EriMma1: This may sound weird but it's my situation now.
I have been a single and independent lady for a very long time. Though I really looked forward to settling down in my 20s and thirties but because I was the over careful type, I couldn't as I kept being picky due to men's character and behavior.
Fast-forward to my lat 30s, I began to lose interest and started getting more comfortable as a single. The upheavals in today's marriage also got to me. As in the way marriages are packing up, the cheating aspect, abuse and domestic violence in marriages all further affected me and changed my whole perception of the union called marriage. So I unconsciously resolved to remain single as long as I'm happy, comfortable and financially independent.
Some of the reasons I also made up my mind are. As a single, Im very much at peace, with no one dictating what and when I should do things or get out of bed. I love my bed. No one is body shaming me when I add on some pounds due to excessive eating and no one is questioning my eating habits as its sometimes the case with some married women. Also running errands when you don't feel up to it just because hubby wants you to do it. Some men can send their wife on errand like crazy and me I hate running errands.
No one is disturbing me when I need time alone which could last for hours. I love my space and privacy. So the thought of having to give up all that scares the hell out of me.
Now, back to the matter.
Recently, some close spiritual leaders in my denomination have been trying to match make me with a single pastor and that one too is shining teeth that he has seen a jimjim sister. When they now openly mentioned it yesterday with the said man around and he too was nodding and agreeing to the proposal, it dawned on me that these people are not joking. When I got home, i sank into my comfy space and began to fret. I mean... The thought of giving up all that freedom is just so scary. I suddenly discovered that marriage no longer excites me and my inner self was fighting it. Also, the thought of carrying pregnancy for nine months with all the stress of looking after babies, tending toddlers ( poo poo) and that motherhood life made me sick instantly. The thought of joggling my job with family life gave me the chills. I see how my married mates struggle with this. Huh. Men...
I don't know. I don't feel cool about this cos it makes me feel like I'm about to be put in a cage and everything about me is going to change.
Now, before you talk about me not loving the man, I think I fancy him and can love him cos he looks so much like my ex of years ago. So that is out of the question. He is a happening lovable man but....... I no longer feel excited about marriage. at least, from what played out yesterday.
Do I need any form of therapy cos my family won't hear of it but this is my situation now ooo... Hmmm
Please include also that you overindulge in heavy masturbation and Lesbianism. Include the truth for balance, it helps people to advice you. Tell us about your intimacy gadgets. Jimjim my ass! Pretender does the worst.
adem30: BREAKING: Kano State Labour Party Governorship Candidate, Bashir Bashir shun Obi rally in Kano, Set to address the press in the next 48 hours
Other Kano LP leaders frowned at the appointment of Uche Okafor to oversee Kano mobilization instead of a northerner.
According to a senior LP leader, Bashir and other party leaders were not being carried along by Datti who Obi directed to oversee the campaign mobilization in the North.
Other party leaders who snubbed the rally include: Chairman of LP Presidential Campaign Council, Mohammed Zarewa, State coordinator of Peter Obi’s campaign, Balarabe Wakili; and Idris Dambazau, a member of the presidential campaign council.
- Journalist KC
Why wait for the next 48 hours? Why not now, abi he is waiting for the complete money so he can complete his betrayal? Idiots, the ship have sailed. Obi doesn't need Kano to win.
When we say that support for Obi is largely based on religion and ethnicity, you people scream and cry out. But can you see? You expect Yorubas and Hausas, to oppose their own tribe but your own people receive a deluge of curses when they do the same.
Why?
You even went as far as attaching his State to the insult, to show how jingoistic your mind is.
Before you vomit nonsense, please show me any Yoruba man from Lagos saying the same about Tinubu or Any Fulani man from Adamawa saying the same about Atiku.
A chieftain of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) Osita Chidoka says the South-East should back the party in the 2023 elections.
While observers believe Labour Party’s Peter Obi who is from the region will disrupt PDP’s dominance in the South-East, the former Aviation Minister said it would be unwise for Igbos to leave the party they have supported since 1999.
“The Igbo position for me is that our significant investment in the PDP for 24 years cannot be thrown away overnight. I remain in the PDP and many Igbos remain in the PDP, ” he said on Channels Television’s Sunday Politics.
He believes that while advocates of an Igbo presidency outside the PDP are not wrong, the main opposition party is the shortest route for the South-East to clinch the country’s top seat.
Conceding that Peter Obi has made significant progress in wooing Nigerians, he maintains that is not enough. According to him, the South-East must move a step closer to make the presidential dream a reality.
“The Igbo presidency is just around the corner. Once an Igbo man is capable of holding on strong in a party and controlling the levers of that party, that is going to happen soon,” the PDP chieftain added.
On the presidential election, Chidoka argued that the PDP is poised to win the exercise, citing the party’s organisational structure and its candidate’s experience and resilience.
“Atiku Abubakar has won the election. It is just a matter of time. When we get to February 25th, the country will say it,” he said.
Atiku, he adds, is capable of mopping up votes across the country. Despite the inter wranglings in the PDP, Chidoka says that won’t affect its candidate’s chances.
The ruling All Progressives Congress (APC) has not done well for the country and thus won’t win votes in many parts of Nigeria, he says.
“They have significantly degraded the capacity of Nigeria as a nation. They have degraded our unity in diversity and our economy,” Chidoka said.
Kuginzi: A chieftain of the Ohanaeze Ndigbo, Prince Richard Ozobu, has said that the records and actions of the presidential candidate of the Labour party, Mr. Peter Obi, during his tenure as the Governor of Anambra State, disqualifies him from contesting for the presidency of Nigeria.
Ozobu, who said the chances of the Labour Party candidate in the 2023 election are too slim, alleged that Obi doesn’t believe in democracy as he refused to conduct council polls in throughout his eight years tenure as the Governor of Anambra State.
He further stated that Obi abandoned the political party on which he rode to office, despite making his promises that he will never leave APGA for another party.
The Ohanaeze Ndigbo chieftain insisted that Nigerians especially the Igbo should look at Obi’s past records of governance in Anambra state and consider whether he can actually be trusted to keep the promises he has been making to Nigerians.
He warned the Igbo against what he described as ‘committing another political blunder by casting their eggs in one basket’ and voting for the former governor, adding that Labour Party lacks the structures and organization to win the 2023 presidential election.
His words; “We must look at Peter Obi’s past records. It is not enough to say that he is an Igbo man. We have to look at his records. Whether or not he is the right candidate is the issue. This is a former Governor that has been politically inconsistent, joining three political parties within the last ten years. This is a man who refused to conduct local government elections as the Governor of Anambra state for eight years. Then, how do you call somebody with such nasty record a democrat? Through this action, he stifled the growth of the local government system in his state. Obi stunted the growth of politicians who could have passed through the local government system in the eight years Obi governed Anambra state and refused to conduct council polls. People say he is humble and simple, but presidency goes beyond these things. Somebody told me that Obi is an apostle of reducing the cost of governance. Reducing the cost of governance was one of the reasons why he couldn’t do what the Constitution said in terms of conducting local government elections in Anambra state, for which he was impeached as Governor. Obi has too many theoretical ideas about governance. These theories won’t help the South East or the country.
“I don’t see Peter Obi as a good and saleable candidate that the Igbo should crack their heads for. It is not just being an Igbo; you must also have the right qualities. The Igbo have been excellent in trade and commerce but we need to get same quality in politics, governance and administration. Look at the massive youth unemployment and insecurity we have in the South East. How many jobs did Peter Obi create in Anambra state during his tenure as governor?
“Obi started from APGA as a governor. We expected that he would have built APGA after using the platform to govern Anambra state for eight years. APGA was formed to be a core platform to Igbo spring board in politics. During the formation of APGA, I can tell you that Governors of Igbo extraction from other political parties made contributions. One expected that Obi would have remained in APGA to build the party. Obi made promises not to abandon APGA, but he never kept the promise. He defected to the PDP, probably seeking for more political heights for himself. Obi handed over Anambra state to a successor who failed as governor. Without sounding immodest, Obi’s successor, Willie Obiano was a disappointment as Governor. He arbitrarily chose his successor and Obiano turned out to be a mistake in governance of Anambra state. And I’m yet to hear Obi condemn the squander mania and poor performance of his successor. The Igbo have an adage which says that charity begins at home. How well did Obi perform at home?
“Now, he is contesting for the presidency on the platform of a party that lacks structure nationwide. Obi can’t play the game well because he doesn’t understand the political field and the rules.
Emphasizing on the need for alliances that could boost electoral success, Ozobu insisted that the Labour Party lacks the structures and capacity to win the presidential election in 2023.
‘Where are the alliances that the Labour party has built to win the presidential election? Of course, you must build alliances to win. You can’t just stand up to say you are contesting for the presidency, there must be alliances otherwise you are just contesting to make up the numbers. You are calling on Igbo people to support Obi, but have you cared to ask if his running mate, Datti , was actually being backed by the North? Have you also asked if the Northern interest is truly behind Datti? This is where the alliances come in. The Igbo need to do a good check and negotiate with one of the presidential candidates who can deliver to us what we need. The Buhari presidency has brought the Igbo lots of infrastructure, not from those representing the Igbo as Ministers and National Assembly. We need to be cautious with our choices in 2023.
On the way forward for the South East zone in 2023, he said; “Our dilemma has been bad leadership. We put our eggs in one basket and failed to negotiate when others were doing so. It is unfortunate that our leaders have not learnt from the mistakes of the past .We need to ask questions about what has happened to the federal allocations that have accrued to the South East zone since 1999. For 2023, we must work very hard and negotiate well in 2023; otherwise we will continue to lament marginalization after the 2023 presidential election must have been won by those who we refuse to negotiate with.”
Yet he calls himself a Pastor but he is the lone voice attacking the only Christian candidate in the election. When I tell you that Nigerian Christians behave as if they are cursed, some of you will begin to doubt me!
When I see otherwise intelligent Christians singing on Tinubu mandate we stand, I see a lost bunch, a shameless group who have lost everything.
May Almighty God never forgive any Christian who sells his faith for a pittance to support a Muslim- Muslim ticket. Or support transition from a Muslim Fulani to another Muslim Fulani.
gidgiddy: In January 1966, an Igbo man called Chukwuma Nzeogwu led a coup which unfortunately killed 20 people. Today, he is vilified, his coup has been given ethnic appellation 'Igbo coup', some say his coup targeted others besides Igbos
6 months after Major Nzeogwu's coup, Lt Colonel Murtala Mohammed, a Hausa man from Kano, led a coup that killed over 300 people, all Southern Nigerians, mainly Igbo, not one single Northern casualty. Today, Murtala Mohammed is one of the most honoured Nigerians that ever lived. He has buildings, landmarks, Airports, Highways, named after him. He was even given the special privilege of being the face of the 20 Naira note.
A coup plotter, genocidal killer and sociopath like Murtala Mohammed was honoured with a place on your national currency just because he is a Northerner
Below are some of the people the over 300 people killed by Murtala Mohammed on 29th July 1966. I would have posted more if not for bad picture quality.
No 1 on the list is Aguiyi Ironsi
Source: "Tragedy Without Heroes" by Brigadier Hillary Njoku
International media familiar with Nigerian elections on the ground continue to forecast that although Obi has ginned up the youths and his candidacy has generated surge in engagement, he lacks what it will take for him to win, and that out of the pack Tinubu clearly has the best path to victory.
The leading voice is cfr, council on foreign relations. An American based Think Tank that contributes policy advisories to the US Govt.
Newsfrica: Presidential candidate of the All Progressives Grand Alliance (APGA), Prof. Peter Umeadi, has said he would ensure that the Nigerian system is restructured to serve the citizens better if elected in the next month's election.
otigbagba: The Nigeria army seems to be watching the formation of a new organization “Jagagban Army”? Should this be ignored especially now that the youth leader is appearing on military uniforms. Is this not a joke taken too far
A very very useless charge! Very useless! He doesn't want to mention names. That is how cowardly they are! Don't worry na. Keep playing, that is how HellRufai and his Islamic goons have been murdering your people. Keep deceiving yourself. If Church leaders want, let them keep being vague, when Tinubu wins, you will understand the real meaning of Islamic agenda. Idiots everywhere!
Cursed fellow. So all an Igbo man needs is someone to look after his welfare? This man need to be arrested, castrated and his balls handed over to Bobrisky to use and prepare peppersoup! How can a human being be so daft?
I don't blame you. It is the idiots that found you worth of being listened to and interviewed that I have a problem with.
Alesa3341: Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.
I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.
When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.
Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.
I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.
Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.
Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.
I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!
Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.
Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?
You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?
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You have already exposed this girl as a lady with bad character. Why then do you love her so much? You are just a slave to sex and she knows that's why she is manipulating you with it.
There is no point wasting time advising you because you are a simp. Your parents, especially your mum means nothing to you which is why you are busy fucking a woman who disrespects your mum!
You are a Son that bringeth shame to your parents. Go on and keep shaming yourself and your parents because you hegoat can't control yourself.
So Bishop Kukah is now a fool for not buying into your religious propaganda?
You are cursed with a curse for supporting the most insensitive ticket in Nigeria. A ticket that denies your faith and makes you a second class citizen. A ticket that tell you that your Christianity is insignificant. You are cursed for selling your faith for money, for, game and for power. It shall never be well with you for this evil.
This is my problem with most Christians, very vague and stupid people. If Obi picked another Christian as Vice, No single Muslim will support him but see this Catholic fool speaking in parable instead of speaking out. This man is a very serious disgrace to the office he is occupying. A very serious disgrace. An embarrassment to the kingdom of God.
jumper524: until yesterday I noticed some level of revolt by the FCT people against the labour party as a whole and the reason is simple.
The FCT that has been under constant decline in having it's people representing them at electoral position is who the labour party is projecting a fulani woman to represent at the Senate? are they about correcting the errors of the old dogs or they are all about themselves? Hajia Ireti heebah is a fulani woman from kano state, her husband is from borno state, she has no recognised status as an FCT citizen and the labour party felt she's the best candidate to represent us how?
that action alone has thrown the labour party to the mud completely. no indegenious fct citizen would vote labour party. never. God forbid we make such mistake of electing a fulani woman into our higest electoral position in the state.
You are mentally ill! Very very sick in the head Minister of FCT is he an indigene of Abuja? Sick man. Keep decieving yourself.
As usual your indigenous voters and by indigenous voters, I mean the Gbagyi voters that Senator Aduda shits constantly on their head will vote PDP. But the good things is that they constitute less than 25% of overall voters, so it won't matter. All other tribes and residents who constitute 75% will vote overwhelmingly for Labour Party Ireti Kingibe. You can now go and kill yourself. Otondo!
This is not about polygamy but about threesomes. That is the women will also be performing sexual acts on each other. Daddy Freeze is a low key Homosexual and lesbian asset in Nigeria. He is just pretending. All these funny questions that crop up in his ministry is just a pointer to who he really is. I won't be suprised if he wakes up one day to declare that there is nothing wrong with Homosexuality and he can't find any scriptural verse strongly condemning it. It is just a matter of time.
George Akume you are cursed! All you care about is position and money. What about your faith? Very very useless Christian!
If it was a Christian/Christian ticket will any Muslim ever touch it with a tooth pick? Useless set of idiots identifying as Christian but worship money and position. FOOLS!
Family / Re: After Being Single For Soo Long, Im Now Scared Of Getting Married. Please Help!! by AbujaCitiBlog: 9:13pm On Jan 23, 2023 