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@ afrobaby

U r right girl! I have never dated a married man before and will never do it. Why should I when I can have my own man! Most ladies date these men becuz of financial gains and when they have their own marriages they want it to be perfect after hurting another woman's marriage. Karma will always bite.

Well, I thank God for the kind of mother I have, she taught me to respect and believe in myself. I value myself too much to start playing hide and seek affair cos such affairs are.

I can’t stand cheaters; I’ve never condoned cheating in a relationship and never will.

Men are right when they said “both parties (men and women) are cheats" cos men don’t cheat with dogs, cats, goats. They cheat with women like us and those women are not better than dogs cos no decent woman would do such.

I work in an environment where I meet beautiful people everyday (both men and women) and most of them look so beautiful you’ll wonder if they are part of this world. I always make sure I pass a compliment cuz I love beautiful things. I love looking good myself so when I see nice things I admire them. Even a lady wearing a nice designer wristwatch, bag, shoes, nice make up, Outfit, cars, et cetera. Any man or women who take good care of themselves are incredibly cool to me. So, it’s like I pass compliments to ladies almost every day.

I believe it’s an individual thing, some ladies don’t believe in themselves so they see these other beautiful and more fortunate ladies “SUPERIOR” to them.

H.E.LL NO!! I'd rather stay single and enjoy a beautiful relationship than PRACTISE POLYGAMY.

Ben-10:
Nice Joke!

Yeah, very nice one.

Mr_Cork:
Best open relationship ever: Bleep or 3 some.

I prefer them

We know, ur name said it all.

Mr_Cork:
Brother,, as long as she give you Womanliness, Then I say YES U CAN!!!!!

Its all about supply and demand , u demand Womanliness , Womanliness si supply.

I don't want to bliv that is all yu live for. God help ur woman!

@ Poster

You don't need to doubt the step you are about to take if you truly love this woman. Your love for her is all the conviction you need. If she’s working, then you don’t have to worry much about the expenses. All the best.

deniyor:

It's boring when there is no problem. Bad for business

lol!!!

This guy is not ready for marriage and he's honest about it. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. He’s just being careful not to promise tomorrow cos you both have different priorities.

Now, the ball is in your court. It's better to wait and get it right than doing it now and getting it wrong and you'll eventually go back to being single with the tag "Divorcee". Don't let your age push you around. Just Bcuz you are 30 doesn't mean you have to be desperate. Trust me, I know how you feel, thread softly and use your head. You know what you want in life and you need to get it right. Men can sense when we are desperate to settle down and they are scared of that. You don’t need to apologize for talking about your relationship, doing that would confirm to him that u r desperate. Stop singing marriage into his hears. I don't believe all men are scared of getting married. When a man find the right person, his thinking will change and all of a sudden he won't want to loose what he has and he's talking marriage and all that. I’ve learnt that the most important thing in life is having someone you love and who loves you back by your side. Enjoy each day you have cuz you aint gonna get it back. Enjoy the blissful love you both share. Can you imagine “a marriage without love”? Just support him and show him love. Be positive for your love and sow for it. Put marriage out of your mind for now and enjoy the blissful relationship


Pls don’t get me wrong. Am not asking you to stay if all you want in life is “Mrs. Somebody”. If all you want is marriage then pull the plug now and get someone else. You might be lucky to get someone who will love you after all.

papa190:
whats an open relationship

are there closed ones~

I think so.

Let's be serious, what is the difference btw the two ids since both belong to a particular user?

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

r231:
very romantic

I agree!

pappy4real:
u both are crazy, what more can i say?

lol!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, it’s actually a NO! for me. But who am I to judge you guys. Wish you and ur girl all the best in your escapades.

1one:
I won't quote anybody in my response here even though i've bn reading some rather myopic and very lame comments, its unfortunate to think that some pple equate a woman's "kitty" to material expenses, who says a girl should give up her virginity/sexuality to a guy just because the guy spends on her, does it mean the guy is only spending on her to get paid back in "kitty kind", this kind of eqution is only common between aristos and their partners not in a thriving,"heading for the alter" relationship,i think its just an unfortunate misconception to think that a woman has nothin else to offer apart from her sexuality,to estimate a woman's worth solely on her sexuality is a yardstick common only to the subjects of the darwanian theory. when adam saw eve,he said this is "the bone of my bone,the flesh of my flesh", he saw the inside first before the outside, i think a woman's inate qualities should be proprietary over her physical attributes and the sex that comes with it, if i claim to love a girl then i should be willing to give "freely",nt exactly expecting anythin in return,selfless giving is a major projectory of true love, ofcourse it's a two way street,but if as a guy i'm demanding sex from my gal which according to her standards, are far more than her ability to pay then i'm no longer loving but just trying to manipulate her to satisfy my primal needs.In summary every woman has a right to protect her sexuality,the only hands that stand above this right are the hands of her husband, IF HE'S NOT READY TO WAIT TO FIT INTO THIS "HUSBAND CIRCLE", he could as well stick his leaking manliness in a bucket of cement.SIMPLE!

Of course you are right! Take your time and read the post very well. You will get the in-depth understanding of the situation. She’s worried he’s now refusing to spend his cash on her as he used to. When I was very young, my parents warned me never to collect material gifts from guys just becos of this reason. As I grew older, I understand more and why. Let’s be reasonable pls, how many men would spend so much on you and all he gets is “thanks with a kiss and smile”?? It would have been soo good, if she had not accepted all his gifts which he gave to her in the “name of love”. This guy has the gut to tell her “I will get it else where if you don’t give me”. If I were to be in her shoes, I would just leave his silly a$$. Tell me, if you were to be a woman, would you take such nonsense from a guy? How dare he open his mouth to say that to her. Simple! Becuz he feels she owes him that, “a kind of obligation”!

Most men reason that way, better don’t accept their gifts if you ain’t gonna give it to them.

kulyie:
for some time now i've been going out with dis dude i met through a friend and i can see fire on d mountain.actually he's been such a sweet,generous n touchy like guy all of a sudden he changed because he's begged n cajoled me 2 have intimacy with him which i refuse,he says i dont love him but on d contrary i do.infact i love him so much which is exactaly d reason i dont want to have intimacy with him cos i'm scared dat if i allow him 2 have intimacy with me he'll move on 2 d next chic n get tired of me n see me as just about any gal he has had his way with.lately he has been giving me attitude,refused 2 call me n refused 2 spend on me like he used to.i've tried 2 beg him to see reasons with me i've told him dats its because i love him n dont want 2 loose him dats y i have refused having sex with him apart from d fact dat its against d biblical injuction 2 kip d marriage bed holy.he said all dat are too flimsy.sex is just an avenue to bring us closer.nairalanders i can smell trouble looming,do u think i should give in to him 2 save d relationship or allow him 2 go cos he is already threatning me indirectly dat if i see him with some other chic i shouldnt complain or if another chic gives him wot i refuse 2 give him i shouldnt be angry cos i caused it for my self.i discussed d issue with mumsi n she was like i shud let him go,any guy who really loveds u will respect your decision n live with it,but we've come a long way n my friends already know we r heading 2 d alter how den will i be able to look if i tell dem d once beautiful relationship has ended.i really nid your sincere advice cos its not easy 2 let go

Lastly, I have a feeling you might be the “demanding type”. Your post is clear enough. Forgive me if I hurt your feeling, am a lady like you and wouldn't want you to get hurt. I give myself cos I want to not becos I have to.

Men see us the way we present ourselves.

kulyie:
thanks nl shawties.i get your drift but wot i find puzzling is dat most of my fellow females are of d opinion dat i shud dump him asap.but one question i want 2 ask nl guys is dat MUST SEX BE INVOLVED IN ANY RELATIONSHIP.CANT THERE BE A SMOOTH RELATIONSHIP DEVOID OF SEX N BOTH PARTIES R HAPPY N FULLFILLED.WHETHER OR NOT D GUY SPENDS ON D GAL IS IMMATERIAL.LOVE COVERS A MULTITUDE OF THINGS.IF U LOVE SOMEONE DAT MUCH U SHUD BE ABLE 2 RESPECT THEIR DECISIONS BUT GUYS FEEL SPENDING ON A GIRL IS ENOUGH JUSTIFICATION FOR SEX

Pls, no offence meant. You asked for our candid opinions.

Wat exactly would u expect ur fellow female nairalanders to say? U clearly stated that ur mum suggested u leave him (cuz she knew it ain’t gonna work). U also stated that ur bf told u he's gonna get it elsewhere if u don't give it to him (he has the gut and right to say that to u cuz he’s been spending a lot of his cash on u without complaining and so, u should love him with all u have without hesitating). It’s either u give him OR plead with him and make him see reason y u guys should wait till u r married OR leave him, PERIOD! So, don't be puzzled. I’m sorry but u have to take it the way it is. A man spends so much on u and all he gets is a smile and just a kiss! Stop deceiving urself. If u see any man like that, then come back here and post another thread.

Any lady that has the ability to receive gifts from a man must also have the ability to give the man generously! If you hadn’t taken his gifts in the first place, then you would have had the moral justification to turn him down and tell ur story to the world.

Pls, stop giving that innocent attitude.
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