter pill,dont you think a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage?
What's your opinion, ?

It is generally said that couples must tell each other everything about their past life.Is it then appriopriate for a spouse to keep the fact that he/she had before wedlock from his/her partner?If you were that spouse what would you do?

Judith, (26) works at the Treasury Department of A Finance House. A few months ago, she could not visit her boyfriend Henry, a Banker, for a whole week because another girl was visiting. Her story:

I did not feel comfortable somehow, I felt quiet uneasy, so instead of waiting for him like I would have done,  I locked up, put the key back under the door mat and went home. Funny enough, I didn’t leave any of the things (food) I had packed from my Aunty’s party. I mean, it was just unlike me.

Early the next morning, Henry came over to my pace looking quiet uneasy. He was on his annual leave, so, I wasn’t surprised to see him. But when he sat me down and said he had something important to tell me, I knew something was wrong.

He began telling me how wonderful our relationship had been since we started seven months ago. He said he had been happy because its been having positive effects on him.

My heart started to beat faster than normal. I thought he was going to propose to me. I wouldn’t have been surprised since we virtually live in each other homes. Then he told me “she has come”.

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Hi nezerst,
thanks for your post about 7 things husbands should know about wives,some sort of reply to the thread i posted.i was going to do a thread about what husband should know about wives,but since you done justice to that i had better hold my peace.my earlier post was not to de-value the wives as i dont toy with my wives and always watch out for her interest FIRST in all things.Mutual respect on both sides helps the marriage flight to be smooth sailing.

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HI, it is said that what you don’t know can’t hurt you. So, most women love to turn a blind eye to the activities of their men, even when the obvious signs that they are playing around are glaring.

Many are even of the opinion that as long as these other women know the territorial boundaries, there can be no problem. Sadly, many men are also being forced by prevailing global economic and social situations to follow these paths.
But is love or relationship worth preserving when partners are forced to look the other way just to maintain the status quo and not rock the boat, while the other goes about enjoying the license offered by his/her sex and libido, while endangering the lives of their partners and family members?

Is it not enough emotional and psychological traumas to discover that a spouse is dating someone else? Naturally, one feels hurt, spited, betrayed and cheated. Oftentimes, insecurity and helplessness creeps in, and one begins to wonder for how long one has been deceived to believe in a deceitful partner.
To make matters worse is the manner with which these discoveries are made. Some are so callous such that the chain of trust is broken and may never be repaired, the relationship ending abruptly.
For those who decide to remain in the murky waters, the seeds of doubt, already sowed, can only lead to a life of suspicion and webs of lies.

The experience of Nkechi (not real name) at the hand of her boyfriend,Bosun (not real name)Who have been dating for over two years now,

Read the full story @ http://choiceofmarriagepartner..com

You don't want divorce, but if your relationship is rocky and appears to be headed in that general direction, there are some things to consider, some steps you can take to prevent it. While they may not be completely successful, the tips in this article may help and are certainly worth a try if, truly, you don't want divorce.

If you don't want divorce, but your spouse has made his/her intentions clear, don't argue. Don't nag, don't whine, just remain quiet. Complaining or carrying on about how you don't want divorce is not going to help.

State your case simply, that you don't want divorce, and leave it at that. That's all you can do, really, without making matters worse. It might be possible to tell your partner-in a calm moment, of course-that all couples go through this sort of thing, or that counseling might help, but don't harp in these subjects.

If you go on and on about wanting to stay married, you will only make your partner's desire to get away even stronger. Instead of pushing them away, you can try the following tips,

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1.He is the head of the home so he should be treated as such.

2.Never joke with his stomach so that peace will reign.

3.He is also thinking of the kids'welfare even if he doesn't appear so.

4.He likes to see you looking neat and lovely even when you are at home all day .

5.Hates himself if he can not meet his family needs.

6.Starts seriously looking outside if you make the house unbearable.

and finally

7.Hates nothing more than coming home to a scattered house.

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i would term it "identity crisis"

what most people dont realise is that man/woman is a tripatite being,i.e.,body,soul and spirit.

The Body is the outer container that we see with our physical eyes whether the person is fair or dark in ompletion,facial attributes like the nose,eyes,hair etc.A lot of people choose to devote so much a time trying to be what they are not.Some are created with dark/black completion but choose to bleach their skin,use eye-lashes,go for body enhancement,forgetting that on the day death beckons,the body is of no use than to be buried 6feet below.The body is essentially dust and after death returns back to the dust whether the fellow is handsome,beautiful,ugly,tall,short and what have you,

The soul houses our emotions,while the spirit is the real you that returns back to God Almighty after death to give account of your sojourn here on earth.But unfortnately people pay the least attention to their soul and spirit.

A woman is beautiful not necessarily because she has long flowing hair(attachment or whatever),pointed breast,figure eight, the beauty of a woman is in her heart.

my advice to our sisters outhere is that appreciate the way you are created,never look down on your self,and always no that you are very unique,beautiful and wonderfully made.Never try to impress the any man by doing what you are not comfortable with.

A man should love his woman for what she is inside(her heart)and not what you see outside,because "beauty is vain,but a woman that fear the Lord should be praise

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A lot of marriage failed because couples do not take responsibility for the role that they play in a relationship. Very often, blaming the other instead of oneself become the favourite pastime of couples and when there are conflicts, they choose the most convenient mean - walking away instead of trying to save the marriage!

Apparently these couples have short term memories because they are the same individuals who have vowed to support and to love each other through thick and thin!

However, divorce has now become an easy way out for people who do not have the courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged. When couples go through a divorce, they channel all their energies into accusing each other of causing hurt and disharmony in the marriage. They forget that in the process, their children are the ones most deeply hurt! If they have channeled their energies to save the marriage, more than one human being is saved!

So is it possible to save your marriage? Yes, if you had loved each other in the first place, you will definitely be able to rekindle the love and here are 3 ways in which you can save your marriage.These are,
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The answer is a resounding "YES!"
I've received thousands of letters from people throughout the world who conquered distance in their relationships and now live happily ever after!
Shortly after I graduated from school, I experienced a long distance relationship. After graduation, I discovered that there were no relationship help or relationship advice books written on long distance love & relationships, overcoming long distance, relationship problems in long distance relationships, long distance romance, marriages or dating ,
Even though millions of people like me
were going through the same thing!
Everyone told me my relationship couldn't work ,
but that's not true,
and I wanted to share that with other couples
There are things that you
can do to LOVE your long distance relationship!

Distance is not the end of the world in a relationship
Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love.
Although you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart!


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Christian Courtship is a period before wedding/marriage where a Christian brother and sister agree about so many issues and see if they both share the same vision, hope and aspiration about marriage. “Courtship is an adopted word to describe the Biblical model for the relationship between a man and a woman that leads to marriage.”

Agreement on what direction you want your marriage to go can only be attained on the platform of courtship.


1) After proposing to a lady and she has agreed to marry you, the next thing to do is to obey the Biblical injunction to prove all things (1Thes 5:21)

2) The courtship period is the time to prove your relationship. Yes your spirit agrees that you have made the right choice, but you still need to prove all things.

3) Courtship is a fact-finding period. Marriage without courtship naturally ends in crisis because there was no opportunity to get to know each other and prove whether the choice made was wise or not.

4) Impatience is responsible for many marriage failures in the western world today.

5) Courtship can be broken. This should not be mistaken for divorce. If your ideas and ideals are not similar, common-sense demands that you call it quit.

(Author’s note; don’t make it a habit of breaking your courtship at the slightest excuse…).

6) Courtship is a covenant culture for a successful marriage. One month is not sufficient. Two months is risky. Man is a complex being.

7) The proving process is the personal responsibility of the individuals involved because they are the ones to live together. Do not allow your parents or family to prove your spouse for you.

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It's no secret that modern life is fast-paced and getting faster every day. In this world, relationships and all the work they require can easily be seen as inefficient, time-consuming and simply not gratifying enough. For your relationship to have a healthy chance at survival, you must take steps to nurture the simple, loving aspects of your union.
5 actions that are essential for your relationship:

1. Hellos and good-byes
Greeting your partner and saying good-bye are quick and easy to do but often overlooked in the chaos of hectic schedules. A warm, expressive greeting can set the stage for the entire day. An affectionate good-bye allows you and your partner to emotionally hold on to loving feelings while separated from each other.

2. Share the trivialities of life
Think back to a time when your relationship was new. What did you and your partner talk about? Probably anything and everything. The excitement of new love propels us to share even the smallest details of our day. Unfortunately that level of sharing often dwindles as relationships mature and responsibilities mount.

3. Learn to laugh together
Shared laughter is a surefire way to keep the connection with your partner vibrant. When you laugh, you're tapping into the playful energy that transcends life's stresses. When you and your partner make each other laugh, this energy feeds intimacy and life becomes a little less daunting. Make time for mutual playfulness and make fun of life's absurdities this will help you both cope with stress, develop perspective and achieve a greater sense of togetherness.

4. Communicate through Touch

Touch is a powerful way to communicate affection and foster intimacy. Whether you're sitting across from each other at the dinner table or next to your partner on the sofa, make the effort to increase the amount you touch one another. Touch also has a calming effect on our bodies, so if you want to create a relaxed, loving atmosphere and make your partner feel special, lean into each other the next time you�re at the movies or watching TV.

5. Show your appreciation

It's human nature to want to be recognized for the things we do. When you express gratitude, your partner receives the message that you are thankful and are not taking him/her for granted. An atmosphere of appreciation will create positive feelings and deepen your connection.

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My dear friend,
marriage is indeed a beautiful institution.It make or mar an individual;but for marriage to be successful a lot of factors come into play among them is the God factor.The Bible says EXCEPT THE LORD BUILDS THE HOUSE THE LABOURERS LABOUR BUT IN VAIN.The institution is like building a house and can you imagine building without the architect's model or blueprint.A lot of people are building their marriages without consulting the ARCHITECT-God Almighty;many still go ahead with their eyes wide open starting their marriage on a very faulty foundation.Just because an individual is a graduate or a phd holder does not mean the fellow can grapple with the complexity of marraige.A fellow can be BORN AGAIN and yet exclude God while embarking on the issue of marriage;such fellows suffer at the end.God says if anyone lack wisdom let him ask from Him.For marriage to be successful the no.1 requirement is to ask God for WISDOM.The moment a fellow choose  a wrong partner for marriage,that marriage is doomed before it even started.Just like you have notice the rate of divorce is on the increase even in churches.one of reasons is that PEOPLE PREPARE FOR WEDDING OF JUST ONE DAY WITHOUT PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE.
My dear friend do not be afraid to embrace the institution called marriage,only ensure you get God involved right from the on set.Read my articles concerning the issue of marriage as it bothers on choice of marriage partner at
http://choiceofmarriagepartner.blogpot.com.
Remain blessed and be focused.

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My dear brother,
This is not the time to dwell on whether your courtship was short or long,like some people have posted,but the time for way out of this "wood".
Let me begin by saying that with God all things are possible(Luke 1:37).Also from your write up,you seemed to have exhausted all possible avenues except FASTING & PRAYERS.
Never underestimate the possibilities of prayers.Prayers move the hand of God;it make the impossible possible;it turns sorrow to joy;and so on
The way i perceive your case is that it is beyond the physical.I believe you love your wife and i can tell you she needs help.Please dont even consider seperation or divorce because there is know hopeless case with God.
Your marital problem might be foundational,because"if the foundation be destroyed what can the righteous do?"My answer is nothing EXCEPT DIVINE INTERVENTION.
I would recommend for a start 3 or 7 days personal night vigils using Psalms 138:8 and Psalms 121:1-2 as foundational scriptures.
For time i space i wouldnt comment further,but if you dont mind send me an e-mail at aboveoonly@gmail.com for further steps.I plan to print out your write up right a away to prayerfully meditate on this situation.
It is the end-time and satan is all out to ", steal,kill and destroys, " marriages;because God just helped us to handled a delicate case of recent;satan will not succeed in your marriage in Jesus'Name.

IT IS WELL!