₦airaland Forum

Dottore:
I'm a Christian but it surprises me if people reason irrationally or are blindfolded by religious emotions.

When China experienced natural disaster after the initial covid menace, some clowns termed it the wrath of God. Some claimed the evil befell the country because they wanted to edit the bible. Now the disaster has befallen USA should we term it wrath of God or that of Satan for rewriting the Koran? Just asking

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar Same rubbish happened in Benin city today
Shot a girl selling agbo
They tried to stop one car like that....but the car didn't stop Then the trigger happy police started shooting And unfortunately the bullet hit one girl selling agbo
The rest of the police men took to their heels
And the trigger happy police man was caught....

In okhoro Road, Benin city....that road way play house dey
Some boys just first disarm he gun....Edo boys and disarming Then some guys just put the idiot for booth drive commot I can bet my balls that police man is already history....

aanuoluwami14:
A lots. One of them; One of my neighbours that was very close to me then was just giving me gifts, cash and cloths with laughter, it was suspicious because this man was so stingy but I was calmed waiting for him to say anything rubbish ( because he is married) until one day his wife called me that she couldn't keep it to herself again that his husband's boss was interested in me, came to her husband to seek for my attention, so his husband started collecting money and gifts from his boss, I laughed

aanuoluwami14:
A lots. One of them; One of my neighbours that was very close to me then was just giving me gifts, cash and cloths with laughter, it was suspicious because this man was so stingy but I was calmed waiting for him to say anything rubbish ( because he is married) until one day his wife called me that she couldn't keep it to herself again that his husband's boss was interested in me, came to her husband to seek for my attention, so his husband started collecting money and gifts from his boss, I laughed

Igbodicool:
Nzeogwu is no more Niger Delta and South South man abi?
I thought Igbo is limited only five eastern states.
You only admit the truth when it favours you and massage your ego.
Make una keep deceiving unaselves in this British empire of a country.

Igbodicool:
Injustice, inequality, unfairness will surely destroy Nigeria.

Igbo is most hated tribe in Nigeria today because they stood against these social ills.

Finally, finally, enough of these to go round.

nelszx:
Apparently extrajudicial killing.

The cuff on his hands meant he was captured do why kill him? If he had been captured what was the point killing him.

Mercychen:
Hm... Pathetic!

vanbonattel:
Such a shame to Kano

Big for nothing state.

Is the desert encroaching even into their brains?

To be competing with states that were destroyed during the war and states where the FG refused to build any infrastructure is just very shameful.

Kano should be chasing and overtaking Lagos

TheGreatOne90:
My great grand fathers were never politicians, and never believed in zik's grand illusion of one Nigeria. All zik was doing, was to portray himself as a true Nigerian and African great, at the expense of his own people. I have no respect whatsoever for zik. Before awolowo was released from prison by ojukwu, they both agreed that nigeria can not survive(which has been proven correct, by events of today) so every region had to go there separate ways. Awolowo agreed to declare oduduwa republic, but immediately he crossed over, he changed his tone, and joined the Nigeria side, after he was promised some juicy government position. So in other words, awolowo sacrificed his people's interest for some government appointment. Ahmadu bello is a well known ethnic bigot and this video will explain why it was very criminal of him, to pursue one Nigerian with people he clearly harbours so much hatred for. He doesn't even believe in fairness and merit, which is the major foundation of most successful countries. Lastly, you should have asked your father and grand father, why they never kicked against this abomination called Nigeria. They owe you an apology for that

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihrJB7Lmx9I

TheGreatOne90:
Non of them actually believed in nigeria before they died. They all admitted this before there deaths, yet they pursued project nigeria. Especially that useless zik, that was so obsessed with living in the same country with northerners . I mean zik, bello, balewa, awolowo e.t.c bunch of useless politicians looking for how to exploit there people

samwheel:

Chai!!
Life truly na vanity.
See as dem pack big man like dirty wey dem wan dispose.
Chai!!

Penguin2:
Muslims don’t value women, so I’m not surprised.

Left for them, women won’t be recruited into the military in the first place.

Pocohantus
Izzou

This is what feminists should be fighting and not teaching young girls how to go into fisticuffs with men.

Ndi ala!

Wiseandtrue:
Donation for elections!

Foolish people that cannot pay minimum wage or built standard road and good social amenities or good infrastructure but have money for audio ransom for Bandits and after deaths

Only God can redeem Nigerian!

Iyaebe:
To alert wicked men the facial expression they'll always get from their wives when they are old and tired.

Iyaebe:
Let the good ones listen to this advise, women are keepers of good memories and will stand by you till eternity if you were good to her.My weakness is only for good but strong men,I hate wickedness in any form,don't frustrate your wife in your youth and expect Joke's love facial expression when you are old,the picture below is the type of expression you'll get.