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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Tinyemeka(m): 11:04pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Miladi:In what way was the OP prejudicial? |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by teemy(m): 11:04pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
...her respect for you or let her go peacefully as friends. since her area of despite for you is in masculinity, building your intimacy levels from research would easily give you the points you need. i hope you have the heart to forgive either way. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Malakh: 11:04pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
that's not a wife,she doesn't love you or have any regard for you, most of you people today are married to the "flesh", if the marriage is not sealed/joined by God, you guys are just f@#king,Paul said God has called us to peace, you are not in bondage to her,quit going back to her,let her depart and let the Creator send you one, you are forcing yourself on her, all that you believe in her, is just your flesh talking |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by femlex(m): 11:04pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
I have married for six years now, and just early this week myself and my wife were thinking about our first two years of marriage, hardly will a weekend pass without us having a quarrel, mostly she complains I do not assist her in the house especially in the weekends when I felt too that I should be resting. Today we hardly quarrel, and she does almost all house chores. In marriage, you have the forming, storming, norming, performing stage like in a team. At the first to third year, you are majorly part of the storming process and this is likely the things you come across. Sending her back to Nigeria is not an option at all, how many will you send home? For you to maintain your cool, it shows a lot of maturity and love from your side, but you self get fault for this matter. The way you are mentioning FIFA in your message shows you give the lady less attention than she expect. This could be part of what is burning her. Be the man that you are, brace yourself, this will not be last. Get inside, talk to her, make love to her, and manage this, and next that may be next week until you reach the norming stage. God bless you. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by ikukuhero: 11:04pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
MrMcJay: You're funny. "...let her come and plant rice". Yeah she needs to be retrained. Nasty girl she is! To be frank, she deserves some beatings for her thoughtlessness and mannerlesness and I guess that will reset her brain and make her respect you. Even the Bible encourages spankings/beatings as a corrective measure. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 11:05pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Saudi Arabia allows beating of wife. wow so impressed for the claim that you didn't take advantage of that. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by yoged(m): 11:05pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
babs50g:please take this advice . There is no perfect marriage , she came from different home and different background . And in as much both of you isn't perfect . There are bound to quarrel but abilities to resolve issue is the best . Sit her down , talk to her , remind her when you started dating , when the love was still flowing . Let her realize what she did was wrong , apologize first for not answering her when she asked for the remote and tell her the reason why ( raising her voice )' she is your wife bro and remember she is a weaker vessel. Afterall, there is none of her family member over there , won't be really easy for her . Bro, hold her hands , hug her . You are the man . Take the first step. Please don't use your hand to scatter what you have build . Don't send her back . Cutting the head isn't the remedy for headache . I wish you the very best and happy home |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Miladi(f): 11:05pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
RedCapChief: I don't need your validation to substantiate my pronouncement. Bye. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 11:06pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Just like OP, I am a mildly mannered person who seeks to avoid conflict all the time but this, this takes the cake! I can't take this. People can really be patient. I really appreciate and respect this man's patience and objectivity. Let me be sure I read Op's account well: 1) She was rude to you at the point when she requested for the modem/router 2) She took and hid the remote -- You were forced to recover it from her pant. Hmmm. 3) Hid your console 4) Insulted your upbringing and your challenges making it to this stage of your life 5) She SPAT at you Not am not absolving the Op of any blame in this case, but this woman's extremely disrespectful, uncouth and wicked acts demand stiff consequences. She doesn't even deserve to be anybody's wife. She needs to be sent back to Nigeria. I feel so angry now mehn!! 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Eberex(m): 11:06pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
VolTOxic: kai ! you will make a very bad counselor for married couples. listen to your words "she hates you" "she has crossed the line" "she is not the woman for you". may God forgive you. if you understand women you should know that from the moment he refused to shop with her, she has been feeling bad and upset, and the only if way she can be calm is by getting her own pound of flesh. knowing you love play station she was ready to pay you back in your own coin. as for her spitting on your face, I can tell you with conviction that even she did not know when she said those words or when she spat on you. anger can make us do anything both in action and words. she will regret her action and apologize. meanwhile mr man, why did you send your story to Nairaland almost immediately this happened. you have not even spent 3 hours with her to see what the next action would be, instead you jumper into Nairaland to share your story. do well and go back inside and talk to your wife. she is still that angel you fell in love with back in school. bring out that side of her you love. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by whitebeard(m): 11:06pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Op not now ooi..Nigerians condition now is just opening my eyes anyhow..don't know of she will do worse u can send her let her understand her place, let her look around and realize how lucky and happy she is and meant to be respectively |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by dacovajnr: 11:06pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
I can definitely take insults or slaps from a lady but definitely not spitting to my face..I won't I will beat Her her DESTINY with Cain till she begs never to do that again 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by adewumiopeyemi(m): 11:07pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
talk to her she will change.... remember what GODS has join together no one should stop it.. u guys are for better for worse |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Saicology212: 11:07pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
[quote author=nameerfhtennek post=49305442] You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed![/quote] There you have it, bro. Your answer right there. The one you seek...... |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Annalise(f): 11:07pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
"Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it." too funny. Meanwhile, don't heed the advice of bachelors advising you to hit her. It's better you send her away. Some women become more vicious after you hit them, instead of taming them as most of the small boys here have suggested. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Prince16: 11:08pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
May ur case not be like ds: https://www.nairaland.com/2912495/lawyer-stabs-husband-death-ibadan https://www.nairaland.com/2912463/yewande-fatoki-husband-killer-pictures. The gentleman was stabbed to death (in d neck) while asleep by his wife (sic) after a quarrel. Please read d story.. Note: rationality is a rectitude dt d dotas of eve have in limited supply especially when exasperation sets in. A word should be enough 4 d wise! Pix 1: d 'wife' and d Pix 2: d husband after d first stab in d evening of d quarrel Pix 3: the man after d second stab in d NECK whilst asleep some few hours later #marriage_not_by_force #living_dog_beta_dn_dead_lion #Team_receive_sense 7 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Cathony(m): 11:09pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Iefosa:I like this, #factual A mans gotta do what he's gotta do...women are attention seekers, men must know how to deal with it!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by olushowunm(m): 11:10pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
nameerfhtennek: Oga, nawa ó... I You don't understand your wifey love language. When she hid d remote in her underwear, she expected you to give her attention and even make love. But you are engrossed in your video games. So spitting on you was borne out of frustration. Can I ask you, when last you really made love to her that she reaches her climax? I noticed a woman well-oiled always behave nicely and respect you by force. So you need ponkriyon and sombotone to tame ur wife. Call me up to help you get it.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Vickky55(f): 11:10pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
I pity u my bro. wht u will do is stop talking to her at least for a week or more. Don't eat her food but make sure u gv her some money but putting it somewhere she can easily see it. When u're going out don't tell her where u're going. Stop sleeping on d same bed with her. U can be sleeping in d sitting room or guest room. Dn't give her any attention. I know with all dis she will come to her senses. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by MidieMeliss(f): 11:10pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Firstly, you mentioned in your story the plenty excesses of your wife. You however very well failed to mention yours. The simple truth is we are all skilled at being unfair to the other party whenever we are involved in a misunderstanding. This makes us easily paint ourselves in good light. One year is not bad for this issues you are going through . Marriage is not you loving and falling or tripping overly into love with your partner. Marriage is recognising the faults, hatred towards, annoying attitudes of your partner, and still love him or her through all of it. you are still proud to tell everyone how honoured and lucky you are to have him as your husband or wife! Now, Silent treatment or slap or whatever won't heal anything, it is just going to make it worse. Now, you will still push each other's buttons, and cross each other's boundaries that I am very sure of. So would you at every point of your pain post on Social Media? No! She is your wife through thick and thin. For better, for worse, I'm sure you are not at your worst yet. So you have to be prepared( Sort of) The long and short of my epistle is, have a very good talk about how you feel when she throws tantrums, and about how your world revolves around your love for her. Tell her you want your marriage to work, and then you will automatically hear all the things she wants to. I am very sure by now, considering the love you have for her, you will have forgiven her and made up with her. You will be fine. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by chimavalentine(m): 11:11pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
forgive her man,spatting on u is crazy but u hv to let it go,what of if she is cheating on u,then u hv a reason to send her back to the state 1 Like
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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Obinovictor(m): 11:11pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
For not laying a hand on her despite her theatrics... Respect man! I suggest you exercise a little patient, don't send her back yet. Allow her for sometime while you give her a silent treatment. Whenever she comes back to her normal self, sit her down and reprogram her head. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by naijafeminist: 11:11pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
chuksbogus2001:Really? Can you say this on front of your mom? Will you let your woman beat you just because you're misbehaving? Or is it only women that misbehave in marriage? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by skfa1: 11:12pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Op u are a man! Last night,my wife won't let me sleep by kicking me while on bed,she wanted me to beat her back but guess what,I held her two hands and I kpa kpa kpa kpa her until she got tired and could not stand then slept peacefully! Don't beat her ok,always restrain her! Let go of the spit,sit her down and have some calm convo with her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by denko(m): 11:12pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Guy you are the problem of your marriage 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by fwwins(m): 11:13pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
bigtt76: You are very wise 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by AbusM(m): 11:13pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
nameerfhtennek:bro, i live in saudi also with my wife and i know what it is to combine work and run errands for your wife. However, you have to go some holiday so to say.. Just eat, go to work and sleep... Give her some space and watch her initiate reconcialiation. When she does, then make it a time to redefine your marriage and relationship. You cant afford to go on that way...she has to know, what you both have managed to pull off in the last one year isnt marriage, its just some drama. In marriage, you both are supposed to look after each other, saying nasty words to each other speaks volume of how you both disregard each other. It is not nice, it very hard to fix on the mind. Sending her to Nigeria means, you might as well be initiating a process of sending her out of your life and home. Im sure saudi is a platform for you to advance your career in other places like most of us and its really going to be very much boring for you afterward if you decided to send her home. .Only you know what i mean here. Its time to get really matured about your marriage objectives, focus and goals. Most people marrya out of pity, love, long term fraternity, and desperation but the truth is these things are never enough, not even love. We have to be sure the fear of God and effortless friendship is very much present before we think about walking the isle. Women get carried away , spill non sense when they are upset, act irrationally also but with the fear of God resting somewhere in their heart, they come around, they even surmount this evil of bringing up issues. Stay strong, pray and redefine your marriage goals. Im sure you will pull through. Dont give up. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by muller101(m): 11:13pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
Why must she hid stuffs in her pants. Any way talk to her. She is ur wife. |
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