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Sports › Re: C. RONALDO:I Am The Best Player Ever In The History Of Football by AbusM(m): 9:26am On Dec 09, 2017

He has just won the very last ballon dor and fifa best. He would never touch these awards again.

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Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 8:18pm On Dec 08, 2017

You can't say TODAY because you at least should factor in that it takes about 48 hours to reflect on the US embassy's system. So you have to leave out at least 3 days before your interview appointment.

Hopeful17:
Same here...need mine to b paid today

Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 8:15pm On Dec 08, 2017

I can help PM me

Ayat1209:
Please, who can help me out with SEVISFEE payment... Very urgent please.

Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 9:37am On Dec 06, 2017

Bro, I read most of your comments and how you strongly frown at every appearance of dishonesty and fraud in Nigerians. There is no excuse whatsoever for these things and so It really is a big shame.

However, using myself an example... some of us are victims of the long term ills of the nigerian system. I wrote 3 entrance examinations after my primary school education to gain admission into 3 different secondary schools(NMS, NAS and a public school) . I was the best in my school and i represented my school in debates and quiz competitions then... but no, my name was missing on the admissions list..even to my amazement including the public school and I watched from home how my friends and mates go to and return from school in their uniform while i wait for my own admission. Fast forward... I did pre-degree and I had the best result in the department i chosed and my name was the number one the admission list then but it was recommended i chose another course because that department required credit in a certain subject which I was yet to clear then. I went to the recommended department and the HOD clearly told me there was no more space only for me to see some of my friends who were influential so to say to be accepted into same department weeks after thr HOD turned me down. Moving forward again, i was short listed for a federal government scholarship by the virtue of my G. P but the school coordinator took some of us to a wrong venue only for us to later found out that they had taken their own kids and relatives who even had lesser grade points to the right venue... and I missed it. During my nysc days, i was awarded the MVP in football and number on the state team's list but guess what, i was posted to a very remote village afterwards instead of the state capital because the state coordinator decided so. I wrote UBA's aptitude test and did their interview a year after i completed my NYSC and i was employed. 2 weeks into the training school at UBA house, they came with a letter of disengagement and handed it to about 8 of us in my unit for reasons we do not know till date.

Nigeria in every way is drenched in dishonesty and you see this even in churches and mosques. Why because of an ill mentality to be rich, to reserve slots for family, not to allow others be up to you or to block poverty or hardship to ever come your way. Not everyone pursues the ambition to be listed on forbes or Guinness book..some of us are just after making the world better through our works and lives... HOWEVER YOU CANNOT LIVE IN NIGERIA to achieve this. I personally have a notion that if going by what's written in the bible and by using our human assessment, it would be very hard to make heaven from Nigeria.. Just name any sector there and i will tell you how you can get corrupt or dishonest directly or indirectly.

The realization of this fact by some of us who think deep is what birthed the idea of relocating with the mindset of being who one truly wants to be. The unfortunate thing there is it's so hard and tough to be a 100% honest in Nigeria because you are caught in a web of many filths. Judging from my case, having done all one needs to do humanly and yet the hardwork and grits amount to nothing because some people would want to keep slots for those they know or might have bribed them... one would have no other way to look than to totally leave it to grace and favor of God. We were birthed in such a society that disregards merit and it keeps affecting and hunting us in everything we do.

For me, i think everyone should do their best to take advantage of an opportunity to live a honest and righteous life but believe it or not, no matter how hard we advocate doing the right thing in Nigeria, things are really messed up and we can only preach that people wash themselves off the life of "dagbo" and ruse.. when they board the flight to their redemptive world. NOT ALL NIGERIAN ARE DISHONEST OR HAPPY BEING SO... but the hands, legs and even the mindset are in serious cuffs.

TWoods:
I read my bible and I also see that those who are saved show provable evidence of change in their lives. I see none of that in Nigerians. They are just as dishonest, as fraudulent... they simply cry about grace the loudest.

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Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 9:46am On Dec 05, 2017

ahahaah T-fucking-Wood.. I couldn't hold my laughter... You are the true bringer of rain and slayer of the theokolis. Spartacus. Some of our people ask questions that are so unbelievable really.

The US consulate in Nigeria has a website that can be easily accessed through google. If you went there, you could read all the instructions on how to apply for a visa and what you need to bring with you to your interview. The time wasted asking "questions" here could easily have been utilized more effectively.

It is my summation that you are not a genuine student.[/quote]

Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 6:54pm On Dec 04, 2017

SEVIS fee can only be paid by someone in the US. There's no other ways.

quinzypearl:
Pls guys, can sevis fee be paid in any wester union branches in Lagos...my interview is on wednesday...

Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 6:51pm On Dec 04, 2017

Most universities treat this with deferment of the admission to the following semester. Having to reapply sounds somehow but the best thing to do is to write to the school and have the old I-20 updated. They only have to change the resumption date on it and every other thing remains. Traveling with the new I-20 is some risky adventure. I believe you are aware that the visa your friend already has is clearly anotated. Do not make a move that will jeopardize your life and career. Simply talk to school concerning updating the old I-20.

Amicable24:
I have a question for my friend please. She applied to a University for Fall 2017, the admission was given, I-20 sent and SEVIS number issued but she wasn't able to meet up with the school's admission date although she has already gotten visa. The University advised she reapplies for Spring term which she has done already. But now, they are issuing a new I-20 with a new SEVIS number different from the one on her visa.

Can she travel to USA with the visa that bears the old SEVIS number or she has to go back to the embassy, pay another visa fee, to rectify it?

Cc: bigfrancis21, slimmy005, justwise, innovativeame and others who can help out.

Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 6:41pm On Dec 04, 2017

is he the owner of the company? Or does his name show on the names of directors in the company's CAC forms? You need to clarify this. If he's the owner, he only needs to issue you a signed letter of support to go with bank statement and that CAC form that lists the company's director and their shares. If he's not the company's owner and his name is not on the directors allotted shares, it would be an attempt to explain how water finds its way into the coconut.

4peace4:
pls house urgent answer pls although ave seen this question raised b4 somewhere on this thread but i tried reviewing it but cudnt find it.Pls the bank statement i ll be using is my dads company's account but dont carry my dads name, pls using this during my visa application ll it fly? if yes what supporting documents should i use in proving dat it's my dads companies account?

Travel › Re: General U.s.a (student) Visa Enquiries-part 12 by AbusM(m): 6:29pm On Dec 04, 2017

PM me...

jimzy4u:
Hello guys, I have an issue at hand. I need to submit a statement of account with the certificate of financial support i printed online of which my sponsor doesn't have up to the required amount that is suppose to be on the statement but he has 12 million on his treasury bill investment certificate. Please can i upload that in place of the bank statement of account?

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Open Letter To All First Class Graduates – "Dear First Class Graduates” by AbusM(m): 10:06pm On Nov 25, 2017

I'm sure you don't fully understand what the OP is passing across. The first class is just an advantage. An advantage to get you the prospective employers' audience and you WILL be required to show yourself approved afterwards. Who is a first class graduate without communication skills? Who is a first class graduate that cannot propose a game changing idea to a challenging business scenario? Who is a first class graduate that cannot use excel or powerBI to make graphic presentations? Jobs are not about reading, solving mathematics or cramming. They are about doing things to contribute to the successes of companies and making them stay ahead of their competition... So the advantage (first class degree) is NEVER enough. .. forget how e take happen!

oyb:
Another daft article from an educated illiterate. All blue companies employ fresh graduates, and first class heads will be their first choice.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Open Letter To All First Class Graduates – "Dear First Class Graduates” by AbusM(m): 9:53pm On Nov 25, 2017

This applies not only to the Nigerian employment market. A lot of graduates turn out from school and wonder why they can't get good jobs or just any job at all... without asking themselves what skills they have at first. A lot even travel out and expect to get a decent job with just their degrees.. Time has changed... even if you had a B. A. in yoruba or Igbo, you still need practical skill's proof to show you can be a teacher or something else. You need something to show yourself approved simply put.

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Sports › Re: What's Next For Iheanacho??? by AbusM(m): 9:20pm On Nov 05, 2017

He should rediscover himself... he's supposed to be an attacking midfielder just like Kevin De Bryune,... Kelechi is NOT a natural striker. You function best at who you are and not by trying to live up to the dictate of people. It's understandable that an employer might demand more from you or give you an unfamiliar role... but i don't think a sane employer will higher you for an unusual role if you have had a cutting edge profile of yourself at what you are best at doing. For instance, would anyone higher Leroy Sane to play as a striker or an N'golo Nkante to play as winger or central defender.... money should be the first target once you have a platform to excel.... rise and express yourself and the money will flow in effortlessly.

Celebrities › Re: Efe Meets Solomon Dalung At The Airport (Pictured) by AbusM(m): 1:49pm On Oct 30, 2017

i just weak for the dressing. He suppose dey browse dey check out people like ebuka and sexysteel. I no just understand why young man wey wan make waive and name for entertainment industry no go pay attention to looking good. Anyway.. based on my experience, it's not just a day thing.. you have to be rooted in fashion and style to know these things. You just cant turn up as a Ludacris overnight when you don't know where berlin and william' street are during your hustling days. It starts from your home, your motivation, the people you hang out with, your eye for quality and it goes on to your own rebirth and style definition. Just negodu the jacket, the run down cap and all.

Sports › Re: Anthony Joshua Beats Carlos Takam To Retain Heavyweight Title by AbusM(m): 10:29pm On Oct 28, 2017

www.stream2watch.cc//livenow/boxing-live/anthony-joshua-v-kubrat-pulev

here is a link to watch the live bout. forget the kubrat there it was pre-set

Sports › Re: Famous Names From The 2007 Under 17 World Cup by AbusM(m): 8:52pm On Oct 06, 2017

camacho, Iago Aspas also

Sports › Re: Famous Names From The 2007 Under 17 World Cup by AbusM(m): 8:51pm On Oct 06, 2017

Toni Kroos won silver as thr MVP of the tournament. Borjan also won something. Toni Kroos was actually th3 best player in that tournament.

Celebrities › Re: "You Are Stupid" - Eedris Abdulkareem Blasts Mr Eazi And Davido (Video) by AbusM(m): 8:27pm On Sep 19, 2017

won ma shi iya yin buruku buruku grin

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Travel › Re: Another Side Of Saudi Arabia! by AbusM(op): 2:10am On Aug 20, 2017

Try to leave your email or any contact details here at least. You know it's not really every time we get i here. abbmesq@yahoo.com you can send me a mail.

Travel › Re: Usa Scholarships Help by AbusM(m): 7:55pm On Aug 04, 2017

Hey, can you contact me on abbmesq@yahoo.com. i might have some information.

roland007:
Hi nairalanders,

Can anyone suggests USA schools that provides 100% tuition free scholarships for students with high CGPA (above 90% e.g above 4.5 of 5) and a moderate GRE score ( between 305--315)?

Thanks.

Sports › Re: . by AbusM(m): 1:17am On Jul 17, 2017

Guys don't be lured into a time wasting venture. It will tell you, you can't withdraw as a first timer if you haven't made up to 7000 rubles, then on reaching the 7000 mark, when you attempt to withdraw it will again tell you you will need to refer 40 people as a first timer. ALWAYS BE FAIR IN GIVING FULL INFORMATION ABOUT ANYTHING IF YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE TAGGED AS A SCAMMER.

Music/Radio › Re: Adekunle Gold Ft Moelogo – Only Girl (video) by AbusM(m): 9:39pm On May 22, 2017

average

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Travel › Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedures Part 5 by AbusM(m): 11:39am On Mar 27, 2017

Just to add my POE experience to further educate and encourage someone. @Washington IAD

Cpb: Good afternoon, why are you in the United States

ME: To visit my brother and to have my baby.

Cbp: Why is it the United States you made your choice. It's not the right way to make the child an American citizen. This is what is called anchor baby and the American politicians are not happy about this as it is already weighing down on America. This is not just right because at the long run it would mean American citizenship for you.

me. for me or for the child

Cpb.i mean at the long run for you. because when the child is 21 he would be able to file for you then you become a citizen also.

ME: I just dey look the story teller. I want the best health care for my child.

Cpb... is this your first child?
ME:yes
Cbp.. when is the due date
me. May 12 after some ehn ehnm

cpl.. how much money do you have.

me. 10k

cpl.... but why chose America. i mean there are other countries like UK Canada which are equally good.

me. America is number one

Cpb.. so how long would you be staying

me.. between 7 to 8 weeks

Cpb.. is this your husband

ME.. yes

Cbp would you be staying with her all through

DH.. yes

Cbp .. you mean you will leave your job for that long

DH. I'm a software QA Analyst and work mostly on contract basis and I'm not going to be on contract for those period of time.
Cbp. .. so when is your return

me. may 21

Cpb.. let me see your return ticket

me hands it over to him

Cpb .. you mean you want to return immediately after you give birth

me. yes because i don't have so much time from work

Cpb. how many bags do you have

me...5 including the 2 hand luggages

Cpb.. do you have food items in them

ME. no

Cpb. okay

and we had or finger prints and he minuted on our custom form which he gave back to us but he didnt stamp our passport.

phase 2.

at another Cbp where alot of people are seated to be further checked.

two cpb guys attending to people at the same time.

Cpb. why are you here.

me.same story

Cbp 2...how much do you have

dh. all together or just us dollars

cbp.. all including all other currencies

dh.$10148 and about 1k riyad which is insignificant

Cbp..that's about $300 look. thats significant

dh. but we ain't going to make use of it here

Cpb.is it possible to change the Riyads to dollars.

dh.. here in the US you mean?

cpb..yes

dh. no because we haven't done so before and we dont intend to do so.

Cpb.. that's not it. i mean it is possible to change riyad into dollars like.. are there exchangers here.

dh: well there are exchangers in the US but i am not aware if they change Riyads to dollars. but they do this where we reside in Saudi.

Cpb. so why do you want to have your baby here.. saudi has good health care also.

me.. America is number one in all and we wanr rhe best for the child.

Cbp.what do you do for a living

me.. i am a medical doctor

Cbp.. turns to dh.. next time you answer questions correctly and you should have changed the whole riyad to dollars

dh. i just didnt want to be completely out of local currency

Cpb . every money is significant and so you have to fill this form.

hands dh a form where declaration of all the money was made including the Riyads and they stamped us in.

No be small thing.. it was all at Dulles Airport today

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TV/Movies › Re: Thin Tall Tony's Wife Welcomes Him Home, Gushes He's An Amazing Husband & Father by AbusM(m): 4:36pm On Mar 21, 2017

kateskitty:
So after all the fingering scandal and what not, she's still standing with him

standing so tall at that. People go learn to mind their business

Politics › Re: Dino Melaye Reacts To Claim That He Didn't Graduate From ABU Zaria By SR. by AbusM(m): 2:24pm On Mar 20, 2017

"attension" "detration" no all these things Sahara probably see why make them dey question the man ccertificates and all.

Education › Re: How Our Teens And Youths Are Damaging Their Spelling Skills And Punctuation by AbusM(m): 4:53pm On Feb 28, 2017

It's really so terrible these days. So much so that even the so called graduates and some parents are making it look like some new versions of an application that everyone must update to. I have complained to alot of my friends and contacts to stop it. Most of them would argue and come up with different untenable reasons why they use it but then I have taken a very firm position over this very matter. Each time I read lines with such abbreviations in it ..I would simply unreservedly see writer as a lazy, fake, irresponsible, unresourceful , careless and classically unintelligent person who I would not have a serious business with. Some things we do give a description of who we are.

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Sports › Re: UEFA Champions League: P.S.G Vs Barcelona Preview.. by AbusM(m): 3:10pm On Feb 13, 2017

Them go drag am

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Properties › Re: 3 Bedroom Design On A Half Plot By A Female Nairalander. Come Let Rub Minds by AbusM(m): 1:35pm On Nov 22, 2016

nikkypearl:
I want to appreciate oga seun for this wonderful forum..my longtime friend lalasticlala..all the mods and fellow nairalander...

I created my last thread basically for three reasons..

.to catch fun

.to encourage fellow ladies to be hardworking and independent. .

.to erase the mentality of tagging every women "olosho"

but fortunately for me...the thread turned out to be another golden opportunity. ..

many nairalanders contacted me..but 40% turn out to be prospective clients...I met this particular nairalander on the 18th of this month..we went to his site together at dalemo before sango..the land is just an half plot(60ft×60ft). .but I promised to come up with something nice..just yesterday morning..I sent him these presentation drawings. .he was amazed..and immediately asked for my professional fee..I told him..to my surprise. .he requested for my acct number and 45minutes later..I got an alert (Godwin)...

The most amazing thing is that he deducted just a little out of the amount I requested for..and asked me to go ahead with the working drawings. ..
I am so glad..not only becoz of the money..but the fact that something beautiful like diz came up from nairaland...

NOTE... ..
he personally asked me to paste the drawing here incase some people might want to incorporate their own ideas before I finish the working drawings. .

thanks to my client. . (smiles) and to all viewers. .looking forward to your beautiful ideas and annoying critism
one love....

kindly let me have your contact details architect. We might have a business Thank you.

Family › Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by AbusM(m): 11:13pm On Sep 12, 2016

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

bro, i live in saudi also with my wife and i know what it is to combine work and run errands for your wife. However, you have to go some holiday so to say.. Just eat, go to work and sleep... Give her some space and watch her initiate reconcialiation. When she does, then make it a time to redefine your marriage and relationship. You cant afford to go on that way...she has to know, what you both have managed to pull off in the last one year isnt marriage, its just some drama. In marriage, you both are supposed to look after each other, saying nasty words to each other speaks volume of how you both disregard each other. It is not nice, it very hard to fix on the mind. Sending her to Nigeria means, you might as well be initiating a process of sending her out of your life and home. Im sure saudi is a platform for you to advance your career in other places like most of us and its really going to be very much boring for you afterward if you decided to send her home. .Only you know what i mean here. Its time to get really matured about your marriage objectives, focus and goals. Most people marrya out of pity, love, long term fraternity, and desperation but the truth is these things are never enough, not even love. We have to be sure the fear of God and effortless friendship is very much present before we think about walking the isle. Women get carried away , spill non sense when they are upset, act irrationally also but with the fear of God resting somewhere in their heart, they come around, they even surmount this evil of bringing up issues. Stay strong, pray and redefine your marriage goals. Im sure you will pull through. Dont give up.

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Family › Re: I Thank God I Didn't Marry Her by AbusM(m): 5:57pm On Sep 12, 2016

Congratulations is in order for you brother. While some ladies think about now, some over emphasize the whole idea of marriage. I met Elizabeth while i was about to graduate in the University, a smart, pretty, intelligent and a stubborn girl. She was a virgin.. I wasnt into women either. I asked her out and she didnt give me a hearing. We were just there, not really friends and not enemies either. Her cousin happened to be my good friend who felt for me.. Fast forward, 6 years after i bumped into her on facebook, i wrote her and she responded with.. My long lost husband.. . As at then, i was newly commissioned as an officer with one of the paramilitary organizations. I had no relationship so i thought she might have had me in mind all along..we started chatting and we got calling again.. She was now a banker in abuja and still a virgin then and i traveled there to celebrate her birthday with her around this time that year (2010). I hooked a friend up in abuja and we were in the movement together. I did all a guy should do for an assumed to be-girlfriend and all.. .She had arranged a club party that night with her colleagues and we all went there, in the middle of it, we excused ourselves to talk.. I told her i was still down with her.she asked me series of questions like my plans, what the future holds and how i thought the relationship would work out.. It was like a job interview session. I gave all my graphs and she told me she doesnt think it would work out , but i figured it was because she feels i wasnt up to the standard then and i might not live up to being her dream man anytime soon.. .I returned to my base in lagos, a very sad man.. She was someone i really wished was mine.. I begged her cousin to help me talk to her to see reasons with me.. I begged her younger sister also to try to convince her.. Fast forward.. Her cousin advised me to stop hurting myself.. She also later updated me how she fell flat for a guy who did masters in the UK, and who helped her process a UK visa also.. And then jilted her .saying his mom didnt approve of their relationship. I felt for her but i had really moved on ever since the cousin advised me. Its again another 6 years after, to God's glory, I am married to a medical doctor is i would say is the best wife in the word.. We dont live in Nigeria anymore, I have properties here and there, i give to people and encourage people.. However its so sad that Elizabeth is yet to find the man she had a description of. She is 33 now. I pray God gives everyone wisdom to make the right decisions and have faith that tomorrow would be alright no matter how today looks like. Anyone can be great and up to standard. Marriage is not so difficult, infact there is not point focussing on the negative things in life. You need just the basics, faith, patience, supports and prayers. You cant be the judge to destiny. Only God knows everything!

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Family › Re: My brother is driving me nut - How Should I Handle This Family Issue? by AbusM(m): 11:38pm On Sep 11, 2016

I feel very angry and sad reading your story. Believe me, we have siblings by divine arrangements and not by our own choice. You have no obligations whatsover over your brother. You owe him nothing! As it stands, this is the kind of person, the devil use so easily. He would black mail you, have ill thoughts towards you and even might met evit against you, should you throw him out and tell him directly you are withdrawing your kindness or indulgence. So here is what to do. .you have let yourself in far too deep into this bullshit, so you would have to sacfrice your house. ..Get a smaller apartment yourself without letting him or any of your other siblings know, repair your car and fucking drive off to your new place. Just program him and others that they gave you a pay cut in the office and you can no longer afford the rent of that place, hence you would be squating with a friend or colleague till you get married. If he likes, he can continue staying there, and also give himself some brain. Dear sister, you have to firm up on this action and be very fast at that. This is how brother kills sister at the long run. ...Believe and behold, everyone has got their lives to live. You are actually only responsible for your kids and answerable to your spouse. Feel not bad. ..Feel not. You are being wicked .. He is the real wicked and evil agent. .Run far from him.

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Health › Re: Male Infertility!!! Share Your Experience/success Story. by AbusM(m): 1:42pm On Sep 04, 2016

For those whose case might be related to low sperm count and also low motility, I have a little suggestion about a drug. Its called PrOxeed. It is an encompassing supplement. It helps a great deal in this area. Kindly let me know if you need to see a sample of its pack and other details about it.

I am resident in saudi Arabia, and a consultant here recommended it and testimonies have abound. It might be a little bit scarce in Nigeria but i believe you can still get it in some big pharmacies. It's quite scarce here also.

To wrap it, you have to remain happy. .Just believe that God is never late, don't get yourself all worked up and don't allow anyone to make you feel bad. Whenever friends and families ask you what the situation is.. Just always gladly tell them, very soon. The full joy of parenting will surely be present in your households.

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