Countersam:


I hope and pray you have photocooies of all the documents. If you do then don't panic.

Processing new docs will take a long time and sometimes forever.... Go to the police station and get a police report on loss of documents. Also get a court affidavit in same regard.

This 2 documents along with photocopies you have will sail you through whatever..

Sorry to bother you on an old thread.
Please What are the requirements to get a police report for lost documents.

That is what happens when you're still in strong communication with your EX

it always end in pregnancy!

tabithababy:
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Please stop replying that fooool. Thanks. Before you know it he will pm and chat you up for a video sex and then upload it on nairaland.. Be very careful

lol, thanks
he is joblessly looking for who to exchange words with this morning, that's why he is just hanging around this thread like a vulture looking for whom to devour.
Unfortunately, he doesn't realise yet that I am the wrongest person.
I have said all I have to say..... I am happy with my self right now, I want others to be happy too, hence the advice.

crackland:

She still has not discovered herself or found out what was wrong with her that such a perfect guy who refused to pressure her into sex (this is a very rare character in a man today) still couldn't connect with her enough to get married to her.

You should be very cautious of people who refuse to acknowledge the part they had to play in a broken relationship.

Something that is not meant to be, is not meant to be that's the first thing you should know. And for the records, there was nothing wrong with me.
How else do you want to understand that the love from his side was never there or probably shortlived? When a man doesn't love a woman, don't you think he would keep making excuses for his actions?
See ehn, stop trying to open up old wound. I have moved on is that I have moved on.
I have passed my message to those currently passing through emotional abuse and heartbreak and that's my problem. So whatever you are trying to say right now doesn't concern me at all.

crackland:

Good.

Go back, read slowly.
There's nothing in there that insinuates she should not move on.

The guy who had so many good qualities has become the worst in less than a year. What do you think changed?

Funny,
like so when I was hoping for us to work out well once again, you expect me to come out and talk about all his bad sides? Of course, I had to cover up for his faults because I was in love.
You are not me, neither do you know what I passed through with him. I am not one to come out and lie against someone.
The relationship was a terrible one yet I still wanted him,this is the real truth.

I finally moved on and realized my worth, so just be happy for me and stop whining.

rockstarB:

Na wa o. Do you expect her not to move on after the man she loved said he isn't connected to her? She is lucky to have found someone so soon, someone I want to believe is treating her right. So just wish her well and move on

thanks

Yea, I just stumbled on my former thread and I laughed.
https://www.nairaland.com/5170161/he-said-he-doesnt-feel#78119827

Thank you all for the advise.... I am really grateful. Over the time, I got closure and realized that he never loved me, asked for a comeback because he loved the attention he was getting from me. The whole "there is no connection thing" was just a hoax. He never cared about me but claimed to. He treated me so bad during the time of our relationship (this I never mentioned).

But it opened my eyes to reality and today, I am engaged to an amazing man. A man who truly loves and cares about me. Everyday, I count myself as been lucky.

My advise to all those passing through emotional heartbreaks and emotional torture. Just let go, allow time heal you. Stay positive and don't get desperate, with time you'd meet the real love of your life. Someone you dont have to beg for their attention, someone who dont talk down on you or abuse you, someone who really wants you both to work. That person is out there. Stay positive and hopeful.

lol, you must be from Imo state

janejive:


Same point it didn't work before, he gave same reasons as now. He just wants to sleep with her, he knew this the second time around. He keeps her hope up and dashes it. He is a time waster. The relationship is a revolving circle. Besides being a time waster is my opinion. I never talked about marriage. He is definitely looking for something else not the OP.

No he doesn't want to sleep with me. I guess he felt it would work that's why he came back. I also accepted him back because I have tried moving onto another relationship but it couldn't work because I still have feelings for him and that was why I was happy when he came back to me. I think my main problem was that I had channeled my mind from the onset that he was the one I was going to get married to since he was my fiancée, coupled with the fact that our families were involved, so I guess that's why its so hard to let go.
About the sex, at the onset, he told me it was the least of his problems as after the wedding, he would teach me all that's needed to be learnt. He only complained about somethings which I tried working on just to please him.

Mindfulness:


The reason why he did not feel any connection between him and you is because you ceased to exist in order to please him. You played the role of the perfect girlfriend instead of showing your real self to him.

Yea
True, I could give the world for him. I tried learning things he liked to please him

eeewise:
Just move on
He never loved you
Stop trying to know what's happened
Better days ahead
Take time to heal at your own pace
We all/ some of us are still and have been there one time or the other and finally came out fine.
You will be fine, I am sure toughs of depression even suicidal toughs will be coming but be strong
Let it out by talking to those u trust about this
Same happened to me, she said she fell out of love with me (second break up) after building my world around her
I just had to pick up the pieces of my life, cut off from her asper social media and daily moved on
So once again u will be fine
Don't allow negative comments here from kids get to u
The heart wants what it wants
If he says no emotional connection respect that even thou its painful and he has no right dating someone he isnt sure yet of but thats life for you
U can pm me so we talk

Thanks I appreciate

mondayaudu:
Let me advise you as a man. The challenge people have is that they had made up their mind before seeking advice. I am very optimistic that the only advice that you are seeking is how to make things work between both of you not the best thing to do in your situation right now. You are so much in love that you just want your relationship to work and I am very sure that you are so devastated right now but let me advise you.
Thank your stars that the man open his mouth to tell you that. It might pain you but you have to move on.
Those words are break up line for mature people. In summary, the bros said you shouldn’t waste your time that you have to look for another man before it is too late. He said even if you people eventually get married, there wouldn’t be happiness in the home because he doesn’t love you. His exact word is ‘I know you love me, but babe move on, I don’t love you, stop pushing yourself on me’ only the guys understand this translation.
See babe, your man is somewhere. Don’t waste much time, otherwise you might miss him. My own relationship lasted four years but we have to go our separate ways because we where not compatible. We tried but it didn’t work. Today, she is happily married and I am about to get married to someone that is very compatible with my ideology.
The fact that it didn’t work doesn’t mean you wouldn’t make a good wife. Look at the last presidential election, the best candidate didn’t emerge winner because of some factors like zoning, region, ethnicity etc these factors obviously were beyond their control. Likewise in relationship, once they are factors that is beyond your control, kindly move on, don’t try to make it work.
Hope to hear your testimony with someone that you guys are emotionally connected soon. Remember to take yourself out regularly, love and cheris yourself. You are wonderfully and carefully made! Never made same mistake twice. You were not soppose to go back to your 2017 in 2019. Backwards never, forwards ever! No past memories is as good as the one that lies ahead. There is never a better yesterday! So

Thank you very much sir
I really really appreciate.

I just took my time to go through all the comments, thanks I appreciate but talking about the "no sex thing" he said he doesn't want to take advantage of me and that till today he still respects me We were cool, but I think the whole feelings died from all indication and coupled with the fact that there was someone else after our break up, he really liked her and truthfully they had sex but she left him heartbroken and coming back to me, he didn't feel connected.
I wrote this whole thing with emotions, tears and pains. Ruman, Cr7lomo, babbanbura, theboss100 of what use would I write all that because I want to advertise myself. I am not a fan of online dating. I only stated everything he said, I am not perfect. I said all that to paint the perfect picture of what happened between us.
Thanks all the same, I feel better now.

mikkyjagga1:
In as much as you might have put in so much effort and have love for him I believe you should let him go and dont force things, it has nothing to do with what uve done or who ure.
Sometimes some things are not meant to be, look up to God and wait for him and you will understand why things didnt work out in the future.
We are limited in our abilities but the almighty God has great and better plans for us!
Cheers

Thank you

0ppa:
Let forget the endearing words and now travel to reality. I have a question for you before I proceed farther: has he had your feminine glories?

I don't understand what you mean by feminine glories

Help! I Am In A Serious Dilemma!!

Please what does it mean when a man tells his woman that he is not connected to her?

I was in courtship with this guy late 2017, we were working towards getting married. we broke up sometime in 2018. Since then, it's been difficult for me to love again. I really loved him and could go extreme for him.

He has tried going into other relationships same as me but non worked. So we decided to give us a shot once more, I was happy and felt whole again.....

He is very principled. Now he is saying that he doesn't feel that connection between us. He said I am everything, intelligent, smart, beautiful, hardworking, a graduate, Godfearing with good home upbringing, from a god background, tall infact taller than every girl he has come across but he just doesn't feel that connection between us. When it comes to qualities, I am better than every girl he has met. He went ahead to tell me of a girl who he felt that connection with but she broke his heart. I am shattered and devastated once more.

Its easy to say move on, but easier said than done. It took me months to move on, i was only able to by trying to hate him. One of the reasons why I really loved him was because he never tried taking advantage of me as I am a virgin.

He never for one day talked me into it unlike some other guys I have met.I have been so good to him, he confessed that no girl has loved and treated him like I did. I have been trying to understand this whole connection thing.... Where am I going wrong. I am not a boring person, there is no boring moment with me. Most guys I have met always tell me that I am priceless and some keep coming back but I find it hard to like them.
I only keep remembering the beautiful memories we shared.
I am so devastated..... I really wanted us to work things out ..